Dear Fly Guy, I am in a dilemma right now. I recently met this guy who is nice, thoughtful, and seeking a relationship. He takes me out on great dates, calls when he says, and has a kind heart. The problem is I don’t feel any chemistry between us. On the other side of this is my ex. He is back trying to figure his way back into my life.

I’m not going to waste your time trying to create some complex, poetic explanation for why I feel the way that I do. Because no matter how perfect the words may sound leaving my lips, they will almost certainly fall short of my heart’s expectation.

Dear Fly Guy, I’m in a bad situation with this woman. She really likes me, but has a boyfriend that she’s been with for a while now. She expects me to call a lot, but I’m starting to get tired of being on the sideline. How do I get her on my side? How do I get her to leave him alone, and be mine? Thanks for your help.

It wasn’t supposed to be this way. After our first encounter, I intended to place you in a box along with everyone else. It was the one place where I could escape the gravitational pull of your heart. But somehow, you escaped; and in those few, fleeting moments of freedom you managed to capture my heart.

Hi Fly Guy! I am new to your website, but I want to say that the few topics I have read have been very interesting. I agree with you on so many levels, and also realize that having insight about relationships and dating from a man (outside of my current relationship) is key for me!

Dear Fly Guy, I broke up with my boyfriend about 6 months ago. How long do you think you should wait before jumping into another relationship? I’m starting to get lonely, but I’m scared I might get hurt again. What should I do? Please help?

Shortly after R&B super group Jodeci split up to focus on other endeavors, brothers K-Ci and Jo Jo released what is still (at least in my opinion) one of the best explanations on how to write a heartfelt letter to a loved one. Even though letter writing is a lost art form in 2008, you can still put this effective technique to use through email.

I finally touched back down in Atlanta after some time in Los Angeles, and figured there was no time like the present to answer some letters from my mailbag.

Dear Fly Guy … What are your thoughts on the phrase, “once a cheater, always a cheater?” If you know a man has cheated in the past, is there any reason to believe that he can now be faithful to you? Or is he destined to eventually stray—no matter how great you are to him? What are your thoughts? Should I get out now before he breaks my heart?

I ran into my boy Musiq Soulchild this weekend at the Essence Music Festival, and he wanted to give my readers a Fly Guy dating tip for the week. Check out what he had to say, and let me know if you agree with his tip.