Comments on: Does Your Sexual Past Really Matter?

By: Ryan77

Ryan77 — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 22:47:06 +0000

Ok so sex is a big part of relationship everyone knows that and so is communication. So what you’re saying is everything else in a persons life can be talked about except the number of sexual partners. I don’t agree with this but I know some people out there just dont care how many people a potential girlfriend/boyfriend has slept with. If Im gonna be with someone I want to know everything about them. I know that I would never be with a girl that has slept with 20 or more men. This is my own personal choice. If a girl won’t tell how many she’s been with I’ll assume thats its been a lot and end the relationship on the spot no matter how much I like her. Theres too many good girls out there to settle for anything less.

By: Ms. T

Ms. T — Thu, 08 Oct 2009 07:13:43 +0000

I don’t think numbers are that important because that has very little bearing on things. A person could have slept with a number you might consider large but that could have been at a very different time in their lives during a very emotionally devestating time in their life. The important thing is if you were safe and even if someone decieved that person and gave them something. You need to decided if loving this person is worth dealing with it.

By: msbliss

msbliss — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 05:24:56 +0000

I agree the number should not matter as long as it was done as a single person & not outside of a relationship. I also say this as a woman who is 22, had sex first time@20 with current lover who was not a virgin. The rate of protection is way more important than the rate of partner

By: Third_of_August

Third_of_August — Sat, 05 Sep 2009 02:40:03 +0000

I am 25.

By: amia

amia — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 18:20:23 +0000

@ Third
how old are you?

By: Third_of_August

Third_of_August — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 23:02:38 +0000

@ amia

Exactly. Who gives a crap about numbers?

My number is THREE. (No bullsh*t. I put that on EVERYTHING.) And I’m damned proud of it, too. Not many guys my age are selective when it comes to who they have sex with.

By: amia

amia — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 19:23:33 +0000

you are completely right. all that really matters is that neither of you have any STD’s. #’s dont make or break a persons personality or character. if a man were to tell me about a bunch of sexual partners, it may be a turn off and the same if he is “not very experienced”. SO in this case, knowing how many is NOT better.
….. and if a man ever asked how many partners i’ve had…. i’d never really tell the truth about that… just being honest! LOL

By: Third_of_August

Third_of_August — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 10:27:32 +0000

I think guys are screwed on this one regardless of how they answer the question.

Any woman secure enough to take a man at face value shouldn’t really be giving a damn how many OTHER WOMEN a grown-ass man has slept with in the past.

If the number is too high, she’s probably gonna think he’s a man-whore. (But he’s oddly more likely to get play as a result. Maybe she’ll be the one to ‘calm him down’…..yeah, right! lol) If the number’s too low, she’s gonna question his sexuality (like some women have done with me) or she’s gonna think he’s some lame reject that can’t get any.

By: urbanintellect

urbanintellect — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 05:16:49 +0000

I am just curious because I am well informed about DL lifestyle as I am close friends with several gay men both in and out of the closet… Its wild!!!

But when you ladies inquire about them having male on male sexual relationships forced or voluntary… Are you really expecting a TRUTHFUL answer? Have you ever gotten a man to admit that he had a bi-sexual relationship when he was portraying himself as a heterosexual??? It such a taboo!!

I think you have a much better chance of convincing him to tell you his number of partners.

By: urbanintellect

urbanintellect — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 05:10:10 +0000

It is interesting to me that women feel the need to ask men the number of sexual partners that they have had as if they were promised an honest answer. I feel as if it is almost a wasted question, a rather pointless one!!

I have several male friends that I have candid relationships with and the bottom line is they aren’t going to answer you or they aren’t going to tell you the truth. They might tell me the truth and the answer is “I don’t know!!!” I also don’t know very many if any women who would tell the REAL truth. My friends and most associates (lol) are far from “whores or sluts”. I wouldn’t even catergorize most of them as “easy” however, they have all lived life and aren’t goingt to be judged by a number of partners in a double standard society.

Shaving and omiting information is done on both sides, so to me aside from just a random question one would ask with the expectation of a very random answer… I would expect a non-truth.

Depending on ones college experience the number for men could be well into the 50′s or even 100′s. I remember quite vividly that frat guys “got it in”. We won’t even factor in the jet setting, wealthy professionals, whatever their occupations may be, who may have a one night stand each night of each trip to: Superbowls, All Stars, College homecomings, Derby’s, Memorial Day weekends, Labor Day weekends, Black Bike Week, Caribana, New Year’s Eves, Fight weekends in Vegas… And the list goes on:) I’m going to let you do the math.

I would really assume that most men probably just don’t know. I guess I don’t know many men who are in the single digits or who have even bothered to keep count. As premiscious as our society is… I again, highly doubt that you would get a true answer. So I just don’t see the point of asking..