Comments on: Rapid Fire Love- Nov. 24

By: mimi

mimi — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 14:50:42 +0000

Ohh I loved this!!
*I disagree with changing the perception that all men are dogs. I mean it may take some work that some men are not cut out for hence the cycle continues. But let me tell you, if you put some loving on a women for REAL… she won’t think that way always.
*I fell trap to that bitch thing. However… my friends and I usually don’t SAY it verbally in conversation to each other. It’s more a AIM, BBM kind of thing. “Bitch” is a touchy word and context is key. You ever seen a friend use it the other way on her friend— watch how quick shit pops off. LMAO… you’ll gain instant understanding. I have friends who let their man say “that’s my bitch” (cringe). That is terrible. I find it disgusting. I can’t even elaborate more— its not cool.
*My downfall, I’m too strong-minded. LOL… I guess. So it’s not the air head thing… some men can’t take a women who knows more than them when they’re used to being right. Can’t lie though, thats a helluva ego booster. “You can’t handle my opinions?” *brushes off shoulders” “Cool…”

all and all i loved this.

By: young black female

young black female — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 06:56:58 +0000

i understand where the bitch comment comes from, but at the same time, everything must be taken in context. A stranger may think I’m disrespecting my friend when I call her a bitch, but neither of us think that. Does that make it disrespectful? I think not. My friends and I engage in sarcastic humor more often than not and insults are just part of that. If a man cannot wrap his head around that, then I wouldn’t want to be with him.

And putting all of that aside, I don’t think men should speak to their women like their girlfriends do. It is just two different aspects of our identities that we show with different people, and I believe they should be somewhat seperate.

By: Third_Of_August

Third_Of_August — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 09:36:02 +0000

@ Bella

Those guys that said they wanted friendship obviously weren’t 100 percent honest with you if they bailed like that. That’s the best answer I have for that comment.

I date to try and get to know a woman on a more personal level. Usually, I’ve found out the basics before I even ask her on a date. (And even then, I have to have reason to believe that the relationship’s got some potential to develop as well.)

And as far as the Titans’ colors go…the baby blue is carried over from back in the day when the franchise used to be the Houston Oilers—back in the Warren Moon days….lol. In fact, during their first two seasons in Tennessee (1997 and 1998), the team was actually named the Tennessee Oilers, but they changed the name for obvious reasons. (The ‘oil’ is still in Houston, not Tennessee. LOL)

By: BellaBecca

BellaBecca — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 05:32:55 +0000

I see where you’re coming from. At the end of the day all we can go, all we can really draw from is what we see from the opposite sex. But I honestly do not believe any of the women you see around gay dudes WANT them. Some guys I have come across and want to have strong friendships with suddenly end it once I let them know I have no sexual interests. So that is difficult for me to believe because I have yet to see it.

That’s what you date for, right? To see how good she is. If not, you should use it to do so instead of aimlessly pursuing or spending time with the wrong woman.

And unfortunately, that may be exactly what you hear watching a game with a woman. Like seriously, when I think of titan, I think this brute being…so why the baby blue?

By: Third_Of_August

Third_Of_August — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 04:16:34 +0000

@ BK

Oh….and I don’t play nice anymore. Not sure if you got the email, but nice guys finish last. In fact….they finish two spots after that guy that finished last. lol

By: Third_Of_August

Third_Of_August — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 04:15:28 +0000

@ BK

Hey…..thanks for understanding where I was coming from.

As far as independent women go….let’s analyze the following often-used quote from women:

“I don’t need a man, I can pay/buy/take care of _______ myself.”

Okay. those two clauses are COMPLETELY independent of each other (they have nothing to do with each other)—-but women use them together so blatantly that it leads me to thinking that they think men are only good for paying their bills and pampering them.

Can we say—–’Golddigger?’ lol

By: bks_boss_bytch

bks_boss_bytch — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 03:55:02 +0000

I really have to agree with you on that Third_of_August…that is a concise observation you have going on there. The overall summation is a thought that most women do not understand or care to understand (guilty as charged myself, sometimes). But from a womans point of view we normally only point these things out as to NOT be classified or categorized as the gold-diggers that are cleverly disguising themselves nowadays as real women. With that said I give you a gold star for articulation, but Im gonna fight you about that “STFU and be humble about it” comment, LOL…play nice and try to see it from our perspective.

By: Third_Of_August

Third_Of_August — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 03:06:13 +0000

@ CaliLuv

There’s a difference between being ‘independent’ and simply not knowing how to be humble about how well you’re doing in life.

I find that a lot of women throw the ‘independent’ title around too damn much for my liking. Okay, we see you and we hear you loud and clear….you can pay your own bills on time, you have a job, and you have a car and a house/apartment…..Whoop-de-doo…That’s the same stuff most NORMALLY FUNCTIONING ADULTS have going on for themselves. If y’all want a gold star for being AVERAGE, then I can FedEx you one. LOL

Where the water becomes murky is when women use the fact that they can take care of themselves to make it sound like they ‘don’t need a man’ for anything. Well…..GREAT! You can be by yourself all the rest of your life with that mentality. Because I as a man want a woman that can not only take care of herself….but one that knows how to STFU and be humble about it, too. Running off at the mouth isn’t always an indication of strength. Some women feel like they have to go advertising their so-called independence all over the place, and in reality they’re just letting men know that they think men are only good for paying their bills and such. Those are the women I run from…..quick-fast.

By: CaliLuv

CaliLuv — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 22:57:21 +0000

Im so sorry F.G., but I beg to differ men are just as needy, jealous, materilistic, and meticulous as most women. I find that men just can not handle being with a independent, self assured, WOMAN. And women regard some men as dogs b/c they keep being “dogged” out by Punk Azz Boys, frontin like they are men!!!!

By: Denisha

Denisha — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 18:24:14 +0000

Lonely men is an epidemic that I never recognized years ago. The ‘B’ word is used in different ways and should be left up to the user. If you don’t like it then that’s how you feel so don’t use it. You is not ‘them’.