Poetry Corner: To Love Or Not To Love
Dec 11th, 2008 | Author: The Fly Guy | Category: Fly Poetry
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I ran across two pieces that I wanted to share. It’s been a while since I’ve featured any poetry on the site, but when I read the following, they reminded me of the true beauty of expression. I hope you enjoy.
For The One I Have Yet To Name
By Loron Benton
You’re my night and the stars are your armor
You’re my match and we can’t break the tie
I watch you grow thinking any day now you will be
Everything you said you would be you will be
A roar breaking the silence
A whisper quieting the crowd
A wave disrupting the shore
A shell with stories to tell
A quake disrupting the foundation
A rose emerging from the brokenness
Our oneness is matchless in name and deed
Indeed you are named
In the poem I have yet to write
In the song I have yet to hum
In the pain I have yet to feel
In the joy I have yet to know
When I name you.
A Guy Like You
By Linsay Philippe-Auguste
A guy like you, but not quite you, is who I’m looking for.
In theory, you and me, would be compatible,
But the lack of chemistry makes it hard for me
To even pick up the phone and return your call.
I feel there’s something missing,
Like an ingredient to a recipe,
To make ‘this’ complete.
Without being rude,
Yet without being honest,
Perhaps I’m making you believe
That there might be a chance,
A chance for me and you to be.
In theory, it would be.
But you’re just not quite the guy for me.
The guy like you, who’s not quite you, is who I’m longing for.
In reality, him and me are compatible,
And the chemistry we have makes it hard for me
To spend too long without giving him a call.
Although you’re both quite alike
The differences are staggering;
Those differences are the very things
That make me long for his voice
Whenever you call.
His and yours aren’t the same
And the words you utter don’t sound the same,
Despite the both of you saying the same things.
Would it be fair to incessantly compare you to him,
Knowing that you aren’t quite what I’m longing for?
Would it be wiser to be with you,
Knowing that you come close to what can actually be,
Without you actually being the one I want,
Without me enjoying the very thing I longed for?
No, it wouldn’t,
Therefore the feelings you have for me can’t be reciprocated,
Nor can I give you the kind of affection you desire,
In fear that I’d be cheating myself of an emotion
That should be kept in store
For that guy like you, who’s not quite you.
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Bah humbug.
That one true person doesn’t exist. Everyone who has a successful long term marriage finds the person that best fits them, with compromises involved because perfection left Earth with Jesus. Everyone (especially women) compromises. I wish it were different, but that’s life.
Hmmm, I have another thought, Just a Thought…
That one true person does exist. Just as God created an Eve for an Adam, an Eve who defied her Adam by tempting him to defy the will of their Lord, an Eve who was not perfect, who no doubt had other opinions and different ideas- just as he made Eve for Adam, He made a She for He. I believe there is a great balance to life. Now everyone won’t find that balance, either because of impatience or circumstances beyond their control, but somewhere at some point in time, there exists the other half.
@ ashley:
I am very comfortable in my grumpiness, thank you very much. LOL, but seriously, I am rather ambivalent about this because on one hand, the romantic in me wants to believe that there is one specific person out there for me, and that he’ll find me and we will build a life together. On the other hand, I think that whole idea has been perverted to the extreme where people are pining away for something that doesn’t exist and may never happen. The Eve you describe is not different than the partner that I describe. You chose to describe yours in a positive light, is all.
@just a thought
LOL at you being comfortable in your grumpiness. I really do understand where you are coming from. These days, for me at least, it’s very easy to get discouraged in a world full of broken promises and fairytale movie romances that never translate into real life… deep sigh… oh well, call me a hopeless romantic
@ ashley:
I will not dash your romantic hopes anymore. I have them too, although I hate that I have them.
Let me make a total fool out of myself only this once….WHOO-HOO! FG POSTED MY POEM ON HIS SITE!!!
Ok, back to my normal self now…
@ Ashley: I couldn’t agree more with what you said. I absolutely believe that every person was assigned a special someone. Now, the reason that many people seem to have not found their perfect mate can be caused, as you mentioned, by impatience and often settling for less. Feeling content with someone isn’t as fulfilling as being with that perfect fit and sometimes folks would rather be with anybody than not having anyone to be with…and then they wonder why they’re so miserable and can’t seem to find true love.
@ Taurus Lady:
Congrats on getting your poem “published.”
And I get the distinct feeling that I will be in the minority on this one.
@JAT
nope…you already know how I feel bout relationships. The One doesn’t exist…ppl just either get tired of looking and searching and just cling on to the person nearest to what they THINK is tolerable, or they jump from person to person, looking and sampling and never truly accepting. Relationships are a farce. They are SUPPOSED to be the things that make life easier to live, but they are actually the things we stress about the MOST!
I say enjoy the limited time you have with the person you are with, because it WILL end (all ‘good’ things come to an end, right? Exactly…) and then you will be on the hunt once more.
Jazmine Sullivan says ‘its better to have loved then not to love at all//not trying is worse than to stumble and fall//but if we do, i’d rather it be with you//cuz at least there will be sweet memories’
Chuuuuuuuuuuuuch!
why is my comment awaiting moderation? can anyone see comment #8?
@ Chelsea:
I don’t think relationships are a farce, but I do believe that completion can never be achieved through another person. I think the concept of The One distorts what even the best relationships are about: two people working together towards a common goal
And frankly, I hate when people say it’s better to have loved and lost, and all the similar BS. I don’t know why it irks me, but it just does.
Actually, I know why I hate when people say that, because sometimes what you lose is much more precious than those bullshit ass memories, which is a reality that people want to gloss over by asserting that romantic love is ALWAYS so effin great and grand when sometimes it is nothing short of the worst thing that can happen to you, like all high risk, high reward endeavors/investments.
@JAT
when I was single and not willing to open my heart, I can’t tell you how many ppl hit me with that ‘all men aren’t the same…you’ll never find the right one if you dont give it another try…you cant be single forever…just go out and date and have fun…’ blah blah blah…I got so nauseated and ANGRY because ppl were quoting that ish like it was written in the Bible (wait…is it?)
Anywho, all I’m saying is that I don’t believe in fairy tales and I believe all relationships are temporary. NOTHING lasts forever. I feel the same way about my boyfriend now. He makes me happy…he’s a great guy. But I give us 2 years TOPS…IF we make it that long. Everything has an expiration date. Don’t fool yourselves…
Its is Chelz- Corrinthians 1-13 read it..
@ Chelsea:
I think that in order for people to make it past the stage where everything is all roses, people have to be willing to work at it with that other person. I really think that each person independently has to resolve in themselves that they are going to stick through it no matter what. I don’t think relationships marraiges have to end just because you hit a rough spot. Relationships don’t have to be temporary – they are only that way when people look at them that way.
And yes, I realize how contradictory my comments have been. But that’s my perogative…
well I’ll be…it IS in the Bible…
glad I asked.
But my point still remains. Love and relationships expire. Its not meant to be forever. Its a temporary and fleeting feeling.
@JAT
how many times have you been with someone that you thought was perfect for you. All the roses and violins in the first couple of months, then the comfort and stability in the next couple, and you’re thinking ‘dude is my soulmate, we gonna be together forever, NOTHING can break this love up…’
Are you with them now? What happened to those feelings of being indestructable? What happened to feeling like your love and passion for each other can help you all pull thru anything life threw at you?
Chelsea:
You are consistently misunderstanding what I am trying to say. I do believe it is possible for two people to be in a realtionship until death do you part. I do not believe in the fairy tale that love, or more specifically the “butterfly stage” lasts forever. I don’t even believe in the concept of The One, because if someone is not committed to staying, then no matter how much you fit, you still aren’t going to be together. And, to answer your question, I have only been in love and truly loved one person. I didn’t stop loving them jsut because we didn’t work out. I rue my choice to love him, which is a different issue entirely. I don’t think true love can ever be destroyed, and I also don’t think that true love is all that is required to keep someone with you.
@ Taurus Lady
Felicidades, chica! I don’t know which is yours, but I’m good with both.
I don’t believe that love is a farce nor do I believe that “the one” is non-existent. Contrarily, I also don’t view the concept of love through rose-colored glasses. I’m very pratical and realistic in my approach to it. There exists no man that will complete me. There does exist one that will enhance me, one that will become part of us. And as someone with a recent heartbreak/disappointment, it is my choice not to become too disheartened and cold. I’ve been known for my impenetrability when it comes to my heart, but it does open for the right person. I’ve met my share of wrongs, but I’m optimistic regardless. Romantic platitudes hold no weight with me yet optimism & realism are not mutually exclusive.
@JAT
how am i misunderstanding you? I just asked a question
@ Reina:
I congratulate you on your ability to remain optimistic. I struggle with that because my disappointments have not been limited to the romantic realm. I still want to believe in love, in all its forms, but so far it’s proven to be a theory that has no basis in my reality in any way shape or form.
@ chelsea:
your responses to my posts indicated that you interpreted what I said to mean that love = relationships = permanency as if they were all inextricably linked. I think they are all very separate, and only occasionally found in tandem.
@JAT
i was only taking the things you stated and asking you a question. No linking…just asking. Geez…
Good Morning, ppls!
Congrats, Taurus on getting your poem published!
All,
I know I can come as a cynic but I think I’m just realist. I do believe in love but I also think that you have to determine what love means to you and find somebody that believes the same. People have different ideas about what it is to be really in love and if you’re in a relationship and you are not compatible on that, then do you really know what the two of you are doing together? Love is an emotion that requires so much more than people are willing to give, imo.
sorry…congrats Taurus on your poem being published!! You on your way to your first NY Times bestseller, girly! lol….
Congrats Taurus!!! The art of expression is such an awesome talent to have. Good luck with it all!
@ JustA
I understand that completely. I’ve learned how to not have expectations therefore not leading to any disappointments. My optimism is not desperation. I think he’s out there, but I’m not devoting my days to finding him nor am I stressing about it. If it does not happen, there are other avenues in my life that are much more fulfilling.
@ Reina:
I guess. I’ve learned not to have this extreme expectations of my romantic relationships, and even from other significant relationships in my life, and yet the exercise has left me ….. empty. As long as I strove for something, with family, with friends, with men i was dating, I at least had a glimmer of hope. Removing the framework of “the ideal” has left me looking at everyone and feeling like this is all there is, and that is depressing. It makes me disinclined to try. I know a lot of this originates in me, but for once, i would like someone, just ONE person, not to be a complete and utter disappointment ALL the time.
Hey all, read the comments and it reminded me of an article i read..thought i’d share.
http://dating.personals.yahoo.com/singles/gettingstarted/23/how-to-make-better-romantic-choices;_ylc=X3oDMTIxYWg4OXNxBF9TAzk3NjU1MjU0BF9zAwRsdANVMTEwMTc3MQRzZWMDYm9keQRzbGsDYXJ0aWNsZTUEdG1fbG5rA1UxMTAxNzcx
@ JustA
Your last stated desire is definitely shared by me. I just know that I have also been a disappointment in the past so I hope as I’ve grown that there is someone else out there who has as well.
Hi Luving!
@ luving:
Hey! Read the article, and it’s pretty good.
I’m not going to make any more negative comments today, unless severely provoked.
@Taurus – Congrats! I don’t know which is yours, but they are both wonderful.
“A guy like you” really resonated with me. I’ve been in that position a few times where the guy who wasn’t quite right for me was the one that set my heart and body ablaze by the mere sound of his voice or look into his eyes. And then there was the man who was great in oh so many ways, just didn’t get even a 1 degree rise in me and when we hung up or date ended, all his memory left me just as instantaneously and thoughts of the “bad” one entered, mainly “why can’t he be like him?” or “why can’t he like me as much as he does?” all those silly questions. Matter of fact, the former question has been running through my mind as of late…. dating sux.