Comments on: Taking Love For Granted

By: amia550

amia550 — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 14:58:23 +0000

well good for you babe. : ) Glad to hear that you are happy, loving, spiritual, forgiving…… and all that other stuff you said.

By: Rika

Rika — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 03:34:11 +0000

Totally agree…I think some people are just in it for the chase and then want more thrills so they disappear to go finding another person to chase…just like a junkie looking for the next high…solid strong loving relationship can’t really grow like that.

By: The Fly Guy

The Fly Guy — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 01:57:26 +0000

well thank you for supporting my vision. I really appreciate it. I need to read up and catch up on what you guys were talking about. I feel like I missed out on a good conversation.

By: onenmilgyrl

onenmilgyrl — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 01:47:12 +0000

@flyguy, once again thank you for having this wonderful outlet. I love places such as these because different people from all walks of life can come together and discuss different topics. Thank you and keep up the great job.

By: onenmilgyrl

onenmilgyrl — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 01:37:41 +0000

People come into your life for a reason, season or a lifetime. I wanted to give a positive outlook to msbliss because I am certain everyone is reminding her of the situation, it is always easy to pass judgement from the outside looking in. Even my friends who by the way encouraged me to leave him now are in awe of how we came back together. My bestfriend looked me in the eye and told me she wasn’t surprised, not because she disapproved but because she knew how much he meant to me. As far as with the vows, yes that’s an oath made before god and I feel as though a relationship is a good measure of how a marriage can go. To say that every man is a repetitive cheater is like saying noone can change. I am blessed to say god brought him back in my life because there was a time we did not speak. He is a good man who made one mistake, and had to deal with it.how funny how most women in america are willing to forgive chris brown for beating rhianna to a pulp but we can’t forgive our own men for acting out of the flesh. Men and women cheat for different reasons, men usually cheat for the physical satisfaction while we women are longing for something we are missing at home. Do I recommend every woman to stay with a man who cheated? Heck no, some men aren’t worth it. Just like some women cheat and aren’t worth a good man. But if he is “proving” himself afterwards why wouldn’t u give him some benefit to “re-earn” ur love? My man calls me before he does anything, has cried in my eyes about it, takes care of the 2 most important women in his life next to me: his mom & daughter and his soul desire is to keep me happy from now on. I know of women who men don’t cheat but don’t appreciate them, could care less about making them feel like a queen, don’t take care of their kids or have a job and they stay with him. If I had to choose id pick my one time cheater who through god in our relationship adores me, can be a provider and makes me feel complete . It does take a special woman to stand by a man during a difficult situation such as this. Im sure his family & friends are disappointed and his guilt is eating him up so why fight fire with fire. Like I said msbliss, only you truly know if staying is beneficial for you. We all have to make our OWN choices in life and live with the consequences.

By: msbliss

msbliss — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 19:56:58 +0000

@AMIA550…I have very good self esteem & YES I forgive wholehearted. Its a difference between feeling the emotions vs becoming it. Yes I was hurt but you know how can you throw God in your comment & then act like love is something you give & take based on the actions of others? But that is how most of the world reacts so I’m not surprised by your statement. I could never picture jesus havin that mentality,thank God. And no its not even about havin a man you have Completely missed the whole point of what we’re talking about & if u haven’t walked in my shoes I really don’t care how you view my situation. I AM a better more caring, more spiritual, more advanced mentally person because of my “unnessary experiences”. Baby I’m thankful to have any experience that teaches & molds me to a higher understanding. My god flows through people who can forgive others for murdering their family members. Honey I can’t give this type of love if I didn’t love myself that’s what u don’t understand. If some1 wants to fight me, hurt me by all means do it cause guess what when I get back up ima still give come with that same love. I don’t kno about you but I live to be the person that is missing in peoples lives. And I constantly reap the blessings of that Every Day. If a mother who lost her baby can sit next to the man who took that childs life & talk to them on that common human level that is missing in this world HOW CAN I, who isn’t going through shit compared to that,NOT FORGIVE my man for something men in the bible & behind the pulpit have done for EVER!? I never said I plan to stay with him but if I do either way like ONENMIL said ima be totally happier. If you can’t walk through the fire 2gether then you aint got no damn relationship, you just chasing a image you made up for yourself. And yes he is VERY much dealing with the consequences of what he did. In more than ways I care to discuss right now. No doubt he is suffering & YES it breaks my heart to see him go through this cause he isn’t a bad man & he made a mistake mostly all men make @some point in their life. Baby it aint about keeping no man it is so MUCH BIGGER than that. This is about dealing with life in general. Thanks for your input though & GOD bless

By: amia550

amia550 — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 16:52:27 +0000

I am very glad that you have found happiness in your relationship through all that you’ve experienced with him. And you are very right about the vows which speak of loving and staying committed through better or worse. But what we fail to realize sometimes is that those vows are designed for us when we enter into a MARRIAGE.
I didn’t imply that you or the other young lady didn’t respect yourselves. All I’m saying is the unconditional love we as women give is so special and deep that it has to be deserved, and if a man can go as far as disregarding that love for SEX, then his actions deemonstrates how HE “appreciates” and “respects” you.
God does heal all wounds and forgives our sins against each other and against HIM. BUT He also gives us WISDOM to protect ourselves from going through Unnecessary experiences. Now if we do choose to go down a path that reeks of destruction, God CAN always turn it around, but why would anyone want to make life and love harder on themselves than it has to be. Alot of times hurt can be AVOIDED if we see the problems for what they are and GO IN THE OPPOSITE DIRECTION, which goes back to what the Fly Guy is implying in this post.

By: onenmilgyrl

onenmilgyrl — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 16:21:10 +0000

@amia550, noone said anything about not respecting ourselves. In the eyes of god no sin is worse than another, if you are without sin, than please cast the first stone. I am merely speaking off my experience..I don’t know msbliss relationship to say this is a one time occurence. But I do know plenty of women who have gone through our experience and are very, very happy in their relationship today. If we continously go through life expecting a fairy tale you may wind up empty, if I remember vows come with the phrase” through good & BAD”. I can personally say my bf who I did take almost 2 years apart from, is not the same man I left. He has grown and matured and is a wonderful father most importantly. Sometimes we all must go through certain situations to grow. Like I told msbliss, what one soul does isn’t always going to work for another. I just know that this works for me and I am more happy than ever..god bless

By: amia550

amia550 — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 15:58:22 +0000

wow.. after reading some of the comments posted. i am left speechless… what is this world coming to when we will allow another person to completely disregard us, our feelings, and our love for them and then still even CONSIDER keeping them in our lives all for the sake of “love” ? REALLY? Is being with another person that crucial? Now, by no means am i passing judgement on anyone for the decision to “love unconditionally”, but i believe that one must love THEMSELVES unconditionally before extending that same to another. If someone blatanly makes a decision to take you or your love for them for granted, then they’ve forfeited the PRIVILEGE to be loved by you. THAT’S how special love is… that it has to be EARNED and MAINTAINED!…Now i could be completely wrong, but if we will allow someone to cause us such hurt and still keep them in our hearts, giving them the same privileges to access our hearts, then WHAT WOULD KEEP THEM FROM REPEATING THEIR ACTIONS… if there are no consequences then NOTHING changes……
I’m just saying…

By: onenmilgyrl

onenmilgyrl — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 14:52:31 +0000

@msbliss, yes u will always have people ready to judge you and what you have… like I said this can be a test for the both of you. He made a mistake and as much as you are dealing with it, trust im sure he is too..he has to remember that now due to his actions he may have to take on a responsibility he probably wasn’t expecting, even harder with a girl like you described. Just have faith you can get through this, what works for one soul isn’t always the destiny of another. I can’t promise you that it will last but I can tell you if you truly, deeply love him than go with your heart. If you ever wanna chat else where my email is onenmilgyrl@yahoo..take care!