Do You Really Know How To Rate Yourself?
Oct 19th, 2009 | Author: The Fly Guy | Category: Fly Perspectives
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A major problem in the dating world is there aren’t enough people willing to give themselves an honest self-evaluation. This lack of internal honesty starts to create a problem when the advances of deserving people are dismissed with phrases like “I can’t be with them … they aren’t on my level.”
Now in some instances, I can agree with such an assertion. For example, if Lester from “227″ starting putting the moves on Halle Berry, then I wouldn’t be mad at her for saying that. (That thick mustache alone should disqualify him.)
But in most cases, there is no Halle Berry in the equation. Instead, it’s just people who undeservedly place themselves on a Halle Berry/Brad Pitt-like pedestal where they unfairly look down on others. Case in point, I have an associate who truly believes that she’s a “dime.” She’s even gone so far as to put “certified-dyme” in her email address just to remind everyone of her perceived dime status.
On a certain level, I can appreciate her high level of confidence, and even applaud her unwavering belief in self. The only problem is that there just aren’t many facts to support her position. Let me run down her stats for you:
–she’s not very attractive.
–she’s not in good shape.
–she’s only borderline successful.
–she has a really bad attitude.
In short, she’s the anti-dime (not trying to be mean, just stating facts.) But even with all of those strikes against her, she still consistently turns down decent guys since they aren’t “a dime like she is.”(her words, not mine.) She’s not alone though, as this type of thing happens ALL THE TIME.
So what am I saying?
Do I think people should lower their dating standards? Absolutely not. I just think that more people should be honest with their own rating before they determine what that standard is. Make sense?
My sister recently sent me a video that provides a perfect explanation of this idea. After watching the video, cast your vote and share your thoughts with me on the subject of date ratings.
Fly Disclaimer: This is pretty funny stuff.
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I can think of about 20 women that need to see this. There’s not too many women tat know how to rate themselves.
LOL… I love the post and the video… this is very, very true… ppl walk around thinking they are dimes and like Fly Guy said, advertising it, which is really a sign of low self esteem… ppl that “fly” really don’t even know it or care to show it!!!! We all can use a little work…. RULE OF THUMB… there’s a hundred cuter ppl and 100 uglier ones so BE YOU!!!!
man i know so many people that need to read this. i’m bout to forward this to a bunch of people. good read and the video is funny. lol. i wonder who really voted themselves a 1-2 though.
@ Tunde … the dimes did lol…
people still use the word Dime? lol
I set it up like this, I have a pretty decent job….HE should have a pretty decent job.
I take care of my responsibilites….HE should be doing the same.
I try (sometimes and fail miserably) to keep myself in shape….HE should be doing the same
and so on. That’s all I ask for at first…then the incidentals happen ie like him being crazy or having a a wife and a another girlfriend on the side. Lol, but for me to take a guy seriously he should bring to the table the same thing, maybe more that I bring.
I was just talking about this with someone……Girl’s claiming that they are a ‘5 star chick’(which by the way that song annoys me….just a lil) LOL
Can you use some more adjectives to describe yourself?….hehe
I rated myself a 9….although I would of rated myself an 81/2 but it wasn’t up there.lol
I based my rating on my personality/morals…..and I do recognize that there is room for improvement.
***Also I feel that a real “dime piece” doesn’t have to tell the world that she is!….BE HUMBLE…You can just tell by the way she carries herself…and the way everyone stares at her when she walks into a room. POW!
“In short, she’s the anti-dime…” Funny. If I can just not be an “anti-dime,” I am doing well LOL
If someone feels the constant need to tell someone else they are great, they are probably not all that great. People with low self-esteems resort to putting others down to give themselves a boost.
I love the “anti-dime” line!! I rate myself right in the middle. It’s best to be under rated than over rated plus it’s all subjective.
I do agree But what exactly are we measuring it BY? Others standards? Let’s be real very few people make their own standard of judgment when it comes 2 themselves. Its all about how some1 or some people will perceive their” perceiving of themselves”.lol. I work fast food, pay a car note,live with mom & currently sitting out of school.to most even in this chat,if I said I placed myself high up there many would look @my current situation & highly disagree. Well, I am way up there cause If I took my last breath 2morrow I got out this world when I was suppose 2 as holiday would say. 1.) To like my self 2.) To love some got damn body just because I got damn can. I feel very alive Everyday, give everyday, protect others hearts,minds,feelings every single day & I love it. Everything I have rite now & don’t have rite now is what I fully accept & need 2 be at peace. No hourglass shape, no fly ride, no fancy degree to hang on a wall, no perfect house,etc. I have peace of being & no matter what I lose or gain will change that so do I dare think too highly or low of myself?? No, I think neither.I’m my ultimate SELF, rate it how ever you feel.
I don’t need or want what they call a ‘10′ in my life. I’m happy with a 6 or a 7 if we connect well enough. Besides….I ain’t Eric Benet, so I wouldn’t expect my woman to look like Halle Berry. lol
What do I need a 10 for…..so I can have 60 other dudes trying to get at the woman I’m talking to? No thanks. And I’ve found that a lot of so-called 10’s are lacking SEVERELY on the inside….and it’s those inside qualities that are going to take over once the looks start fading as we age….or once people simply get tired of people prancing around like that’s all they have going for themselves.
Couldn’t watch the vid but on the topic…I think its very important to evaluate yourself and also be evaluated by those who know and love you the most.We all get shifted by the world so its always in our best interest to put our best foot forward in all arenas.
@ Third_Of_August.. I like your style, I’d like to hear more of your thoughts..
@ Third_Of_August..
I like your style and would like to hear more..
I think everyone should evaluate themselves and be evaluated by the people who know and love them the most.We all get winded by life and its best to take the time to rejuvenate and put our best foot forward and if we can’t see what we really need sometimes a little scrutinization is plausible, not by societies standards either.
@ knowmyworth
Thank you. I really appreciate that.
I guess I was always a bit more mature and forward-thinking when it comes to these kinds of topics.
And yes, we all need to focus on self more before entering a relationship with someone else. I know I’ve been working on me for several years….most of the time I feel like I need to put in more work.
Ironically enough, what I haven’t seen at all is any actual rewards for all this self-work. lol
I’d give myself a 6-8. I definitely could stand to tone up. I know I’m not the flyest dude on the block, but since I’ve never had a problem getting women, I guess I just learned to be very comfortable with myself. What attracts one woman, won’t always attract the next, so I’m never tripping on it.
Wow…i’m in the Bahamas.