The Top 5 Reasons To Admit You Cheated
Jan 15th, 2010 | Author: admin | Category: The Chronicles
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Here’s the scenario:
You woke up this morning lying next to someone other than your significant other. Now your first thoughts were probably somewhere along the lines of: “F@*K!!!! … What am I doing here??? And how did my underwear get stuck in the ceiling fan???” (Hey, it happens.)
Once you pulled them down and started getting dressed, the magnitude of the moment began to set in. You’ve just betrayed the love of your life, and are now faced with two choices. You could always take the “easy” way out, and carry your dirty secret to the grave. Or you could venture down the road less traveled—the one that leads to an admission of guilt.
As expected, I can already hear a loud contingent of readers who believe the latter choice is borderline lunacy. But before you haul me off in a straightjacket, hear me out. In my experience, there are 5 very compelling reasons to admit you cheated. Let’s examine them together.
1. Paranoia will drive you crazy.
I’ve never understood how fugitives mentally survive on the run. They’re always looking over their shoulder, covering their tracks, and expecting freedom to be snatched away at any moment … It’s an exhausting existence.
That same type of fear and paranoia can apply to the conscience of a cheater. The energy required to maintain a web of deception is rarely worth the gray hair and stress that it triggers. So why even bother? Why not confess now so you can sleep later?
2. You cheated with an unstable person.
Here’s an interesting fact: 32.7% of all single people are mentally unstable. Of that number, 92.5% of them enjoy sleeping with people in relationships, only to turn around and systematically attempt to destroy their lives.
Ok, I made that entire section up, but you have to admit that it did sound compelling. Here’s the bottom line. The world is filled with crazy people, and as fate would have it, the cheater often winds up in the bed with them. So before they get all Fatal Attraction on you, it’s best to clear the air with your loved one before the stalking and harassment begins. (Trust me; it can and will happen.)
3. You envision a long term future between the two of you.
For many, trust and transparency are the key components when laying the foundation for a lifelong relationship. If that same philosophy holds true for you, then you have to confess. Why? Because it’s impossible to build a successful relationship on a bed of lies … just ask any Bad Boy recording artist. So if you really see this person in your future, then let the truth set you free.
4. They deserve to know the truth.
When you look into their eyes, what do you see? You probably see a reflection of yourself. But is that you in your current state? No; it’s the person that they think you are … loving … attentive … FAITHFUL. Yeah, it’s hard to live with yourself when your loved one views you as a saint, when you’re really a sinner. They have a right to know who you really are.
5. They should hear it from you first.
The only thing that’s worse than your confession is them hearing it from someone else. It just makes an already bad situation worse. It kind of reminds me of how I felt when I had to read on TMZ that Halle Berry was pregnant by some curly-haired Sears catalog model. The truth would have hurt regardless, but I would have respected her more if she told me herself. Your significant other deserves a higher level of courtesy than Halle afforded me.
The Fly Conclusion: Let’s be very clear: I just laid out 5 compelling reasons to admit you cheated. But that confession doesn’t guarantee that you’ll be forgiven. Hey, that’s the risk you take when you decide to betray someone’s trust. But regardless of their decision, take comfort in the fact that you took ownership for your actions and accepted the punishment that came with it. To me, that’s a sign of real growth.
Next week, we’ll explore the Top 5 Reasons Not to Admit You Cheated … after all, there’s two sides to every story.
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