Dating A Crazy Person

I guess that you can call me crazy then.. I have nothing to add.. I do know I don’t like my emotions to be played with.. I haven’t did anything like above.. I do know I am glad that I have faith in the Lord.. I was going to do something (Crazy) yesterday pertaining to my Boyfriend of 5 years.. He pissed me off so bad, I wanted to go dump cow manure all over him.

He might be crazy if he shows up to your house six months after you’ve broken up trying to start isht with your new SO.

He might be crazy if , after your repeated attempts to diffuse an argument and leave his apt, he blocks your way while you are within reaching distance of a knife.

He might be crazy if you’re just getting to know him, haven’t told him where you live, let alone invited him to your house, and he shows up at your door at 11pm one night saying he just wanted to talk.

He might be crazy if he thinks that, after you’ve broken up, that you won’t get him to sign a promisory note for all the money he owes you. Maybe this isn’t crazy as in mental, but it’s crazy as in “ni%%@ you crazy!”

Oh WOW! LOL.

J Thought
I really hope you’re only talking about one guy who did all these things.

I am a lurker, but had to add, cuz i had a crazy for a year…

He might be crazy if he says he will kill you as foreplay

He might be crazy that when you are pleasing him orally that he will kill any other man that comes around, EVER

He might be crazy that once you tell him to stop taliking to you and that he’s a douche and your about to sleep with someone else, instead of cussing you out he just laughs….then a couple hours later tells me how much he wants to see me…

Yea, i am not even gonna lie, at first I thought it was funny, but now….

T

@ blaze:

unfortunately no. There was a point where I seriously considered becoming a nun.

And don’t think I didn’t read your comment indicating that my withholding the golden compass was a wasted effort because all I can do is the two step.

ok.. i think i’ve got this one in the bag.. When i started dating my ex, he told me his ex was crazy but you know, like the story goes you think how bad could she be…. It started with little things, like her popping up here and there. She ‘ran’ into me on a shopping trip with my girls to warn me. she ‘bumped’ into me on my way to the salon. My brother and i went to a family members wedding and somehow word got back to my ex that i was with another man at a wedding. This was all comical to me at first until she started calling me (no idea how she got my number). I would get a minimum of 10 calls within the space of a few minutes. On a few occasions she’ll call just to let me know that she was with my ex at that particular moment (he’ll be in my house at this time). At first i thought nah she can’t keep this up for long everyone has their limits. But i soon found out that CRAZY people had no limits and they were an exception to the rule. Two years down the line, and i had changed my number a couple of times, put in a few harassment calls to the police, she wrote my name and number on a few buses (thought it was just kids that did ish like that), she started threatening me, showing up at his mothers house. It went from being comical to being bang out of order. Five years down the line she wasn’t as frequent in our lives but she still popped up every so often like an unwanted rash. We only got rid of a couple of years ago and we found out it was because she had a baby so I guess she found herself something else to obsess about. She called a few times after the baby was born to inform him it could have been their baby like they always wanted. Eventually the phone calls,visits and everything else stopped (motherhood wore her down) and we just went on with our lives. But trust me now when a man tells me his ex is crazy i run a mile(don’t need anymore drama).

@ babydoll , OH WOW! THAT $HIT IS CRAZY!

@ London, Oh damn. But crazy is being told that I want you to be my next baby mama.
Crazy is getting mad because I won’t sit on your lap and he gets mad and leaves (just met him).

@ London:

Yeah, that is really crazy.

@ babydoll:

I’m glad you got out of that before you ended up in a ditch somewhere.

@ warrior princess, yea that was only half of it, if i told it all, people would think i was retarded. I just thought it was a southern thang so I thought it was cute AT FIRST, but when he grabbed my neck in the club because he could of sworn I was dancing with someone, which I wasn’t at all, it was pretty much down hill from there….

In all honesty did any of you see any signs of jealousy and rage during the course of the relationship and perhaps overlooked them?

babydoll.. i thought i had it bad your story takes the p. but thinking about you know what and this might sound crazy but i think i’ld rather deal with a crazy man than a woman.

@ babydoll – That M.F. put his hands on you?!?! Girl! You ended it right? Please tell me you ended it. YEARS ago, (ahem when I was in my 20′s). This kat chased me around the car. I got in the car and locked myself in. I started it up about to back down the drive way and this fool lays in back of the car and wouldn’t move! I had to call the police. Then when the police got there he tells them that I threatened to run him over.

@ blaze:

For example #1: Dude was indenial about our relationship deteriorating, and after we broke up I guess he still thought we had a chance because he didn’t know who I was dating. That was more about his pride being hurt than anything.

Example 2: I knew he was jealous, but didn’t know he was violent until then. I broke up with him shortly after that.

Example 3: I’d just met the dude, had met him a couple of times for dinner. His showing up at my house let me know he was crazy. I told him to stop calling and thankfully he did (cuz bruh was 6’6″ and 250 lbs, so my butt would have been in some trouble had he been seriously crazy).

Example 4: That dude wasn’t crazy, just a butthole (ha! and1, I know you are going to have something to say about that). Our relationship ended, and I was not very friendly to dude, so of course I was going to make him sign a promisory note. I did crank call the hell out of that dude for three weeks, so I was crazy for that period of time. I didn’t show up at his place or anything like that because I had limits to my isht. That, and I think it would have killed me to see his new SO over in the apt I put the deposit on.

J Thought
Damn..I see why you male bash all the time…lol.

How long were you with these dudes before these actions started taken place? Also, how long do you usually date a guy before you let him know where you live?

@Kriscole

yeah it was a pretty crazy period. oh and getting mad cos i won’t sit on your lap after i just met you that pretty much puts you in the crazy pile.

It depends. The less I feel you, the longer it will take for me to show you the outside of my house, let alone let you in. But 2 months is a good estimate.

For #1, we dated almost 2 years, #2, we dated for almost 4 years(I jsut settled for him because I was on the rebound and he was good on paper). #4 we dated a little for a year and a half. #3 never got past the initial getting to know you phase.

@ WP, LOL at him laying behind your car!! That is so insane, yet very funny, well now, LOL damn… And yea i ended it when he said he wanted to see me after I just told him that i am gonna sleep with someone else, I have not returned a text or phone call since!

@ London, i understand what u mean with the difference between a crazy woman and man, a woman will terriorize u until the point where u want to kill yourself, a man will just kill you, literally…

@babydoll

Yeah i totally agree with you there. Women just take too far sometimes.

J Thought
U can’t tell me you never did any crazy things to a man outside of a few crank calls (Im sure you made your point with those…what did you do hang up when he picked up?)

@ blaze:

Nope. I wanted to, but as soon as I would get in my car with my crowbar and baseball bat, God would send an angel in my ear to whisper that it’s not worth it.

And, for the crank calls, sometimes I would call and hang up, sometimes I would start an argument. Real silly high school stuff. But I always was a late bloomer…

If he, after you’ve broken up with him and changed your number, he’s sitting on the front porch at your house waiting 20 degree weather waiting for you to get home. And when you ask him what he’s doing, he complains about having to be sitting outside your house waiting on you because “you’re so hard to catch up to”.
Or he may be crazy if after the initial date he tells you every detail about his life and expects that you will do the same and gets offended when you’re not as “open” as he is about his life. Then he starts to question rather or not you’re trying to hide something. So he just increases the pressure and calls you all damn day long.
If he talks about marrying you or having kids together during the first conversation with you.
If he tells you that all of his ex girlfriends are crazy. Maybe some of them are, but something might also be wrong with him.

That compass really must have been golden for those dudes to act like that.

Luckily I haven’t been with too many crazy women but I’ve had a few that dated ex felons before me and waited months into the relationship to tell me these dudes were about to finish their bids soon…and these are coroporate, progressive women.

@ Babydoll

I’m glad you removed yourself from that situation. He was a bit more than crazy.

@ London

The crazy ex-girlfriend is definitely a past experience of mine. I once dated a guy whose ex stayed outside his house and just blew the horn while we were inside. He wasn’t that addictive that I chose to continue to stay around. I bring enough crazy on my own.

Old example: Caught a guy cheating. Broke up with him. Next morning, he shows up at my apt as if nothing had occurred the night before. Fool behaved as if he had selective amnesia.

Recent example: About a year ago, I mentioned on MySpace that I had a flight the next morning and may have mentioned the time of it. Next day, while walking through the airport, my name gets paged to come to the Customer Information desk. I get there, and this guy who I may have been talking to online for a month was standing there with a gift. I’d never met the guy before. He thought if was romantic. I threatened to call the police if he ever did it again.

@ blaze:

Ha! Sex don’t keep a dude. Most of the time if a dude is acting crazy, it’s all about him, not you. If any of those dudes had cared a lick, then we would not have had the issues that we had.

And a lot of corporate women end up dating thugs because they either like bad boys, or because that’s all that comes up to them. You would not believe how many times I’ve left a bar/lounge/club seething because I got the ex-con with the shitlocks and gold grill up in my face, but my less bougie looking homegirl got the “regular dude” with a 9-5 in a button down and slacks.

@ rachel

there’s no doubt that the first is crazy. oh my word that had me in tears of laughter.

@ blaze

WOW……

Damn Reina..you might need to get an online alias.

@ Reina:

The internet has made stalking all that much easier for crazies.

@ rachel

LMAO @ the first example.

@ Just

Yes, it has.

@ Blaze

I do, but of course, this was a year ago. Unfortunately, when personal friends leave comments, some tend to use my actual name.

@J Thought
Sex will keep a man around..longer. Did you ever look into “Pelvic Machinations”?

On the real though men dont usually trip until the thought of another dude tapping your girl. One dude finished his bid got to calling my girls crib I was like ayo you can have her… figured he had to be real thirsty after serving a 5-6 yr bid. Thats when you promote the second stringer and keep it moving…

@ Reina

I think i can say this (hopefully the females won’t be too mad but it’s the truth), Women are some of the craziest species ever created. Especially when matters of the heart is involved.

London
I completely agree with you, couldn’t have said it better myself…Dont worry about the EC’s…they know it’s true.

All these stories are interesting!

@ Reina did the guy try to contact you after he popped up at the airport.

My bf’s Son’s mother is crazy as well. When he and I first started dating she told him that she did not want us to go in public with his son for fear of people mistaking me as him mother.

We ventured out anyway only to be spotted by one of her relatives and she told us to watch our backs someone was going to beat our asses!

Yeah ok Bitch! lol

@ blaze:

But if a man has moved on, especially if he was the one to chuck the deuces, then why bother? Clearly, he was not satisfied with what he had. I care less about a dude having sex with another chick, but if he’s giving her the girlfriend treatment, wining & dining her, or (gasp) putting ring on it, that’s when I would get upset.

And no, I’m not looking into pelvic machinations. Why learn skills that I have no intent on using. And frankly, I told you yesterday I’m in a phase where I am disinclined to spit on a dude if his arse is on fire, let alone try to sexually please him. I’m through being nice, giving, hell even pleasant. Well, maybe not totally, but I don’t love them bros.

@ London

You shall garner no disagreement from me, but there are some men who put forth a valiant effort to compete with the fairer gender. I’m not overly sane myself.

@ Nean

He did, but I blocked him quickly. He truly thought he was being romantic, and I was going to run, jump in his arms, declare myself to having found the one, and we’d whisk away together.

As for your situation, that is one of the reasons I’m not excited about dating men with children.

Everyone gets a laugh at that first story. I just shake my head.
The rest of the stories on here make me realize that I’m not the only one dealing craziness!!!

@ Nean:

I’ve only dated one guy with a child, and his ex was not crazy (which was suprising because he made her out to be all kinds of cuckoo). I just don’t like children that much to be involved with someone else’s child.

@ Reina:

I like that “not overly sane”

I guess that would fit, except I think I’m more petty and vindictive when I get angry.

Baby mama/daddy drama is the worst. I also can’t deal with women who just got out of a previous relationship if you’re not aware of how their ex is feeling.

@Blaze

thanks. (i needed someone in my corner when i made that bold comment)

@ Reina

It’s so real i’ve seen and heard of women do some crazy ish when they are hurt…

@Nean
I think i agree with Reina, men with kids are a no no for me. I’m yet to meet one with a sane baby mother.

@London
Dont even worry because they’re even admitting it themselves. I haven’t seem some of them be this honest in a long time

Cases of the Ex! Always a hot topic.

My bf’s Ex has calmed down now. She would call my bf’s mother telling her that I threatened her and she didn’t want any trouble.

This is true, but only after she kept harrassing me lol.

@ Reina and London,

This all was at least 2 years ago, she’s ok now.

@ blaze:

Just because we (the EC) don’t think like you (the XY) doesn’t mean we’re not being honest. We just have different opinions.

As for caring about how the ex feels, I personally think that it’s more important how the person you’re dealing with feels. IF they don’t have any feelings for them, and don’t want to get back with that person, then who cares what the other person thinks? I wouldn’t date someone fresh out of a relationship because I don’t want to be a rebound thing. Those relationships never work out.

@ blaze

i think i got you in trouble. lol

Nah London, they know its tough love. We get the same treatment if we slip up and say something foolish on this joint.

@J Thought
Thats the problem, you need to think like XY…we give you this free knowledge daily…on the regular… about the male perspective, but we still dont here the progress…..

@ London:

He can handle his own. Plus Preston, Moe, and And1 (and quite possibly Tubbs) will ride to his rescue shortly.

@ Nean:

I admire you for youre restraint with the child’s mom. I think I would have called child protective services on her.

@ Just a Thought

is that how they do? Ride to each others rescue

@ Just

Maybe I will make a random call lol.

She may be crazy if she lies about being on the pill because she was trying to get pregnant on purpose…and then comes to your house with one of her girls talking ish about how she’s going to take everything from you. Then befriends every female that wants to get with you and tells them that you beat her…hit her in the stomach with a broom handle while she was pregnant…and threw her down the stairs…in an effort to make those women dislike you. In the meantime…she has the nerve to sweat you about being in a relationship.

She might be crazy if she has uncontrollable road rage…and even tried to run someone off the highway because they were driving too slow for her liking..and then blows the horn and curses like it’s the other drivers fault.

She might be crazy if she sends a ridiculous amount of text messages on a daily basis…attempts to keep you on the phone for hours talking about absolutely nothing…and then gets an attitude when you try to get off the phone for any reason other than to come see her.

@Everybody

My participation is going to be limited from now on because of the new job…but I’ll pop in when I can to rep the XYs.

@ London:

Heck yeah! Since I was appointed the resident manhater, most of their vitriol is directed my way. Not like it does anything, but hey, they have to try

@ Nean:

I never met my ex’s baby mama, but I wanted to get his child locked up in juvie. That little boy made the spirit of choke descend upon my hands, and it was all I could do not to wring his little neck.

Hi Moe!

I don’t know why women try to get pregnant by some dude that don’t want them. That’s just random foolishness. A child is a 18-life sentence, nothing to be volunteering for if you already know you’re going to have to go it alone.

@JAT

What’s up?! I agree. But she was certifiably crazy…so she didn’t think that far.

@ Moe:

I’m good. I think I may be abnormal because I have only felt maternal instincts twice in my life, but I helped raise my younger brothers and sisters, so i knew growing up that babies really aren’t that cute.

Plus, I’ve heard the wives tale that state whomever you’re angry at during pregnancy is who your baby will look like. I’ll be durned if a dude leaves and I have to deal with his mini-me afterwards. no thank you.

@ Blaze

Pardon? I’m always honest. Well, my brand of honesty

@ Moe

Thanks for stopping by! And I’m proud to say that I’m not guilty of any of your examples. I do have my moments regarding road rage, but i’ve never tried to run someone off the road. And though I have no problem spending hours on the phone, I don’t get mad when you have to go.

In my two years of experiencing the “crazy” I can definitely add a few points to this convo.

Crazy is:
-when he shows up to your place and watches you through the window before calling to announce that he was coming over. Who knows how many times he didn’t even bother to call.
-when he says “You don’t have anything to tell me?” in an accusing tone, and when you say “No” he bursts into laughter and says “I just wanted to see if you would confess to anything.”
-when he parks his car outside of your house in New York when he is supposed to be in Atlanta and never mentioned a trip up North. AFTER we broke up.
-when he consistently checks your call log, IM log, voicemail and Facebook messages
-when he calls you with specific details of what you were doing at an event that he did not attend. (when he has friends giving him that information)

Crazy doesn’t just pop up. The signs are usually peeking out from the beginning: playful jealousy, subtle jokes about other guys. Whether it unfolds into incessant phone calls to see what you’re doing and endless questions about your other male friends, crazy is controlling and only gets worse.
If you see any warning signs of crazy, remove yourself from the situation.

My new mantra is “I don’t do crazy!” and I am very serious about sticking to it.

Whats up Moe Guns!!

@JaT
“Plus, I’ve heard the wives tale that state whomever you’re angry at during pregnancy is who your baby will look like. I’ll be durned if a dude leaves and I have to deal with his mini-me afterwards. no thank you.”

I’ve never heard that before. That is hilarious!

@JAT

I’ve heard the same wives tale. She had some deep rooted issues at the time. It was a combination of wanting someone to love her unconditionally (the baby), and her desire to make me a permanent fixture in her life.

@Reina

No problem. I have to fade to black in a few minutes, but I had some free time. Well I’m glad to hear you’re not prone to that type of behavior. I get road rage from time to time…but I’ve never tried to run someone off the road…although I have shot several people in mind. As for the phone, I don’t mind talking, but when it gets to the point where you’re watching TV or some other random activity and you’re not saying anything, it’s time to wrap it up. I wasn’t digging her as much as she was digging me…so that played a role as well. If I was really into her…it wouldn’t have bothered me so much.

What’s up and1?!

*in my mind

@ Moe/Reina:

I didn’t develop road rage until I lived in ATL. Something about that city brings the worst out of you, in traffic at least.

I’ve never run someone off the road, but I did contemplate slamming on my brakes in front of a butthole that tried to cut me off when there wasn’t room for his SUV and trailer. He then proceeded to turn his brights on the entire time he was following me.

@Everyone

Gotta run…I’ll chat with ya’ll later.

@ D

I agree. Crazy is not as spontaneous as people like to believe.

@ Moe

I mean…don’t get me wrong. My sanity could be called into question at times, but if people knew what went on in my mind, I would’ve been commmitted a LOOONG time ago.

@ Just

Thankfully, I don’t drive much here in Manhattan, but when I have, I’ve had to fight the urge to slam my car into someone else.

wow, some crazy stories. my ex was borderline stalking me after I dumped him. he was always where I was once I got off work even though he lived 25 minutes away from me and had no dealings in my area. I moved shortly after the breakup and my old neighbor told me he was pounding on my door one night.

he called me a few months back to inform me that he is having a half asian baby. I guess I was supposed to weep? Last I heard of him.

London that story is crazy…

OMG!!! These are hillarious, I need to hear more stories, this is better than Maury!

@ Miss:

I can take a wild guess as to why he thought mentioning the race of his baby mama was supposed to make you upset…

@ Miss

It was a truly crazy experience. Something you thought you would hear about or watch on tv but will never happen to you. But like i said i’ve learnt my lesson. Me and drama do not mix very well so i stay well away from it.

Half Asian baby. wow. what is the relevance of the race of his baby?

He may be crazy if you ask him if he is gay because you heard rumors, and he says…I just let him suck my *bleep*. Then gets mad @ you when you call him gay and tries to choke you out. Punk negro!

Hi Everybody!!!
OMG the stories are crazy. From what everyone is saying, ppl kinda think the first few times are “funny” until they realize that the other person is serious! wow!

D,
I had to laugh at this “when he says “You don’t have anything to tell me?” in an accusing tone, and when you say “No” he bursts into laughter and says “I just wanted to see if you would confess to anything.” LOL @ the image

Mrs. Davies,
that didnt really happen, did it?

@ Mrs Davies

If that really happened i think you should be commended for this one. This one is the real Crazy one. Here’s one to add to the list fly guy. There’s no better explanation for the word crazy.

What’s good everyone!

Yeah…there’s some CRAZY stuff in this thread. I’ll share, but I don’t think I have anything that can hold a candle to the stuff in here.

Had been dating a girl for about a month or so. One Saturday night, it was my boy’s birthday — so I told her I’d be with the fellas and I’d catch her the next day. The fellas and I hit the club. I don’t do anything untoward. We have a good time and go home.

Next day I get a call from a very sexy young lady who is like, “I saw you at the club last night. You look good. You’re boy gave me your number. I was wondering if we can get up for lunch or somethin and just talk for a minute.”

I text my boy to see if he got drunk and did what this girl was saying, but his drunk ass is still passed out. I politely tell the girl that I don’t remember her, I’m not interested, flattered that she called…now lose my number.

She’s like, “ok, girl. he passed” and then hands the phone to the girl I was dating at the time…

@ Mrs. Davies

I have no words.

@ Preston

LMAO! Please, PLEASE, tell me you guys had fake IDs, and this was in high school. Or at least freshman year of college?

Preston OMG, that is truely crazy…I hope that you dumped her in the same phone call!!!

@ Mrs. Davies

can somebody say psycho?

@ Preston:

Really? I agree w/ Reina, I hope both you and that insecure young lady were very young at the time, althought I have a feeling this was some grown woman pulling a stunt like that.

Preston
Thats crazy but I can’t be mad at her…I’m sure a good number of dudes would’ve got caught up like that.

@Reina, What & JAT — I was a 20 at the time. So yeah, I was a young buck. It’s funny — at that age, I’d had enough dealings with women not to fall for that trick.

But at the same time I wasn’t smart enough to dump her right then…because of a phenomenon I had yet to learn about:

CRAZY WOMAN SEX!!! LMAO!

Ladies, I don’t know if this works in reverse. But I’m pretty sure most of the fellas can back me up.

Almost EVERY crazy person I ever dealt with was a TIGER in the sack!!

Was it just me?? Am I crazy??

@blaze, moe, and1, tubbs (he around today?)

what’s good fellas?!

Preston what movie you working on now?

what’s up everybody,

All of these stories are wild. I think we are all capable of bringing out the crazy in the nicest of people though. I know I have done it before.

@blaze — worked on a couple of films up until last year. now i work for an independent production company. I’m a “suit” now… although i rarely wear one…

@ Preston:

Hmmm, no, not really. I guess that should be my barometer because of the men that I’ve dated (and that seem to be attracted to me), the ones that are the “best in the sack” tend to be the most sane.

I don’t think it’s just you though. My roommate in undergrad was getting served properly by this one dude (she used to wake me up, and I was clear on the other side of the house and I could sleep through a performance of FAMUs Marching 100 in my bedroom). Anyway, turns out ol’ boy had more than a few marbles loose. i caught him outside my window one night, tapping on the class telling me to let his crazy self in.

Yea Preston…sad but true the crazy ones do it better, lol

@ Preston

So you know the women are crazy yet you bed them regardless b/c the sex is animalistic? You no longer have any authority to complain about women scratching cars and so forth. You’re attracted to it!

Preston
Thats whats up. Are you coming to the Black Film Festival in MIA next June? I’ll be down there with a large group from DC..should be decent.

@ Reina — whoa, whoa, whoa. I…like everyone else in here…have run across a crazy or two. and I….like MOSTLY everyone else…didn’t realize they were crazy until some time had passed.

Is it my fault that while that time passed we we’re having sex (and I discovered a prowess of hers)? I don’t think so. I just noticed the connection. The sane girls far outnumber the crazy girls in my past.

There are things that I’m attracted to that may be bad for me…crazy…isn’t one of them.

He might be crazy if it’s zero degrees outside and he is in the alley scoping out your house and car with an ice-pick in his hands.

He might be crazy if he says and I quote “if we can’t be a family, I am going to kill everyboby”.

SMH- This shit ain’t funny

@blaze – i may be down there. i co-wrote a film that might show up at the festival. i’ll holla if i make it down there though…

@ Preston

Hey, un poquito loco is a good thing. Completely sane & normal is boring. Insanity will teach you good reflexes.

@ Reina:

LOL. You owe me a new monitor. Mine has just been baptized with Aquafina

@ Just

LOL I’ll make sure FG adds one to the 2009 budget.

Hello Gang!

- You are crazy when you trick someone who has dumped you into haveing sex with them, make the idiot give it to you “rough” (he really should know better) and then file rape charges against the unsuspecting bastard. And he gets out of prison in 2 years from doing a 15 year sentence.
- You are crazy when you initiate a conversation that says I have good NuNu and that even if we break up…you will get that from time to time, rather I’m game or not.

Oh damn…are you serious?

There are definitely signs that are blazing signs that people are crazy. Oftentimes though we think that it’s cute. I however, don’t take those chances and will drop your behind with the quickness. A few examples for me are:
- I want to stop discussing what we are talking about and I’m trying to walk away and you SNATCH me by the arm saying “Where you think you going”.
- Telling me that you want me to have your baby during the do.
- Calling me at my house # after 8 years of no communication and I have a new number, then when I ask how you got my number admitting that you looked me up in the white pages, wtf!

@ Blaze, totally serious. It happened with a girlfriend of mine. She wasn’t the psycho, she was the week old wife of the man who got hemmed up like that. Pretty sad, yet funny in my opinion because he should’ve known better. If a man knows that he has dogged a woman to any degree, he should always be wary of any coitus invitations. Lol

I was out one night having a few libations with my people and got slightly twisted off some scotch. During the course of the night I laid down my cell and this lady grabs my cell, calls her number and saves her number to her cell without me knowing. At the end of the night Im driving home, just about to reach the crib and I get a call and it was the lady from the bar..she say’s i’m glad you made it home safely..im like ayo how did you get my number?…then she says turn around. She was right behind me..she followed me to the crib. All I remember was the Best of Jodeci playing repeatedly on my stereo the next morning….I was fully dressed so nothing went down luckily.

After reading some of this stuff…other than my initial introduction to crazy…I’ve been VERY fortunate.

@Reina
“Hey, un poquito loco is a good thing. Completely sane & normal is boring. Insanity will teach you good reflexes.”

Hilarious!

@Preston
What’s up bruh?! My sexual experiences with crazy women has been few and far between…but the 2 I can speak of…one was good and the other was just so so.

@ blaze:

You let wacko in your house? Dang homey…

@ Devoted:

That’s messed up what happened to ol’ boy. But really? Married only a week and he was knocking off someone else? He didn’t get tricked, he got greedy and paid a really steep price. That was messed up what that broad did. If I was the wife, I would’ve put that heifer in the hospital.

@J Thought
I know right…it was late and that scotch was my represenative. My people are still clowning me over that one. I haven’t had a shot of Makers Mark since.

@ blaze:

I can’t do scotch. Or anything too heavy cuz i’m a light weight. I do however, enjoy a nice shot of Patron from time to time.

@ Moe

I’m serious. One of my exes used to jump whenever I made a sudden movement.

@ Blaze

So that’s the type of approach you were advocating when you were trying to tell me to approach men in clubs?

Reina
lol…you did say being completely sane and normal was boring right?

Blaze

Yeah, but there are limits. Following random guys home exceeds mine.

Reina
I totally agree with you.

So what is the craziest thing you’ve done to man?

@ Blaze

You first.

Being sane and normal works for me….I have no problems with that…

C’mon now, Blaze. Nothing? Ever?

And you said what’s the craziest thing I’ve done “to man?” As in mankind? I’m like a natural disaster? I can work with that.

@Reina
There’s something not quite right with that. What did you do to provoke this recurring response?

@ Moe

I may have lightly tapped his face with my closed hand. BUT! It was warranted.

LOL lightly tapped, rei? bwahahahaha

Ever woman should get one good soap opera slap on a dude who deserves it in her lifetime. I’m still waiting to do it.

^^ every

@ Fab

I mean…he felt it the next day, but in my estimation, it was a light tap compared to how hard I would have hit him had I that kind of strength.

@ JustA

I agree, but this wasn’t a slap.

@Reina
Hurricane Reina is a VIOLENT storm, aint she?

@JaT
Not that I’m trying to make you speak for all black women but…what IS it about black women and patron? You mention patron and they all get excited and started dancing in their chair and stuff.

@ and1:

for me, it’s smooth enough to go down without making me gag, and strong enough that I get right after one or two shots. Also, never had a hangover drinking patron. I don’t dance in my seat or anything, and i was on it before all these f@ggot ass rappers started talking about it, but I think a lot of women into hip-hop/urban stuff get all excited because they’ve never had expensive liquor before. Most of those women you talk about probably don’t even know it’s tequila. I started drinking it because I like margaritas, and a bartender I knew suggested I try Patron. Nothing like a Patron and Grand Marnier frozen margarita w/ salt to make you forget a stressful day.

“…for me, it’s smooth enough to go down without making me gag, and strong enough that I get right after one or two shots. Also, never had a hangover drinking patron.”

And the church said AMEN. Patron and Goose are the only things I’ll still shoot. (but I’ll drink grey goose any way you give it to me).

JAT – have you tried Don Julio?

Reina – are you right handed or left? essentially i’m asking if it was a right cross or left hook…lol

@Reina
Damn Rei..you punched the dude? And he stayed with you?

*smh*

I only had a shot of patron when that song came on (dont judge me, i was celebrating!! LOL) and it did go down mighty smoothly. Furthermore more, Grand Marnier is THE best! i like.

I dated a guy for about a year and sort of grew tired of him so I cut things off. During the year we dated, he never knew where I lived because I really never brought men I dated around my daughter so I normally went to his house or met him out somewhere. Well, when I stopped seeing him he started stalking me by phone at my job, at home and on my cell phone. It got to the point where he would literally call each phone number all day long, back to back calls and I would ignore the calls as long as I could before answering and asking if he was crazy and could he please stop calling. He knew I didn’t want to change my personal numbers because I had a side business that depended on those numbers staying the same. I blocked the calls for a while but he changed his number and started the cycle all over again. He did not have my work e-mail addy but he blew up my yahoo account so bad I shut it down. It wasn’t like he was mad, he was simply begging me to give him a chance and he didn’t understand that I just felt like moving on – he didn’t do anything wrong up until I cut things off. I just didn’t see the relationship going anywhere and felt like seeing other men.

The phone calls and cyber -stalking went on for a long time before one day he showed up at my job which was “supposed” to be secure. I had no idea he even knew where I worked in the building but I looked up and he was standing in my office…scared the hell out of me. I finally had to take bigger actions but I have learned that men can be really strange when they are not the ones who break things off.

It has been about 5 months since he last tried to contact me. We dated back in 2004.

@ Preston:

Never tried Don Louis.

@ Monet:

I hope you have a restraining order.

I have two questions for all the ladies and lurkers:

1. How do you measure the depthness of a committment?

2. What factors do you consider while evaluating the compatibility of a SO or a possible SO in a relationship/within the dating process?

@Blaze hey those 2 questions are good ones, gonna think of my answers and hit you back, because I have a few things to say about both!

wait…#3 means you’re crazy?

**looks around**

really?

i use to pop up at my boyfriend house all the uninvited but i never knock more the three times