Comments on: 3 Tips For Dealing With Domestic Disputes

By: bogart4017

bogart4017 — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 16:59:16 +0000

Its easier to say what you have to say politely and keep moving. Holding a grudge and bringing up old shit clouds the main issues. Going to bed angry makes you oversleep. Remember every argument can’t be “won”. Sometimes you have to agree to disagree respectfully.

By: msbliss

msbliss — Sun, 20 Dec 2009 01:05:30 +0000

I think its tragic for its so common esp in the black community. its almost as if we’re expected to fight when we feel disrespected. When my bf cheated on me,the girl he did it with worked with us except on his shift. He never admitted to it until after she got fired but there was a lot of tension at work when I saw her and even when she comes by I feel that sense of preparing for battle rise up in me. I have had to seriously check myself many times because I know how out of hand I will and can get if she crosses me. BUT I always turn the other cheek cause neither him Nor esp her is worth jail time or getting into a situation where some1 can lose their life. Normally, it doesn’t start out crazy; all it takes is one person too lose their sanity and snap. Like fly guy said, when some1 is pushing you to your limit if u can get away then run but if ur forced to be around them then calm down, get ur nerves rite by breathing slow and think about ur family that u want to be there for. It works for me and I have been ready to fight many times. U jus have to be the bigger person no matter who calls your a punk or say ur weak for not fighting him or her cause Guess What when your locked up for killing some1 or seriously hurting them R those people gonna pay ur lawyer fee? No they will be all around town talkin about how big a fool you were and shaking their head.

By: AnonyMiss

AnonyMiss — Sat, 19 Dec 2009 05:07:06 +0000

In addition to what is stated above, people also need to recognize when it’s a lost cause and when there is no hope for things improving. Particularly those in an abusive relationship. Don’t stay with someone who obviously has no care/concern for your emotional or physical wellbeing.

By: BellaBecca

BellaBecca — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 03:33:14 +0000

Truly tragic. Even moreso because it didn’t have to happen. We have to have more control over our emotions. It isn’t worth a life. I know I’ve felt I needed to get physical in past relationships, not even going to lie. But I knew it would not have solved anything. Sometimes we have to walk away…breathe…we might even realize it’s not even as big of a deal as we thought. Children are now left without a father, a mother without a son.