Are There Any Real Women Left?

*stands and applauds*

They now have Spanx for men and some other suspect enhancers made for the guys…so y’all r catching up w/ the fakeness

Interesting how breast implants didn’t make the list.

Haha at Rashida’s comment…

Couldn’t agree more! The women described men as beautiful fit all the above descriptions.

Nice F.G. This needed to be said. I mean, i appreciate the effort women make to look good, but there is a clear distinction between enhancing whats naturally yours and making/covering yourself up! Being natural is the best…and the most attractive.

Wassup fam its been a minute but I had to chime in on this topic. I have no problem with women doing everything you’ve discussed above. It’s when they use it as a way to compensate for a lack of self esteem is when I get ticked. In reality women have always used son sort of enhacement as a way to appease both men and themselves. Ie: push up bras, corsets etc. I know plenty of women who use the body magic, and women who want injections. It’s when they believe getting these things will make them a different person which sets them apart from other folk

@reina
Hey u! How ya been

Nah seriously folks I never gave a ish about how people try to enhance their looks. Bc confidence is something that’s learned not bought.

FlyGuy you have a very valid point. I think people are overlooking what you were trying to say. In my opinion, I believe you are saying women should be more upfront and real about themselves exactly how they want (or claim to want) men to be. If you have weaves and color contacts and fake eyelashes and a bodysuit on and etc…and claim to be 100% real then that’s where the problem stimulates from because if a man came to you a certain way then a few weeks later he was different then you would feel lied to or like he cheated you in some way. It needs to be fair on both ends. If you are honest upfront then all a person can do is respect that.

I’ve been trying to get women to understand this for about a year now. Thanks for posting this!

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Fly Guy you should be comparing apples to apples. I do not think you comparison was appropriate. I do agree that women are becoming more and more fake. You were so dead on with the Body magic stuff..I have seen friends transform before my eyes. I have noticed that most guys do prefer my natural locks to weaves but if I didn’t have good long hair I will probably hardly wear my hair out. IMO it is easier to manage a weave..lol

Thx for using a picture my African sisters as ” Real Women”. The most beautiful women do come from Africa

i’m not a fan of any of these alterations. body magic being the least favorable. i didn’t hear about this abomination until a few weeks ago. smh.

catching up? doubt it. and how many guys would actually use these products?

This trend of fakeness is born out of insecurity and exacerbated by “the” men (not all men) and the media who crave all things exotic looking with T&A, light skin and long hair.

The insecure flat-chested/flat-a$$ed, misfortunately shaped, bald-headed/bald-eyelidded girl is only gonna accept going unnoticed but for so long…LOL….so if she has to trick you into giving her your attention so that she can simply get the chance to show you that she is more than her implants, booty pop, body magic, lacefront weave and lacefront eyelashes you can’t really blame her, she’s responding to supply and demand…LMAO

Women have been dealing with “fake-intentioned” men for years, but don’t worry, after enough harrowing experiences you all will learn to detect what’s real and what’s not and how to avoid it

FlyGuy! Don’t you ever *shaking my index finger at you* ever ever leave us for that length of time again….EVER! LOL

But I digress. How many men are attracted to 100% natural women such as women without relaxed hair. I think a clear distinction must be made. Are relaxers included in this list? What about weaves or natural-looking extensions? Neither are natural but a man likely wont be too concerned unless when she takes her extensions out there is a copious amount of damage and she look like her head got run over by a lawnmower.

I believe the issue is what the intentions of the woman are and how she approaches them. If she is doing it as a form of accessory and to enhance or hide things she is working towards improving, it should be accepted. Or easier to accept. For example, if she wears a neat weave whilst waiting to improve the health of her hair or is wearing Body Magic while regularly going to the gym to naturally attain that figure, it is okay. If she is simply doing it because “that is what men like” or because she has insecurities about herself, then well, I concur with FlyGuy’s statement. I think these reasons speak to 1) desperation-if you are hiding your true self to trick someone into liking you, and 2) low self-esteem-if you are not happy with yourself without these things, you are not ready for a real relationship.

May I go on to fake men? Men fake emotions, which-as a woman-I find to be worse. They trick women into believing they are good guys and caring and when she lets her guard down, swoosh, the real, inconsiderate them shows up….oh, but again I digress.

Oh goodness. The chick you described looked an awful mess when I pictured her in my mind.

LOL! She does look pretty hideous huh? I was just naming things some women have insecurities about I didn’t even think about her being a combo of all but I guess she could be all of those things, a single one or any combination thereof…it’s the insecure part that I was more focused on.

@ Bella

I am a HUGE supporter of natural beauty…..I don’t even care for women that wear weave, to be honest with you. (Especially not since here in the Army, a lot of women were not properly educated in how to wear weave and not be tacky as hell.)

And if women REALLY cared for good men with honest hearts and actually SHOWED them appreciation when they did come across one, there wouldn’t be so many fake-ass dudes out here acting as such. Just something for you to consider….

Hello, Third.

I will actually wear weaves/wigs sometimes. If I want a different color in my hair, why risk damaging my own when I can buy a few wigs with different natural-looking looks?

Just something for you to consider, Third, I happen to be one of those women. When I happen to come across the men that (I think) are good men, I appreciate when they are honest and when they respect me. I even appreciate when they are annoyed with me or not in the mood to speak to me but tell me they do not want to speak to me. Again, I appreciate honesty. How do I show them? Sometimes I simply say “thank you,” sometimes I take them out-on me, I always listen and respect their time, space, and friends. After all of this, what happens to me? They start showing their true selves and toying with me. Telling me we will go out, then never setting a date, not making any effort to communicate with me. That is how I am repaid. Just something for you to consider…

@ Bella

I believe that you treat men as you stated, and it’s bad that they are dogging you in return.

I also have a complex of not being able to really believe things until I see them…..especially when it comes to women….so I want to see it in person that there are women that actually respect men that are real and honest.

I don’t understand how a man could jump through the 99 flaming hoops with gasoline draws on that it takes to even get most women to look at him twice and then flake put on her or mistreat her when the woman is feeling him.

Exactly. Why would I not want a good man and not want to treat him well?

I do not blame you for waiting to see things before you believe them. Sadly, some people know how to put on a show o make you “see” things that point to them being genuinely GOOD men! But oh….it’s when you finally start believing that the facade comes off. It hurts.

And I will be quick to tell any female that there ARE good men out there. Good black men, too. And if there is a guy I am interested who I believe is a good man, I will be quick to tell them that I know someone who is a good man. But how stupid do I feel when he turns out to not be. They will say “told you there were no good men left.” I am almost ready to agree with that statement. Almost.

Maybe the woman that will be good to you wears a weave. Too bad you say you don’t care too much for women that wear weave. That good woman and her weave will turn around and walk right out of your life.

Problem is, overall, men are measured by professional success and women, their physical attributes. Natural beauty is out of woman’s control apart from keeping a good body shape and clear skin and nice hair (and sometimes genetics can even trump our to maintain that!) so these alterations are an unattractive woman’s way of having some say in where she’ll be ranked.

I have lots of male friends that are fooled by those tricks (makeup, fake hair, body shaping clothes), so women keep them up. I’m with you guys on the campaign for natural beauty, but ugly girls need love too!

Most women who were fake body parts or things that alter there body are responding to what most men claim that they want. I wear my hair natural and I have had men tell me that they like they “woman to have long hair” a.k.a relaxed or weaved out. (None of them became my man) You hear guys say they want a dime. That they want a woman that will get them high fives from they boys, they want other dudes to envy them when they see them out with there woman, they want video vixens, models and pretty actresses. In other words they want “eye candy”. They want their ego stroked.

As far as a what they FG stated: you are comparing aesthetic lying to emotion lying. Most of the things that you point regarding women can be observed while talking or on a date. The things that you point out for the men aren’t noticed until you catch them in a lie. The men mislead TO appear different. The women mislead and DO appear different.

Hey….I never said I wouldn’t give a woman with weave a chance….I’m simply saying I don’t care for the weave itself. Why not just go with whatever hair it is the powers that be gave you—-and work with that?

And there have been women that walked away from me because I’m not 6’7″, making millions of dollars, resembling Denzel or whoever it is y’all consider attractive these days, and I don’t drive a Maserati.

A man that wants an overly attractive woman just to get props from his boys or just to have a piece of eye candy on his arm is no man any woman should be taking seriously in the first place. Who wants to deal with the drama of having 40 dudes trying to get at your woman every time y’all go out somewhere? I’m just saying.

And not that I roll like this, but men HAVE to mislead to a certain degree because there is no such thing as a woman that would actually accept a man that is being himself. Trust me, I know…..We are referred to as ‘too lame, too boring, not exciting enough”……anything along those lines.

reading this lastest post…and the responses really makes you think…its crazy because both men and women put on this “fakeness” beause we feel that its what we think the opposite sex wants…part of it is cloded by societies opiion of what we “should” be…wouldn’t it be nice if we could all be real and not care…we all just may truly meet that “one we search and long for

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I don’t agree with Third of August comment that implys that men have to mislead women because women will not accept them for who they are. Accepting someone and wanting a romantic relationship with someone are two separate things.
I believe that men spend too much time trying to figure out and be what they think a woman wants. Most men go into a blossoming relationship thinking like a chess player. They try to anticipate the womans next thought or move because they want to win, they want to conquer.
I believe that women try to change into what they believe their man wants because they want to please.
Neither one is trying to be accepted. Both have their own agenda.

@ kiki

Sure, being accepted by women and having a woman interested in you are two different things, but in terms of a man that is looking for a woman to be with, they are two coinciding events.

And I’m past the stage where I try to figure out how to be exactly what a woman wants. To all the men out there wondering if that works—-It doesn’t. I’m just me…..A woman can either get with the program or keep it moving.

Women and MEN, for that matter, in Hollywood since the beginning of the ENTERTAINMENT industry, have always been pushed to raise the bar on “reality.” That’s what made a Movie Star so glamorous and fabulous to the everyday man or woman. Norma Jean Mortisen, anyone? (aka Marily Monroe) Whether it be, bustiers, the famed SUN TAN (introduced by Coco Chanelle) dyed hair, corsets, cosmetic surgery, lavish lifestyle, the life of a “star,” was meant to be over-sensationalized, exaggerated to an unreachable and unrealistic extreme to the masses, to invoke follow-ship and idolizing.

What’s changed, is the scope of the MEDIA and the new wave of technology, that have force fed these ideals into homes, and minds 24/7, and upped the anti two fold by introducing a century in which “anything is possible,” on the spectrum of extremes. People, everyday folks, who work 9-5′s or don’t work at all let alone on a set or professional photo shoot, have taken it to a whole new level. Just like athletes tend to be bigger, stronger, and faster, than the average athlete, Hollywood Stars are meant to be, prettier, bigger, better, louder, brighter, all in an effort to maintain the ever fleeting notoriety that can fluctuate with each move in one’s career. The stakes are high in this game, and the rewards even greater.

I think that people have gotten caught up in the “fame game,” and instead of being motivated by an actual talent, skill, or passion/drive for a craft or creative path, most ppl see BEING FAKE, as a QUICK TICKET to fame, popularity, and worst case scenario infamy. Which to most, is better than obscurity. (Check all the recent hoe bags coming out to expose all the cheaters in hollywood, they’d rather be labeled home wrecking sluts, then go unnoticed another day in the world.)

When Kim Kardashian can make a sex tape and get paid more than an actor who pays their dues, then turn that infamy into multiple spokesmodel endorsements, and a multi-million dollar company, people take notice. Why wouldn’t the girl at McDonalds try to emulate that?? A quick path to money, lights, camera, action.

So are there “real women?” The answer is a resounding “yes.” But the gauge for that realness should run deeper than her outward attributes and additions, but her motivation behind them, and ultimately, her character. Entertainment is just that ENTERTAINMENT and it evolves, as we do over the years, the bar continues to get raised. (Lady Gaga and the fucking leotards etc craze right now). But as long the media, and MEN, (which run the industry) continue to reward these decisions, then women around the world, will continue to feel the pressure of perfection.

I dnt agree wit this 4 a number of reasons. When go the extra miles with their looks 2 attract men & as far as body magic is concerned I dnt think that’s a bad thing cause not all women r coke bottles & curvy & if its the same face but between a small waist & hips vs a gut the man aint chasin the gut. Most women I would think R lik me,in the process of droppin weight but u still wanna feel good in ur clothes & look attractive. Yes natural is better but it aint 4 every1 cause let’s be real mother nature wasn’t as kind 2 some sistas as others…I’m jus sayin!(Don’t shoot me). I just say get in where u fit in cause we all need luv & some1 is out there 2 accept u 4 you.

When a woman says she wants a man that’s real, she means things like someone who is gonna be honest, not play the kid games and bs, and just be upfront. YES I wear a weave, false eye lashes, acrylic nails, colored contacts from time to time, spanx when I need a little bit more support and I AM REAL! At the end of the day things I use to enhance my looks have nothing to do with my personality. Because I have on lashes, doesn’t change who I am on the inside. I’m funny, smart, love God, work hard and am a good woman. I don’t get why folks(mainly dudes) is still trippin off weave in 2010. I wear it, I buy it and rock it well. No I’m not bald, I have shoulder length hair. Weaves are just easy to flat iron, curl, etc. which protects my natural hair from excessive styling and heat damage. At the end of the day no matter how much of that stuff I use, wear, eventually everyone will or has seen me with out it, and am I still just as fine with none of it. I had a convo with a guy who said he refuses to date a woman who wears a weave. and that’s sad, because he’s gonna miss out on a lot of great women. You can take a weave out as quickly as you can throw it back in. Just like men who demand a woman has to know how to cook. What if she can’t? Does that not mean she isn’t a great woman? She can learn or at least try right? does that have anything to do with how she treats a man and what other great qualities she has to offer? People need to start looking more on the inside than the outer appearance, it’s what’s in a persons heart that really counts.

Women are going through great lengths because that is what men seem to go for. Beyonce wears a lace front and all the men love her, so a woman will go get one too. Buffy the body, angel lola luv and coco have big round bootys, men love them so women want implants, injections, and butt pads. All of the celebrities have had extensive surgery, and men worship these fake chicks, so regular average ones want to go get and do whatever the popular celeb has. It’s an alarming trend. Men say they want “natural” but when they are falling over halle berry, video vixens etc. it tells women they have to be that way too. Halle wears weave, video girls have big boobs and booty’s so women think in order to appeal to men they need to have it to.

At the end of the day I am who I am with or without all the “extra’s”. The stuff I wear to enhance to accentuate anything about me is just that, extra stuff I can live without, but chose to incorporate in my style. There is no way I’m going to change what I like to wear and rock because some dude doesn’t like it. If a man is cool with it ok, if he doesn’t like it on to the next one.

@ Mena

Check this out…..If women wouldn’t get their sense of what men want from immature men, then y’all wouldn’t be running yourselves crazy trying to look like whatever those immature men say they want from women. A real man is OK with natural beauty in all forms….and I will also say that a real man isn’t running around here thinking Beyonce or Halle Berry are the gold standards of beautiful Black women. Who really in their right mind runs around in real life trying to smash off on model chicks? Definitely not me or any other mature man I know.

And as far as video chicks go….It’s all good until they open their mouths and start talking…..You ever heard Angel Lola Luv talk in her interviews? She sounds like a straight hoodrat….Buffy, too. Sorry…..but sounding like you are three weeks behind on your Hooked on Phonics tapes will undermine even the most aesthetically pleasing woman.

And let’s not even get on the subject of getting to know people on the inside. I’ve had women tell me flat to my face that I was too ugly for them…..but they would marvel at how intelligent I am. (Like that mattered to them…lol)

Good post! Most of my friends who wear all this fake stuff seem to think they are prettier with it than without it.

@bellabecca….When I read in your 2nd paragraph…neither are natural but a man likely wont be too concerned unless when she takes her extensions out there is a copious amount of damage and she looks like her head got run over by a lawnmower…. I literally busted out laughing….that was classic.

Now to the ladies, No I’m not laughing at you. We are sistahs. As for the issue at hand “Are There Any Real Women Left?”….yes there is.

I understand FLY GUY what you mean by the extras women use to enhance themselves, and that’s what it is an enhancement to the beauty that already exists. I am a woman who has long curly, wavy, or straight hair (that is all mine) depending on how I choose to style it. I use certain things to make myself look nice. I feel a woman wants to look pretty & feel good about herself at all times. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. If a woman wants to put fake hair, fake eyelashes, fake breasts, use Body Magic, colored contacts, hair weaves, wigs, acrylic tips, booty-poppin panties, etc etc….that’s on them. What’s important is that us woman don’t use these things as a crutch, or a misrepresentation of who we really are. What would we be without being different from one another.

Let’s define the word real – real, actual, true.. in general used to describe objects, persons, experiences, etc., that are what they are said or purport to be. That which is described as REAL is genuine as opposed to counterfeit or false.

Now since we’re keeping it REAL, men use things to enhance themselves as well but that doesn’t mean their fake. Accessories are a big part of our culture. Whether it be furniture, jewelry, wall art, food & so many other examples that could be mentioned…..what would a black leather sectional be w/o some gold pillows…or what would a model look like w/o any jewelry…or what would a bedroom wall look like w/o a piece of art…or what would a bed look like w/o the bed sheets… or what would a hamburger look like w/o the lettuce, tomato, pickle, onion, mayo n ketchup…or that sexy black dress w/o the stilettos???? We accessorize every part of our life whether we know it or not. It doesn’t mean that (a person, place, thing or experience ) is not genuine. It’s all about perception….we have so many influences today from family, friends, celebrities, sports, music, I mean the list goes on. What’s important is that two people get to know each other, and spend quality time together.

I feel you on the “I’m Gonna Git You Sucka” theory, but these days the guys pretty much know what’s real & what’s not and so do the women. As a woman or a man we do things to make ourselves feel & look better for all different types of reasons. For the ladies, it could be makeup or contacts. For the fellas, it could be diamond stud earrings or platinum cufflinks. If you meet a person that you like but they have too much “stuff” going on, then it’s up to you to decide whether you can deal with it or not….in turn getting to know someone in debth might reveal the reasons for their “accessorizing” and you could be okay with it. If you’re not comfortable with it, you can walk away. On the other hand, if a person is insecure & using these things to mask who they are…then they might want to explore the reasons they are unhappy with themselves to the point of extreme & maybe do some soul-searching.

Much love….

@adriii…..I agree with some of the things you stated. Most men are measured by profession, success & most often than not women are measured by their physical appearance….that’s so true.

For the men that lie or play games…it’s probably an ego thing. They are trying to be the “Player”. And they are probably the ones with the real insecurity issues.

@kiki….Very true that with a woman you will notice most everything about her just by looking at her and with the men it’s when they actually do something and get caught in a lie…men don’t know how to lie very well and women just follow their instinct…which 9/10 is right on point.

@3rd of august…everybody likes “eye candy”…men & women. Would that be who I might want to marry…..NO!! We know what we find attractive and I definetly wouldn’t want to be w/anyone who just wanted a trophy to hang on his arm….I want us to be equally attracted to each other (if possible) and I’m not looking for anyone who is a “pretty boy” or spends more time in the mirror than I do….lol

At the same time, why don’t people show who they really are….some people can’t handle rejection, or are used to getting their way…or are insecure of who they are as a person… we all want to be accepted for who we are….and I can only keep it 100, I don’t have the time or energy it takes to be fakin the funk or play’n games….I’m gonna be me, no matter what, all day…everyday….if I meet somebody & we click cool, you’re gonna get to know each other by spending that quality time that it takes to get to know a person….and over time you will know if this is a person you enjoy being around & possibly sharing a future with, but it don’t happen in one day!!

Sure, I would prefer a guy to come right out and be himself, keep it REAL, but you learn that society has a whole different outlook on things & is constantly influencing people on so many levels….so I just prepare myself for the bullsh*** & weed out the ones that don’t don’t fit the criteria that I’m looking for.

@mena ….2 snaps and a high 5 to you sistah…..i feel you :0)

right on !!!

Ok I feel where you are coming from, for me though I don’t use the “extras” or “accessorize” to attract a man. I do the things I do or use the “extras” for me….because it makes me happy….I don’t need to impress anybody, I’m not conceited, just confident….Yes, first and foremost, We must love ourselves, inside and out….some of us have things we like or don’t like about our bodies….some of us are working to change or improve some things….if a man doesn’t like what he sees or who I am, cause I’m gonna be me no matter what….he can either stay or kick rocks!! keep it moving….on to the next one.

@ Third_Of_August
OMGGG First of all you got me over here LMAOOOO I watched a couple of “interviews” of angel lola luv and I was just like WTF.. did she drop out in elementary school. I think she has a pretty face, but the butt implants are too drastic. I mean to mutilate your body to that degree is sad. She looks like a freak of nature. I understand if someone is flat and wants to add a little junk in the trunk, but hers looks deformed. She sounds straight outta the hood and can’t even pronounce basic english right lol!

But honestly, videos and the hip hop community puts pressure on women of color even other races now to have a big butt, and all the little butts get no play. There has to be wrong with a girl if she doesn’t have two midgets on her back.smh

I know that basic attraction is important, but beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder. You may have had a chick call you ugly, yet there is another one out there who will see you and get wet at the very sight or thought of you. Just like I’ve had dudes who feel I am the most gorgeous and “the best” and other dudes who think I’m just “aight”. I just want to meet a guy who I think is handsome and I’m attracted to * AND when he opens his mouth, he doesn’t ruin it and has somethin decent and educated to say lol. That would be the full package for me.

Thank god most of the women i’ve been involved with never rolled with this stuff. The fake nails, weaves/wigs, waist cinchers,etc, etc. That stuff has to come off sometime. Being from the old school the most i’ve had to deal with would be eyeliner or lipstick—-real enhancement.

@bogart4017
Yea all that stuff has to come off, but my point was if the person is confident without it and willing to not rely on it. For example, I know some women who will not leave the house without a full face of make-up on! Or won’t be seen without their weave. I myself am confident rocking all of the extras or none at all. I think the problem really lies with people and how confident they are or how they think the look without all that stuff. It has nothing to do with “old school” vs a “new school” woman!!! Wigs, Weaves, Push Up Bras, Padded Panties, Cinchers, Girdles, Shapers ETC. Have been worn by women for CENTURIES!
Maybe it wasn’t as publicized or advertised and marketed as in 2010, but all of this stuff has existed forever. I’m sure someone’s great granny had the chicken cutlets in her bra way back in the day. The stuff has just been improved and updated. I think now company’s like spanx, and that damn padded booty commercial are really putting products out, but you can’t say “old school” women don’t use any of that stuff, because that’s a generalization. Not all old school women are au natural and not all new school are faker than a $2. Everyone is different.

Yes there are real women, it’s amazing all the things you listed as fake…are all the things that attract most men these days. Fly Guy your a (rare jewel too)…i don’t put you in that category but your brothers won’t have anything less. They don’t want the beautiful minds, natural hair, great butt/body (real… no butt injections) type of women…the videos and fake media world paints a picture that the real woman has all those fake qualities. So when the real women do stand up…They get picked over for the Nicki Minaj’s… it’s getting so bad out here in Atlanta i feel sorry for any woman that hasn’t found a man yet! he’s busy chancing the average looking stripper chick! Maybe you should do a post about the Real Woman! Educate your male readers (hummm I take that back) your male readers may be some of the good guys…it takes a certain level of maturity to be a follower or fan of the Fly Guy site!

What is so funny guys drool over the women on TV often compare regular women to them and when us regular women do it there is … Are their any real women left … LMFAO!!! DO whatever makes you feel good ladies.

P.S. A lot of lace front wigs look awesome Beyonce wears them ALL the time thats just a bad pic

agrees!!

@ Jordan
Drool over what women? Most celebrity women are nice to look at, but lack the inside qualities that really make or break a person. Look at how robotic and uninteresting Beyonce sounds in some of her interviews…..or as I’ve mentioned earlier, how ghetto and ignorant most video chicks sound in theirs.

No point in wasting saliva on women that I will never get at in real life. LOL

Please Arise For Your Encroe! You Hit The Nail on The HEAD!

I actually came across something (can’t remember the medium) about this issue. Back in the day, celebrities, models, movie stars, etc. lived glamorously and were admired as they are today HOWEVER, they were seen as far outliers on the bell curve. No normal day-to-day person was expected to live up to the celebrity standard. It was, say…5 standard deviations away from the mean.

A combination of things (reality shows, an easier obtained 15 minutes of fame, and a flooding of the market with a new big star every other day) has changed society’s views in that we have placed ourselves on stepladders to stand nearby the celebrities’ pedestals (and brought them down a foot or two) and, therefore, now hold everyday people to that a standard that is unobtainable for most without the makeup artists, hair pieces, personal chefs, and all that other crazy stuff most of those people use. Problem is both men and women of today have convinced themselves that this ultra-high standard is not only obtainable, but also required for a woman to get a great mate, and hence, fakin’ it until she’s makin’ it- or at least until some papers get signed. (And that’s a whooooole ‘nother story!)

Pretty much, today almost every woman thinks she have a right to be drop-dead gorgeous. And almost every man thinks he has the right to bed/wed a drop-dead gorgeous woman. Truth is, they don’t. But they don’t wanna believe it because it’s kinda dejecting. So…here we are.

@SEXXYBRONZEVIXEN

You feel me??!! LOL I mean for real though lets keep it 100! lol

I was just talking to my mother about this yesterday. Men and women have their ways of trying to impress the opposite sex. But the problem with putting on a facade is that you never get the real person. You’ll fall in love with an act. And the it isn’t until the person says “I Do” or have a child with the person that their stuck for life. It never fails. I think that everyday women are being too influenced by the media. We see Beyonce and Kim Kardashian, and others that are considered as the worlds sexiest women, and we want to feel the same way. We want our me to look at us and think that we are better than that. Just as men put on “falsies”, so do women. And the end result is that we are all pissed off at each other. The moral of the story is to just be yourself at all times.

@Nesha Reed
You’re right. Both men and women have ways of trying to impress the opposite sex, I just think women have way more “extras” if you will. I mean lets think about it ya’ll!! what can a man do to get women (wear flashy clothes and jewelry, drive a nice car or truck with rims and have a banging car stereo system) there isn’t too much he can do to his appearance to make him appealing. He can work out and be physically fit, and get a hair cut and that’s it! If he’s 5’7 he can’t be 6’2.. if he has a little penis he can’t magically make it bigger (although there is some sort of surgery for that. NOW let’s look at women. Short hair, or lashes, buy a weave and false lashes. Small boobs and booty, go get breast and butt implants, or wear fake ones you buy from the store. A little extra gut? body magic, a gurdle or a shaper.. there are just way more ways women can enhance their appearance vs. men. They use tangible things. I strongly feel that how the person treats you and their personality is ultimately the MOST important thing of all. Just because a woman has a phatty or shaped like buffy the body or a video vixen fellas, doesn’t mean she has a good personality or is truly a decent woman. Some of the most gorgeous women, have the nastiest attitudes and need a reality check. Physical things don’t make the person, it’s what’s inside that counts. Now don’t get it twisted, physical attraction is important, I like a handsome man BUT I know that it’s not just about his looks and it’s important to really get to know a person. What I deem handsome others may or may not but it doesn’t matter, because it’s all about how I feel about the person. Real Vs. Fake will always be a debate and I say do what makes you feel happy and good about yourself, whether you’re all natural or have things you bought, which are now technically yours anyway