Valentine Blues

Feb 14th, 2009 | Author: admin | Category: Fly Letters
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Dear Fly Guy,

I really like this chick, but she has a boyfriend. I’ve had a crush on her ever since the day we met. I asked her to be my Valentine and she said yes, but all along I never had her number or any way to get in contact with her. So just the other day, I did get it, and I bought her a gift and everything. Today, I found out that she is spending Valentine’s with her boyfriend and that hurt me so bad. I always get hurt whenever I try to find a girlfriend, and I don’t know why. I really like her though … What should I do?

Mr. Slighted

Dear Mr. Slighted,

The first thing that you need to do is stop pursuing women that are already taken. That step alone will reduce the likelihood of getting your feelings hurt by rejection. The next step is to stop “looking for a girlfriend,” and just focus on getting to know great people. Without that added pressure, you will begin to open yourself up to a whole new world of women who enjoy the process of getting to know a great guy much more than a guy who forces himself and a relationship on them. Hope that helps.

The Fly Guy

(Side Note: I’m not sure why she accepted your Valentine offer in the first place, but that’s another story for another day. It’s time to move on.)

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  • yoyolb

    Ummm, you set yourself up for that one. I’m with Fly Guy. Why would you even ask her out for Valentine’s Day is you knew she had a dude? Sorry but I have no sympathy for stupid sh*t. DUMMY

  • yes

    ^right
    Obviously she was just kidding, you didn’t even have her number fool! How are you surprised she’s spending Valentine’s or any other holiday with her boyfriend? Let’s get some common sense please!

  • writerlikenoother

    damn yawl are kinda hard on that brother. i got some advise for him too. first dont put your feelings into something thats not yours. second, if you really want her get her. when her with everything in you. if she’s not married she’s single (just check her filing status on her taxes). that means it’s fair game. go get her! now go get her and dont put all your feelings into it. nothing wrong with pursue her just be realistic.

  • SweetSideKick

    Yeah!

    I agree with the above poster about her being single until she married.

    I think the guys should pump his brakes a little bit. Focus on getting to know her and spending quality time with her. Know your position ( a friend ) and letting things happen from there. Do not and I repeat force it. Since you know she has a boyfriend expect her to spend that time with him but find other ways to peak her attention.

  • http://chicknamedvick.blogspot.com Mogli

    Goodness no need to spit on the man while he’s already down.

    To the author of the letter I have a friend like you, he is ALWAYS pursuing women in relationships for some reason as if love is a contest and he always sets himself up for failure.

    Like FG said focus on meeting great people. Foundation of any great long lasting love is friendship. Best of luck.

  • http://chicknamedvick.blogspot.com Mogli

    and I also wanted to add you wouldn’t want a woman that is so eager to be pulled or swayed away from her SO. If you were to become exclusive with her the same thing may happen again and you’ll be left brokenhearted.

  • Lamico aka LL

    That was tacky on her part to led him on the way she did. But he should have known better (if she has a bf she was going to spend v-day with him). Hate he got his heart broken but it was somewhat of a naive moment.

  • http://milly-o.blogspot.com/ Milly

    I’m sorry to say he set himself up on this one

    Good luck though

  • yoyolb

    @ SweetSideKick
    With that approach, that is exactly what he’ll be…..a”SweetSideKick”.
    Dude needs to move on and set his eyes on a girl that is single AND not spoken for.

  • http://silentscorpion.blogspot.com Silent Scorpion

    Perfect response. This guy needs to chill. The worst relationship, is a forced one. Women needs to know, men can sniff out a thirsty man.