Can the differences between you and your loved one actually help or hurt your relationship? Now before you answer, I’m not talking about trivial differences like, “she likes Italian food, and I like Mexican.” No; I’m referring to the major differences that define the true makeup of a person.

For a long time, I was a con artist. But it had nothing to do with me deceiving my loved ones or even preying on unsuspecting strangers. Instead, it was a classic case of me pulling the wool over my own eyes. That’s right, I was conning myself.

The walls were closing in on me last night as I diligently worked to finish my relationship manifesto (trust me people; this will be a must-read when it arrives in bookstores.) So with no desire to spend the rest of my night battling severe bouts of claustrophobia, I headed out at 2 a.m. to meet a friend who was still out partying with a few of her girlfriends.

I apologize for being M.I.A. the past two days, but I’m officially back. Sometimes when I’m on the road, it gets hard to really sit down and connect with you in a meaningful way. So instead of half-heartedly throwing something out there, I’d rather just wait until I can give you all of my attention.

There seems to be this undeniable chemistry between us, but I can’t help but feel like we’re stuck in a holding pattern. The more I open up to the possibility of a relationship with you, the more you pull back and cower in the face of this potentially blossoming love. I just don’t understand why you continue to hold back.

Dear Fly Guy, I’m in a bad situation with this woman. She really likes me, but has a boyfriend that she’s been with for a while now. She expects me to call a lot, but I’m starting to get tired of being on the sideline. How do I get her on my side? How do I get her to leave him alone, and be mine? Thanks for your help.

I finally touched back down in Atlanta after some time in Los Angeles, and figured there was no time like the present to answer some letters from my mailbag.

You and your man may be a better match than gold diggers and NBA All Star Weekend; but that won’t make him propose. Psychologist Alon Gratch, Ph.D., reveals the things that will.

A close friend was recently faced with a dating disaster. In fact, when he told me the story, it was probably one of the few times in my life where I actually found myself speechless. Well after I gave him my advice, I decided to hit up my good friend Jenee of J Space to get the female perspective on the situation.

So I recently went on this date, and things were pretty cool. She was beautiful, smart, funny; basically all of the things you’d initially hope for when getting to know someone. As the evening progressed, things kind of went south … but admittedly, it was my fault. Check out what happened, and learn this valuable Fly Guy dating tip, so it never happens to you.