Will I Ever Love?

This letter breaks my heart…but I understand where she’s coming from. It’s difficult to keep putting yourself over again only to be, what I call, body-slammed by love and emotions over and over. For me, I’m learning that self-reflection is the key…trying to figure out what it is that I’m doing to continue attracting the type of undesirable people, learning what underlying insecurities may exist that may make me susceptible to foolishness. It’s a process, but I plan to protect myself without any reservation during the process. Maybe this sister should consider the same before completely giving up.

After years of giving too much, then finding balance in appreciating and requiring appreciation, only to find people who cannot see the gem before them, I am looking for rocking chairs and cats for life as “the old cat lady.”

Girl I’m with you except I have a dog. Thought I would give that “love” thing a try – wrooonngg. He was lying to me the whole time. And plus I really like myself to go through such BS anymore. I am not giving anymore when I cannot receive anything back. I am truly quite the gem.

I totally understand katrina..nd ur so right fly guy u have to determine if u still can believe is love after so many heartaches..i’ve literally been hurt so much, i don’t think i even ever had a healthy relationship but for some reason i always find myself wiping my tears and getting back up again nd never being left discouraged enough to give up nd i constantly fight to find love

I sympathize with Katrina, its very hard to knowingly keep putting yourself out there to only end up getting the same results. I’m a single lady myself, so I say…hold on to hope. What’s meant to be will be. This is how I keep holding on.

It’s not just the women, it’s us men that end up broken hearted too. I’m starting to lose what little hope i did have about love. I’m really close to being emotionally dead, because i meet a lady and i’m thinking it’s going somewhere, but it turns out to be just sex, just a friend, or one of the endless women who wants to play me. I wasn’t always a sait and i do believe karma is coming back on me, but when is enough enough?

My 97 year old cousin is never had children. She’s been widowed for decades. She’s very spiritual & has a boyfriend. she travels, dates and enjoys herself.

I won’t put her biz out but folks we toil on til God calls us home. we are all unique creations of our creator. please forgive, heal, continually expand your circle. Most of all, remember you’re spirituality/relation ship with God is most important. You never know what awesome romances await you.

??? First of all A woman can not be alone. Its men who are alone. See, for a man, we can’t just put on slutty clothes and walk outside and have a date by dusk. A woman can. A man is judged by so many factors, his looks, his money, his car and so on. Its so much easier for women to find someone than a man. Also, most women who are alone WANT to be alone. They are alone because they are tired of being hit on so much or they are tired of marriage. Their reasons for being alone are the very opposite of men’s. men are alone because they can not find anyone. Women are alone because they can have everyone. Remember the online dating realities. men receive few to no emails , whereas women receive so many they simply delete them without review. That is the truth. The only way a woman cant have any one is if something is wrong with her, she hates men, arrogant, “independent/superwoman” Oprah man hating type. Its quite common.

Also, if a woman is so independent, then why does she need anyone? And how anti human, anti family, anti community, anti life it all is. But, oh well. War is on the horizon, hope you can see. With each day it become clearer. Things are very unbalanced right now. A world of Disenfranchised lonely men, will be a world of darkness. When all men are alone, including those who ‘serve’ to protect. it leaves nothing in place to prevent the taking of what is a right by all living things, especially men. Like food, living beings need love too. And if that is denied, it too will be taken by those who are hungry.

have faith Katrina,after lots of pain i have found someone who loves and respects me,after dating guys who either hid the fact that they had a girlfriend and baby,the emotionally abusive cheat,the guy who date raped me and robbed me of my virginity which i was saving for my husband,i still hung on and believed that if im capable of loving then love does exist.its hard because sometimes we are too impatient and we dont allow God to bring you the right man,i had to realise and admitt that my judgement sucks and that i dont know what a real great man is but my creator knows,and i eventually that man came when i least expected it.Have patience,faith and be strong and ask God to bring that right partner.and you know if this man hurt man i would still continue to believe love exits because i have experienced it with him and my heart is capable giving love.