Do Men Still Use Pick Up Lines?
Jan 16th, 2009 | Author: The Fly Guy | Category: Fly Perspectives
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I’ve been sitting here for the past 30 minutes trying to remember the last time I approached a woman using a pick up line. The concept seems so foreign to me at this stage of my life. Long gone are the wild college days where I’d seemingly bump into a new “most beautiful woman” every three days … I was a trip. Well, those days are behind me, so you can imagine that it caught me off guard to witness a friend walk up to a woman and say, “I can’t really tell if you’re beautiful because I can’t get past your eyes.”
My mouth dropped … and hers did too, followed by a gut-busting laugh shared with her girlfriends.
As he trudged back to our group attempting to downplay the embarrassment, I couldn’t help but feel sorry for him. But my pity soon turned to bewilderment after replaying the scene in my head. Are the days of simply walking up to a woman and introducing yourself long gone? Have those honest, personal moments been replaced by over-rehearsed, overused “ladies man” recitations?
Apparently so…
When I got home that night, I conducted an internet search and uncovered hundreds of websites dedicated to the art of the clever pick up line. (Go figure.) Ironically enough, I even ran across the one I heard earlier that night. While some of the ones that I read were admittedly funny, I just find it hard to believe that anyone over the age of 18 would actually use these.
I guess I was wrong.
In fact, here are five of the more popular pick up lines that I uncovered.
1. “Let’s play a game of love. If I win, you’re mine. Otherwise, I’m yours.”
2. “Do you have any raisins? No? How about a date?”
3. “If you were words on a page, you’d be what they call fine print.”
4. “Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I walk by again?”
5. “I may not have gotten your virginity, but can I at least have the box it came in?”
Fly Question of the Day: Describe the wildest pickup line you’ve ever experienced that actually worked? (Either on the giving or receiving end.)
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I always get can I have some of tht chocolate(blank stare) or hey chocolate (rude!!!)
If I’m in the grocery store ”If I come over, will you cook me dinner?”
If I’m walking down the street, ”Hey! Hey! Hey Red!” Usually hollered from across the street or down the block.
If I’m walking past a group of guys ”Can I go?”
If I’m in a bar, ”Have we met before?”
If I’m at the health club, ”you are the most beautiful woman in here.”
I got more…
Random, ”If I give you my number, will you call me?”
The wildest pickup line that worked:
Him: Hey lady… um… damn, I’m sorry, but you look so good you knocked me speechless.
Me:[laughs] uhn huh, and how many times did you practice that one?
HIm: I’ve had that in my pocket a while, but never felt compelled to use it.
Anyway, we chatted for a minute, exchange numbers, never went out. Dude wanted me to pay for the first date, and that was not gonna happen.
As for horrible pickup lines, I’ve been forced to listen to so many that I’m surprised my ears still aren’t bleeding from that torture.
J Thought
Lets flip it….and we’re talked about this before…even when brothers are nice, cordial, good morning sister…., a simple smile..Sisters try hard not a give a bruh eye contact…but catch them doing the look back when they’ve already past….
@ blaze:
I had to learn to respond to polite brothers. Growing up in Detroit makes you greet everyone with a “who the eff are you? Ninja do I know you? Why are you talking to me?” lol
Now, I have a new thing – the white girl poker face. I try to keep a pleasant expression on my face (cuz people say I look mean), I smile at people and say hello (which is REALLY hard), and I am all jovial and cordial. It works wonders. Only downside is there are some brothers who think that means I want something more. No sir, I was just being nice. Keep it moving.
I don’t think I really get pick up lines. I am not really the “approach in the club/bar/lounge” type of girl. I did have a man old enough to be my father ask if he could shop with me as I walked into Lowes.
@ blue:
Uggghhh! I hate that! I am an old man magnet, so I feel your pain. Other than that, dudes rarely come up to me, unless they are super thug and his fugly friends. Sorry boo-boo, I’m not looking for a soldier and no, I don’t speak whatever that is coming out of your grill. Who let you in here?
Sorry about venting. But it really frustrates men that I get the exact opposite of what I’m looking for, if I ever get any attention at all. Meanwhile, superhead junior is pulling all the 9-5 brothers. Makes you wonder…
^^ really frustrates me
@ J Thought
As brothers and sisters we should acknowledge each other in passing every time. As brothers we do it all the time even if its a head nod and quick whats up…Women think we have an agenda …we don’t want all of you..some…but you should be treated like our sisters and mothers…
I get treated more like a sister by men who don’t look like me. I am sure I am not the only black woman who feels this way. I don’t really think every black guy that comes up to me has an agenda, but it is disheartening that the majority do, with their reductive lust reducing me to my body parts right before my eyes.
But, it’s Friday, my day is going swimmingly, and I am ready to go shopping for my bday! ( I need a new peacoat, and of course some shoes…)
Wow, dudes still use pick-up lines? As Jeezy would say: Where they do that at?!
I guess I need to start listening to the chatter around me when I am out.
As for me, a simply “hello” works wonders in getting the ball rolling. And ladies keep in mind a dude doesn’t always have an agenda when he talks to you. I’ve spent many a Sunday at Fox Sports Grill or some other Atl hotspot, chattin’ it up. And when the game was over I said “good to meet you” and bounced.
Ok so I’m short (5′2″) and I got approached by a man who could not have been more than 4′10″ (with a grill and the largest tiny pants I had ever seen) who says ” Oooo Boo, will you be my queen, you just my size?”
It was hilarious, especially as I had to look down at him to give him a ‘please go away’ look and walk off….ridiculousness…
oh yeah…
@Blaze
What up boy!
@JAT
Happy bday!!
@Everyone
Morning.
@Just
Yeah I am an older man magnet as well. I have very distinct categories of men that hit on me…if you aren’t in those, I can pretty much discount you as not being serious.
@ Redline:
Thanks bro! (It’s Sun, but I’m not going to be on here.
@ blue:
I don’t count most dudes as being serious. Especially because the goods are looking like swap meet material. Or if they don’t look the part, they certainly act it.
@Just
Happy Early birthday!
Fly, I hate pick up lines. They have always appeared so corny to me and besides, the same person uses them on different women therefore they aren’t authentic. The one I most hated was, “I can just get lost in those big brown eyes.” Man….BYE!!!! Just say, “Hello, how are you? Can I get a few minutes of your time?” That will get you a heck of a lot further.
Whas the deal blaze longtime no font. And I was never good with lines, a simple hello my name is..never failed me. Now I need to get ready to go see notorious before all the kiddies go tonite
Hi Black!! *blushes*
#2 & #5 made me erupt in laughter. I’ve heard plenty lines, but I cannot think of one at that moment.
I once went out with a group of friends and a lady walked towards the bar, my friend asked her name, she told him. He brings out his phone and tells her, well you need to hurry up and give me your number before i changed my mind. To our surprise she did… (I was so certain he would have gotten a slap)
Whats good Red….you know you suppose to be home this weekend…already crazy up here.
@ london:
Wow. Now I know why I get approached by the knuckleheads….
@ blue:
Thanks!
@ Reina:
Hey!
@ black:
Longtime no hear. Where were you, riding the midnight train to GA?
Blackfu…..whats the deal son…U good? I was just in Chi two weeks ago. Ayo EC been up in here trippin lately….
@ Just
Hi chica! Happy Pre-Birthday! I’m thinking we should start subjecting men to horrible pick-up lines.
those are so freaking corny…
no line has ever worked on me. I don’t like the idea of playing games just be real with me. I have had very few men just walk up and introduce themselves to me but they have all received my number because I respect that type of confidence.
@Ladies
What was one of the most memorable things a guy did to get your attention that worked and led to a date or a relationship?
@blaze
bought my coffee
Seriously Ms…..can I get an honest answer…
@ Reina:
It is definitely fun! But, they are not deterred, so be prepared to take homie’s number. I once walked up to a dude and asked could I get some fries with that shake, and he burst out laughing! He then gave me his number and tried to monopolize all my time at the mixer.
@ blaze:
Honestly, a guy being respectful without all the hullabaloo. A former SO just engaged me in conversation, kept his gaze on my face, and was very confident w/o being too persistent. Another guy, who looked every bit of a super thug, came up, said “excuse me miss, but I’d like to know if I can have a minure of your time.” He was sooo not the typical urban black dude, and actually treated me better than some dudes I’ve met that were raised in the suburbs and know better. Had to let him go tho, because he was a thug for real, and not playing one on the weekends.
he did. busy ass day at starbucks he was in front of me paying for his drink and they took my order and he turned around and smiled at me and told them he would like to pay for my drink.
now i have had some guys do some RIDICULOUS things to try and get my attention that resorted in them looking like crazy panty sniffers and me damn near sprinting away.
@ J Thought
Thanks for the response but suburb dudes can be just as shady as “urban’ dudes. No matter if you grew up in the suburbs or the city we all should know better..PLus i like urban women better than suburban women…Where do you stand?
lol @ thug foreal not just playing one on the weekends.
@ blaze:
Sorry, I used urban vs. suburban as opposed to ghetto, boogie, etc. But to answer your question, I like city dudes for the most part. I love someone who knows that the hood is best left in the hood, and that moving on does not mean selling out, knows that black tie means a tux, and also knows that socks and flip flops (or slides, as they are called down here) are not the business (I’m talking to you, Florida boys). So, to sum it up, give me a urban dude who is now a for real grownup, preferably educated, definitely gainfully employed, and looking to build on some wealth (even if it’s small) to pass down to the next generation.
@ miss:
Lol, yeah, you meet a lot of play-play wannabes down here. I was so unaccustomed to the real thing that I sounded like a stereotypical Becky. “You mean, like, you sell that for real? Like really?… Why?”
@JThought
I wear socks with my Nike flips on the way to my games… does that discount me..lol?
@ blaze:
lol, that’s not high on my list of pet peeves, so you get a pass. I think because euurrybody down here does it year round, with the basketball shorts and a wifebeater, it just irks me.
But, I’d rather see than than a man’s busted feet, or some ashy dogs squished into those semi-effeminate leather man sandals.
LOL. I was at a bar on Holloween a few years ago, and a guy (who was not wearing a costume) walked up to me and asked, “Do you like what I’m wearing?…. I dressed up as you’re future husband.” LOL. It caught me so off guard, I laughed so hard. It was definitely an ice breaker… I don’t mind a guy with a sense of humor, as long as he’s not being serious about using a corny line.
OMG, I want to use a pick up line on a dude, how hillarious and entertaining…I wonder what response I would get
@ what:
Go for it. Pure comedy.
@J
When was the last time you approached a man?
@ blaze:
Hmm, it’s been a while. Haven’t seen too much to make me approach one.
There was one guy I approached Dec. 2007 at a recruiting event for a company I was going to work for. But, he had a SO, was moving to ATL to be with her, blah blah blah. He wanted to keep flirting to have a nice evening before he went home to be all boo’d up on the phone, but I am nobody’s set up guy, especially not a chick I don’t know.
sitting at the bar minding my own business, a young whipper-snapper sits next to me STARING. i can see his foolishness in the mirror right across from us. He then proceeds to tell me that i have the most beautiful ears he had ever seen.
lol, me and my beautiful ears to our asses home after that.
Alright y’all, I’m out this piece! Have a good weekend!
@ JAT, I will this weekend, whats a really good one…I have gotten “HEY RED” alot…but I want something extra corny!
Hmm… I wonder how dudes would react if we DID use pickup lines or yelled at them from down the street or up the block. They’d prally luvs it! A simple polite introduction in usually all that’s required. Cleverness that makes me laught sometimes works too. If I THINK its a pickup and I laugh, I’m usually laughing at you.
Ok I’m late to the convo but since I’m Latina I get “Mira” a lot which means look. I actually had a friend called me Mira. But pickup lines definitely don’t work with me. Those were all so cheesy. I don’t understand why guys can’t be just honest and cordial. Why try so hard? Unless you just really want to get a laugh out of someone.
oooh I’m so late but I have a good one:
This dude approached my cousin with this pick up line… til this day we laugh about it…
DUDE: Have you ever been with a man?
CUZ (looks at him all confused): Yes…
DUDE: But you haven’t been with THIS man (pointing to himself)
we all about died laughing over that mess!! Needless to say, she left his sorry behind on the dance floor
Hey does this rag smell like Chloroform to you?
I have used a pick up line with a guy and it worked. But he turned out to be a loser because he was an ass. Thought since he looked good and had education he was the shizz. Thought for sure he could get me in bed…..HA! He must don’t know bout me and he thought……..WRONG!
*rolls eyes* Men and pick up lines
The worst ever: “Shorty, let me holla at you”…of course I continued to walk away. I also hate when men approach and ask how i’m doing just to hear me say fine, then they’re look you up and down and say “yes, you are!”…yea yea.
The best way to approach me without getting the side eye or me rolling my eyes is to ask my name but i still wont give my number out…bwahahahaha!