I Want Her To Leave Him

Apr 7th, 2009 | Author: admin | Category: Fly Letters
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Dear Fly Guy,

I’m in a bad situation with this woman. She really likes me, but has a boyfriend that she’s been with for a while now. She expects me to call a lot, but I’m starting to get tired of being on the sideline. How do I get her on my side? How do I get her to leave him alone, and be mine? Thanks for your help.

Mr. Determined

Dear Mr. Determined,

Normally I’m a big fan of believing in something and pursuing it until the dream is realized. However, this isn’t one of those occasions. Let me put it to you bluntly. This woman has no shown no tangible proof that she wants to be with you. So stop chasing her.

Fly Sidebar: A woman wanting to talk to you all of the time doesn’t mean that she “really likes” you … it just doesn’t.

All signs instead point to her wanting to be your close friend … but that’s about it. It’s sad to say, but you are officially trapped in the friend zone. Listen; you come across as a guy who sincerely wants to love and be loved. And there are thousands of single women waiting for a man just like you. Why don’t you pursue one of them instead?

To me, that would be the more productive course of action. Don’t you agree?

The Fly Guy

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  • http://www.flaglerhill.com blaze

    I agree FG, she’s giving him false hope. Plus who wants to be boyfriend #2 (Isn’t that the title of a new song?)

  • blbella1

    The Friend Zone, it sucks. However, there are ways to leverage it.

  • bogart4017

    Why don’t you just ask her point blank what she wants? Or just tell her listen–lose homey and lets see where it goes from there.

  • http://callmephlip.blogspot.com/ Phlip

    This seems a bit like a mixture of the friend zone and her desire for attention.
    I think it would be kind of silly for him to think that he could take her from another and live like she might not do the same to him.

  • CurlyScorpio

    If you’re not in the friend zone and she really shows interest it doesn’t mean she’ll leave her man for you. Some girls just crave attention. Especially the one’s with low self esteem. To them, having a boyfriend isn’t enough. They like to know they have options should they decide to go anywhere else. This happened to my best friend. She’s not going to leave her man. She likes your attention cuz now she has options. Once you leave her alone, you’ll see she pursues you and still wont want you. She just wants you to be in her corner as a back up. Hopefully this is not the case… just something to think about.