The Fear Of Breaking The News

Nov 26th, 2009 | Author: admin | Category: Fly Perspectives
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How do I break the news to you? Even though we don’t talk like we use to, we still never officially parted ways. In many ways, we just drifted apart, allowing life to carry on as if we never were. But we were … and now I’m faced with the unenviable task of letting you know that I’ve found someone new.

So how exactly do I reveal the fact that I’ve found another love?
And how do I confess that my heart now sings another song?

Do I just mail you a save the date for my wedding day?  Or should I post some recent vacation pictures on Facebook and hope you stumble across them?

Decisions, Decisions…

As I continue to throw around scenarios that range from the straightforward to the absurd, an unsettling thought overcomes me …

I’m a coward.

As hard as it is for me to admit, the truth couldn’t be more crystal clear. The real reason I’ve been avoiding you is I’m scared of what you might say … and even more afraid of what I might say. Who knows; maybe I’ll eventually have the nerve to call and officially close the chapter of my life that included you. Or maybe I’ll just continue to be distant, avoiding your calls and blaming it on a hectic schedule and the pursuit of my career.

Whatever my chosen path, I know that you deserve more than what I’m currently giving you. It’s times like this where The Wizard of Oz suddenly doesn’t seem so childlike. I wish there was someone capable of giving me some courage … and maybe some heart while they’re at it.

I really need to get it together…

Fly Question of the Day: Have you ever struggled with letting a former love know that you had moved on? How did you handle the situation?

Let’s talk about it.

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  • http://flyguydonnie.blogspot.com donnie

    well its easier then it sounds.

    I haave a similar situation…wich I dnt think I handled tht gr8 but w/e.

    I ws with my girl fren and tht nite we got into an arguement..I still had feelings for my x but I didn’t let hr noe.

    til tht nite somethin kame ovr me to let her no I still had the flame burning & wsnt put out yet.

    so I let hr no I had feelings for her & asked her if she still had for me & she said no.

    I didn’t take it harsh..rely felt like a chapter was being closed & now im happy to say im ovr her & still going thru stuff with my present girlfren lol.
    we broke up..and she wants to get baq together but im 16 & wana live out my life single styled for now. so we’ll see how tht goes lol

  • bks_boss_bytch

    It has been done to me, and you know what I understand it totally…so no hard feeling between me and my former flame. I tried dating a friend of 11 years, the relationship just didnt work out for us. Im too strong of a woman says he, lol. He often planned our future but couldn’t commit in the present. I gave him many chances to just say its over…but he couldn’t (still hasn’t). Recently I’ve been involved with on-line dating and everything with that is just upside down, inside out. I’ve taken the time to get to know people and they are great via e-mail, IM and/or telephone…then when we meet in person and its like “NOT”. Now being on both sides of the coin (and Im a confessed hypocrite) I just couldnt understand why people would spend so much time getting to know someone and then just disregard their feelings as if they didnt deserve a proper closure. Well truth of the matter for me is this…as ballsy (strong) as I am sometimes its hard to come off as shallow (even to a stranger), even though in some way shape or form we all are. Now magnify that X’s 10…you spend months, maybe even years with a person and they start to change or just dont have the same umph that they use to. Its incredibly hard to say listen: This just doesnt work for me anymore. At the end of the day its called personal preference. But many fail to realize that people are always going to evolve (change) and you have to really be ready, willing and able to stay committed to someone who isnt or wont live up to what we prefer. We prefer someone just be straight up and say listen I need to move on, or do we? Are we really ready for someone to be that honest (direct)? Im still trying to decide!!!!! It is easier said than done, but dont get me wrong I have done it. *cry cry, sniffle sniffle*

  • qwerty

    I agree with you when you said “be straight up and say listen I need to move on”.

  • BellaBecca

    For me, it would be hurtful either way. But less hurtful to have someone say “look…you are not the one for me and I have moved on.” Dont even pacify me and tell me how great I am. Just don’t ignore me or tell me you want to see me and never do when my feelings are hanging on to hope.

  • Sharita

    I would just love it and respect it more if you just tell me that “this relationship” is not going anywhere. If one thing you would know about me is that I respect honesty.
    I don’t know what’s worst – receiving the “save the date” notice or just seeing you and you have the wedding band on.

  • cchampion

    I am in a similar situation right now. I have been in a relationship for almost 10 years and we have really parted ways (in my eyes). He is in another city, but still calls from time to time. I want to tell him its over, but I don’t want to have the conversation over the phone. I have not seen him in over 6 months, and Iknow he think the relationship is going to work. I have given little hints for him to go ahead and start dating, but that is not working. It’s a lot harder than it seems when you have been with someone for that long It’s kind of hard to break everything completely off. I think I have no choice but to tell him out right when I see him. I guess his Christmas wont be all that merry…

  • http://www.myspace.com/thepeculiargirl Nesha Reed

    NO……NOT FACEBOOK WTF?! That is so wrong lol. A part of maturity is facing the fact that we are going to have to confront difficult situations in life including this. Obviously, if one is having such a hard time saying these things to another then the relationship must have been something “real”. So officially parting ways is gonna be hard, and more than likely someone is going to get their feelings hurt.