Coping With The STD Blues

Aug 27th, 2010 | Author: | Category: Fly Letters
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Dear Fly Guy

I just found out that I have an STD. I have been with the same man for 2 years in what I thought was a monogamous relationship. I have not been with anyone else, even during the 4-month period that he had broken up with me. He is denying it, telling me I gave it to him. He is saying that he wants to hurt me, but I know that I have been completely faithful and have been checked before I started having sex with him. I have also been checked periodically throughout our relationship. If he would just admit it and man up as stupid as it sounds, we could probably work through it. Instead he is blaming me. WHAT DO I DO??????????

Ms. Lied To

Dear Ms. Lied To,

As simple as it sounds, you need to move on. Webster defines the term compromise as “a settlement of differences by mutual concessions” … but that’s not what this sounds like. Everything that you’ve just described is the polar opposite of compromise, since your boyfriend seems hell-bent on sticking to this obvious lie.

Listen; if he can’t be man enough to admit that his negligence put your health in danger, then it’s time for you to forfeit his place in your life. Do yourself a favor, and walk away from this situation before it gets any uglier. STD’s don’t have to be a death sentence, so I pray that you’re able to bounce back from this unfortunate situation and find love that will be just as committed to the relationship as you are. Good luck.

The Fly Guy

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  • msbliss

    Ok sounds like he doesn’t want 2 confess 2 cheating and most men don’t & won’t until they are caught red handed or life goes downhill for them. I say leave him and 1.) He will move on & not care 2.) He will bug you everyday with calls, letters, etc 3.) He will meet you face to face & tell the truth & and ask for forgiveness whether u forgive him and/or take him back.

  • Ms. Libra

    The obvious answer is to leave him. Sounds like whatever answer you get to your question, you’re still going to be with him. You know he’s cheating on you so why would you even have to question if you should stay or not. Not only is he cheating on you, he don’t even respect you enough to use a condom with the woman or women he’s cheating with. Like Fly Guy said, “he can’t be man enough to admit that his negligence put your health in danger” hopefully its something you can get rid of. If so, you might not be so lucky next time. You need to love yourself enough to not except any bs from any man.