Comments on: When Should A Woman Pay?

By: shelleyshell1974

shelleyshell1974 — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 23:54:11 +0000

1st date he pays just b/c it’s the gentlemanly thing to do. After that who ever asks pays. If as a woman or man you choose to offer to pick up parking or leave a tip then that’s fine too. Relationships should be give and take equally.

By: Third_of_August

Third_of_August — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 22:35:50 +0000

@ qwerty

Bitter? No.

Was I upset? of course. I had to pay for a date that I was invited on. Ever had that happen to you? When you do, let me know how that feels.

Selective? Always. Someone’s gotta be selective….even though being selective in my case means I end up not dating much.

By: qwerty

qwerty — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 17:22:10 +0000

@ third_of_august

So she showed up with no money at all and now it’s got you all bitter. So now you’re going to be picky. Tsk, tsk – taking old dating relationships into the future. Not good. I always offer and will pay for half of my date. If I don’t have money – I don’t go out.

By: nspirin

nspirin — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 01:27:03 +0000

reply to #10
“but he dates you…and you dont reach for any checks”

i never knew i could date someone without them dating me back.
if that’s the case can someone please give halle berry this memo cause we are officially dating now…well at least i’m dating her.

By: chloebarksdale

chloebarksdale — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 00:27:28 +0000

I personally do not feel that I should ever be made to feel that I should “offer” to pay for a man that I am dating and not involved in a monogamous relationship with. I do understand that this is “2009″, and all that loveliness, but there are certain values that I grew up with that I continue to hold close and paying for a date is one of them. In these economic times I am very understanding of financial contraints but dates do not have to be expensive. Going to play putt putt is not expense. Going to an early matinee is less expensive. Screen on the green is free, and I’ll even “pay” for the food that I use to pack the picnic basket. But I personally have an old school way of thinking. Have I paid for a date before…..yes, with a brother that I was seeing exclusively. Yet there was never a feeling of obligation to pay. Even if I am seeing you and I suggest that I’d like to go somewhere such as a new restaurant, to shoot pool, Six Flags, to see EWF at the Fox….etc., as a man, I have always felt that there was an understanding that my suggestion does not denote that I am also treating. My father and my mother both raised me to believe that courting consists of a man taking a woman out on dates, and yes…you always make sure you have enough to get home in case that idiot starts to act a fool or thinks that just because he took you to dinner you “owe” him something…….but he “dates” you….and you don’t reach for any checks. So for the most part I’ve learned to “stay in my lane”… I know I’m putting myself in front of the firing squadron….so let the bullets begin. LOL

By: Milly

Milly — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 12:54:52 +0000

I dont mind paying if I invite you out, but at the begining of your courtship You as the man should be paying :)

By: Erin

Erin — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 04:03:54 +0000

I have not problems paying….I think we should pay once in awhile. I like to take care of man, cater to him and do for him. Men like to be taken care of too……

By: writerlikenoother

writerlikenoother — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 00:28:57 +0000

who ever ask should pay. as a man if you’re one that likes to pay but can’t then simply decline and wait til you can pay. If dating, (in the beginning) shouldn’t the man pay all the time? I know there’s exceptions but shouldn’t he?

By: Third_of_August

Third_of_August — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 23:08:44 +0000

I agree. Whomever asks, pays.

I was once asked on a date by a woman that decided to show up with NO MONEY AT ALL….and then she didn’t even eat half the food she ordered.

Needless to say, that was the last date we ever went on. These days, I’m very particular about the kind of women I date.

By: and1grad

and1grad — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 23:04:38 +0000

I dont know if there’s a cut & dried rule on how many dates in it would be but personally, if a woman never even ATTEMPTS to chip in for ANYTHING we do, she’s getting the hook. Just b/c I want to spend time with you, doesnt make me your sponsor.