“I can’t take it any more.” That’s usually the last thought that runs through someone’s mind right before they decide to officially end a relationship. But what ultimately drives a person to this point? While each situation is unique in its own right, there are common factors that can force us all to throw in the towel.

For a long time, I was a con artist. But it had nothing to do with me deceiving my loved ones or even preying on unsuspecting strangers. Instead, it was a classic case of me pulling the wool over my own eyes. That’s right, I was conning myself.

Can I ask you a personal question? Don’t worry, your answer will be kept between you, me, and whoever else decides to read this: Have you ever been cheated on before? Well judging from the letters and emails that I receive daily, it sure seems that way.

As we transition into the new Fly Guy site, I felt the need to reach back into the archive and pull out the Fly Guy theme song. After all, every movement needs a soundtrack right?

It’s time to officially clear the air. There seems to be this common misconception, which suggests that men have lower standards when choosing a mate. That couldn’t be further from the truth. In fact, men are a lot pickier than we lead you to believe. To prove this point, I’ve decided to share “Five Types of Women That All Men Hate.”

I’ve repeatedly expressed the importance of men learning how to express themselves within the context of a relationship—but there are limits to that expressiveness. Sometimes men go off the emotional deep end and turn into, well … women.

Honest moments of self-expression … I used to be afraid of those. Like most men, the idea of being vulnerable was not something that I was very comfortable with. I had to be a man … at least that’s what I thought I was doing at the time.

There’s really no shortage of qualities that I find desirable in a woman. But the good people over at Essence.com wanted to know what men love about women specifically during the summertime. So I gave them 10 Fly Reasons. Here’s what I told them.

I still think of her sometimes. Her name was Renee. And everything about her was just … well, perfect. Her smile, her sense of humor, her birthmark that peeked ever so slightly … sorry, I drifted a bit … she was just a special woman. My only regret was that our relationship was so short-lived.

What’s Up Fly Guy, Before I get into the question at hand, let me put some background information out there. I’m a 24 year old, single black man in the military. I’ve recently been stationed overseas.