Will I Ever Love?
Jan 19th, 2010 | Author: The Fly Guy | Category: Fly Letters
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Dear Fly Guy,
As I write this letter, I’m one step away from completely giving up on love. I’m not sure what I hope to get out of writing this, but here I am just writing away. My problem is that I really don’t understand why I always end up meeting men who never want to be serious. I’m too old to be playing games, and too old to keep starting over again. So I need you to give it to me straight Fly Guy. Do you believe there’s someone out there for me? Or will I become a dating statistic? I know you get letters like this all the time, but I hope you answer this one. Thanks.
Katrina
Dear Katrina,
I certainly understand where you’re coming from, and know all too well the frustrations of constantly starting over. But to be perfectly honest with you, I can’t answer your question … only you can. Only you can decide that you still believe in love. Only you can convince yourself that the final goal is worth the sometimes tedious journey. And only you can believe that the joys of love are worth the occasional heart-wrenching lows. But all of that has to come from you. I know you have that belief within you, so my prayer is that you never let it go.
With love,
The Fly Guy
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This letter breaks my heart…but I understand where she’s coming from. It’s difficult to keep putting yourself over again only to be, what I call, body-slammed by love and emotions over and over. For me, I’m learning that self-reflection is the key…trying to figure out what it is that I’m doing to continue attracting the type of undesirable people, learning what underlying insecurities may exist that may make me susceptible to foolishness. It’s a process, but I plan to protect myself without any reservation during the process. Maybe this sister should consider the same before completely giving up.
After years of giving too much, then finding balance in appreciating and requiring appreciation, only to find people who cannot see the gem before them, I am looking for rocking chairs and cats for life as “the old cat lady.”
Girl I’m with you except I have a dog. Thought I would give that “love” thing a try – wrooonngg. He was lying to me the whole time. And plus I really like myself to go through such BS anymore. I am not giving anymore when I cannot receive anything back. I am truly quite the gem.
I totally understand katrina..nd ur so right fly guy u have to determine if u still can believe is love after so many heartaches..i’ve literally been hurt so much, i don’t think i even ever had a healthy relationship but for some reason i always find myself wiping my tears and getting back up again nd never being left discouraged enough to give up nd i constantly fight to find love
I sympathize with Katrina, its very hard to knowingly keep putting yourself out there to only end up getting the same results. I’m a single lady myself, so I say…hold on to hope. What’s meant to be will be. This is how I keep holding on.
It’s not just the women, it’s us men that end up broken hearted too. I’m starting to lose what little hope i did have about love. I’m really close to being emotionally dead, because i meet a lady and i’m thinking it’s going somewhere, but it turns out to be just sex, just a friend, or one of the endless women who wants to play me. I wasn’t always a sait and i do believe karma is coming back on me, but when is enough enough?