Comments on: Are You Too Fat To Be Loved?

By: REINA

REINA — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 21:12:35 +0000

I recently had this conversation with a man, and my position is that we both need to stay in shape. I understand life intrudes, but I definitely want your mouth to always drool when you see me, and he should want the same. His argument was that if the man is the breadwinner, he should be allowed to slack off in the physique. I call bullcrap. Breadwinner or not, if you want me in the bed with you, give me a body I can appreciate.

And by the way, Mr. Guy, leave my sausage biscuits out of this.

By: undressingHER

undressingHER — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 18:16:12 +0000

thankfully, all of the women I kick it with regularly, stay in the gym. It’s one of the things that attracted me to them. They’re not small, but they stay active. As for myself, I definitely need to get my ass in a gym, I’M GOING TODAY, because I’m just presenting myself as nicely as I’d like. I MUST loose this gut. I think it would help my confidence, as if I needed it.

By: CurlyScorpio

CurlyScorpio — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 17:42:36 +0000

I’ve always appreciated a mans honesty, especially when they’ve asked me to lose a little weight. Things work much better that way. I in return have no problem telling my SO’s when and if they need to hit the gym. I’m a believer that as a couple, we should always compliment each other, physically and emotionally.

By: Tunde

Tunde — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 16:37:28 +0000

i agree with the article. i don’t live in a fantasy world where i think looks don’t matter. they matter a lot especially with me. i’m kind of typical where in that i’m very visual. if my significant other started to gain weight i wouldn’t wait till i was completely turned off before i said something. i would invite her to the gym with me and if that didn’t work then i would tell her exactly how i feel. it may hurt her now but less in the long run.

to answer your question, i’m a very physical person so i don’t see myself letting myself go (barring something medical which would cause me to gain weight).

By: Sojdanielle

Sojdanielle — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 16:07:09 +0000

I like Naomi’s comment…I was surprised that the person in the story who had gained weight was a male. Men are always making critical comments about women’s bodies yet their bodies are FAR from perfect, but typically us women are so forgiving of their ‘changes’ so men don’t notice/care about their flaws. I agree with the woman in the post, you can’t help it if you’re not attracted to a person anymore, intimacy is important and if anything gets in the way whether its weight or something else, both people need to work to fix it.

By: Naomi D.

Naomi D. — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 15:52:20 +0000

I experienced this with my ex. At about 2 years into our relationship, he developed the habit of picking women’s bodies apart; making crude comments about a woman’s stomach, how tight her clothes fit, etc. Every time he did this I’d think to myself “He obviously doesn’t realize that he’s picking up weight too.” One day while we cuddled, I rubbed … Read Morehis belly which had started hanging over his boxers. The look on his face was priceless. I could see him become insecure right before my eyes. He started working out right away and stopped making comments about other ppl’s bodies while we were together.

By: Qwest Producer

Qwest Producer — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 15:51:48 +0000

Im not going to lie, it does count. No one is perfect, but at the same time you have to make an effort. People are supposed to keep themselves together as best as they can. It’s like keeping your house together no one likes to visit a house that’s out of order. It’s the same with your body.
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By: Medina

Medina — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 15:51:15 +0000

Similar to this, I know someone who is kind of blase about their teeth and says that whoever they get with will just have to accept them. That’s just gross.

By: Milly

Milly — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 14:57:09 +0000

Sadly whenever this happens, someone usually ends up cheating

By: Spoonie Gee

Spoonie Gee — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 14:17:36 +0000

Been there, done that. I can admit that I got lazy in my relationship and developed a little gut. She didn’t say anything though; she just cheated on me. When I found out, she blamed it on me letting myself go. Even though she was dead wrong, I learned a valuable lesson.