Disclaimer: The following topic is admittedly an emotional one. Well not as emotional as when Bobby Brown left New Edition … but emotional nonetheless. I look forward to us having a spirited discussion on a topic that has affected us all either directly or indirectly.
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I thought about what you told me yesterday, and I’ve made a decision. Before I share my thoughts though, let me just say that I understand that once I say this, there’s really no way it can be undone. I am, however prepared to deal with the aftermath. So I guess I’ll just come out with it….

I’m not ready to be a dad.

I know we walked down this road together, and ultimately we both played a role in you becoming pregnant. I just wish you would have given me a say in the matter before you decided to keep it. I know it’s your body, but inside of that body is my seed. And since my feelings weren’t important to you when you made your decision, I’ve decided to do what’s best for me.

I’ll make sure that you have whatever you need financially, but I really don’t want to take on the father role right now. I’m just not ready. Hell, I’m still trying to figure out how to take care of myself. All I’ll end up doing is messing up another life if I did this right now. Maybe when I get my act together then I can come back and play catch up. But right now, I just can’t deal with all of this. I know you’ll hate me for a while, but over time, I’m sure you’ll understand where I’m coming from. I wish you well.

The Fly Questions of the Day:

Has a pregnancy or the scare of pregnancy ever torn apart your relationship? If so, what happened?

How much say should a man have when deciding if a baby should be kept?