Comments on: The Worst Relationship Offense http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2009/02/the-worst-relationship-offense/ Love Advice, Dating Tips, Sex and Love, Celebrity Perspectives Fri, 19 Mar 2010 01:07:03 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: HeyFlyGuy http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2009/02/the-worst-relationship-offense/#comment-26187 HeyFlyGuy Sun, 15 Feb 2009 22:09:21 +0000 http://www.flyguychronicles.com/?p=1218#comment-26187 In your list of "Worse Relationship Offense[s]" you forgot rape/sexual assault/sexual coercion...which happens more often than people would like to acknowledge. Or is that not considered an offense? In your list of “Worse Relationship Offense[s]” you forgot rape/sexual assault/sexual coercion…which happens more often than people would like to acknowledge. Or is that not considered an offense?

]]> By: Milly http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2009/02/the-worst-relationship-offense/#comment-26175 Milly Fri, 13 Feb 2009 21:35:52 +0000 http://www.flyguychronicles.com/?p=1218#comment-26175 I dont condone any violence from either sexes, but I do want to hear the full details before I make any judgement. For one thing the police report hasnt even been made public(not tat I know of), right now all I'm hearing is what other people claim happened. No one has proven the herpes story, no one has proven the car accident story,no one has proven "these horific injuries(we dont have the hospital records),we havent seen pictures of either of their faces to see if anyone is actually bruised up or to see the extend of the damage. Basically everything that is out there right now is based on hear say and I'm not going to bash either one of them just based on what I've heard or what people think happened. And FYI the LAPD arent actually the best models when it comes to the phrase 'protect and serve', (check the history on that). I dont condone any violence from either sexes, but I do want to hear the full details before I make any judgement. For one thing the police report hasnt even been made public(not tat I know of), right now all I’m hearing is what other people claim happened. No one has proven the herpes story, no one has proven the car accident story,no one has proven “these horific injuries(we dont have the hospital records),we havent seen pictures of either of their faces to see if anyone is actually bruised up or to see the extend of the damage. Basically everything that is out there right now is based on hear say and I’m not going to bash either one of them just based on what I’ve heard or what people think happened. And FYI the LAPD arent actually the best models when it comes to the phrase ‘protect and serve’, (check the history on that).

]]> By: Madison http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2009/02/the-worst-relationship-offense/#comment-26153 Madison Fri, 13 Feb 2009 00:38:47 +0000 http://www.flyguychronicles.com/?p=1218#comment-26153 HK and Mogli both make good points but I understand completely where HK is coming from. My brother has always treated women with the respect our mother taught him to, but not all women are worthy of such respect. I know some of you may not want to hear it but as women we do need to show men the same respect we expect them to show us. My brother suffered from two brain tumors in his teens and his ex-girlfriend knew this. Knowing this she still thought it would be okay (b/c she was sooo mad over a phone call from another girl who was just his friend) to hit him upside the head with her fist. She thought that because his surgery was almost three years prior that it wouldn't be a problem. Well it was a major problem and my brother ended up in the hospital fighting for his life yet again. Now if he would've grabbed her and shook her then he would've been in trouble but because he's a gentleman she almost cost him his life. With that said I don't believe it's right for a man to ever hit a woman, but if a woman wants to act like she has a pair of balls between her legs then she deserves to get shook up. If my brother would've done that he wouldn't have ended up back in the hospital. Women we need to move past this mentality that it's okay for us to hit a man and not expect them to RESTRAIN us, not hit but RESTRAIN. There is a difference. HK and Mogli both make good points but I understand completely where HK is coming from. My brother has always treated women with the respect our mother taught him to, but not all women are worthy of such respect. I know some of you may not want to hear it but as women we do need to show men the same respect we expect them to show us. My brother suffered from two brain tumors in his teens and his ex-girlfriend knew this. Knowing this she still thought it would be okay (b/c she was sooo mad over a phone call from another girl who was just his friend) to hit him upside the head with her fist. She thought that because his surgery was almost three years prior that it wouldn’t be a problem. Well it was a major problem and my brother ended up in the hospital fighting for his life yet again. Now if he would’ve grabbed her and shook her then he would’ve been in trouble but because he’s a gentleman she almost cost him his life. With that said I don’t believe it’s right for a man to ever hit a woman, but if a woman wants to act like she has a pair of balls between her legs then she deserves to get shook up. If my brother would’ve done that he wouldn’t have ended up back in the hospital. Women we need to move past this mentality that it’s okay for us to hit a man and not expect them to RESTRAIN us, not hit but RESTRAIN. There is a difference.

]]> By: Preston http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2009/02/the-worst-relationship-offense/#comment-26152 Preston Thu, 12 Feb 2009 23:53:54 +0000 http://www.flyguychronicles.com/?p=1218#comment-26152 I'm late today. Not much for me to really add here. I think hitting a woman is inexcusable. And the people who spout on about what "what she did" are misguided. It doesn't matter what she did. There's also a big difference between PROTECTING and ATTACKING. Bites and bruises are usually indicative of the latter. And the latter -- at the risk of sounding redundant is inexcusable. If anyone has or knows anyone involved in an abusive relationship -- you should take Reina up on her offer. Peace & Love, Pres I’m late today. Not much for me to really add here. I think hitting a woman is inexcusable. And the people who spout on about what “what she did” are misguided. It doesn’t matter what she did. There’s also a big difference between PROTECTING and ATTACKING. Bites and bruises are usually indicative of the latter. And the latter — at the risk of sounding redundant is inexcusable. If anyone has or knows anyone involved in an abusive relationship — you should take Reina up on her offer.

Peace & Love,

Pres

]]> By: REINA http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2009/02/the-worst-relationship-offense/#comment-26150 REINA Thu, 12 Feb 2009 22:13:16 +0000 http://www.flyguychronicles.com/?p=1218#comment-26150 You stated PAST STD so I'm assuming that it's been cured. In that case, I'm going with violence as being the most inexcusable. However, if it's HIV/Herpes/anything incurable, it & violence are on the same level. Either way, you've taken something invaluable away from me. I've expressed my views on the CB/Rihanna situation on my blog. (Yes, that is a shameless plug.) Domestic violence is & will always be inexcusable, and I find it ghastly how many are searching for ways to do just that. Abuse rarely happens just once. Someone just doesn't lose control. It's about being in control, and the desire to do such does not evaporate. What Mogli referenced may seem extreme to some, but the fact is that those actions are not spontaneous. Hints/clues are given along the way of what this person is capable of, but they're ignored/excused as the person descends into this abomination. (DISCLAIMER: I am not saying C. Brown is guilty or that he's capable of anything so horrible. That isn't my place.) All of that being said, domestic violence is far more & too common, and it is my passion and daily mission to see those numbers lowered. So for anyone needing help/advisement/etc, please, by all means, contact me. There are people who do not judge and are just here to help. You stated PAST STD so I’m assuming that it’s been cured. In that case, I’m going with violence as being the most inexcusable. However, if it’s HIV/Herpes/anything incurable, it & violence are on the same level. Either way, you’ve taken something invaluable away from me.

I’ve expressed my views on the CB/Rihanna situation on my blog. (Yes, that is a shameless plug.) Domestic violence is & will always be inexcusable, and I find it ghastly how many are searching for ways to do just that. Abuse rarely happens just once. Someone just doesn’t lose control. It’s about being in control, and the desire to do such does not evaporate.

What Mogli referenced may seem extreme to some, but the fact is that those actions are not spontaneous. Hints/clues are given along the way of what this person is capable of, but they’re ignored/excused as the person descends into this abomination. (DISCLAIMER: I am not saying C. Brown is guilty or that he’s capable of anything so horrible. That isn’t my place.)

All of that being said, domestic violence is far more & too common, and it is my passion and daily mission to see those numbers lowered. So for anyone needing help/advisement/etc, please, by all means, contact me. There are people who do not judge and are just here to help.

]]> By: Just A Thought http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2009/02/the-worst-relationship-offense/#comment-26149 Just A Thought Thu, 12 Feb 2009 22:06:41 +0000 http://www.flyguychronicles.com/?p=1218#comment-26149 Particularly about male complicity, different standards for men and women in society, and the threats (or fear) of sexual and physical violence that face women. Particularly about male complicity, different standards for men and women in society, and the threats (or fear) of sexual and physical violence that face women.

]]> By: and1grad http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2009/02/the-worst-relationship-offense/#comment-26148 and1grad Thu, 12 Feb 2009 21:55:46 +0000 http://www.flyguychronicles.com/?p=1218#comment-26148 @JAT Which items? @JAT
Which items?

]]> By: esheblue http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2009/02/the-worst-relationship-offense/#comment-26147 esheblue Thu, 12 Feb 2009 21:05:29 +0000 http://www.flyguychronicles.com/?p=1218#comment-26147 I'm not looking for any information in particular, just information. I’m not looking for any information in particular, just information.

]]> By: Just A Thought http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2009/02/the-worst-relationship-offense/#comment-26146 Just A Thought Thu, 12 Feb 2009 21:02:33 +0000 http://www.flyguychronicles.com/?p=1218#comment-26146 @ and1: Checked out your blog, and was particularly interested in the Black Male Privilege Checklist. I think the dialogue here shows shades of some of the items on that list... @ and1:

Checked out your blog, and was particularly interested in the Black Male Privilege Checklist. I think the dialogue here shows shades of some of the items on that list…

]]> By: Nicki=Maxwell Fan http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2009/02/the-worst-relationship-offense/#comment-26145 Nicki=Maxwell Fan Thu, 12 Feb 2009 20:58:09 +0000 http://www.flyguychronicles.com/?p=1218#comment-26145 Lying about a STD and hitting me would equally SUCK!!!! Next would be cheating because that would still be putting me in risk of an STD... Then stealing money from me...BAD BAD BAD! but I would atleast like to know WHY they stoled the money. Lying about a STD and hitting me would equally SUCK!!!! Next would be cheating because that would still be putting me in risk of an STD…
Then stealing money from me…BAD BAD BAD! but I would atleast like to know WHY they stoled the money.

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