Comments on: You Can't Always Listen To Friends

By: Rochelle

Rochelle — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 18:38:10 +0000

i think it definately depends on the situation because sometimes your friends are truly looking out for you. if your man is being a dog on the low anyone would expect a true friend to tell them and be there for them. but if your friend is just being a hater then thats a totally different story. its really hard to know which way to go.. the head and heart always go head to head.

By: Joelle

Joelle — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 16:50:22 +0000

I have def learned to keep certain things to my self when speaking to my friends about relationships. I have messed up quite a few potential relationships because of my friends “advice”. I even had a friend that would intentionally give me bad advice in order to make her own advances with these guys. On the other hand I’ve received great advice so I guess it just depends on the situation.

By: Cam

Cam — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 04:07:05 +0000

this is a tough one. Sometimes friends give you advice based on their experiences and it would be wise to take it. however, i am discovering that every relationship is different. At the end of the day, I agree with you…follow your heart. You can’t regret that. Just be sure to use your head, too.

By: AnonyMiss

AnonyMiss — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 05:24:05 +0000

You definitely shouldn’t let your friends dictate all of your decisions, especially when it comes to dating. I know me and my girls have very different taste from one another. Some of us prefer dark chocolate… some of us are more into the boricuas and dominicanos… some of us like really outgoing guys while others like the silent type… so yeah it’s kind of silly to allow your friends to choose your man because what they are looking for might be the opposite of what you want and NEED. But there are times when a friends opinion on something pertaining to your relationship is valuable. E.g. if you’re in an abusive relationship with a man you have fallen in love with and your friend tells you to leave… well that’s one of those times where you need to listen to his/her advice.

By: bogart4017

bogart4017 — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 21:19:28 +0000

I don’t give advice for or against any woman my friends or brothers are involved with. I just listen when they complain. I figure between the haters, parents, etc they are dealing with enough negativity.

By: BellaBecca

BellaBecca — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 03:34:50 +0000

I agree…key word being always. When people give advice on others’ relationship it will always (and can only be) an outsider looking in. Being as such, it can go both ways. Meaning, the person giving the advice (the “advisor”) will never understand the other person’s heart or feelings and may not understand the connection, etc. or contrarily, the advisor’s judgements wont be clouded by emotions in situations where one may not want to see the negatives.
Ultimately, you have to live your own life and do what makes you happy. If you make a mistake…so what..dust yourself off and learn your lesson.
**Side note: Love itself is so contradictory..you can choose who you love..but you cant choose who you fall in love with. Love will make you do right…love will make you do wrong…make you wanna moan.

By: Grace

Grace — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 19:14:17 +0000

Well said. I’m sure “real” friends (and even family) only say the things they say out of love. But regardless, it’s only up to ourselves to make the final decision – we can take it or leave it. And whatever happens, if they really love you, they’d understand and will always love you the same.

By: TxMadeGyrl

TxMadeGyrl — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 18:58:13 +0000

Well I must agree with your article, Fly Guy. People can’t always listen to the friends for advice on THEIR love life. If you really like the guy/ girl it doesn’t matter what your friends say because they are not in the relationship. In addition, true friends want to the best for you. As long as there is not any abuse, true friends will be there to support you even if the relationship fails.

By: msbliss

msbliss — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 18:14:09 +0000

This is such a sore topic for a lot of people esp WOMEN. Its hard to follow your heart when ur girl is talkin foul about ur man lol. I had that situation awhile ago & I was torn BIG time. In the end though I dumped her ass a friend cause I realized she was being real dirty behind my back with other people. I’m still currently with my bf but whether I feel he’s right or wrong is MY decision & I’m not saying she was wrong about him but I’d rather follow my own heart & if I chose to leave its on my own grounds. Not based on something I was told or some rumors. I don’t kno about men but a lot of women are very messy & dirty when it comes to their “so-called” friends.