I Only Liked It…So I Didn’t Put A Ring On It
Dec 10th, 2008 | Author: The Fly Guy | Category: Fly Perspectives
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Fly Note: This piece is dedicated to every woman who takes Beyonce’s latest single “Single Ladies” literally. Please understand that her world does not provide a true depiction of every day life, so you have to view her songs purely for what they are … entertainment only.
Dear (Ex) Love,
We need to talk. Judging from the voicemail you just left me, I’m starting to believe that this Beyonce song, “Single Ladies…Put A Ring On It” has you confused about the true nature of our past and present relationship. When we decided to part ways, it was admittedly difficult for the both of us. I mean, let’s face it; all of the time and energy that we invested in our relationship made it hard to imagine life without you. In the end though, we both know that it was the right thing to do.
Did I miss you? Of course I did—which is why I let my emotions get the best of me when I saw you with that guy last night. I can own up to the fact that my behavior was wrong, but your response was way out of line. To suggest that I had no room to get angry because I never asked you to marry me … well that’s just ridiculous. But if you really want to play that game, then let me explain to you the real reasons that I never popped the question.
1. I will only place a ring on the finger of a woman that I deeply love and want to spend the rest of my life with. Unfortunately, you never crossed that threshold.
2. You never had a plan for your life. You were just content with us being together, which would be cool if we were 19 or 20, but we’re not—so that’s not.
3. We lived together, slept together, ate together. And after experiencing all of that, there was still something deep inside of me that wasn’t convinced that you were the one. The familiarity kept the relationship going, but it wasn’t enough to make me pull the trigger.
4. Your insecurities pushed me away. No matter how much I tried to love you, you never thought you were good enough, pretty enough, or smart enough for me. At first it was understandable, considering the tough relationship that you had just come out of. But three years later, we shouldn’t have been dealing with the same self-esteem issues that we faced on day one.
5. Your idea of marriage and family wasn’t a partnership, but a carefully laid out plan that you created—all on your own. I didn’t want to hear that “this is the way it’s going to be with my husband and my kids.” Over time, it became clear that you wanted a “yes man” instead of a partner, and I just wasn’t interested in that type of position.
So I guess with all of those reasons, what I’m really trying to say is: I ONLY liked it … and that’s why I didn’t put a ring on it.
I hope I’ve made things clear.
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LOL!!
LOL! Alright FG, I totally get what you’re saying. Although the song is meant to entertain and make ladies feel really good about themselves (especially after a break-up) it still bears some truth to it. It’s all about “you don’t know what you’ve got ’til it’s gone” and the audacity of the dude that dumped you to demand some kind of Cliff’s notes on your new love life.
I find it ridiculous that guys who have broken up with their girlfriend or whose behaviour caused the break-up have the nerve to act all worried when they see their ex with someone else. What’s it to you, man? Is this attitude really necessary or is it just a blatant display of a bruised ego?
Involuntary Response: Hilarity
Immediate Response: Bullshit
Do you really stay in a relationship with someone you “only liked” for 3 years?
You didn’t want to marry her but the visual of her with someone else upsets you? I can’t fathom how simple “like” would lead you to behave wrongly. It’s deeper than that. Just admit it.
Is it just that men are possessive? Or is it ego? I hated this song at first, but the male response has made me a fan. If you want no one else with me, make it legal.
Thank you, Thank you, Thank you.
I am so tiered of seeing these little girls (and grown women) with this as myspace names and shirts and using this as an anthem how about if he loved you he would have put a ring on it or if you were the one you would have the ring.
Beyonce has the females real confused right now liking it doesn’t mean loving you DUH. Stop wearing your heart in your panties because sex is not love and wont get you a husband just because you know what to do in the bedroom, you must have all areas covered to get the grand prize (i.e. the ring)
@Reina,
unfortunately people do it every day.(stay in relationships just because).
The guy in this piece is expressing that he knows his behavior (jealousy) was wrong, but Beyonce took a huge leap with that line.
I pray that no one gets married just because they “liked it.” Maybe that’s why our divorce rates are so high now.
@ FG
Still…3 years? Couldn’t a chica have gotten a warning that no ring was in her future? That’s just deceitful!
Marriage is still a novel possibility to me, and if I marry, I definitely want my fiance/groom/husband to believe the sun rises in my eyes. Yet I want him to subscribe to that belief in a 3 year relationship, too.
Very entertaining.
@Reina
I think some of what you’re saying is addressed by #3. Sometimes it becomes more about that familiarity than anything.
Soooooooo its ok to stay with someone and “love” them but not tell ‘em that yall dont have a future together? flava flav’s voice WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOW
sigh
FG, you started your post out with “Dear ex LOVE” yet ended with “I only liked it” Bipolar at its best!
*the end*
@Fabie,
My statement wasn’t bipolar. Just a term of endearment. Dear Love, Dear significant other…in that context it’s all the same.
But I think they did address the fact that they didn’t have a future, which is why they broke up.
@ and1
You stay with me because I’m familiar? What are you, a pet? Familiarity yields to complacency. Who wants that? It’s disheartening to think a 3 yr. relationship wouldn’t end in marriage and that one of the participants didn’t even consider it an option. I’m not even a huge fan of this song, but now I’m just annoyed.
3 years and no ring yet ill behavior deserves an anthem. That’s something wrong with the hairier sex nowadays, I tell ya.
@Reina,
It appears that this man was trying to love her, but some of her behavior prevented him from seeing her in that “forever light.” So it wasn’t just about him not warning her. She just wasn’t the one. He was wrong for getting caught up with seeing her move on, but that still doesn’t change the fact that she wasn’t the one.
@Reina,
So it’s just the man’s fault that you could be in a relationship for three years and not feel compelled to get married?
If you say so, sir!
FG
U leave us habging for 3 days then you drop this bomb..lol. I’m glad you’ve finally called out these damn anthems that Beyonce keeps dropping on the fellas. She’s killin us out here…
2. You never had a plan for your life. You were just content with us being together, which would be cool if we were 19 or 20, but we’re not—so that’s not.
First off…I’m offended at the statement above (side eyes FG)
Anywho…WOW. I love the Single Ladies song, and I can relate. As a person in a new relationship, I have gotten a call from an ex-FWB that I was trying HARD to be with, but he just ‘wasnt ready for a relationship’…a few weeks ago, he caught whiff that me and the new dude were officially together and he FLIPPED! **blank stare**
WTF? Did I miss something? I aint saying you have to marry me (please don’t PROPOSE to me just cuz you LIKE me, Lord Jesus NO!) but if you liked me enough to provide an angry reaction at the fact that I have moved on with my love life, then you SHOULD HAVE done something about it.
I support Mrs. Carter 150% in this song. If you like it, CUFF IT! Or watch the next dude move on with your prize!
That is all.
@ FG
True. Somewhere in those 3 years, the topic of marriage must have arisen. If he told her simply with no possible ambiguity that she wasn’t the one and she remained regardless, well, that’s her own false hope. That doesn’t excuse his acting up when he saw her with someone else. And I’m not understanding why she left the voicemail?
I’m just going to shut up. My bitterness at being a single almost 30-year old is being evidenced.
@Reina
Staying with each other b/c of familiarity is very common in relationships. There isnt something inherently wrong with that. In fact, if that DOESNT happen in a relationship, I would think its cause for concern. “There’s a stranger in my house too, Tamia.”
@ and1
If that’s the case, then my desired relationship does not exist. Thanks for providing the premonition that I’ll be a single almost-40 year old, too.
I agree with And1, people do stay in relationships because they are content and already familiar with their current SO. Lets be real though, he’s probably keeping you around until a replacement comes along.
You know what? The one thing I do hate about the apparent theme of the song is that trying to flaunt a new SO in front of an old one is INCREDIBLY lame and small.
Exactly And1…Seems as if she found not only a replacement quickly but a fiance in no time.
Too many women are turnng rebound dudes into husbands to mask their hurt feelings.
@Reina
It depends on the extent of what you’re looking for. If you’re looking for someone who’s heart is gonna flutter at the mere mention of your name for the rest of your lives…thats not rooted in reality. You want a partner, not a fan.
Also, at some point in a relationship, I think its inevitable that one or both parties will come across someone that is just a little bit better than their current SO in one or a multitude of ways. Its that familiarity with each other, and the love that comes with it, that will be what helps keep those people together.
@ and1
Maybe I haven’t remained in a relationship long enough to have familiarity as my reason for staying. That sounds so…dull. I don’t want that at all. Is it too outlandish to want his heart to flutter each time? Have these R&B dudes been lying to me ALL these years?
lmao @ Reina
‘Have these R&B dudes been lying to me ALL these years?’
sadly, i think they are.
I just sent out a mass text asking all the men in my life how they feel about the line ‘if you like it then you shoulda put a ring on it’….all of them has at least 2 curse words in their answer. And i texted like 25-30 guys.
Can’t say I’m surprised tho.
That song has put a lot of unnecessary pressure on some fellas out here.
Reina,
Ne-Yo is special ;)
All,
I just find it “funny” that men are not saying “I ONLY liked it … and that’s why I didn’t put a ring on it.” WHILE in the relationship. Are you letting those women know that after 3 yrs, you only like them but not love them or better yet, they’re good enough to live with/eat with/sleep with but not good enough to be “the one”? When she was making those plans, where were you? Did you tell her point blank “i sure hope you aint planning our future together cuz there wont be none”.
Just asking…
Fabie
If you’re talking being my wife you can’t just act like a girlfriend or someone Im just dating. As a man we need to see consistency and see you move to the next level of the relationship 3 years dont guarantee anything…
@ Fab
Why must you invoke my man’s name? Ne-Yo & I are doing just fine. In my head. And that apparently is the only place I’m going to get a guy whose heart will flutter and who chooses to put a ring on it.
@Reina
Its not like your relationship is gonna be some ongoing season of The A-Team where you 2 go around the country pulling off capers. “I love it when a plan comes together.” Some of it is gonna be kind of dull.
@fabie
Why do women constantly feel the need to act like they’re being somehow cheated in a relationship if marriage isnt the result? Its kind of ridiculous. Is the woman in this scenario handcuffed to the furniture? B/c if not, she MIGHT have had a say in whether or not the relationship is going the way she wants and whether or not she should be in it.
Reina,
your man? oh snap (borrowed from And1)! Ill leave you and your “boo” in peace. You’re right to settle on Ne-Yo but what about Prince? hehe
@ and1
What the hell is the A-Team?
@ fab
Silencio!
no one is acknowledging me…i feel forgotten. booo to all of youse!
@ Chelsea
Sorry. I was trying to count the number of men in my life, and you, ma’am, are the champion!
@Chelz
Can we all get an update?
And1,
Sir, at no point did I mention marriage. As you can see, i address things that would be going on in the relationship. If someone is planning a future with you (as implicated by the post), she/he must think that things are going fine especially if the other party hasn’t said anything.
Of course, in the post, they broke up but didnt state reasons.
Reina
que? no digo nada *very sad face*
@Blaze
things are going pretty decent…he hasn’t switched up on me or nothing, but the newness is already starting to wear off. Everything is real calm and smooth with us, but…Idk…I’m starting to feel like this ‘relationship’ stuff aint all ppl make it out to be.
idk…maybe im just like me mother…she’s never satisfied. HA! (that was some Prince for Fab!)
I agree that Beyonce’s song is causing a lot of women to lose their minds…but based on what I’ve seen throughout my 30+ years…it doesn’t take a man 3 yrs., or even 2, to know if he wants to marry a woman. This includes my time in the military up until now. And there hasn’t been an age limit on this. It was very common to see 19-20 yr. olds get married in the military after a short courtship. This one couple met in basic training (which was 6 weeks) and got married in tech school following basic. Now I won’t get into the divorce rate in the military because that’s a whole other beast in itself. My point is it doesn’t take long for a man to know. IMO if you have to date a woman for 2-3 yrs. to figure out if you want to keep her…she’s really not the “one”. And any woman involved in a long term relationship where he has made any mention to marriage…don’t hold your breath. Because you’ll probably die from asphyxiation before he puts a ring on it.
@Chelz
Glad to hear that you’re still holding it down. Did I win my money (5 and under?…Tell the truth)
And by saying the newness is gone are you trying to say you’re becoming too familiar with dude?
*where he hasn’t made any mention
@ fab
Si esta hembra no para con el theatrics del ghetto, la llamaré hacia fuera y le demostraré la madera de una reina verdadera.
@ Moe
I agree with all that except for the 6 weeks. I’m much too indecisive for that quick a decision. I plan two months ahead for a haircut.
@Reina
6 weeks is too short for me! But I know someone who did it…and 13 yrs. and 2 kids later…they’re still together.
Reina,
llama le, llama le!
6 weeks? well damn, thats mighty fast.
@fab
Come on. “Put a ring on it” is talking marriage. Anyway, never mind.
@moe
Everyone has their own timetable for dealing with that kinda stuff. Hard to put a cutoff on it or have a rule of thumb about it.
@ Moe
Maybe I should stop thinking and just do. Next guy: 1st day = sex, 3rd date = marriage. I’ll even do the proposing.
@Reina
5th date = Maury
@and1
I agree.
@Reina
Sex on the first date is easy. But “you”….”propose”…on the 3rd date?! LMAO
@ Moe
It’s possible. I’m turning over a new leaf in 2009. Being the good girl with restrictions & such has not yielded any good results. I need to try the opposite side.
Wow…umm…is someone bitter much? Run into an ex lately FG?
@Reina
Old habits die hard. Do you really think you can let go?
Chelz?
@ Moe
Ask me again on January 2.
@ what
men couldnt possibly be bitter…or could they? Say it aint so!
bwahaha
@Reina
Why January 2? The new year starts on the 1st.
@ Moe
I plan on having a hangover on January 1 that led to what I did in the wee hours of that morning. By the 2nd, I should be coherent again.
@Reina
I gotcha..lol
sorry…i drove home.
@Blaze
no sex. He told me he wants to wait til he gets married to have sex again….guess I got what I asked for. A man who wants me for me and not the Heisman.
And by newness I mean…idk. It’s just regular…idk
@Chelz
Sounds like you have a winner right there…and you’re not satisfied or still dont believe in relationships? I thought this is what you were asking for?
@Blaze
it is…he’s full of compliments, he gives me a wake-up call every morning, doesn’t mind kissing and bein lovey-dovey in front of his friends, doesn’t pressure me for sex, introduced me to his brother, is respectful, we can and do talk about anything and he makes it very clear that we and only we are in a relatioship…
i just…idk. Something just isnt….just isnt! **shrugs**
I hear you Chelz, once that newness is gone you start seeing things differently. Sounds very familiar…We’ll have to continue this tomorrow. Bout to roll out… Have a good one..
later
Bey got a lot of woman tripping. I choked on my pineapple juice when I read this cause woman of a certain age should NEVER repeat beyonce lyrics. Not nevah!!!!
wow
I’m not a fan of this song. I mean, I think it’s catchy, and I do love me some Beyonce, but um… life ain’t all about the ring. (Sorry girls, I’mma have to cross over on this one.) I don’t need the ring – I need what it represents – a lifetime commitment to working together to bring peace and love and companionship to each other’s lives. Now, to FG’s points:
1. Well, yeah. Not everyone’s a keeper. Doesn’t necessarily mean anything’s wrong with them, just that “us” isn’t right.
2. Plan for your life – well, that’s a reason to not wanna be with someone, sure – esp. if you’re ambitious. BUT, just being content being together isn’t wrong at any age. It’s only wrong if it doesn’t jive with the other person’s goals.
3. Familiarity being the reason to move forward happens more often than you think – he’s cute, the parents like him, he treats me nice… I’m not in love, but I know he would be a good father and husband… happens both ways all the time. And many times ppl don’t want to break up because everything is great except that one thing… and they think maybe if I give it a little more time I’ll get that last piece to the puzzle and then all will be perfect and we can get married…. but of course 10 years later you’re still in the same place.
4. Well that just sux.
5. Too many women I know (and some men too, you’re not off the hook on this one) do this, and they look for the woman/man that can fulfill the checklist of requirements that will provide them with what they want. Are they in love with the person or what the person can give them (the house, kids, dog, vacations at the lake, dinner with the boss and his wife, etc.)?
And to comment some of my favorite bombshells here:
Yes, R&B crooners been lying their ASSES off to us – it’s all in vain. They’re just tugging on the heartstrings to get the panties to drop. It’s ALWAYS ’bout the panties. LOL But seriously, the honeymoon phase of “I have to speak to this person every 5 minutes or I will just die” wears off quick. What you should be left with deep appreciation, honor, respect, and love for this person. Trust, it’ll be different, but it’s so much more amazing than those honeymoon jitters. And no worries, you’ll still be completely turned on by his smile, crave his closeness and all that jazz. You’ll just be OK with going shopping with the girls and NOT needing to break away and call him just to say “hey”.
@Chelz – I just have to throw my $.02 @ ya – if it’s still fairly new and you don’t feel any gushy feelings, I’d think about the future of the relationship. My gauge is, go a day without talking to him. At the end of the day, how much did you think about him? And when you did, what made him pop in your mind? The answers, if honest to yourself, help you see your motives, whether you’re liking him truly, or liking what he represents or what he brings to the table. I’ve been there before where I dated someone because they were “perfect” on paper (fam loves him, treats me well, friends like him, good job, blah blah blah) but I had no hot feelings, no attraction to him. I thought if I dated him for a while I’d grow to love him, because there was no reason NOT to love him, right? Well, then I just started resenting him and all his “perfect” behavior just pissed me off because I wasn’t getting the ONE thing I needed – to feel love for him. I picked fights hoping some rise in emotions might rise something in me. Never happened, and I ended up just giving up and he dumped me for not caring.Then I was pisesd HE broke up with ME because *I* was the unhappy one all this time. Geez was I mixed up! LOL
Wow this passage here sounds like my last relationship. She had some serious insecurities from her past, however it didn’t last 3 years but more like 8 months. And in 8 Months she was ready to get married and I was not. I can agree to some extent with T-Moe I feel you just know who’s the one that there is no time limit. However, she wasn’t the one for me.
I guess my argument with the Beyonce’ song is if I seen you out with your new SO and I didn’t give a f*^k how would she then feel/ I guess that’s not the point of the song but once its over for me its over no looking back on what could have been just moving to bigger and better
After reading this post, and thinking about Beyonce’s song, I will say this. From the word’s of Judge Mablene Ephriam: LOOK DEEP BEFORE YOU LEAP. See, people are so busy looking at what’s on the surface and not what’s on the inside of the person. Men and women jump into relationships with no train of thought, and end up miserable. I say be honest with a person and state your intentions off the bat, otherwise the other person will be standing around looking like a complete fool thinking there’s supposed to be a bright future for them and their “S.O.” Find out about who you are dealing with before it gets any further than where it’s headed.
Second: sounds to me that dude was absolutely selfish. He figured that because he had the ass for 3 years on a regular basis, that entitled him to push a chick off to the side by telling her she wasn’t the “one”, and then the minute she gets up the gumption to find another that would treat her right, he has the balls to be jaded about it? HELL NAW! That’s like a little kid who has a toy and he will play with it, until he’s tired and puts it to the side. But the minute another child wants to see the toy and play with it, now all of a sudden the first child wants to play with it. Utterly selfish!
I honestly think that Beyonce’s song isn’t taken out of context in her lyrics. It’s that plain and simple: IF YOU LIKED ME, LOVED ME, ETC., YOU SHOULD HAVE STEPPED YOUR GAME UP AND DID SOMETHING TO PROVE YOURSELF. AND SINCE YOU DIDN’T, SOMEONE ELSE DID. The new guy doesn’t have to be a rebound guy for her to be appreciated and respected. The new guy could very well be someone she meets down the line once she done got herself together. And for the first dude to cop attitude, because she moved on?! N***a please! When he had a chance to be a grown man about things… he didn’t. Him getting bent out of shape, because she moved on would serve him right.
MORAL: Do your homework, and save yourself the headache of “finding out” about the other person when things are at their worst.
@Songbird
Hey mama!
You right…I actually thought about the way i felt about him at home yesterday and I realized that the reason I was feeling so…blah…is cuz there’s no drama! No females calling me about him, no rumors, no baby mamas, no crazy exes, no arguments, no stress.
I’m not used to it being so serene for so long, so I think I manufactured doubts. I’m truly digging my Bookie Head so there’s no need to fret. Thanks for the tips tho…I am going to employ not speaking to him today and see what happens… :)
I’m dying laughing over these comments, I just seen an email with a skinny guy doing the whole dance routine looking somewhat fierce and he DID NOT MISS A BEAT!!! So not just women tripping over the song FG (2 snaps and a twist for the flamboyant men)
Real Talk…Man..She makes things song after she got married after dating for 7-8 years…
This is TOO funny. Ladies I have news for you, whoever the guy is, he doesn’t/didn’t need Beyonce to tell him to put a ring on it. If he didn’t, he doesn’t want to, and he knows why. Why then does he act up when he sees you out with another guy? Sometimes (rarely) it is in fact an irrational emotional response, and these types of brothas should be ashamed of themselves. It’s this percentage of men that the song is addressing.
The majority of guys aren’t in that catagory. Most guys subscribe to the work/effort model, which is based on the fact that seeing the woman with another dude is watching a lot of work, that you don’t want to repeat — walk out the door. The woman may not even have been that great of a partner, but none the less, with her you’ve dealt with the BS, the drama, and everything else you go through in getting with a woman. Now seeing her with another dude drives home the point that you have to start over. Now-a-days there’s so much nonsense involved in getting with sistas, who wants to start that BS over again? So he’s pissed. All the benefits are gone, and to regain them is gonna take a certain amount of time and effort, and if this chick had just acted right he would’nt have to go through all that…
Fellas really aught to not act up when they see an ex out with a new guy. They make themselves look like fools, and only give the woman more foundation to feel like she’s the “ish” and “that ni**a still want me”. Tsk Tsk… SMH… I find it far more effective to conduct yourself in a way that has the new “single” you, show up to the spot with your new tighter girl, and pop a few new bottles. See who’s gonna act up then? Woman, are far more known for that sort of thing, than are men.
Lol OnDaReal you pretty much hit it on the head with your comment
The problem is that you have some dudes out here so damn pressed to have a wifey that they’re so quick to give a woman a ring without taking time to really see what she’s about. Thats why the divorce rate is so high. I would rather date someone 3-4 years to really see what Im dealing with then be divorced within the first year.
‘Most guys subscribe to the work/effort model, which is based on the fact that seeing the woman with another dude is watching a lot of work, that you don’t want to repeat — walk out the door.’
***I can understand and respect that. But if the only reason me and my new dude are getting a reaction outta you is cuz you thinking ‘damn…now I gotta meet a NEW chick, take her out, listen to her talk…’, then I’m GLAD ur azz is outta my life and PLEASE keep looking and hating cuz I am not worried bout you! NEXT!***
‘So he’s pissed. All the benefits are gone, and to regain them is gonna take a certain amount of time and effort, and if this chick had just acted right he would’nt have to go through all that…’
***So niggaz are in it just for the benefits? Hmmm…THANKS for the update! And what you mean ‘acted right’? Just cuz she wasn’t the One for Y-O-U don’t mean she was actin right…it means your standards are obviously screwed up…HANDLE THAT!***
‘Fellas really aught to not act up when they see an ex out with a new guy. They make themselves look like fools, and only give the woman more foundation to feel like she’s the “ish” and “that ni**a still want me”.’
***That ni**a DOES still want me, obviously, or he wouldn’t even be paying attention! And didn’t FG mention that self-esteem is usually a problem in relationships? You WANTED me to be confident and secure before, but now that I am That Woman, now my head is blown up? Boy, PUH-LEZE! Miss me with all that, kind sir! I want no parts in your bi-polarism, thank you!***
Sounds real personal Chelz….
Whoa nelly…
My friend wrote a blog on his page about this, it was comical but let me get my thoughts on this.
nothing personal…
But ODR response is realy typical of how men feel about this song and this situation. Everyone I asked this question to yesterday basically had the same answer.
But I find it very disheartening that someone could be with you for 2+ years just becuz they put in work and want the ‘benefits’. NEGRO, I am NOT Medicare Part B…I am not a benefit plan for your azz! (I WILL cure all ur ailments tho, trust!)…and then let you go, just to later react with ‘jealousy’ that you may have moved on and found happiness with another. Then blame it on the fact that ‘you have to start the process over with another girl’
AND you wanna blame ME cuz homeboy saw me for the PRIZE that I am and is now takin ur place in my life? GTFOH!
Well this is what my friend wrote (I was told to post it lol)
Beyonce that’s who. Beyonce is a very…very, very, successful entertainer and pop culture icon. She’s rich and she married rich. She’s beautiful in many ways. BUT YOU’RE NOT SO STOP LETTING HER GAS YOU HEFFERS!!!
It all started with Bills, Bills, Bills from Destiny’s Child album titled The Writings on the Wall in where the real message of the song is if you use my car or etc, then you should pay for what you use but it was misinterpreted and you stanks thought it was about a dude taking care of you. Destiny’s Child did nothing to clear up the confusion and saw that you can strike gold but gassing you dumb broads. Now I gotta say your name when I tell you I love you. I guess I love you isn’t enough right.
Okay so now the girls grew up into Independent Woman and they’re buying they’re own rings and only calling our celly when they’re feeling lonely and then they kick us out. Cool I like an independent woman that means I don’t have to buy you drinks and when we go to the movies we can meet at the concession stand (meaning you buy your own ticket) and when the check comes we split it down the middle, oh and you can pick up the tip You Go GUUUURLLL. But right after that, I got fat chicks dissing me because they think they sexy with all that muffin top and fat coming out they pumps looking like someone is baking a pound cake in they’re Steve Madden’s because they think they Bootylicious. NOOOOOO, Tamia is fine, Julia Hudson is a crime.
OOOHHH I like this, you taking off my shoes and my cuff links. You’re feeding me and running bath water, singing to me while the game is on. and right before I go to bed you brush my hair and put my doo-rag on. Who knew you would fall for a Soldier and sleep in my T-Shirt every night because your Dangerously in Love, too (get it, 2…as in pt 2, forget it). But as soon as I get comfortable you tell me I must no know about you and I’m replaceable because you Upgraded Me and you got some nigga on the way as we speak but you was just telling me that your life would be purposeless without me and I inspire you to do better.
I think you’re confused because you just told me to step and when I was really diggin’ you, before I could Put A Ring On It you started feeling yourself and told me hurry up before my taxi leaves. Wait a minute….you mean through all of this, since you was 19 you’ve been making your own money and keeping a man (Jay-Z) while gassing these nasty girls to follow your lead. Then why are they Single Ladies and your a happily married woman. if you chicks take the time out to really listen you would hear her tell you I HAVE A MAN WHO HOLDS ME TIGHTER THAN MY (WHACK) DEREON JEANS.
Keep letting her gas you and stay independently single thinking about what you would do if you was a boy.
P.S.
Jazmine Sullivan is starting some shit too because last Sunday night some Yamp (see Poetic Justice for definition) really did but the windows out my man car. So sad how these woman are easily influenced.
**SHout out to NOVA
-Nova http://brooklynsdream.blogspot.com/
You were quick on the Draw Nisha! lol. I decided to pop in and state that “I was waiting for you to post this”
Damn your fast ass….
@nean
I’m quick. lol
Hello Everyone!
1. I don’t think I saw anyone mention that this song was co-written by The Dream. So all the blame can’t be laid at Bey’s feet.
2.I think this speaks to a larger problem (this being the “I only liked it…) that I have been noticing as a trend with the males in my life (friends/family members)–staying in relationships that they aren’t entirely happy with just to be there. E.g. there is this guy I know who after being cheated on broke up with his girl, declared “me time” and then maybe two months later was with another girl–and not just dating or “seeing where it goes” a full on relationship. A girl that after seeing him over the holidays he acknowledges is “nothing like any girl he has ever dated.” When I asked if that was a good thing he replied with an “ehh.” But yet he is still dating her.
Holy crap!
men get on my NERVES! They SOOOOOOOOO contradictory! They LOVE blaming Beyonce and Jazmine for things that THEY cause, cuz they not man enough to own up to their own shortcomings.
Neyo and them blasted ALL OVER THE RADIO that they want a ‘chick that has her own’…but you BETTER NOT MENTION that you have your own place (witn no roommates), you bought your car cash and all your bills get paid off of YOUR hard work and dedication everyday to your man. Oh noooooo…then you ‘throwing it in their face’…you ‘too independent’…then its ‘get ur independent azz outta here, question?’<—Beyonce’s now-HUSBAND.
Don’t you dare say ’sweetie…you use my cell phone, drive my car, sleep at my house, etc etc…would you mind chipping in and helping me out since you benefitting?’ Oh noooooooooo….now you a ‘golddigger’…’i thought you was independent, now you want a ni**a to shell out cash all the time’…now you just an ordinary chick looking for a handout
God FORBID your man don’t act right and you decide to cut your losses and put him out. You let him know he aint the only man on earth that has an interest in you (ie, Irreplacable) and that it wont be long before someone else can fill his shoes, and NOW you ‘trippin…I thought you wanted to Cater to Me…I thought I made you Speechless…thought we was Dangerously in Love…’…
PLEASE don’t ever think of yourself as a woman who has it going on, set financially, mature, fly and classy and that you can add to the swag of your man, (ie Upgrade Him)…then you ‘think you the ish…ur head blown up…you ain’t all that…you aitn fine as BEYONCE to be actin like that!’ So if I don’t look like her and make millions that mean I aint an asset to my man? Boy please!
Now, you dealt with this man, and dealt with this man, and HE ultimately decided ‘its been real, but you aint the One’ and he chunks the deuces…don’t even THINK you should take your Fly, Independent, Upgrade a nig*a azz out and find someone who appreciates you. Oh nooooooooooo….GOD FORBID you move on and ex-man sees it with his own eyes. Now you ‘flaunting this new ni**a in his face’ , now you ‘think you the ish’. I’m sorry, you had your chance! You said you weren’t feeling me, so I found someone who does. You shoulda held on to me so no one else could have me (ie Put a Ring, Title, Friendship Bracelet, SOMETHING on It)…but you didn’t!
So it’s To the Left, To the Left…BOY BYE!
**steps off soapbox….grabs a Dasani**
Tell ‘em why you mad Chelz!
Chelz,
Tell ‘em why you mad, son! lol
Hey Chelsea!! I’m glad to hear you figured out the cause of your feelings. Damn all that bad drama! I know how u feel tho – it seems like everyone I meet has some thing – there’s always a bomb to be dropping.
Chelz needs a drink lmao!
Sounds like this song is bringing out alot of men’s insecurity…
@EC
Beyonce songs are always interpreted wrong. I aint saying she knows everything and that all her so-called advice should be taken as gold, but damn…if anyone actually listened to anythng OTHER than the chorus of her songs, maybe ish wouldn’t be SO misconstrued.
Any time a female makes a ‘female-anthem’ song (TLC, Jazmine Sullivan, Destiny’s Child, Beyonce, etc) then fellas wanna jump all over it. Those songs are directed at specific men and precise incidences. If you don’t fit into that, then you shouldn’t be affected. Treat ur woman right, and Beyonce will not be a problem in ur relationship.
But women get it wrong too! If you have a good man who’s doing right 98% of the time, and you decide to Bust His Windows out cuz he came home 20mins late ONCE, then yeah, ur an idiot. Your IPOD should be confiscated immediately.
But if you have a man who fits in these ‘no-good ni**a’ categories, then hell yeah! Take a line from Beyonce and tell him “Dont you ever for a SECOND get to thinking…you’re Irreplaceable’…
I’m just saying. Women heard Neyo’s ‘Miss Independent’ and took it to heart. Stepped their games up…tried to emulate Gabrielle and Lauren in real life cuz men are digging that now….we aint get all bent outta shape. A damn shame men can’t do the same…
@what?
MEN’S insecurity!?!? LOL!! Priceless.
I feel you Chelz…damned is these dudes don’t think like that…always tryin to put u down and make u think nobody else want you…and u know why cause if they don’t they’ll have to admit that they fucked up by letting you go…and noooo, they can never do that!
I think people take things way out of context. This “Single Ladies” jingle was meant to empower women. If a woman chooses to interpret it according to her personal situation, so be it. If your man wants to put a ring on it, fine!
The Male or Female can either get wit it or get lost.
@ And1, yes MEN’S insecurity! Look at how ya’ll are attacking all women over a freakin song…is it that serious? so yes, it is bringing out men’s insecurities!
@what
Exactly. I just don’t understand how men can say that they want a confident and secure female, and then turn around and tell her she’s TOO confident and that she doesn’t have all the right attributes to feel that way.
Did I miss something? What exactly do I need to posess besides belief in myself, ambition, and sophistication in order to be ‘all that’ in YOUR standards? Enlighten me (XY Alliance)
@what?
Its just kind of absurd being that the song itself plays on women’s insecurities. And lets not act like the “attacking” is one-sided. The rants have been kinda funny tho.
@nean
I love it get with or get lost..enough said.
*gives chelz another dasani*
@Nean
I dont even think that song is meant to ‘empower’ women. I dont think ANY song is really meant to empower, as it is meant to tell a story about a SPECIFIC situation. Thats what these men are missing! They gettin rubbed the wrong way cuz someone has FINALLY made a statement world-wide that a lot of women have been saying and falling on deaf ears.
IF IT DON’T APPLY TO YOU, THEN WHY THE HELL ARE YOU MAD?
@Neesh
thanks mama…I’m right parched over here…
This is hilarious! LOL
@cheese
I’ll enlighten you b/c you’ve missed a lot. Here’s a quick three. First, not every man claims to want a strong woman and not every woman who claims to be strong really is. Second, nobody who actually IS strong goes around shoving it in anyone’s face. Third, a lot of relationships dont work simply b/c the people dont work well together.
@ And1, that song is for ENTERTAINMENT, ya’ll MEN are taking it personal for what? I’d be damned if I take a dang Beyonce song as gospel…give us more credit then that, or no nevermind you don’t need to…ya’ll(men) are the ones that have issues with the song and its interpretations…
@Fema
1. but the ones who do put it out there that they desire strong women are the same ones saying that some women are ‘too’ strong. Make up ur mind. If she isn’t really strong then she doesn’t apply to this situation and should therefore sit down and shut up and take notes from a woman who IS. End of story.
2. Just because you remind your man that this is *YOUR* house and *YOUR* money and he does not make any rules here that means you’re shoving it in his face? He needs to grow up and appreciate that she aint asking him for hair-do money every week and SHUT UP!
3. If it dont work well then thats fine. But when you see me working marveously with someone else, keep ur reaction to YOURSELF, on the OTHER side of the Melting Pot and don’t send me no slick-azz text message the next day asking who the dude with the blazer was…NONE OF YOUR CONCERN!
Did I miss something? What exactly do I need to posess besides belief in myself, ambition, and sophistication in order to be ‘all that’ in YOUR standards? Enlighten me (XY Alliance)
^^^^^the question above is what I asked you to enlighten me on, Fema. I see you conveniently avoided it.
I need popcorn for this.
@ Chelz to be honest it’s all about writing a song with a “catchy” hook and getting the most “ringtone downloads” and making the top ten on Billboards, all while producing enough revenue for this “Btych to be sitting pretty in her Roll Royce that her boo bought her, while we get our thongs in a jam discussing it lol. At the end of the day, this is what it amounts to.
Holla!
@Nean
I know the song is for entertainment…the hook/chorus is the catchiest-money making part. I’m well aware.
However, there are OTHER parts to the song that tell the story that LEADS to the hook…thats what ppl are missing. If you aint gon listen to the whole thing, then dont comment on it.
Thats like reading only the last chapter of a book and saying you dont like the message. Azz-backwards!
And1,
Please enlighten the lady!
* munching on toffee covered choco bar*
Who the crap is FEMA and Cheese? Are ya’ll making these people up?????
Cheese is my nickname, and Fema is and1’s….its a long story.
*eating my cali wrap and chips*
Sounds real personal
@what
*shrug* If you say so mama.
@cheese
1. I think more women say that a guy said they were too strong than actually is the case. I cant help but laugh when I hear all these women gripe about how they were “too strong for him.” Some women mistake being “strong” for being a pain in the ass or unreasonable.
2. Are you serious with that question? You’re not, right? Unless the goal is to be forever single, I’d suggest not throwing things like that in a partner’s face. Thats just stupid.
3. *shrug* That goes both ways right? Also, no more crying about how your ex is getting married and what about you.
Now, I feel like busting out my liquid leggings and hit a party tomorrow with the Diva and rotate my Pelvis like the ladies do in the video with a drink in my hand without spilling a drop!
Heyyyyyyyy!
@cheese
Avoided what? I’ve answered that question a number of times already in other threads. Hell, the list of 5 traits of a great gf is pretty good.
Hey Nean!
lol @ rotate my Pelvis. I just need to do the dance Beyonce does in the video…that is all!
@and1
1. So some women confuse strong and ’stubborn’…good point. But men are sensitive, egotistical beings…as much as they claim they want someone that is strong or whatever, they don’t. Stop lying. Admit you just want a chick that won’t totally depend on you, and stop frontin. Damn.
2. Yeah im serious. Guys are always threatening us with being ‘permanently single’ for being proud of the things we’ve accomplished. If I come to your house, and you tell me ‘take ur shoes off at the door’ I am NOT gonna be salty. “Dont touch the radio in my car’…its UR car. WTF would I be mad for?
3.I dont mind anything my exes do…they’re EXES which means they are SOMEONE ELSE’S PROBLEM! I hope that fool dont invite me to the wedding either cuz I wouldn’t even RSVP.
Hey Fabie!
*adding it’s a crappy day outside in MD*
anyway, bottom line, men are always gonna be insecure about a woman…always. And they are always gonna play on a woman’s indivdual insecurities in order to get the draws and keep us docile. The vicious circle of life. **shrugs**
Dance to the Single Ladies song and keep it moving…
Chelz,
You good now? Got everything off your chest?
I’m going to get shyt canned cause I’m not being productive at work right now! lol
I need a brk from all this *laying head on cubicle desk*
@Nean
hmmm…naw, but continuing to post anything on this matter is pointless.
@cheese
“but continuing to post anything on this matter is pointless.”
I think we finally agree. lol
@Fema
*shrugs* Glad I could make ur Thursday homie
* Agree’s with Chez and and1*
*Thinking if one more person talks to me while I’m pretending to be working but really on FG, my Tourettes may act up and the may get a “WTF do you want?”
Nisha, how was your Roly Poly wrap?
@cheese
I feel like listening to Queen Latifah’s U.N.I.T.Y now. WHO YOU CALLIN A BITCH!?!?!?
@ and1, hillarious
@Fema
**bewildered look** Knock urself out?
@nean
girl it was good. how was yours?
@ Chelsea
A man has to know when and how to be a man. A woman needs to know when and how to be a woman. Sadly, most of both genders have forgotten how to be either.
This is touchy stuff and my original post was taken out of context in some areas. I stand by my assessment though. Regardless, both genders are on a mission to “be somebody” and tend to look down on the opposite sex. That’s our society today.
I hear you and agree with a lot of your points, and from the posts you’ve made on here — you’re consistent. You get it and you have a healthy outlook. However, don’t take it for granted when using terms like “men, women, us, and them”. Most women don’t get it, as a matter of fact, the ones the guys are referring to on here are totally clueless. A LOT of sistas suffer from this condition. LOTs of brothas do to…
Basically, both men and women need to stop acting like they are the be all to end all just because they can afford their own car payment, and appreciate being with a progressive person if and when they find one. The individuals out there who are actually progressive, prepared, and committed to wearing rings are a precious few.
lol Nean, that’s exactly the mood I am in! It’s crappy outside and i’m doing everything BUT work!
I read like the first 60 comments and said screw it I will jump in.
Firstly I despise this song. Bey your ass dated Jay for a damn decade and now that you are in the honeymoon phase you are delivering an extremely confusing message to an audience full of idiots.
” Stop wearing your heart in your panties because sex is not love and wont get you a husband just because you know what to do in the bedroom, you must have all areas covered to get the grand prize (i.e. the ring)
”
I agree with the above completely there. And I also agree with Moe. I don’t believe in a time limit before you discuss marriage or get married. You can’t put that type of stress on a relationship and think everything will be okay. I think in FG’s example if she felt that she should be married she should have discussed it with him at that point and made her decision to stay or leave.
I want to be married someday but I would hope that my SO wouldn’t propose to me just because we have great sex. I would hope my SO wouldn’t propose just because it is our one year anniversary and ‘it’s time’. I would hope that my SO wouldn’t propose just because he thinks he might lose me.
maybe i’m in the minority here but I agree with the XY Alliance here…
Question, ladies and gents:
How do yall feel about office romance/dating? To do or not to do? Have you dated anyone from work? How did it end?
Please share. Thank you!
@ Ms.
I don’t disagree with anything you said. Still, the male response to this song has been ridiculous.
@ Fab
Office romance never works out in the female’s favor. I have no experience in it, but I’ve seen plenty soar and crash.
@cuffs
:)
fab I tried it twice, not the best type of environment but I am against it. Didn’t work out for me even when trying to hide it. I won’t date someone I work with. If it doesn’t work out especially if he did something to really hurt me how can I productively work with this person?
Reina being that females 15-21 practically WORSHIP the ground Bey walks on and will make anything she sings their anthem I can see how guys would be irritated. If she had said ‘If he liked it then he should have bought you a two piece from KFC’ these girls would be demanding much more than that, they would want a whole damn bucket.
nishhaaaaaaaaaaaaa! lol
hush it, pants!
‘Reina being that females 15-21 practically WORSHIP the ground Bey walks on and will make anything she sings their anthem I can see how guys would be irritated’
**side eyes Miss**
@fabie fab
It worked for me, is allz I can say. We had a great relationship until ‘I’ messed things up (I was younger), but we are still friends and he cooked for me sunday. We haven’t worked together in a few yrs but we have built something where I can say if I ever need him he is there. The religion played a part in it too.
Fabie, No office bang session’s!Typically, they don’t work. I’m sure there are a chosen few that did/do work though.
@ Miss
LMAO! I pay no attention to that demographic as a ring was the last thing on my mind then. I’m just wired to like whatever pisses men off. If any female is using this song to demand a ring, the guy isn’t her foremost problem. Music influences. It inspires, has for centuries. Unfortunately, the caliber of music being released today should never have that effect.
@ODR
I appreciate that. But men just make me laugh. Women do too,but men are TRULY UNIQUE imo…
I love beyonce I think she is talented and I enjoy her songs (24 yr old) do I take her songs as the lyrics for my life? ummmm nah thats a mess. But I enjoy the music, I coudl nto see myself telling a man if you like it then you should have put a ring on it. If I am going to quote it will be a hip hop quote or something else poetic in the privacy of my mind lmao.
Firstly Reina what did you do to get your picture priveledges back?
Chelsea we ALL know this is true. Absolutely no denying it.
pants,
“in the privacy of my mind” HILARIOUS! Would you do a work romance again?
All,
well, a lot of people against them. Where are the men? And1?
@Reina
you have a pic! NO FAIR!
@Miss
I know PLENTY of 40 yo’s that be HEAVY blasting Beyonce as the Bible of their lvies. MY MOM’s ringtone is IRREPLACEABLE for my stepdad…in fact SHE was the one who turned me on to that song!
So the side eye stands!!!
@Fab
I had an office romance once that was goin really good…he was an amazing guy…I thought we were being all discreet, sneaking to the safe (we worked in a bank) to make out, but damn near everybody knew we were dating. He was kinda my superior. I remember the way I realized that everybody knew was because he’d brought me lunch and it was waiting for me when I got in (everyone knew I couldn’t function at work unless I ate first)…no one else had gotten food so the side eyes were among us.
lol…i’d NEVER do it again tho!
Chelsea I still think there are more 15-21 year olds blasting Bey than the over 40 crowd.
Also I made a mistake it was Fema that said there is no time limits not Moe. My bad.
@cuffs
I’m not against office romances in principle. You spend a good chunk of your life at work. But I wouldnt try to date someone I work DIRECTLY with.
@fab
Nope. First off there is no one I am attracted to liek that at work and secondly that boat has sailed. I think how we handled our relationship was very good. We were nto all over one another, no one even knew we were together for a long time, we did not argue, no jealousy, we went to lunch with one another and he’d give me the eye(that look I love lol). I dont knwo it just worked.
@ Ms./Chelsea
You know how FG has been missing for sporadic lengths of time? And now I have my picture back. Well…LOL
nisha,
Sounds like you had a real good experience.
chelz,
never? oook.
I did date someone from work and like nish, no one here knew about it but we have very nosy people around. A rumor about us didnt start until AFTER we had dated, go figure. It didnt end badly but i did find out (after we stopped dating) that he was seeing somebody else from work at the same time. One of her friends had heard we were dating and came to me. I actually talked to the other woman. Can we say awk-WARD?? Not a good look at all.
@ and1
That’s why I’m against them. You spend a lot of your life at work. If it doesn’t work out, you have to see this fool everyday. And since I’m a snob, I’d date someone above my pay level, and now for any promotion or accolade that I receive, it’d be assumed due to the romance.
@Fab
naw…I wouldnt do it again. It was cool but it was something about trying to work and trying to keep my eye on him…just kinda conflicting for 8hrs a day. And then when he was off, it just wasn’t the same…idk
@FG, even though I like this song, it isn’t very realistic. I believe that it gives out the wrong message to women. I wouldn’t want someone to marry me because they liked me or liked “it”. I’d rather for them to be sure that they are sure, that they are sure lol. So, I liked the post.
see fab that is why it’s a no no.
You’re so right, Miss! Would I do it again? I’m not sure. The dating part wasnt the problem, the man was.
Funny story…
So, I just got back from an office luncheon. There was a maitre’d there that was cute and because I am considered perpetually single in my office my coworker decided they should set me up. I am generally opposed to this at all times and really did nothing to foster this. In the end he asked out my coworker. My coworkers are now trying to get me to go out with him because my coworker has a man. They see nothing wrong with this…just thought I would share.
Blue
Are you going to go out with him if the opportunity is there?
blue
oh no…I dont like that! you will not be his consolation prize.
No, I am not going to go out with someone that ask someone out first in my presence. If he met us in different places I would be fine but we were at the same table and he asked her out. IMO he asked out who he wanted to ask out.
asked*
@Reina
It depends on the workplace. At my job, there are SEVERAL married couples that met on the job. Here, its very easy to not even see your SO at work.
blue I would NOT go out with a guy that wasn’t even interested in me.
exactly..yet we are still talking about this in my office.
yes, I’m late in this discussion. I won’t even comment on a song – PURE ENTERTAINMENT – as if it’s supposed to influence my life beyond how fast or slow I do my two step.
As for the thing with when/how/with whom to marry, you need to find the best person for you. Sadly, a lot of men will stay in a relationship that comfortable, and the woman will think that time=desire to marry. I’m not saying that women don’t do it to, but this specific rationale drives a lot of women to get hoodwinked into thinking that 3 years means he’s really digging you.
I have never dated a guy that I worked with, but ended up working with a guy that I dated. Either way, it brings too much drama, if nothing more than people in your business (and i HATE people in my business).
And, in the case of full disclosure, I did quote the hook to a guy, but it was a joke, and he knew it. We both know that I refuse to marry a man who doesn’t own a good pair of dress shoes and slacks.
@ blue:
Definitely don’t go out with that fool, and your coworkers are not really your girls if they suggested as much.
Oh, and totally off topic – don’t men usually cause insecurities in women? Most guys have grasped that the fastest way to hurt a woman is to criticize her appearance, her attitude, her ability to satisfy him sexually, her ability to please him in other areas, etc. Tick a man off, and he’s likely to tell you something to make you doubt yourself and then you spend all this time running around trying to please him when you should just let that fool go.
@JAT
I totally agree!
And1
I see we handed your boys another lost last night. I didnt see Ray J, my bad, Reggie Bush taunting across the middle last night…
@ blaze:
We all know reggie bush is a bust, a system back that benefitted from the talent around him and USC’s consistently weak schedule. Does he have talent? Sure, but not enough to justify him being considered the star of NO.
@ Chelsea:
Good morning! I know the XY alliance will come hard at my statement, but I got my kevlar strapped tight.
J Thought
I totally agree with you. I had to take a shot ay And 1 because know remembers how Reggie was a little disrespectful during last years playoff game.
I see you know something about sports..(and please dont take that as a sexist statement because some men couldn’t break it down like that.
Lastly, I dont think XY will trip because Chelz already came out swinging yesterday on the solo tip.
*****at And1 because he remembers
@ blaze:
No offense taken. I didn’t realize that grown women really didn’t know that much about sports until I was watching a FSU game on TV with a group of friends (all girls) and I had to explain DAMN NEAR EVERYTHING! I see why dudes get mad when women ask questions during the game. I know they just want to learn, but really? I wanted to slap them into silence and go get a beer or something…
But football is the only sport I have a decent amount of knowledge about. I know the basics of basketball, but don’t watch it, and every other sport doesn’t interest me beyond the sportscenter highlights.
J Thought
My only problem with women and sports is when they show up at Super Bowl parties acting as if they’ve been watching all season long knowing damn well thats the first game of the season they’ve watched.
Yeah, but we all know that both sexes do pretty ridiculous stuff to get the attention of the opposite sex. Women know men like sports, so they try to like sports (or at least pretend to). men suffer through “girly” events because they know that women like it.
The other day you brought up Chi politics…Do you think Jesse Jr. is guilty of offering campaign contributions?
@ blaze:
I will let the facts play out, but it wouldn’t surprise me if he made a politically naive move by leaving a trail of illicit activity. Chi town politics have long been sleazy, but the ones who survive know how to cover their tracts. I don’t know if Jesse Jr. was savvy enough not to get some dirt on him.
^tracks
Peeped your article from Urban Blogger, this note is on point. Keep grinding fam, I’m gonna continue to check this out.
-Ed.
http://www.edthesportsfan.com
Ok so everyone has photos again except for me? Not cool.
This Jesse Jackson Jr. dammit! we just got rid of Jesse Jackson I don’t want another one!
And leave Fema alone about the Saints, he is in mourning…
yay that’s my side eye! lol
@blaze
Reggie’s knee isnt right so he didnt play much. Both teams gave the game away too much so neither SHOULD make the playoffs. Maybe you guys still have a shot tho.
You’re right. Not sure why we were throwing the ball with 5 minutes left and a 4 pt lead. We wont be able to beat Green Bay so in the end it won’t matter. I am enjoying watching TO tear apart the Cowboys again with his complaining.
geez that didn’t last long :(
How about #5…. she told me the date and sent my pictures of rings she wanted me to buy her.
when i wasnt a “yes man” and told her to slow down cuz i didnt feel “involved” she said it didnt work for her, and thats pretty much where it went downhill.
This post (like the song) raises some good points, but an important contradiction certainly reduces its impact. #2 indicates that she “never had a plan”, while #5 criticizes a “carefully laid out plan that you created—all on your own.” I think that really means HER plan wasn’t HIS, and he didn’t like her version. Or his plan never, at any time in three years, involved marriage to her.
What strikes me funny is the passionate response to anything perceived as a female “anthem” by both women and men! you mean to tell me that out of all the mysoginist, “get Down Low Hoe” songs aboyt women that are the norm you fools have the audacity to gripe about “Put A Ring On It”? and the poor women echoing the sentiments. Now we cant have women in long-term relationships thinkin they can mention marraige now can we? How dare Beyonce say that ?! don’t listen to her, just idly stay in a long-term common law marraige, and dare not mention the “M” word so as to not offend your SO, Dont wanna scare em off now? Lastly the song is not telling women to demand marraige Hot Damn! but if thats an expectation of a woman sooner down the line whats wrong with her expressing it? and whats wrong with a man getting a heads up, and with the given info determine that perhaps that particular female is not compatible with him at this point in his life?
Jesus Christ if women ranted and raved about every demeaning song about them, there would be a new post about it everyday! get the hell over it!
How old are you? You sound like 19/20 years old and still salty, still reeling from this relationship. This woman has obviously still moved on, yet you’re still here like the last car to leave from a car wreck.
Pick up your balls off the floor and move on. You were in a relationship with her for THREE YEARS which is a bit more than familiarity. Who does that? Stays in a relationship with a woman for three years because it’s convenient yet get mad when she walks off to live life with another man?
How dare she move on in search of a man that will appreciate her for who she is and not some level of familiarity that will only keep her in a dead end relationship. How dare women get up and demand that they want a solid long term relationship *GASP* marriage instead of the shacking up with a man for 3-4-5 years with nothing to show for it. OH THE HORROR!
Uhmm yea, Im not convinced.