I Would Rather Be Single Than…
Jun 15th, 2010 | Author: admin | Category: Fly Perspectives
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“Hey, I have a question … are you single?”
The question, which came in the form of a late night phone call, was asked by a female friend who always has a habit of asking me questions that end up in this column.
“Yes, I’m single … why do you ask?”
There was a pause in her response.
“Hello,” I inquired into the receiver, wondering if the call had dropped. “Are you there?”
“Yes, I’m here,” she replied, her voice hinting of hesitation. “I just don’t understand why you’re single. There are so many women that would kill for a great guy like you, and you’re not even making yourself available for one of us to snatch you up.”
Us? … interesting choice of words.
“You said one of us,” I responded, while unsuccessfully trying to mask my amusement. “Are you saying that you want to snatch me up?”
“Umm … well” She was drowning right now—struggling in her attempts to back away from her word choice. I decided to throw her a lifeline.
“It’s not that I’ve made myself unavailable,” I offered. “There currently just aren’t any women in my life that I can get on the same page with. Either she’s interested and I’m not … or I’m interested and she’s not … or sometimes we just mutually decide that our lives don’t match. The situation varies. Trust me though, I’m not running away from love. When it’s my turn to experience it again, I’ll gladly welcome the opportunity with open arms.”
We talked for a few more minutes before I ended the call in order to get some rest. As I lay there, I began to think about my current choice to be single. Am I really open to love? Do I have a habit of falling for the wrong type of women? Or am I guilty of talking myself out of potentially great situations?
The questions swirled around in my head … so much so, that I decided to wake back up and make a list of the reasons why I’d rather be single than be with someone. By making the list, it was my hope that I could gain a clearer picture of my standards and how they play into my current relationship status. Here’s what I came up with that night.
**I’d rather be single than be with a woman who’s only interested in what I can do for her, instead of what we can do for each other.
**I’d rather be single than settle down with a woman who I’m not sure I could be faithful to.
**I’d rather be single than embrace a relationship that has absolutely no chance of developing into something serious.
**I’d rather be single than fall for someone who causes me to pick up bad habits.
**I’d rather be single than get deep with someone who lacks qualities like drive, ambition and compassion.
**I’d rather be single than spend time with someone who carries a different life perspective on things like religion, marriage and family.
**But most importantly, I’d rather be single than get married to someone who makes me drive a minivan … even if she does make it look cool like the “swagger wagon” in the video below. It’s just not happening.
Swagger Wagon
All in, my list of non-negotiables capped at seven. After looking back over my list one final time, I fell asleep that night confident that I was in a good place when it came to relationships. Will I ever get to see Mrs. Right walk down the aisle to pledge her love to me? Only God knows. But in the meantime, as I wait for His plan to unfold, I will continue to live my life steadfast in the things that I don’t want, while placing no limits on the things that I could potentially learn to love.
Did that last statement make sense? I sure hope so…
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