Is It Wrong That I'm A Virgin?

I’m 18, going on 19 in September, I still have my V-Card and I plan on keeping it for a while. I have a lot of friends who aren’t virgins anymore, some younger than me, some older than me but lost it when they were my age (or younger).

It’s hilarious when people have the surprised reaction about my virginity whenever the topic comes up for discussion. It’s a shame it’s that way but hey… It’s all good…

And I agree with FG. If guys are turned off because you’re inexperienced, STD-free (most likely) less prone for baby-mama-drama and other bullshit then those guys weren’t the ones you needed to be with anyway.

I was a virgin until I was nearly 27. Went through the whole peer pressure thing. Wondered if it was a turn-off. Wondered if I was tripping, trying to hold on to a concept that was outdated (I said I was saving myself for marriage). Clearly I failed.

I finally had sex, mostly because I was curious, and frankly, wanted to get it over with already. Do I regret it? Kind of. I mean, I didn’t have a terrible experience or anything, but I definitely now realize that was the wrong reason to do it. And while sex can be great, it also complicates things that sometimes just don’t need to be complicated.

The point is, truthfully, yes, being a virgin will be a turnoff to some guys. I’ve had a few stop dealing with me because of it. Corny as it sounds– good riddance. If they’re tripping about you being a virgin, they’re not for you. Most dudes can hold out on sex, if you’ve never had it with them before. And it also makes things more interesting. Let’s face it- men love the chase. That shall never die.

So long story short, no, it’s not a bad thing to be a virgin. Stick to your guns, stay true to yourself (and God) and you’ll be aiight.

Good advice, Fly Guy. What is our world really coming to when someone is surprised that an 18 yr old is a virgin.

Personally, I think everyone should be at 20 yrs old and out of their teen years before having sex. If you can wait til college, I think that is mature enough

As a man i don’t think real men are turned off by a virgin. The way i feel about it is this: to be a woman’s first lover is an awsome responsibility-not one to be taken lightly. The horror stories i hear are usually about some guy who just wanted to get his freak on and was unconcerned with her pain or inexperience. So do yourselves a favor ladies. When you pick your first lover make sure it is someone who is more concerned with guiding you through what should be a very pleasurable experience instead of trying to achieve his own orgasm. Enjoy!

It’s definitely not a bad thing to be a virgin. I applaud your willingness to wait for the right man to share yourself with. Any real man should respect your decision to be a virgin and not try to put you down or be turned off because of it.

I’m a 24 year old man, and although I’m not a virgin, I kind of wish I was in the sense that nothing substantial came out of any of those encounters. I’ve always been the type that would rather be at least in a committed relationship before having sex.

Just stay your current path and you’ll find men that respect your choice.

I find it commendable that you decided to wait! Now just remember why you’re waiting and don’t settle for anything below the standards you’ve set. People having sex >20 aren’t having good sex anyway…no worries there LOL

ALL MY V’S STAND UP! =)
I am also 20 and still a virgin.

My problem is the total opposite of this young lady…..I can’t keep the fellas off me!…It’s a little frustrating.

I honestly think this generation of youngsters should wait till their atleast 18.

I applaud anyone who holds out on sex for the right person. Though I don’t necessarily believe waiting until marriage is really a smart idea, I do think waiting until you’re sure of the person you’re with, is. My first few sexual encounters definitely were with the wrong people, and at that age you just don’t know how to separate your emotions from the physical, and of course I got strung out on guys that didn’t deserve that sort of attention from me. As I matured I learned to respect myself, and become more selective not just in who I laid down with, but who I spent my time and energy on as a whole. I’ve learned what I want, and what I deserve, and not to waste time on guys who don’t deserve ME. Sex doesn’t equal love, and that’s the lesson I think a lot of teenage girls need to learn. Unfortunately you can’t be told – it takes life experience to know that.

Thanks FlyGuy for this post. I’m 23 and still a virgin and it’s great to see men who do understand that it IS okay to choose to wait. I feel like too many people rush into things. Like the saying goes “those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind” there are people who are mature enough to be okay with virginity. Those who are turned off aren’t worth it anyway.

I’m still a virgin at 24, I’m not ashamed and there is nothing wrong with it. You don’t have to give your body away just to do it. If people cannot accept the fact that you are a virgin, tell ‘em to kick rocks! Everyone is not worthy of your body.