Don’t Love Me Like Jodeci
Oct 5th, 2009 | Author: The Fly Guy | Category: Fly Lyrics
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I was scrolling through my iPod this morning and stumbled across Jodeci’s “Cry For You.” Now I have to admit, when the song first came out, I thought it was dope (even though I probably wasn’t old enough to really understand its meaning.) But after a quick listen today, my perspective on the quality of its message has officially changed. In fact, the last thing that I EVER want someone to do is to love me like Jodeci. Let’s take a look back at some of the lyrics, so you can understand where I’m coming from.
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The Lyric: “It’s been an hour since you’ve been gone, and that’s too long so come back home.”
The Fly Response: “What do mean come back home? I don’t get off work until 5:30.”
Point #1- I Can’t Spend All of My Time With You
I understand that you can love a person so much that you hate it when they’re away … but there’s a limit to that type of behavior. If a significant other can’t function without you being there, then it’s time to start listing them as a dependent on your taxes. I mean, that’s in essence what they are, right? … a dependent.
Listen; I can’t stress enough the importance of having your own identity. That continues to be a critical ingredient in a relationship’s recipe for success.
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The Lyric: “Without you baby, I feel worthless … I’m living on the edge.”
The Fly Response: “Was your self-esteem this low when we met?”
Point #2- Low Self Esteem Will Never Be Attractive
A person’s self-worth should never be directly linked to your place in their life. If that’s the case, then I suggest you either leave that relationship, or encourage them to search within themselves to discover their true value. Once they do that, I’m sure they’ll begin to understand that their worth has nothing to do with you. And if it does, then that’s a big problem.
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The Lyric: “I can’t think without you, my mind is always with you.”
The Fly Response: “So basically what you’re telling me is that you’re on the verge of getting fired.”
Point # 3- If Being With Me Makes You Unproductive, Then I’m No Good For You.
I never want to hinder someone’s productivity … and neither should you, since that’s not what relationships are about. Relationships are about inspiring and bringing out the best in each other. Many times though, we fall prey to relationships that trigger the exact opposite. Suddenly our dreams no longer matter as much, and we believe that we’re ok as long as we have that “love” in our life. But that’s not love … that’s stupidity.
The Fly Conclusion: Let me just say that even after this piece, I remain a fan of Jodeci and their contribution to music. But I wouldn’t be doing my job, if I failed to point out unacceptable relational behavior when I see it.
Now that I’ve shared my thoughts on “Cry For You,” I need you to re-listen to the song and share your thoughts. Have you ever been involved with someone who exhibited similar traits? Or were you the guilty party? Let’s talk about it.
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:-) OK next you have to attack Toni Braxton’s “Breathe Again” My boyfriend at the time would always tell me how “unsexy” that whole concept was. :-)
YES YES YES PREACH!!! although I remain a LOYAL Jodeci fan, I blame their music for my incorrect perceptions of how a man is supposed to act. I woke up every day to “My Heart Belongs to You” blasting through my speakers. I was only what 16,17 years old… hey it was great music, but now I can understand what love is really like
Absolutely hilarious BUT true!
lmfaoo you’re so right, too bad the people who are like this will take this as a diss and think you’re the crazy one…i.e i have two friends of mine and they are freaken annoying the other day i was hanging out with #2 of the pair and she was absolutely distraught she didn’t see her boyfriend the whole day and it was 2 in the afternoon and btw they live together and she left their apartment at 10 am..i wanted to throw up , i thought their matching outfits were insane but she proved me wrong
You know it’s all Jodeci’s fault that I have a kid… I am a huge Jodeci fan, but I agree that they warped my idea of what a male-female relationship should be…
With that said, you all should go to http://www.DJEdNice.com and download – DJ Ed Nice Presents: The Best of Jodeci lol…
What? lol
I never understood the begging. Sweetheart it’s not that serious. But I have to admit I did love it back then.
hahahaha
Dang, I will never be able to listen to this song in the same way . . . yes it is messed up. Did u know Ceelo pointed out how many black songs negatively influence how black folk view relationships.
Could u please add Plies 2 that list!! I’m sorry But his songs about women are GOD-AWFUL!
I would think his songs are self explanatory. But you are right … the way he portrays relationships is no good.
Perhaps we need to do a class action lawsuit for all of us who got unrealistic relationship expectations from these songs! LOL I know that it has cost me a LOT! Please analyze those folks who used to dedicate K-Ci & JoJo on the ‘Lover’s Hour’ on the radio to the one that they cared about the most… I used to go OFF everytime I heard it, MAJOR insult!
lol! Love this.. I had this kind of moment when I heard SWVs “Your The One For Me” when I got older… Like…. wait.. this used to be my jam.. but these some skankin home wreckers! dag nabbit! lol I was too through. Love this post! lol
*sidebar* The chorus is sampled on my fave Bun B track, I knew it was a Jodeci song but couldn’t remember which one. Thank you FG lol
With that said…..the chorus in this song ain’t so bad lol
FGeezy, you are officially my dude (no homo… lol)! I swear I was on the verge of becoming that guy until right now. Man, you may have just helped salvage my relationship!
ON THE MONEY!!!…I’ve sang this song so many times, never really assessing what it was I saying….OUCH! Dope perspective. keep it fresh!