Comments on: The Top 5 Reasons To Admit You Cheated http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2010/01/the-top-5-reasons-to-admit-you-cheated/ Love Advice Will Never Be The Same... Fri, 15 Jul 2011 17:58:14 -0700 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.4 By: melchor http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2010/01/the-top-5-reasons-to-admit-you-cheated/#comment-20569 melchor Sat, 30 Jan 2010 06:26:26 +0000 http://www.flyguychronicles.com/?p=4923#comment-20569 i agree in this 5 reasons! well tiger woods admitted that he cheat and he is now in the process of changing. check this out: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SBB4x8GYxsU i agree in this 5 reasons! well tiger woods admitted that he cheat and he is now in the process of changing.
check this out:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SBB4x8GYxsU

]]> By: Third_Of_August http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2010/01/the-top-5-reasons-to-admit-you-cheated/#comment-20568 Third_Of_August Tue, 19 Jan 2010 14:35:57 +0000 http://www.flyguychronicles.com/?p=4923#comment-20568 If I found out a woman I'm with was cheating on me.....I wouldn't really care what the reason is behind it......she and I are done regardless. Relationship/marriage/whatever is OVER and DONE WITH. Checkmate, game set match. And there will be no second chances or "Baby, I'm sorry, I'll do better next time"s either. If I found out a woman I’m with was cheating on me…..I wouldn’t really care what the reason is behind it……she and I are done regardless. Relationship/marriage/whatever is OVER and DONE WITH. Checkmate, game set match. And there will be no second chances or “Baby, I’m sorry, I’ll do better next time”s either.

]]> By: max http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2010/01/the-top-5-reasons-to-admit-you-cheated/#comment-20567 max Tue, 12 Jan 2010 14:19:05 +0000 http://www.flyguychronicles.com/?p=4923#comment-20567 Those are all interesting reasons to admit to cheating, but the truth is that I think the #1 reason most people admit is to assuage their own guilt. Oh they may wrap it up in pretty packaging, but the bottom line is that a lot of the times telling someone you cheated if you still want to be with them and there's little chance they would have found out on their own is just mean. It makes you, the cheater, feel better, but it's devastating to your SO. And to your relationship. I say if you're gonna cheat, be smart about whom you cheat with, as TxMadeGyrl said "don't bring home a parting gift", and keep your effing mouth shut. Those are all interesting reasons to admit to cheating, but the truth is that I think the #1 reason most people admit is to assuage their own guilt. Oh they may wrap it up in pretty packaging, but the bottom line is that a lot of the times telling someone you cheated if you still want to be with them and there’s little chance they would have found out on their own is just mean. It makes you, the cheater, feel better, but it’s devastating to your SO. And to your relationship.
I say if you’re gonna cheat, be smart about whom you cheat with, as TxMadeGyrl said “don’t bring home a parting gift”, and keep your effing mouth shut.

]]> By: drknlvly618 http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2010/01/the-top-5-reasons-to-admit-you-cheated/#comment-20566 drknlvly618 Mon, 11 Jan 2010 18:12:28 +0000 http://www.flyguychronicles.com/?p=4923#comment-20566 Hey FG, This is my first time posting a comment. But I would like to say I enjoyed your article today (which I usually do) and having been in a relationship where I made the mistake of cheating, I think you're right. It was hell living with the guilt AND my SO found out. I believe that if I had come clean, things would be different now. We are no longer together (and I don't blame him), but the entire experience has made me a better person. I honestly believe that I was more affected by the cheating than he was.....it's something when you're dealing with trying to gain someone's forgiveness as well as forgiving yourself. Here it is over a year later and I'm still struggling with forgiving myself! I've definitely learned a lesson that will carry me through my next relationship when that happens (haven't been interested much in dating again.) Hey FG,

This is my first time posting a comment. But I would like to say I enjoyed your article today (which I usually do) and having been in a relationship where I made the mistake of cheating, I think you’re right. It was hell living with the guilt AND my SO found out. I believe that if I had come clean, things would be different now. We are no longer together (and I don’t blame him), but the entire experience has made me a better person. I honestly believe that I was more affected by the cheating than he was…..it’s something when you’re dealing with trying to gain someone’s forgiveness as well as forgiving yourself. Here it is over a year later and I’m still struggling with forgiving myself! I’ve definitely learned a lesson that will carry me through my next relationship when that happens (haven’t been interested much in dating again.)

]]> By: msbliss http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2010/01/the-top-5-reasons-to-admit-you-cheated/#comment-20565 msbliss Mon, 11 Jan 2010 17:55:08 +0000 http://www.flyguychronicles.com/?p=4923#comment-20565 Boy did u hit it on the head. I always tell my ex he should just have come clean & saved all the additional drama. I have learned that most men won't confess if they genuinely love you. It sounded backwards to me when Steve harvey said that in his book But its very true. However, when your in a situation where every1 around you knows & he's still denying it Honesty is still the best policy. Once I caught wind of it & decided to stick with him until I knew it for myself everything changed. I was always suspicious & would bring the girls name up just to get a reaction out of him. He finally told me it was true like a month ago after breaking down in tears about how she called him out the blue saying she wanted a dna test. I'm a very strong woman & even though it hurt like hell I stuck by him out of support. He was so distraught he turned to heavy alcohol & cocaine to deal with the bad situation he had got himself caught up in. I was hurt but relieved he finally told the truth after so many agonizing months. I no longer wanted a life with him but I have stuck by him as a main form of support Not just for him but for his previous children who I kept reminding him needed him around cause he was contemplating suicide. It turned out to be his child & despite stepping up to do the right thing He is still very tired & depressed. He tells me all the time how he hates looking @the child sometimes cause he sees me & how he's having a hard time getting over how he betrayed me. I forgive him but its not been easy trying to move forward. I am childless & young & can move on easier than he can. However he has to live with the fact the woman he wanted to spend the rest of his life with he screwed over. I know it didn't happen on purpose & I believe him when he said he used condom BUT when your doing wrong SHIT will happen esp if u chose to be drunk & high. I feel worser for him & the girl cause she's married & her husband is still gonna stay with her BUT my ex is the one who lost & he knows it. He's a great person But u reap what u sow & u can't mistreat some people & try to swept it under the rug. Boy did u hit it on the head. I always tell my ex he should just have come clean & saved all the additional drama. I have learned that most men won’t confess if they genuinely love you. It sounded backwards to me when Steve harvey said that in his book But its very true. However, when your in a situation where every1 around you knows & he’s still denying it Honesty is still the best policy. Once I caught wind of it & decided to stick with him until I knew it for myself everything changed. I was always suspicious & would bring the girls name up just to get a reaction out of him. He finally told me it was true like a month ago after breaking down in tears about how she called him out the blue saying she wanted a dna test. I’m a very strong woman & even though it hurt like hell I stuck by him out of support. He was so distraught he turned to heavy alcohol & cocaine to deal with the bad situation he had got himself caught up in. I was hurt but relieved he finally told the truth after so many agonizing months. I no longer wanted a life with him but I have stuck by him as a main form of support Not just for him but for his previous children who I kept reminding him needed him around cause he was contemplating suicide. It turned out to be his child & despite stepping up to do the right thing He is still very tired & depressed. He tells me all the time how he hates looking @the child sometimes cause he sees me & how he’s having a hard time getting over how he betrayed me. I forgive him but its not been easy trying to move forward. I am childless & young & can move on easier than he can. However he has to live with the fact the woman he wanted to spend the rest of his life with he screwed over. I know it didn’t happen on purpose & I believe him when he said he used condom BUT when your doing wrong SHIT will happen esp if u chose to be drunk & high. I feel worser for him & the girl cause she’s married & her husband is still gonna stay with her BUT my ex is the one who lost & he knows it. He’s a great person But u reap what u sow & u can’t mistreat some people & try to swept it under the rug.

]]> By: TxMadeGyrl http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2010/01/the-top-5-reasons-to-admit-you-cheated/#comment-20564 TxMadeGyrl Mon, 11 Jan 2010 17:07:26 +0000 http://www.flyguychronicles.com/?p=4923#comment-20564 Fly Guy, I see your POV and can totally agree. Speaking for myself only (because I know myself well enough), I would not want to know. I would never grant my significant other any amount of room to cheat. We are together because we agreed to be loyal to one another. However, if he decides to come clean, he is now a cheater and a liar. Something I can not tolerate. [Hate to pull the G card on you.] GOD knows me well enough to know it will be the deal breaker. My signifcant other telling me of his rump in the sheets, I feel is GOD way of telling me your Prince is coming... This guy was for just that moment in life. Furthermore, one thing I have learned in life nothing is ever what it seems. So, if his guilt of cheating turns into us taking a weekend getaway to Mall of America and a lifetime of bliss, I'm with it! I can't wait to read the next week's list!! Fly Guy, I see your POV and can totally agree. Speaking for myself only (because I know myself well enough), I would not want to know.
I would never grant my significant other any amount of room to cheat. We are together because we agreed to be loyal to one another. However, if he decides to come clean, he is now a cheater and a liar. Something I can not tolerate. [Hate to pull the G card on you.] GOD knows me well enough to know it will be the deal breaker. My signifcant other telling me of his rump in the sheets, I feel is GOD way of telling me your Prince is coming… This guy was for just that moment in life.
Furthermore, one thing I have learned in life nothing is ever what it seems. So, if his guilt of cheating turns into us taking a weekend getaway to Mall of America and a lifetime of bliss, I’m with it!
I can’t wait to read the next week’s list!!

]]> By: Reina http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2010/01/the-top-5-reasons-to-admit-you-cheated/#comment-20563 Reina Mon, 11 Jan 2010 16:52:42 +0000 http://www.flyguychronicles.com/?p=4923#comment-20563 Great reasons. I'm tempted to add #6 You Plan on Sleeping With Your SO. If you didn't get tested after your transgression and slept with you SO, then you've put him or her at risk. But I guess if you truly cared, you wouldn't have cheated, right? Great reasons. I’m tempted to add #6 You Plan on Sleeping With Your SO. If you didn’t get tested after your transgression and slept with you SO, then you’ve put him or her at risk. But I guess if you truly cared, you wouldn’t have cheated, right?

]]> By: The Fly Guy http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2010/01/the-top-5-reasons-to-admit-you-cheated/#comment-20562 The Fly Guy Mon, 11 Jan 2010 15:58:49 +0000 http://www.flyguychronicles.com/?p=4923#comment-20562 @TxMadeGyrl, I hear where you're coming from, and perhaps next week's list is more up your alley. But I have to warn you that your philosophy can potentially backfire. By granting your significant other the space to cheat as long as they "Don’t Get Caught" nor "Bring home a parting gift," you're essentially laying the groundwork for both of those things to happen. What you're essentially saying is that you'd rather be "happy" in something that isn't real, versus you demanding to be respected in the same way that you respect him. No amount of "doing things to make it up" will make it ok as long as you're living a lie. Why not let him come clean, and then have him do things to make it up? At least then you would know the true source of his actions towards you, instead of you walking in a fog thinking "oh my man is really being considerate today." That's a false reality, and should never serve as the foundation for a lasting relationship. Last thought. If you are going to be paranoid that he is going to cheat again, then leave. You always have that option. @TxMadeGyrl,

I hear where you’re coming from, and perhaps next week’s list is more up your alley. But I have to warn you that your philosophy can potentially backfire. By granting your significant other the space to cheat as long as they “Don’t Get Caught” nor “Bring home a parting gift,” you’re essentially laying the groundwork for both of those things to happen.

What you’re essentially saying is that you’d rather be “happy” in something that isn’t real, versus you demanding to be respected in the same way that you respect him. No amount of “doing things to make it up” will make it ok as long as you’re living a lie. Why not let him come clean, and then have him do things to make it up? At least then you would know the true source of his actions towards you, instead of you walking in a fog thinking “oh my man is really being considerate today.” That’s a false reality, and should never serve as the foundation for a lasting relationship.

Last thought. If you are going to be paranoid that he is going to cheat again, then leave. You always have that option.

]]> By: TxMadeGyrl http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2010/01/the-top-5-reasons-to-admit-you-cheated/#comment-20561 TxMadeGyrl Mon, 11 Jan 2010 15:13:51 +0000 http://www.flyguychronicles.com/?p=4923#comment-20561 Sorry Fly Guy, I'm going to have to disagree... I wouldn't want my significant other to tell me he cheated. My rule is, 'Don't Get Caught' nor 'Bring home a parting gift'. I would be paranoid that he is still cheating. I would become emotionally unstable (short term), especially if I envisioned a long term future with him. Thus don't tell me, forever do things to make it up to me and NEVER do it again.... Cause habitual habits always come to the light. Sorry Fly Guy, I’m going to have to disagree… I wouldn’t want my significant other to tell me he cheated. My rule is, ‘Don’t Get Caught’ nor ‘Bring home a parting gift’. I would be paranoid that he is still cheating. I would become emotionally unstable (short term), especially if I envisioned a long term future with him. Thus don’t tell me, forever do things to make it up to me and NEVER do it again…. Cause habitual habits always come to the light.

]]> By: DatDude http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2010/01/the-top-5-reasons-to-admit-you-cheated/#comment-20560 DatDude Mon, 11 Jan 2010 15:09:05 +0000 http://www.flyguychronicles.com/?p=4923#comment-20560 This was a really well-written piece. Great read for a Monday morning. This was a really well-written piece. Great read for a Monday morning.

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