Based on my experiences, those type of connections come around every few years and they’re hard to find. As I was younger I took those that I reached that connection with for granted. Now I know they’re getting harder and harder to find because dating has become so complex nowadays. The misconnect between men and women have become wider and wider for so many reasons.

You Betta PREACH chick!

I’ve been asked this question countless times,even had a older white co-worker ask me this question last week. It gets exhausting answering this question. I’ve only given up the girlfriend title only 3-4 times…it has to be that type of connection or we’re just passing time. Some women/men are so pressed to be able to call someone their SO..when its really not even on that level..

I also like to ask at the beginning before numbers are even exchanged because I don’t want to waste time giving my number to some nicca who does not meet my qualifications OKAY!

Being single and friends with men and women that are married and in relationships, I’ve observed alot. I have 6 older brothers. My best friend is a “ladies man.” I’ve dated some dudes that thought they were slicker than oil.

Just last night a guy friend of mine asked me, “Since when do you have balls?” Well, I don’t have balls but I do have experiences not all of which are good nor are all of them my own. I’m VERY observant and believe you can learn from other’s mistakes as well as your own. I ask ALOT of questions of men. Especially those that are swift with the ladies. My observation? People often marry who they want their spouse to become. They date someone and think they can change the things they don’t like about them. It’s not going to happen. I’ve seen relationships fall apart because of that little thing you over looked in the beginning of a relationship. Then the newness wears off and it works on your last nerve. You start to hate the person you never really loved. Then there are those who have grown to love each other after spending so much time together but don’t like each other. I was told it’s importatant to love the person you marry but it’s more important to like them. So if you want to know why I’m single, ask. If you want to know what’s wrong with me? I’m brutally honest with myself. I wear my feelings on my sleeve. I’ve wasted enough time with people who didn’t deserve me. I have high hopes of meeting my soul mate. The one person that was made just for me. He won’t be perfect and he’ll know I’m not either and our flaws will make us love each other more. When no one else understands what I’m trying to say, he will. And until he finds me, I’ll be single and content because to be with anyone other than him, I’d have to settle and that’s not an option.

*sigh* I feel ALOT better! lol