Hey there Fly Guy,

I know I should know the answer to this question, but my new guy friend said that I was a sweet woman with substance. What the hell does that mean from a man’s point of view?

Rare Jewel

Hey Rare Jewel,

From a man’s point of view, what that means is, “you’re a sweet woman with substance.” I know that’s what he said verbatim, but that’s my point. There are many instances where there’s no explanation needed. In my piece, “3 Things That Guys Hate To Hear” (Read Here), one of my main points was that guys hate to be asked “what did you mean when you said ….” Often times, there isn’t a hidden meaning behind a guy’s words. We’re just far less likely to speak in code (unless of course we’re lying, which is a completely different story.)

So be happy that he called you a woman of substance—trust me, it’s a good thing. It just means that he can actually talk to you about something deeper than your favorite sex position or the latest episode of “Real Chance Of Love.” His ability to see something more in you only increases the chances that your new “friendship” will blossom into something more meaningful. I hope this helps.

The Fly Guy