Sometimes we look for an “accessory” because we feel like we can provide ourselves what we need and we will try to reason and justify this to the end. But this is how we set ourselves up…So we settle into relationships with men/women that meets our wants and then wonder why it failed.

As a man or a woman, we are all missing something that the other gender can provide. If you think you can provide yourself everything you “need”…then you may have yet to figure out what your needs are.

Now I am 20, So I am pretty young and new and hip to this game. I feel that I , in many ways, is misled by what I want because of the way I present myself. For some odd reason, I come off as a very sensual person and I come off strong because I believe in the whole cuddling, holding hands, and the works. Now I believe I know what it takes to be in a relationship and I feel like I know what I want. I want someone to respect me and that is hard to find. At times, i find myself to be so contradicting to some of the things I say because I say I want something, get it, and I confuse myself because I find myself pushing that someone away because I don’t want to get wrapped up when its something so minor. I want someone I can trust with my secrets, someone I can laugh with, and someone I can be honest and true about what is going on with me and they be able to understand and take me for me and not what I “put-on” for them to make them understand. I feel like elaborating on what I want should not be something I need to do. I just feel myself moving too fast and I feel like that is the main reason why I keep getting ending up in square one.

What I wrote shouldn’t be viewed as criticism towards women … in fact, I even wrote “I can’t hate though, as men do the exact same thing.”