Too little and almost too late for not getting jaded…..I’m often jaded to the point where I think my blood is green. lol

All I need is a reason to believe that the game is not really as jacked up as I’m seeing it is from my four eyes. (I wear glasses, lol)

I know exactly what you mean about getting the short end of the stick and being tired of the game. I can definitely see that you’re passionate about it and you have really valid points all the time. Because you are so passionate about it, you will conquer those two things, it just takes time. Don’t become jaded by failed relationships though, you know what I mean?

I’m sorry….I don’t intend to make it sound like I’m angry at you.

I’m just VERY passionate about the topics of love and relationships. These are two topics that I wish to conquer for my own sake…..I’ve often been on the short end of the stick a lot when it comes to this stuff.

Plus…..I’m just tired of ‘the game’ at this point. There’s only so much talking and theorizing I can do and nobody’s feeling or listening to a Brotha….

I agree with you that women should take care of themselves and not expect some sort of award for it. Just…don’t be so angry. LOL Everytime I read your responses I feel like you’re yelling at me!

See…..I personally don’t have a problem with a woman handling her business legitimately. Hell, who would want a woman (or anyone, for that matter) that couldn’t?

And isn’t the man’s job in a relationship to provide? While it is nice (and in my case, preferred) that a woman be ABLE to handle her own business, the way some women carry on about their ability to handle said business almost makes then sound like…….MEN. And no sane man wants another MAN in his female significant other. So with that said….Ladies, it’s OK to be able to handle your business. Nobody’s knocking that. But just tone it down a tad with the “I don’t need no man”-isms that a lot of you throw out there. I’m sorry that the last 46 men you dealt with were losers. Maybe that should tell you something about your selection process. But in the meantime, learn to judge each man on his OWN merits instead of your preconceived notions from past failed relationships.

Where some women fuck this handling their business thing all up is when they get to bragging about being able to do simple stuff….like, really, now……Being able to pay YOUR OWN rent, YOUR OWN car note, and YOUR OWN cell phone bill as well as take care of YOUR OWN kids (for those who have then, of course) DOES NOT make you freakin’ SPECIAL…..that’s what ANY NORMAL FUNCTIONING ADULT SHOULD BE DOING!

They don’t give out gold stars and chocolate chip cookies for being NORMAL.

And I think a lot of women have unintentionally fucked up the definition of the word ‘independent’. So allow me to consult the homie Webster on this one:

Main Entry: 1in·de·pen·dent
Pronunciation: \ˌin-də-ˈpen-dənt\
Function: adjective
Date: 1611

1 : not dependent: as a (1) : not subject to control by others : self-governing (2) : not affiliated with a larger controlling unit b (1) : not requiring or relying on something else : not contingent (2) : not looking to others for one’s opinions or for guidance in conduct (3) : not bound by or committed to a political party c (1) : not requiring or relying on others (as for care or livelihood) (2) : being enough to free one from the necessity of working for a living d : showing a desire for freedom e (1) : not determined by or capable of being deduced or derived from or expressed in terms of members (as axioms or equations) of the set under consideration; especially : having linear independence (2) : having the property that the joint probability (as of events or samples) or the joint probability density function (as of random variables) equals the product of the probabilities or probability density functions of separate occurrence…….”

……I think some women have taken “being self-sufficient” (which is a good thing) and mixed that up to mean “not needing a man to take care of her” (which is SOMETIMES a bad thing). I don’t think any man out there wants a woman that can’t do anything for herself. But when women get to saying, “I can pay my own bills, I don’t need a man” in the same sentences like some of y’all like to do so much, that leads a logically-thinking man like myself to believe that y’all only view men as good for paying your bills and taking care of you, and that to me is a TERRIBLE mindset to have.