Overcoming The Pain Of The Past

Jan 13th, 2010 | Author: admin | Category: Fly Perspectives
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I recently bumped into a friend that I hadn’t seen in a while. As we sat and talked, there was something noticeably different about her … she was smiling. The last time I saw her that wasn’t the case, as she was involved in one of the most toxic relationships I had ever witnessed. Truth be told, the guy that she was dealing with was literally the devil’s offspring. He took pride in making her endure hell on earth—all in the name of “love.”

At the time, she was so committed to the relationship that she shut everyone out, and refused to listen to the warnings of her family and friends. Soon though, his mental, verbal and physical abuse reached a point that she just couldn’t take it anymore. She finally walked away.

The months directly following this ordeal were filled with long days and sleepless nights of her angrily blaming herself for being so blind. Her smile—once capable of lighting up any room—was officially gone, and there was no sign of its immediate return.

But then something happened…

She met someone. Now of course, she was guarded at first, as she didn’t want history to repeat itself. But over time, this new guy proved to be sincere in his intentions towards her. Not only were his actions heartfelt, but they were inspired by something greater…

Love.

So as we sat there together, I couldn’t help but notice that her smile had not only returned, but it seemed to shine brighter than before. It was a blessing for me to see that. I wasn’t just happy for her though … her triumph gave me hope for every single one of you who has ever experienced something similar.

I won’t pretend to know the depths of pain and despair that many of you have endured. But if my friend’s story can teach you anything, it’s that happy endings are possible—no matter what you’ve gone through. As hard as it may be for you to believe right now, the sun can shine again.

My message to you: Don’t give up on love … don’t ever give up.

“Weeping may endure for a night … but joy cometh in the morning.” (Psalm 30:5)

I truly believe that.

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  • http://nerdlike.com jane goldenarms

    People become imprisoned by their own pain, I know I used to hold the key to my jail cell. We have to choose happiness, I found it’s an actual choice. And we all deserve it.

  • http://iadoremakeup.blogspot.com missannabanna

    wow, this hit really close to home! learning to give it a chance again because “happy endings” and the L word were starting to become make-believe to me.

  • qwerty

    Not only is Psalm 30:5 one of my favorite verses in The Bible, your message of the day certainly applied to me. Now I don’t feel so stupid about the past relationship but I realize I was not the only one who went through something.

  • msbliss

    my circumstance is similar to that but not really. I chose to forgive my ex for the pain he caused me & we R currently still very close & trying to support each other & help heal each other. It brings a lot of peace to my soul when I chose to forgive & live in the present moment despite my hurt of the past. Although he hurt me ,he isn’t a bad person & I want to make peace & keep our friendship Not just because of us But cause I don’t want to be one of those bitter angry women who always complain about men. Its life, were all human beings so pick ur heart back up & love again

  • Ex Pimpstress

    ditto…i’m glad i popped in today. I needed this,thanx fly guy and Qwerty!

  • mrsjefferson

    It’s hard for anyone to overcome hurt and sometimes you walk away bitter.I feel that bitterness, you’ve earned the right to that.You can’t be bitter forever but if being a man eater ease your heart then that’s your remedy.In this case, I bet while she was sitting there blaming herself, she analyzed the situation and saw the truth in it, she’ll never be a victim again.That pain helped her choose her new mate wisely and she’s happier for it.

  • Marie

    Thank you so much! I’m going through this now. I have so much hurt inside. I have been such a great woman, to a undeserving man. I said my peace, and didn’t stoop to his level. I know that God, has a man for me who I’m equally yoked. That story really gave me hope and touched a part of my soul. The bible is the best counselor. Again, thank you so much!