Comments on: Living With A Dangerous Secret

By: SMH4REAL

SMH4REAL — Mon, 14 Feb 2011 10:29:00 +0000

UMMM HOW WOULD U KNOW FOR SURE IF WHETHER OR NOT U INFECTED SOMEONE?

By: SMH4REAL

SMH4REAL — Mon, 14 Feb 2011 10:26:00 +0000

LISTEN THIS IS CRAZY…I BELIEVE U NEED TO STOP THINKING ABOUT YOURSELF FOR ONCE AND THINK ABOUT THE OTHERS U MAY AND OR ARE CURRENTLY AFFECTING..JUST THINK ABOUT IT AS IF YOU WERE IN SOMEONE ELSES SHOES (EVEN YOUR MOM,SISTER OR ANYBODY)…ITS JUST NOT FAIR ESPECIALLY SINCE HES URE “FRIEND” WHICH MEANS THAT HE PROBABLY OR DEFINETELY SLEEPING WITH OTHERS..SMH

By: Ms. Secret

Ms. Secret — Mon, 19 Apr 2010 14:22:12 +0000

@ Aqualung:
Geez, thanks for your concern with someone taking my life in a fit of rage because they’ve been infected, but never once did I say that anyone I’d had unprotected sex with actually contacted it; I’d actually said the opposite. But again, thanks for your concern.

By: aqualung

aqualung — Mon, 19 Apr 2010 09:18:54 +0000

Ms Secret, you keep repeating your mistake of having unprotected sex with partners who are not committed to you.
He’s not committed if he’s just shacking up with you.
He’s not committed if he’s just a FWB.
Because you don’t learn from your past mistakes, you’ll probably keep collecting STDs as you serve up your putrid body to abusive and/or withholding men. This will likely end when one of them takes your life in a fit of rage after he finds out that you infected him.

By: msbliss

msbliss — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 14:14:21 +0000

Well I’m glad U told him because its the Right thing 2 do for both of you. When things lik this happen its no longer about how u feel or how the person will react. Even though its painful & u will be depressed you will heal better knowing you did the right thing. I still think u need a therapist though. Not cause ur crazy or something But to help you work out some deep seated issues. May the divine light be with you.

By: Msbliss

Msbliss — Tue, 13 Apr 2010 19:42:35 +0000

Sweetie, how do I seem bitter?? I’m Not involved & like every1 else I gave my 2cent. I’m Not surprised u disagree because most people hate honesty esp with themselves. How about u really put yourself in the men ur infecting SHOES & like I said get some therapy cause what ur doing is very wrong & u of all people should avoid spreading this. Sorry u took offense But if u still don’t get it Then I guess jus pray about it.

By: Ms. Secret

Ms. Secret — Mon, 12 Apr 2010 18:18:26 +0000

@ Msbliss:
Wow ! YOU actually seem bitter. And until you walk in my shoes, or the shoes of someone who has actually had to deal with a situation as such, then and only then can you “advise” someone to “Get out of relationships, become celibate & hire a good therapist! Get ur mental 2gether & then start dating again.”

By: msbliss says so

msbliss says so — Sun, 11 Apr 2010 17:57:55 +0000

WoW! The problem is Not herpes but ur selfishness & need to put ur desires above anything & everything. I think Its Not his leaving ur deeply concerned about though. In my opinion ur bitter about contacting it urself & its made u Not care about who u pass it to. Get out of relationships, become celibate & hire a good therapist! Get ur mental 2gether & then start dating again.

By: EbonyLolita

EbonyLolita — Thu, 01 Apr 2010 04:23:11 +0000

Hmmmm I do agree that what she’s doing is wrong. However, you cannot have unprotected sex w/someone and assume THEM to be responsible for YOUR body!!! Where was the conversation about sexual history?? Where was the “Let’s go to the D.R. and get checked out” convo. There are a lot of myths about Herpes. I’m a woman and my GYN told me it’s probably more then 1 in 4 ppl who are infected whether they know it or not. Also the OB/GYN tests for all STDs except for HIV and Herpes. You have to make a special request for both. THe standard Pap tests for Cancer cells, Chlamydia/Gonnorhea/Syphyllis. THAT’S IT!!! If ppl really added Herpes to their yearly check up the WORLD would be surprised by how many ppl are carrying it. All I can say young lady is join a support group and/or date othe persons who are also HSV2+ *HerpesSimplex2*
This is a lesson for EVERYBODY. Take value in your LIFE and your BODY. Get tested….know your status… not just AIDS but EVERYTHING.
Good Luck,
EbonyLolita

By: amia550

amia550 — Mon, 29 Mar 2010 18:53:08 +0000

@ Ford Tough. You are right. He should have taken the initiative and asked for her to be tested and/or used protection everytime. But as the writer said, “they’ve had unprotected sex more than once” which tells me that they were also using protection @ one point.
My issue is that before they committed the act of NOT using that protection the first time, SHE had a responsibity to say something. What if they had held out on having sex UNTIL marriage with that secret.. he would have been in the same d*mn predicament… with a lying woman, who cared more about her own self than him. So wedding rings mean SQUAT if the person chooses to withhold VITAL information.