What’s Up Fly Guy, I have read your articles and I’m an avid reader. I must say that coming to your website has been really interesting. Here is my situation: I just recently became single, after being with someone off and on for like 5 years. I tried to work on things with her, but she had a serious addiction to alcohol that I just couldn’t deal with.

Dear Fly Guy, As I write this letter, I’m one step away from completely giving up on love. I’m not sure what I hope to get out of writing this, but here I am just writing away. My problem is that I really don’t understand why I always end up meeting men who never want to be serious.

Dear Fly Guy, My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 ½ years. We’ve had our ups and downs with some trust issues on my part from the past. Well the other day, we went to lunch and while at the restaurant I asked him if I could see his phone.

I woke up this morning feeling an overwhelming sense of contentment. What’s interesting is that I honestly had no idea where it was coming from. Was I glad to be seeing another day? Was I satisfied that my career as a writer was finally taking off? Or maybe I was just reveling in the joys of having a family that supported my hustle?

Fly Guy, I’m just wondering how I can get past this “all men cheat” label that we seem to be stuck with. I’m dating someone now, and I feel like I have to jump through extra hoops just to prove I’m not like other dudes.

Hi Fly Guy, I need some insight. I’m just coming out of a 2 ½ year relationship with my high school sweetheart. I broke up with him at the beginning of my sophomore year after a summer of living together. I felt like I needed to focus more on my studies and experience college as a single woman.

What’s Up Fly Guy, Before I get into the question at hand, let me put some background information out there. I’m a 24 year old, single black man in the military. I’ve recently been stationed overseas.

Dear Fly Guy, When is it appropriate for a woman to pay for a date? We seem to be having a disagreement about this with the men in my office. Thanks for your help.

Dear Fly Guy, I am 20 years old and still a virgin. I am just wondering why this fact is a turnoff to some guys. Is it a bad thing that I’ve kept it this long?

Ahhh…..the beautiful fragrance of self expression—there’s nothing like it; nothing more enticing; and certainly nothing more satisfying than a woman poignantly expressing herself to me. So you can imagine that I was immediately drawn to the following piece as soon as I read it. I might need to find her…