Comments on: 6 Tough Relationship Talks You Must Have

By: Jan Randka

Jan Randka — Mon, 09 Aug 2010 15:19:40 +0000

Oh yes, those are the situations that test which men are OK and which are not. Fail one and you have the first red flag. Fail another and your relationship starts to break into pieces.

By: Albin

Albin — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 15:08:54 +0000

Actually Kristen, there is a test for HPV, its just not used as a screening test as some of the other STD tests are. Pap smears, as of right now are still one of the best ways to know if a woman needs to be concerned about an HPV infection (due to certain strains increasing the risk for cervical cancer later on). The genital warts can be burned off.

There is a test for Herpes as well. It’s just not very useful. It may not be a very good predictor if you will actually manifest disease.

The best thing to do is to talk to your doctor and be honest with your partners

By: Kristen

Kristen — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 05:17:53 +0000

Actually, Kim, there’s no test for HPV in women, either. Unless someone (male or female) has visible sores or an abnormal pap test, there’s no way to know if they have HPV (or Herpes, for that matter). So even if a guy’s ex tests clean, it doesn’t mean he’s not infected.

I agree with you about caring for your partner’s well-being. I wouldn’t want to be with someone who couldn’t be upfront about his history.

this is a good website for stuff like this: http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/5592.html

By: Kim

Kim — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 00:01:27 +0000

Getting tested for STD’s is definitely a start, but no male test can detect HPV, one of the most common and dangerous sexually transmitted diseases. The only way you can know if a man has HPV is if his last girlfriend tested positive for it. I usually just ask directly about his last sexual partner’s STD status. If he can’t give me a straight answer it means he’s not concerned enough about my well being and isn’t worth it.

By: apol

apol — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 18:48:41 +0000

i liked the honesty there…direct to the point, i like that…i wonder what the interviewer felt that day?

By: Lorenzo

Lorenzo — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 18:22:09 +0000

Good info. I just wish women could be straight (no pun intended on the rude comment from Cam who interpreted DB’s comments as those of a lesbian – Cam….you need to seek counseling!). If women could be more to the point instead of playing what comes across to most guys as “testing games”, I think we’d all be a lot better off. I think in general, or at least with my male friends, we all pretty much want the same sorts of things in a relationship. L.

By: bogart4017

bogart4017 — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 20:06:16 +0000

Totally agree with Robin. The Mrs doesnt speak “in other words” therefore there is no room for interpretation.

By: amia

amia — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 17:45:23 +0000

“back off, man trap” ? OMG!! LOL.. too funny! i can imagine that being a man’s response to taking things to another level. TOO FUNNY!

By: xenon

xenon — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 15:18:39 +0000

Hmmm, a good read. Thanks Fly Guy… Now to find that guy to practise it on…LOl!

By: DB

DB — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 16:09:46 +0000

This was great, however the only part I disagree with is the pill conversation. I honestly believe that considering the high number of black women with HIV and AIDS that having unprotected sex in an unmarried relationship is a huge mistake. That is not to say that it doesn’t happen amongst married couples, because it does. However, throwing precaution to the wind for a moment of pleasure shouldn’t be encouraged. JMO.