Does It Suck Being Single In Your City?

Jun 10th, 2009 | Author: | Category: Fly Features
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I currently reside in Atlanta, and according to the women here, I’ve literally stumbled upon a utopian society for single men. As far as they’re concerned, Atlanta is the land of milk and honey, where men roam freely while pining women throw rose petals at their feet.

No seriously, they really think that. I mean don’t get me wrong, Atlanta certainly isn’t devoid of eligible bachelorettes. But you still have to find the right one, and that’s a process all in itself. (For the record, there are a lot of wrong ones out here for us too.)

While I listened to their frustrations, I began to think about the social climate in other cities. Was it similar to Atlanta? Or were there places in the US where single women had become an endangered species. Well thanks to the US Census Bureau, I now have an answer to some of those questions.

So check out the map below to see how things are shaping up in your region. After taking a look, give us your own perspective on the dating scene in your city. I need to hear from you.

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  • NaturalBeauty6

    After reviewing the map, I have to completely agree. I’m from Shreveport,LA and the men are scarce here. Its sad, but true. I’m single and now I know why. LOL

  • http://kaycthequietstorm.blogspot.com/ KayC, The Quiet Storm

    I currently reside in the A as well, but I refuse to fall into the man-shortage trap. Dating is what you make it, it is about choices. Many people “think” things into existence because that is what “they heard” so it must “be true.”

    I think when we make better choices and know ourselves better then the dating scene will be different because we will approach it differently. I meet people every time I go out, but I don’t go out to meet people. I go out to enjoy myself and have fun.

    My apologies…I went totally off the topic.

  • Chocolate

    I am part of that big red dot in the southern part of Fl, and the answer to your question Mr. Flyguy is yes it sucks!

  • Third_of_August

    At least y’all are still in the States….

    I’m currently overseas (South Korea)…it’s (naturally) very hard to find single Black women over here!

  • DragonFly Jones

    I live in Philly and there are more single black women in Philly then men. But unlike Atlanta there are a vast aray of pigeons and chickenhead running around Philly.

  • Sharita99

    I live in NJ/NY and looking at this map makes me want to move out to Texas or CA…
    Before I pack bags and have to listen to all sorts of extra type of hip hop, I am going to try some more searching on east coast.
    I’m even going to try speed dating, bc I believe there is a person out there for everyone

  • LOL

    mmm..there seems to be alot of men in San Fran

  • Ozone

    I live on the West Coast in Seattle, and YES! It sucks…I’ve seen that map a few years back; thanks for reminding me why the girls here at the way they do.

  • http://milly-o.blogspot.com/ Milly

    I’ve lived in Atlanta for almost 8 years now and I have yet to see anything of this shortage I keep hearing about lol

    So I’m with Kaycee the quiet storm on this one

    I too believe dating is what you make of it

  • qwerty

    Now I know why I am still single in Baltimore. Good grief!!!!! And the eligible list does not show who is incarcerated, gay or dead. Where are the eligible men who are not into that freaky crap, on the DL, married and wanting someone on the side. Please stand up so that I can see you.

  • Nicki=Maxwell Fan

    DANG! I never realized there was so many men in cali area. It always felt like there was more women than men.

    Interesting….

  • Ms. Rose

    I have been living in Chicago for 3 years now and can’t seem to get the whole dating thing started. I have been told that I am picky, but I know what I want and I just haven’t found it yet.

    Perhaps there is more “competition” since there are more women, so that makes dating difficult.

  • Third_of_August

    @ qwerty

    You wrote:

    “Where are the eligible men who are not into that freaky crap, on the DL, married and wanting someone on the side. Please stand up so that I can see you.”

    I am standing. y’all might be blinded by Mr. Baller’s 30-inch rims that cost mote than his house, Mr. Player’s smooth talking that you’ll probably fall for and complain to Mr. Gentleman “Just A Friend” That You Probably Should Have Chosen In The First Place, and Mr. Wannabe Thug’s ‘swagger’ that he probably wouldn’t have if he had to work regular jobs to get by like the rest of us common folk.

    If those three guys aren’t blocking me, maybe it’s the fact that I’m only 5’8″ and your average woman like a man Shaq’s height. Sorry, but I didn’t get to flip a switch and choose my height when I hopped out the womb back in ’84. LOL

  • qwerty

    @third_of_august

    I was stationed in South Korea (8th CRS-Kunsan AFB). I personally don’t like flash and swag. Don’t like “players” either. I’m rather old-fashioned. Prefer a gentlemen over a thug. Prefer a man who works a regular ol’ job and come home to his regular ol’ woman. Never have been impressed by flashy things for they do not last. I’m 5’8″ but you can’t be so shy (which I think you are) that you will not approach me without game and just be yourself.

  • Denisha

    Like Ms. Rose, I live in Chicago and have been told I am too picky but I think it’s because I refuse to settle. I go out just to have fun and end up meeting someone every time but they aren’t what I am looking for.

    Cali is looking really good to me too :)

  • DJ

    I must agree with the map for Dallas because there is not a huge variety of single women here and when you try to reach outside of your local area it seems that women are not interested in men outside of their local area.

    So that leaves us dealing with the local mess or find that open-minded person that can see the bigger picture which is happiness.

  • Royalty

    I stay in Atlanta as well and while I think there is a shortage, I’ve just learn to expand my preferences. While I usually go for a certain type of man, I know that being more open minded will allow me more chances of me getting “the one”. Since moving here, I’ve decided to date a varitey and it’s been fun. Of course there are things that I can not make an exception for but my solution to dealing with the shortage of mean in Atlanta is just being more open minded.

  • run.n4rmluv

    yes…. the stats don’t lie. Being single doesn’t suck, but the lack of men worth choosing from is slim. That’s the part that is sad.

  • tonya622

    Wow….I live in LA and wasn’t aware that the ratio of men to women was that uneven. However, I believe it.

    I’m an Event Organizer for a speed dating company and many of my events have a much greater sign-up rate of men than women (even though it’s based on even numbers of men/women to attend, I sometimes have to unfortunately turn men away).

    However, that does NOT, I repeat, DOES NOT, make it easier to date in this city. I’m convinced that for every one guy that is willing to go out to a speed dating event to try to meet a nice girl, there are at least 10 men trying to PLAY women and rack up as many as they can get. Many men suffer from severe commitment-phobia in these parts, and many just want to hook up and/or play games. So ladies, if you’re thinking that Southern California is the mecca for all things testosterone-filled, PLEASE, PLEASE take heed to my words. Quantity and quality are NOT the same thing. Thank you and Good Night.

    (stepping down from my soapbox)

  • A_O

    @ third_of_august

    I have to agree with qwerty.
    I’m not attracted to flashy or material things, thugs that possibly in the future I would have to be doing the fist bump through glass while he is in jail. I don’t fall for all that smooth talking playa playa it’s so lame. But that what seems to be out there. If they not walking around with their pants hanging off their behinds or 30 years old inspiring to be a rapper. They got kids with baby mama drama. Or they want to be playa playa and have a main chic, girlfriend and a side piece. That is what I have been running into in NY.
    I also don’t care about a man’s height. I’m 5’7 and the last guy I was talking to was shorter than me. Like qwerty said. I want a regular guy that does regular things.

  • Third_of_August

    @ qwerty and A_O

    It bothers me that the only place I can seem to run across women that say they like average men is the Internet.

    Maybe once I meet a woman in real life that thinks the way y’all do will I actually start believing that average, working men are actually good enough.

    And that whole being yourself thing? I got that mastered. Problem is, the average woman secretly isn’t really impressed with an ‘average guy being himself”…it always seems like y’all want more than that when it comes down to it.