Last night, I aimlessly walked the streets of Amsterdam with no set destination in mind. Now, it wasn’t like I didn’t have anywhere to go … in fact, it was quite the opposite. But before I could make my scheduled dinner plans, I wanted to walk and clear my mind a bit.

It’s been a while since I’ve shared this piece, but I have this sneaking suspicion that at this very moment, someone needs to read these words. I pray that you see the heart behind them, and that they mean as much to you, as they did to me when I wrote them.)

Allow me to reintroduce myself. If you believe in things like birth certificates or the facts on a driver’s license, then my name is DeWayne Rogers—middle child of three, and product of a mother and father who have been “happily” married for 35 years. I put happily in quotation marks, because like any couple that has been together for that long, they’ve experienced their fair share of ups and downs.

The year 2010 is more than just the start of a new decade. It also marks the beginning of a new era in love advice. For so long, I’ve patiently waited on the sidelines for my time to shine … well, that time is now. And if you still don’t understand the Fly Guy takeover that’s about to take place, then maybe this video will help.

I had a conversation yesterday that really got me thinking about my ability to love a woman completely. But instead of writing down the words, I wanted to share my thoughts with you directly. So check out this Fly podcast, and give me your thoughts after listening.

It’s time to officially clear the air. There seems to be this common misconception, which suggests that men have lower standards when choosing a mate. That couldn’t be further from the truth. In fact, men are a lot pickier than we lead you to believe. To prove this point, I’ve decided to share “Five Types of Women That All Men Hate.”

Honest moments of self-expression … I used to be afraid of those. Like most men, the idea of being vulnerable was not something that I was very comfortable with. I had to be a man … at least that’s what I thought I was doing at the time.

There’s really no shortage of qualities that I find desirable in a woman. But the good people over at Essence.com wanted to know what men love about women specifically during the summertime. So I gave them 10 Fly Reasons. Here’s what I told them.

I still think of her sometimes. Her name was Renee. And everything about her was just … well, perfect. Her smile, her sense of humor, her birthmark that peeked ever so slightly … sorry, I drifted a bit … she was just a special woman. My only regret was that our relationship was so short-lived.

What’s Up Fly Guy, Before I get into the question at hand, let me put some background information out there. I’m a 24 year old, single black man in the military. I’ve recently been stationed overseas.