Comments on: I Want To Date A Friend of My Ex http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2009/02/i-want-to-date-a-friend-of-my-ex/ Love Advice Will Never Be The Same... Fri, 15 Jul 2011 17:58:14 -0700 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.4 By: MissKey http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2009/02/i-want-to-date-a-friend-of-my-ex/#comment-17324 MissKey Tue, 24 Feb 2009 18:49:14 +0000 http://www.flyguychronicles.com/?p=1279#comment-17324 I'm personally against dating an ex's friend, I've had this happen in my close circle of friends and this nearly tore us completely apart. It was was hurtful on so many levels because to me it felt like if my girl would betray our other friend, she'd surely snake me. On the other hand I guess it depends on how the people involved view friendship and how serious that relationship actually was, if a woman dated a man briefly she MIGHT not mind if TWENTY years later her friend dated him,but she MAY also care...it's VERY STICKY, CIRCUMSTANTIAL SITUATION and my advice would be to AVOID IT AT ALL COSTS... lol I’m personally against dating an ex’s friend, I’ve had this happen in my close circle of friends and this nearly tore us completely apart. It was was hurtful on so many levels because to me it felt like if my girl would betray our other friend, she’d surely snake me. On the other hand I guess it depends on how the people involved view friendship and how serious that relationship actually was, if a woman dated a man briefly she MIGHT not mind if TWENTY years later her friend dated him,but she MAY also care…it’s VERY STICKY, CIRCUMSTANTIAL SITUATION and my advice would be to AVOID IT AT ALL COSTS… lol

]]> By: Vinandi http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2009/02/i-want-to-date-a-friend-of-my-ex/#comment-17323 Vinandi Tue, 24 Feb 2009 14:47:31 +0000 http://www.flyguychronicles.com/?p=1279#comment-17323 Well this happened to me last year- i fell for a guy who went out with one of my close friends ( 5 years ago). She is now married and has kids, but i still had a problem with it cause i remeber she was very upset when he broke up with her! I fought it but i couldnt help falling for him, he charmed me and we clicked. I told my friend and at first she said she was fine with it , then retracted saying she was uncomfotable with it, but just cause he wasnt the right guy for her, didnt mean that he couldnt be the one for me. It was only after me and this guy broke up did she finally admit that she had been jealous ( even though she was married)- but we're cool now and are actally able to talk about how he was a selfish douchebag, so on a whole i wouldnt say that our friendship was adversly affected, but i still would not recommnend it because it is not worth messing up a good friendship over a man unless you are certain that he could be the one! Well this happened to me last year- i fell for a guy who went out with one of my close friends ( 5 years ago). She is now married and has kids, but i still had a problem with it cause i remeber she was very upset when he broke up with her! I fought it but i couldnt help falling for him, he charmed me and we clicked. I told my friend and at first she said she was fine with it , then retracted saying she was uncomfotable with it, but just cause he wasnt the right guy for her, didnt mean that he couldnt be the one for me. It was only after me and this guy broke up did she finally admit that she had been jealous ( even though she was married)- but we’re cool now and are actally able to talk about how he was a selfish douchebag, so on a whole i wouldnt say that our friendship was adversly affected, but i still would not recommnend it because it is not worth messing up a good friendship over a man unless you are certain that he could be the one!

]]> By: Bombchell http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2009/02/i-want-to-date-a-friend-of-my-ex/#comment-17322 Bombchell Mon, 23 Feb 2009 12:57:31 +0000 http://www.flyguychronicles.com/?p=1279#comment-17322 sounds like an episode of real housewives of orange county. her dad married her mum's best friend. smh then again, will i do it, or have i done it (shrugs) it depends. did they date 15 years ago? was it serious? how long did they date? how does the ex feel. etc sounds like an episode of real housewives of orange county. her dad married her mum’s best friend. smh

then again, will i do it, or have i done it (shrugs) it depends.

did they date 15 years ago? was it serious? how long did they date? how does the ex feel. etc

]]> By: EsheBlue http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2009/02/i-want-to-date-a-friend-of-my-ex/#comment-17321 EsheBlue Fri, 20 Feb 2009 20:55:20 +0000 http://www.flyguychronicles.com/?p=1279#comment-17321 Just thought I would drop by...guess no one is around. Happy Weekend! Just thought I would drop by…guess no one is around. Happy Weekend!

]]> By: Just A Thought http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2009/02/i-want-to-date-a-friend-of-my-ex/#comment-17320 Just A Thought Fri, 20 Feb 2009 15:35:59 +0000 http://www.flyguychronicles.com/?p=1279#comment-17320 Hmmmm, guess everyone is getting their party on early! Thankfully, this is some drama that I've never been tempted by, so I would have to say that no, I would not date the friend of an ex, and only in an exceptional case where all the cirsumstances were agreeable would I ever consider it (the relationship was short, never got past a certain stage, didn't end badly, the two aren't best buds, and it was a while ago that the ex and I dated). Hmmmm, guess everyone is getting their party on early!

Thankfully, this is some drama that I’ve never been tempted by, so I would have to say that no, I would not date the friend of an ex, and only in an exceptional case where all the cirsumstances were agreeable would I ever consider it (the relationship was short, never got past a certain stage, didn’t end badly, the two aren’t best buds, and it was a while ago that the ex and I dated).

]]> By: chloebarksdale http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2009/02/i-want-to-date-a-friend-of-my-ex/#comment-17319 chloebarksdale Thu, 19 Feb 2009 19:32:56 +0000 http://www.flyguychronicles.com/?p=1279#comment-17319 I have been in quite a few situations where my ex's friends have tried to come at me. I personally can not see myself dating and ex's friend. I never want two close people to be able to compare situations. At the same time, I have had one or two females to go behind my back and get with ex's. But then their character made me not so surprised. Truth be told, with the exception of my most recent relationship, I truly do not care if any of my associates date my exes. If they know what I know.....they'd keep it moving. LOL I have been in quite a few situations where my ex’s friends have tried to come at me. I personally can not see myself dating and ex’s friend. I never want two close people to be able to compare situations. At the same time, I have had one or two females to go behind my back and get with ex’s. But then their character made me not so surprised. Truth be told, with the exception of my most recent relationship, I truly do not care if any of my associates date my exes. If they know what I know…..they’d keep it moving. LOL

]]> By: blaze http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2009/02/i-want-to-date-a-friend-of-my-ex/#comment-17318 blaze Thu, 19 Feb 2009 18:07:28 +0000 http://www.flyguychronicles.com/?p=1279#comment-17318 How many of you lost a friend by deciding to date one of their ex's? How many of you lost a friend by deciding to date one of their ex’s?

]]> By: JaneanAriel http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2009/02/i-want-to-date-a-friend-of-my-ex/#comment-17317 JaneanAriel Thu, 19 Feb 2009 17:22:43 +0000 http://www.flyguychronicles.com/?p=1279#comment-17317 I wouldn't intentionally go after an Ex's friend, but sometimes things happen and it could turn out to be a lasting and wonderful relationship. There are too many different situations to say a straight "Yes" or "No" answer. It just depends... Luckily none of my Ex's friends have been appealing. I wouldn’t intentionally go after an Ex’s friend, but sometimes things happen and it could turn out to be a lasting and wonderful relationship. There are too many different situations to say a straight “Yes” or “No” answer.

It just depends…

Luckily none of my Ex’s friends have been appealing.

]]> By: Rizzo_718 http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2009/02/i-want-to-date-a-friend-of-my-ex/#comment-17316 Rizzo_718 Thu, 19 Feb 2009 14:20:45 +0000 http://www.flyguychronicles.com/?p=1279#comment-17316 Ladies , I thought it was a no no to mess with your friend's left overs? Ladies , I thought it was a no no to mess with your friend’s left overs?

]]> By: Kendra http://www.flyguychronicles.com/2009/02/i-want-to-date-a-friend-of-my-ex/#comment-17315 Kendra Thu, 19 Feb 2009 13:18:20 +0000 http://www.flyguychronicles.com/?p=1279#comment-17315 @ Blaze I am going to talk to her about it. I think about the situation everyday! She and I are really close and it has never been like me to keep and anything from her. It feels weird not to tell her how happy I am or what’s going on with me and the guy. I know that if I bring it up again, she may be mad for a while but she will eventually get over it and be happy for me. In the end, we both want to see each other happy! Now I have to disagree with the “she’s hatin” part. That is totally not her style and we do not have that type of friendship. When something good happens to either one of us, we are genuinely excited about it. I think that all of this just caught her off guard. Never in our wildest dreams did we think that I’d end up talking to this guy. It was so RANDOM how we crossed paths and hit it off. @ Purple Morning I would hope that something like this would not ruin me and my best friend’s friendship. There was never ANY contact between he and her after the date. (No touching, no kissing, barely even two phone conversations.) If any of that were the case, the guy would be off limits—I would not even go there. I think that plays a major role in why he and I have continued talking. That and the fact that they were NEVER in a relationship, and IT WAS JUST A DATE plus all of that was over two years ago. I haven’t held anything back from her because nothing has happened between me and the guy besides conversation. I mean feelings are there, but we haven’t acted on them. @TaurusLady I could not agree with you more! Your comment is exactly what I’ve been thinking. If the shoe was on the other foot (and I have thought about this) I would be happy for her and tell her to have at it. Unfortunately everyone does not think the same  I love my best friend to death and I would never want to hurt her. When I talk to her about it again, if it gets to the point where it would ruin our friendship…I will stop talking to dude. I mean he and I have a connection and spark for sure but I’d never want to lose my best friend over it. Me and they guy have developed feelings for each other so it would be really hard to stop talking. I guess all I can really do now is pray that she see’s things the way we see it when I bring it up to her again… @ Blaze
I am going to talk to her about it. I think about the situation everyday! She and I are really close and it has never been like me to keep and anything from her. It feels weird not to tell her how happy I am or what’s going on with me and the guy. I know that if I bring it up again, she may be mad for a while but she will eventually get over it and be happy for me. In the end, we both want to see each other happy!
Now I have to disagree with the “she’s hatin” part. That is totally not her style and we do not have that type of friendship. When something good happens to either one of us, we are genuinely excited about it. I think that all of this just caught her off guard. Never in our wildest dreams did we think that I’d end up talking to this guy. It was so RANDOM how we crossed paths and hit it off.

@ Purple Morning
I would hope that something like this would not ruin me and my best friend’s friendship. There was never ANY contact between he and her after the date. (No touching, no kissing, barely even two phone conversations.) If any of that were the case, the guy would be off limits—I would not even go there. I think that plays a major role in why he and I have continued talking. That and the fact that they were NEVER in a relationship, and IT WAS JUST A DATE plus all of that was over two years ago.
I haven’t held anything back from her because nothing has happened between me and the guy besides conversation. I mean feelings are there, but we haven’t acted on them.

@TaurusLady
I could not agree with you more! Your comment is exactly what I’ve been thinking. If the shoe was on the other foot (and I have thought about this) I would be happy for her and tell her to have at it. Unfortunately everyone does not think the same  I love my best friend to death and I would never want to hurt her. When I talk to her about it again, if it gets to the point where it would ruin our friendship…I will stop talking to dude. I mean he and I have a connection and spark for sure but I’d never want to lose my best friend over it. Me and they guy have developed feelings for each other so it would be really hard to stop talking. I guess all I can really do now is pray that she see’s things the way we see it when I bring it up to her again…

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