Why Are You Holding Back?

Apr 10th, 2009 | Author: admin | Category: Fly Lyrics
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There seems to be this undeniable chemistry between us, but I can’t help but feel like we’re stuck in a holding pattern. The more I open up to the possibility of a relationship with you, the more you pull back and cower in the face of this potentially blossoming love. I just don’t understand why you continue to hold back. How long will you allow the past to negatively impact your present and future? I mean, I’m down to wait until you figure things out, but even the most patient of men have their limits … and I certainly have mine.

I’m just being honest.

A Fly Question: Have you ever caught yourself holding back because you were still dealing with the fallout from a previous relationship? How did you overcome the situation … or did you?

Check out Marques Houston’s “Hold N Back” featuring Mya and Shawna, today’s Fly Lyrics selection.

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  • http://www.flaglerhill.com blaze

    FG Thats called being in the grey area of a relationship. I’ve definitely been in that situation too many times. Good post.

  • http://milly-o.blogspot.com/ Milly

    I have caught myself holding a few times and I’m still working on not blaming him for what the previous man did or didnt do. Lucky for me, I have a man that cares enough to still have patience and love for me.

  • Je’Kendria

    Yeah, my current boyfriend definitely held back for like, a year and a half. He had broken up with his ex a few months prior to me, so he wasn’t trying to rush anything. He knew the title would make things completely different, so he wanted to make sure that this was the right person he wanted to be in relationship with, instead of it being a waste of time. I have to admit, I was reluctant to wait that long until he was ready, but as soon as we made it official, I completely understood why. People jump into committed relationships too soon and end up regretting it. I think that she sees you as relationship-worthy, but probably is still scared that the same thing will happen with ya’ll that did in her last relationship. Stick around though and be the person she needs you to be so she can get over the past, the outcome will be worth it. It will be a lesson learned either way. BTW, love your blog!

  • CurlyScorpio

    I’ve pulled back from relationships due to previous fall outs with an ex. After I got cheated on I immediately found an amazing man. He wanted to be together, but I didn’t wanna put a title on anything cuz I wasn’t ready to trust again. I needed time to rid of myself of the negative emotions that it caused within me. At no time did I think he would do me wrong. He was perfect, and everything I could ask for. I’d pull back because I needed to get my issues together so I could be the best woman I could be to him. So with that said, sometimes people pull away because they care too much to bring the other person into their personal issues at the time.

  • Robin Nichols

    I think we’ve all been there, FG…
    the trick is to realize this new person isn’t the old, and just let it be. Easy to say, I know.. But it’s just that simple, and that complicated – let it go, let it be.. It is what it is, and it’s not now.

  • yoyolb

    I’ve been holding back after being in a 6 year relationship that fell apart. I think I am afraid of commitment. I gave so much of myself that I lost who I was. Now that I am “free”, I don’t want to jump back into anything too serious. It’s been 7 months since the fall out and I still am not ready. I have no clue when I will be either.

  • http://inobamaforobama.blogspot.com alwillwin

    @yoyold i totally relate. where you are is a great place!

    a 7 year relationship ended, two years single and now a failed long distance relationship.

    interesting to me, is that i’m even more positive & excited about love & cultivating a healthy relationship with someone.