This Relationship Irritates Me … I Quit

The Un-Fly Dilemma

She irritates me.

And I’m sure there’s more than a few people out there who don’t appreciate this type of honesty. But just to be clear, this has nothing to do with you. It has everything to do with me and her, though. No scratch that, it has everything to do with me and her annoying habits.

I’m talking about the way she laughs (cackles) … the way her voice gets high-pitched when she’s excited (it’s more like a shrill) … and let’s not forget about the way her back gets dry and scaly when she steps out of the shower (I swear the girl must be half-amphibian.)

I could keep going if you’d like me to…

And therein lies the problem. None of those things used to bother me. But now it seems like every little thing about her gets under my skin.

What happened to us?
Are we no longer compatible?
Is the honeymoon over?
Should I cut my losses and move on?

The Fly Learning Moment: This type of relationship scenario happens quite a bit. We get so excited about the prospect of new love that we often overlook many of the character traits that we’d never accept under normal circumstances. Once the newness and luster begins to fade, then we’re stuck … mired in frustration, and unable to escape a relationship that we’re no longer invested in.

When situations like these arise, it’s best to be upfront and honest about your feelings. Too often, we unfairly take our frustration out on the other person, when it’s really not their fault. We drag them through our emotional roller coaster because we’re too afraid to just say, “I don’t want to be here anymore.”

Well it’s time out for that type of behavior. If you don’t want to be in a relationship anymore, then there’s only one person holding you there … you.

Understood?