Valentine's Day With Lance and Eva

They’re a beautiful couple. I wish them the best. As for me and (semi)mine, we’re gonna spend some much needed time together to focus and remind each other of the things that made us fall in love in the first place. Provided he doesn’t get on my nerves first

These two look insanely good together. I, too, wish them all the best. As far as keeping things fresh, I’m drawing a blank (is that bad?) so I will be checking back to see what the other readers have to say!

Hmm, I think doing something challenging together is always fun – especially since I’m extremely competitive but not atheletically gifted. It at least makes for good comedy.

I also think a person should surprise their SO with one full day of total service. Wash their hair, give them a sensual massage, bring them their meals in bed, do a couple of boring errands that they’ve been putting off, take them out (doing something they’ve wanted to do but haven’t had the chance. Or, sanction a night out w/ their friends on you), and then drop some bomb congress on them to finish the night off.

As a girl I say to try to remain attractive for your man. Us girls all too often get a little too comfortable in a relationship. I argue with my girlfriends all the time when they say they go to bed in full flannel jammies and thick socks, and walk around the house looking a mess. I’m all about comfort, don’t get me wrong, and I know your man loves you regardless, but what’s wrong with reminding him that you’re beautiful? Don’t wrap your hair the minute you get home, wait til you’re ready to go to bed; keep them tight jeans on that make your ass look phenomenal just a little longer (namely when you’re doing something requiring a lot of bending over); buy some cute sweatpants from Vickie’s or Juicy instead of the torn and stained ones from high school; and probably my biggest, don’t let yourselves fall into routine. I mean, it is inevitable, especially if you’ve got a family, but if every night he changes, gets into bed, turns on SportsCenter, and you crawl into bed with your hair wrapped up, pimple cream on your face, in old worn flannel jammies, surprise him one night and show up in a lace nightie with your hair and makeup right, grab that remote, turn off the tv and put it on him! I’m just saying. You’ll be amazed at the spring in his step the next morning. And that was all you, girl

They are a gorgeous couple, and her skin is beautiful. Am I the only one excited for Valentine’s Day?

I agree with everything Sugarlips said in keeping your body tight and looking good for your man. I’m also really big on laughter and communication. I’m goofy & silly and will break out in a impromptu dance performance in the middle of Macy’s or re-enact a scene from a recent movie in the living room. As for communication, I like having deep conversations about a variety of subjects. I find out what excites him, and I cheat by researching info and ask him random questions about it.

I strongly believe that mental stimulation is more potent than physical stimulation. I’m not discounting its importance, though.

Reina, you’re so right about mental stimulation being important. Most men who cheat, when asked why admit it was never about her looks, it was about what she gave him mentally/emotionally.

Romantic/thoughtful gestures are one way I go about trying to keep things fresh. People like to feel appreciated. And one of the quickest ways to decrease your SOs interest level is to start taking them for granted. So at least once a month, I’ll do something out of the ordinary to let her know that I love her, and that I appreciate the fact that she made the decision to share her life with me. It could be a card…or flowers…or a letter. If she collects something, or has a fascination with something (elephants for example), whenever I come across an elephant figurine, or something with an elephant on it, I’ll get it for her. I like to travel whenever possible, so I may “spontaneously” take her to NY or Miami for the weekend for a quick getaway. My everyday relationship maintenance plan is romance, respect, and affection. I love having deep conversations (surface level convo bores me to tears), so I’ll ask questions to make her think so I can get inside her head and gain a better understanding of who she is…and who she wants to become. I never want us to become so consumed with life that we slowly become strangers to each other.

Okay, not that I condone the drugging part, but here’s an interesting short story. Talk about spicing things up…

http://www.nerve.com/personalessays/morse/A-Dram-Of-Poison-I-Roofied-My-Wife-To-Save-Our-Marriage/

@ Reina/Sugarlips

I agree the mental connection has to be maintained. Too often it falls by the wayside, and then we look up and wonder why this other person no longer wants to be with us. I think people in relationships should find something new every month that they investigate together – read a particular book, or something. I dunno, I’m not saying you have to like everything your SO likes, but you have to find something to talk about.