Speaking the Language of Love
Sep 9th, 2010 | Author: admin | Category: Fly Perspectives
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There are certain aspects of today’s hip-hop and R&B songs that I absolutely detest. Primarily, it’s the part that encourages men to refrain from engaging in acts of chivalry. Instead of opening a door, we’d much rather shut the club down. Or instead of looking our woman in the eyes and saying “you’re beautiful,” we’d rather look at her backside and say “damn shawty that ass is fat.”
Now I’m a young guy, but my soul has always connected with the older school of thought. It was an age where the prevailing wisdom was that men were supposed to conduct themselves as gentlemen and treat their women like queens. Sadly, you only see that treatment manifested occasionally today, both in real life and in the art that we support.
That’s why I was blown away with the first single from hit maker Bruno Mars (Billionaire, F*ck You, Nothin’ On You). The song “Just the Way You Are,” speaks to a lost language of love that more men need to re-acquaint themselves with. In it, he lets his woman know in the most heartfelt terms that he loves her just the way she is. In a day and age where video girls and photoshop continue to distort the perception of beauty, that’s the one thing that a woman desperately needs to hear from the man in her life … I love you just the way you are. That’s a timely breath of fresh air for a music industry in dire need of more sincere expressions of real love.
As I spent some time with the lyrics, I began to think about the women in my life who may occasionally doubt their own beauty and worth. So I decided to write them a letter. As a man, I would advise you to do the same. You don’t necessarily have to write a letter, but you should go out of your way to ensure they know that they’re appreciated and loved; whether it’s your wife, girlfriend, mother or sister.
The following is my effort to practice what I preach.
Good Morning,
I can’t say that I’ve always done the best job at communicating just how amazing you are. But what I can say is that God knows how I feel … He knows, because every night before I close my eyes, and every morning as they open again, I say a prayer of thanks for three things: life, health, and you.
You represent an earthly incarnation of God in my life, as I constantly see beauty, strength, love and kindness when I look at you. I love every aspect of you—even the parts that you’re less than confident about. You know why? Because they all do their part in comprising the whole of you. Without them, it wouldn’t be you, and I honestly can’t imagine having anything but the present you in my life.
So the next time you look in the mirror, I hope that you see what I see: I see a woman whose smile is capable of quieting the occasional storms in my life … I see a woman who possesses the talent and drive to accomplish monumental dreams that others deem unthinkable … I see a woman who makes me better, and who believes in me when I have my own doubts … but most importantly, I see love … and I hope you never forget that.
Love always,
Your biggest fan
Check out the lyrics and video for Bruno Mars “Just the Way Your Are” below.
The Lyrics
Oh her eyes, her eyes
Make the stars look like they’re not shining
Her hair, her hair
Falls perfectly without her trying
She’s so beautiful
And I tell her every day
Yeah I know, I know
When I compliment her
She won’t believe me
And its so, it’s so
Sad to think she don’t see what I see
But every time she asks me “do I look okay”
I say
When I see your face
There’s not a thing that I would change
Cause you’re amazing
Just the way you are
And when you smile,
The Video
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