this was beautiful FG…I agree wholeheartedly with everything you said. I think sometimes we as people think because our parents, friends or movies depict love going one way, then that’s the only way it can go and be considered real…but love, just like life, goes different ways for different ppl…there is no one formula to success, but all those formulas do include core values that love is built on. HOW you do it is not as important or regulated as WHAT the end result is…gerat post. Made me feel good first thing in the morning with this stupid cold…thanks for gettin back in the game! (wink) lol… :)

muahahahahaha @ McCain!!
Hi chelz!!
# 4 used to be a biggie for me but I’ve realized that I have to express myself verbally. Actions are great but words are also important. In a way, they further validate your feelings.
Thanks, FG!

wassup Fab girlie…are you logged into ur IM?

*DEAD* @ “There are but three certainties in life. Death, taxes, and John McCain’s inability to give a high five.” Hillarious!!!

His arm don’t go back like that, LOL

Hey, chelz…coming fr a meeting. I am now!

where is everybody? :(

I’m in agreement with all except #4. I’m prone to disagree with it, but the word “exactly” is in there. Hmm. I don’t expect the guy to be psychic (maybe sometimes), but some things are elementary. I am one of the most easily read persons I know, AND I say EVERYTHING that enters my mind no matter the randomness. So where’s the line drawn b/w my having unfair expectations and your just not listening?

Good day people!

@fab

hey girlie

@chelz/reina

hey ladies

#2 and #4 WERE an issue for me but not anymore. #2 I came to the realization that some people will just cheat no matter how good you look,how good of a person you are,and not matter what you can offer to them (they just have a issue not always the other person)
#4 I stopped expecting people to know what I want and expect of them everybody is not capbale of thinking of or about others, telling them one good time will not hurt , after that they are on their own

What’s up peeps?

I agree with all of them for the most part. #4 is a sore subject for me because there are a lot of women who believe you’re supposed to know what they want and need early in the relationship. It takes time. But there are people who believe “the one” will “just know” how to handle them from the beginning.

hey guys!

Hey Chels!

@everyone

Has anyone fallen for someone that they just had no idea they would ever fall for (not your type, younger, older, education level, income level, race, etc)?

What made it ok for you to look past what originally would have stopped you and allow yourself to grow emotionally towards that person?

@Reina
How did it go this morning?

#4 for was always a big thing…but like LL said I dont expect ppl to just know anymore, I tell you once and after that your on your own kid. lol

Hi FLY PEEPS !!!! hope you all are doing good today

Whats happening fly folk,

I agree with moe. But I’ll go as far as to say that you shouldnt be EXPECTED to know exactly what someone wants at any point. Some things may be easy but others, not so much. People change in too many ways and too often.

#4 is a little difficult. While I agree of course he shouldn’t automatically know that I don’t like ice in my fountain drinks if they are already cold but if after 6 months of dating you are not picking up on the fact that I don’t like mayo then that becomes an issue. bring me another sandwich with mayo and we will be fighting.

nisha,
Hey lady!
LL, where you been? We missed you around here :)
chelz,
I used to have a list of guys i wouldnt date. It went something like this: guys with kids (baby mama drama, stereotypical, i know), guys older by 3 years, blah blah blah. Well, i dated a guy that had a son N was older than me by 4-5 years. N later, fell for a guy that has a son. Now, i no longer have a list because those things dont really matter when it comes to how I feel about that person. I follow my heart *tear*

And1, while I agree with most of you stated, i dont think ppl change that much and that often. If you observe someone’s manners/actions, after a while, you know what they like and they dont like. The basic things dont change.
Hey Ms,
you’re right. we would def be fighting over food lol

@fab

I ask because sometimes we can get so caught up in our ’standards’ and ‘qualifications’ that we dont even give ppl who dont match them to a tee a chance…so I was just curious to know if anyone here ever went out of their comfort zone and actually found someone they connected with on a serious level

@ moe and and1:

I’ve been the typical woman guilty of expecting a guy to read my mind, but like Reina, there are some things that can easily be read about me. I’m usually a cuddlebunny who likes to be around a dude as much as my schedule will allow (which really isn’t a lot of time). But, if I say I need my space, I mean I NEED MY SPACE. Don’t call me, don’t text me, don’t send one of our mutual friends to find out any info. I go into my cave, and when I’m ready to deal with it, then I’ll call you.

But I agree with all the points.

‘bring me another sandwich with mayo and we will be fighting.’

Seriously…I remember that you only eat chocolate ice cream…why cant you remember that a sister don’t mess with hot sauce? is it really that hard? but yet you can recall the stats of a game that went down in Harlem 35 years ago (befor YOU were born?)…not sitting well with me. Show some interest and TRY!

@fab
I’m not saying everything changes. But some things do. It really doesnt matter how drastic the change is. And people change constantly.

@JThought
“Don’t call me, don’t text me, don’t send one of our mutual friends to find out any info. I go into my cave, and when I’m ready to deal with it, then I’ll call you.”

That actually works in relationships?

chelz,
you’re definitely right about that. i know what characteristics a man id be interested in should have but i wont say “i dont wanna date u because u dont have a 6-pack”. Shit, i dont even have a 6-pack so it wouldnt make sense to even think like that! lol

@Chels
Would you date a white guy?

Chelsea to answer your question I can think of two: a short guy and a guy two years younger than me. I liked the short guy at first. It was strange dating a person that freaking short but he was really cool. Then he destroyed it by irking my last nerve in the movie theater. The guy younger than me was the last guy I dated. I really liked him and thought to give it a chance. Things were going great then he dropped off the face of the earth. In general though I usually give most guys a fair chance as long as they have a job and don’t live with their mother.

@J Thought
Could you handle it if the guy told you the same thing?

@Moe

i strongly doubt it…I love my black men something fierce…as unlucky as I have been with them. I can never see myself with a white husband or mixed kids…white guys are nice and all, but no thanks. Although they tend to be really attracted to me tho. Maybe its cuz my name is ‘Chelsea’…idk

Chelsea you would really pass up a fantastic guy ready for a relationship just because he lacks melanin?

@Chelsea
I doubt it’s your name…although they probably would find Chelsea more acceptable than Shaquanda. lol

@chelsea
“Maybe its cuz my name is ‘Chelsea’”

I’m gonna guess thats NOT it. lol

lol Moe…Hey, u never know! Shaquanda sounds a lil more “exotic” ;)

@Fab Hi chica !!!
hospital has been over working me again, they had 146 layoffs this week so (pray for them)

@Miss

‘Chelsea you would really pass up a fantastic guy ready for a relationship just because he lacks melanin?’

I have just an attraction and loyalty to black men. I’ve been approached by more than a few white guys (’regular’ white, ‘wigger’ white and in between, old and young) but its just not my thing. So the answer just may be ‘yes’ to ur question.

@Moe
‘I doubt it’s your name…although they probably would find Chelsea more acceptable than Shaquanda. lol’

I’m ROLLING on that one! lmao…

@And1
‘I’m gonna guess thats NOT it. lol’

so what you think it is?

@Fab

‘lol Moe…Hey, u never know! Shaquanda sounds a lil more “exotic” ;)’

and lord knows White men love the ‘exotic’!

I always hate the ‘There are no good black men’ topic but….
I honestly feel as if at this point in my life, at 23 years old. If I end up with a guy around my age more than likely he will be outside of my race. I am about 70% sure it is my area but all of these young black men in their 20’s are on some immature coon fest type crap. I don’t have the time or patience for that mess. And paired with the fact that most men opt for interracial dating anyways.

Now if I want an older man, then sure I can guarantee that I could date a black man. He isn’t on that Soulja Boy bs (or at least shouldn’t be).

@ LL
146? Devastating. I had to lay 15 ppl back in February and that was the hardest thing ive done in my career.
@ chelz
dont they? lol I dont know about dating a white guy. If he looks like that guy fr prison break or younger brad pitt, maybe? But truthfully, i havent met 1 that ive been attracted to.

LMAO @ immature coon fest

@ Chelsea

I can’t say that I have. All of the guys in my past relationships would look fairly similar on paper. Careers and race may be different, but the characteristics that I’m attracted to were in each. I may not be easily impressed, but I’m pretty standard.

Regarding the mind-reading thing, is this really such an impossibility? I don’t expect you to know that I wanted the wedge Louboutins, not the peep toe, but you should know that 24 hours with no word from you will put you in danger of bodily harm.

@Fab

the guy from Prison Break could get it in anyway he desired. I would marry HIS ass in a heartbeat…less than that if possible. HOWEVER…one of his parents is black…can’t remember which one…so maybe because he isn’t fully white is why I like him and would do him…and do him WELL!

‘I may not be easily impressed, but I’m pretty standard.’

damn BFF…write a book already! cuz that right there is the truth!

@fab

his dad is black! I googled it! that man is beyond sexy

Us poor biracials. So much research before attractiveness is given the thumbs up.

No research needed when dealing with the Latinas. They can get it all day every day…and twice on Sunday.

@Reina

DAMN YOU LADY! I was just gonna say that Black women will give an average looking Black man an opportunity with little second thought on any given day…

but let him be white (or look White) and he has to be A-list looks in order for her to consider it. I am guilty of this.

But the Prison Break dude is fine as hell…I’d do Matthew Mac-what’s-his-face in a heartbeat too…esp. in those ‘A Time to Kill Days’….that man gave me FEVER!

And Paul Walker from the Fast and the Furious…he could get it ANYWHERE!

lol Reina.

@Reina

but I swear I see nothing Black abotu you, and I’m not trying to be funny…maybe in ur body but nothing abotu you makes me think ‘bi-racial? yes she is!’…sorry

@ Moe

Sigh.

I’m just going to start telling people that I’m last member of the tribe from Easter Island, and therefore, I have no idea what ingredients are in me. So do you want me or not?

@ Chelsea

I am not qualified to write as none of my relationships have resulted in marriage. Maybe I should date the next lowlife that hits on me.

@ Moe

THAT QUESTION WAS RHETORICAL.

LOL Reina, see Moe’s comment!!
chelz,
oh really? i didnt know he was biracial…hmmmm! Matthew Mc(wuteva) is cute but something is off about that man, like he doesnt believe in baths or something. His body is on point!! That guy from one of those dance movies, step up?? i dont know but he looked greeeaaaaaaaaaat n his lips…oh his lips….

@ Chelsea

My body has possible influence of Black but nada else? I’m not sure what that means.

@Reina
Why are you sighing at me? I told you…I’m an EOE.

I know Reina…don’t get your bloomers in a bunch. lol

hahaha Moe, i doubt Reina ever wears bloomers

I’m right to assume so, Reina?

Reina is just proof that mixed with black doesn’t always mean african genes a stronger

@Fab
Every woman has at least one pair of granny panties. lol

Moe that isn’t true. I have no granny panties in my arsenal.

Suuurrree Miss.

@ Moe

You are an EOE up until size 8. You do realize that voids the equal opportunity aspect, right? And my bloomers or nonexistence of such are not up for discussion. But Fab is correct. :-D

i dont, Moeski. I have a couple pairs of “full-coverage” but thats about it lol

@Reina
Since you choose to have selective memory…I will no longer have this discussion with you.

Grandma Dynamite! lol

@ Moe

Explain this carte blanche given to Latinas. Why is that?

Okay Fab…if you say it’s so…then it must be true. *sarcastic tone*

@Reina
IMO…Latinas and Sisters are on the same level. I’ve heard many Sisters beg the differ..but again..that’s my opinion.

Moe, i never knew u were sarcastic lol
Reina,
“You are an EOE up until size 8″ Good one, chica…good one!

Moe, I refuse to own a pair of high waist granny panties. all my panties are bikini cut or boy shorts.

Sigh..okay Miss.

yea, Moe, what Ms said^^! i dont really do boyshorts tho.

@Reina

you said before that you have a ‘donk’ and that that aspect of you was representative of your Blackness…but I would never look at you and think you were mixed with anything but several types of Hispanic heritage…no offense, no trying to be funny…but I personally don’t see it.

most hispanic women have pretty ample booty though.

@ Chelsea

I was joking about the ass thing. And no offense taken.

boyshorts are sexy…i swear by them…those are what i consider my GP’s or PP’s….whatever you wanna refer to them as

actually, Reina, I just remembered something…

I know I look ‘regular’ black and all that, but ppl (ie MEN) will usually ask me what my background is and when I say ‘I’m from the Bahamas’ its like a lightbulb goes off and they ALWAYS say ‘yeah I could tell you were mixed with something cuz regular black girls dont look like you’…

and all of a sudden I’m ‘exotic’…

**mouth hangs open**

What does that mean?

Hello all!

@Chels
I think people tend to label someone exotic if they possess characteristics that are different from themselves. There’s normally one or two characteristics that separate the ‘exotic’ person from the norm. It depends on who’s judging. It could be the eyes, lips, hair, complexion, or whatever.

@Moe

thats stupid. and it goes back to me hating ppl who date certain ppl because they’re ‘exotic’ (Caribbean, South American, Asian, or otherwise)…all of a sudden I’m more of a catch because I LOOK more carribean? but not cuz I have Carribean values? dumb…

@Chels
Depending on the man..you’re Carribean values could also play into the mix.

@Moe

For some guys, they know that Caribbean girls cook, clean and are loyal to the men they’re with. They take care of home and they know that men are the leaders and women the necessary support. West Indian chicks are typically old fashioned when it comes to love and family.

But for most of the guys here, they know Caribbean girls have a certain body type and certain features. I had one guy break it down for me one time…very enlightening to say the least.

@ moe and and1:

I’m not talking about minor infractions or run of the mill relationship tiffs. And, yes, I would be able to handle a guy telling me the same thing if the circumstances were relatively equivalent. For me to need some serious space, then you have either effed up royally or I’m dealing with some major drama ( like family stuff) that has little to do with you directly but can impact our relationship negatively if I just fly off the handle and say the first thing that pops in my head (which won’t be nice). I’m a propenent of open communication, but sometimes the best way to handle a situation is to get your thinking straight before you open your mouth. But people who know me know that I am an introvert who handles things internally before I react.

@Chels
“For some guys, they know that Caribbean girls cook, clean and are loyal to the men they’re with. They take care of home and they know that men are the leaders and women the necessary support. West Indian chicks are typically old fashioned when it comes to love and family.”

This is why one of my boys (Black Panamanian) married his wife (Trinidadian)

@J Thought
“But people who know me know that I am an introvert who handles things internally before I react.”

I’m the same way, so I can relate.

@Fab

I know u lurkin…but ur Haitian and you speak a different language, plus you have an accent. Living in the DMV with lots and lots of black ppl…what kind of reaction do you get? I know New York has a big Haitian population, but I don’t know about DMV…you’re thoughts?

On the topic of exotic:

I’m a “regular” black girl, parents and both sets of grandparents are black, and I get hit with that exotic crap all the time. I don’t have the typical “exotic” features - almond shaped eyes, olive complexion. I’m cafe au lait and have wavy kinky hair, but I know a gazillion girls in the midwest (where I’m from) that have the similar features. I only get the exotic wrap from either Latino dudes who want to make me acceptable because I (in their words) look like could pass, or self hating black dudes that don’t really want a black woman, so I must be mixed with something.

@Moe

yeah…but Panamanian women like his mom (or whomever on whichever side the Panamanian comes from) probably have the same Caribbean values so it would be safe to say he would be attracked to like minded women. I could be wrong, but I would take a wager on that.

@J Thought
“or self hating black dudes that don’t really want a black woman, so I must be mixed with something.”

Why do they have to be self hating because they think you’re exotic?

@Chels
You would win that wager. A woman who coudn’t cook wasn’t even an option for him.

@JAT

My parents are both black…mom has the Bahamian heritage tho, and dad is from deep woods Mississippi…I have almond eyes, a wide mouth, a very slim nose and a high forehead but I’m dark skinned and my natural hair is pretty long and shiny. Both sides of my mom’s fam have authentic Indian (cherokee and Seminole) as a heavy influence tho but very few of us reflect that aspect. But I have been approached with ‘what are you mixed with’ a LOT and it drives me crazy. I AM BLACK!

@ TMoe:

It’s their reaction to finding out that I am black. It’s like the opened a Christmas present to find a pair of tube socks.

@JAT
lmao

@ Chels:

I have regular rounded features. So the question is just stupid IMO.

@Moe

when you stipped down for us a while back (swoons at memory…remembers he’s a dinosaur and stops swooning…hehehe), I noticed that you looked really really pale (not trying to be funny) in that particular pic. Was it lighting and editing or are you mixed with anything? White grandma or something?

@JAT
Is it really the question that’s stupid..or the response you get when they find out the truth?

@JAT

then its probably because you’re light and have that all-envied ‘good’ hair…that automatically makes you ‘exotic’ and all that to most ppl…**shrugs**

@Chels
There’s some white on my father’s side, but I don’t know where it starts. My Grandmother was extremely yellow. Everyone on that side of my family is my complexion or lighter. The pic on my FG profile is about as dark as I get, and that’s during the summer.

‘A woman who coudn’t cook wasn’t even an option for him.’

Really? Could he cook himself at all? Was this a military friend of yours?

@ Moe:

I think it’s both, but I would say the reaction is more disappointing. But I didn’t get asked this question growing up. It wasn’t until I came to grand old dixie that I started to get asked if I was mixed.

@ chels:

I dunno. You might be right. Or I could just have an invisible sign on me that says “idiots ask your question here.”

And I am not light skinned. I’m in the middle thank you very much. :-)

@Chels
Yep, he could cook. His family made all of them learn. No, I met him a little over 6 yrs ago at my old job.

Does anyone know the deal with Ethiopians and their perspective/history towards blacks? I heard they’re against dating blacks due to their culture.

@JAT

I stand corrected. You said ‘cafe au lait’ and my ass has no idea what that is so I assumed it was yellowish-brownish or somewhere’s in that area. Forgive me, dearie

@Moe

I knew it…cuz u was looking damn near transparent in that pic. I had to squint to see your abs! LMAO!

@Blaze

Ethiopians? I think ppl from different counties generally dont date Black Americans since we get such a bad rap all the time

@ Chels:

I’m only half playing. Cafe au lait is coffee with milk. Down south, I’m light. Up north, I’m in the middle (not really, but in my family I’m one of the darkest women, so that’s my story and I’m sticking to it).

@ blaze:

a lot of africans view american blacks through the stereotypes that they see in popular media.

@Moe

oh…cuz I know a lot of military dudes who went to Japan, China, Guam and other similar places and married the local girls of that particular country. And came back like they had won a prize…DIS-GUS-TING!

Chels I think its deeper than that. In this area they’re many Ehtipoians, but I’m always told different stories on why they wont date blacks…

@JAT

everyone in my family is pretty much brown and darker brown…we have a few ‘Lite Brites’ but we dont claim them (I kid! I kid!)

Coffe with milk huh? how much milk are we talkin exactly? a dash? a spoonful? a cup? the gallon? I need clarification in order to make a decision. Thank you very much!

@Blaze

really? there aren’t that many africans here…just Island ppl and Jews…so me knows nothing about that. What have they told you?

@Blaze
I know a brotha that’s dealing with an Ethiopian honey, and she told him that it’s frowned upon in their culture for them to date Blacks. When a brotha steps to an Ethiopian in the club, all the other Ethiopians are watching her to see if she talks to him. But it’s okay for the men to get at the Sisters.

sorry, chels, was not lurking but on my way home! yay!
on the subject: ive heard exotic so much that im ready to scream when someone brings up the word!! In this area, im seen as anything BUT black. Ive had ppl argue with me that i was mixed with something or i’m spanish. Then when i tell them im fr Haiti, they’re like “oh yea, you got some dominican in your family”. Both of my parents are black. Im sure our ancestry is very diverse: indian, french and africa. In high school, the kids were always asking me where i got my hair from. Mind you, i just got to the US, my conversational english was probably subpar so i was looking at them like they were crazy! Always thought there was something else behind the question. One time somebody asked me that again, i said “from God” *the end* LOL
The thing i hate the most: “well, u dont look haitian” which i always address by asking what haitian looks like. That usually shuts them up.

@Chels
I witnessed a lot of those same women treating those dudes like sh*t, so I didn’t get to witness the pride part too often.

@ Chels:

LOL. I am a light caramel.

I feel you on that family not claiming the outliers. The only non-black person that is offically acknowledged in my family tree was the original slave holder who produced the nine biracial children that formed the nine heads of the family.
But I think the lack of melanin comes from everyone before my grandmother’s generation only marrying black people that look like them.

@Moe
Thats exatly what I heard..they have a superior attitude towards blacks and their women are discouraged from dating US black men.

@Chels
There are so many Ethiopians here in this area with many ethiopian restaurants, clubs, etc. The male ethiopians are generally cool but the women will barely talk to us and there are a good number that are fine…very unfortunate.

blaze,
I’m not sure about that either. Ive heard they dont get serious with anybody that’s not ethiopian. They are expected to marry within.

@Blaze

men are usually taught to be more open then women. Interracial/cultural dating is ok when its a man doing it. But when it’s a woman, it’s a problem.

My older brother(same dark complexion as me) dates ONLY very very light chicks, Spanish or mixed ones. A girl who looked like me or our mom would NEVER get a chance with him. His first baby mama is white/black, his second PR/black…perfectly ok with my mom.

I brought a white boy home in high school to help me with a PROJECT and my fam damn near keeled over. I had a Hispanic boyfriend and my sister-in law (PR/black) said ‘at least he can give u light babies with long hair’..I stopped talkin to her for damn near 3 months

To extend on what Moe and Just have said, we (immigrants, west indians, wuteva u wanna call it) are usually discouraged from dating black americans. the media plays a detrimental role on how black males r portrayed n thats what others see. We always hear that black men here are no good. No offense to anyone, of course.

I also have a friend who’s in the adult/porn business…she was telling me how she has to bill herself as being from the ‘Islands’ in order to land jobs (she’s Bahamian and Greek)…ppl outside this country are taught that black women are getting and neck-popping and Black men are killers, swindlers and dogs…so they dont date us, or they hesitate to and view us as sex objects to be used like a commodity. Sad…

Yea, chelz, its very interesting to see ppl’s reactions to black women. Everybody (almost) expect us to be loud, in-ur-face with everything. They dont expect us to be educated, reserved, or to have decorum. As usual, ppl get their ideas-stereotypical, of course- from media. That image is pushed upon audience but at the same time, you have to recognize it for what it is and make up your own views/opinions.

@Fab

i know…but if you’re caribbean…then you’re supposed to be soft-spoken, kind of delicate and earthy and somehow less brash then Black Americans

I love the conversations on this site lol.

**continues lurking**

EVERY nationality has its negative stereotypes. It really isnt about parents trying to exclude their kids from dating african americans. Its more about parents from a particular wanting their children to pursue other people from THAT culture. What culture doesnt do that?

exactly chelz! I am a delicate flower tho

*That should be particular culture.

When I was living in Cameroon, West Africa…the most frequent video that came on television was Christina Milian’s Dip It Low–I think that says a lot about what is exported out of this country concerning women.

@Blue
That was a sexy video. lol

@And1

you’re right…but you cant deny that Black ppl get a bad rap around the world. I dont know any parent that would tell their kid ‘I know we’re white, but I want you to go out and form your own little rainbow coalition Becky’…its all about self-preservation and pride in your race and culture. But you cannot set a double standard with your children. Your son has mixed babies and no one makes a fuss, but your daughter has one boyfriend outside your race and you have to give her the evil eye. Not fair. Not right.

But that also goes back to me demanding that you date me cuz you like ME, not cuz I’m from a different country and you’re friends will give you a pound for bagging an ‘Island’ chick…no thank you

Ok, so Black ladies…for those of you who have been hit on by men outside of the Black race…have you ever asked them what it is they like about you?

I have and every single white guy tells me ‘Black women are strong, I love dark skin, they have such attitude and don’t take mess off anyone, they have rhythm and are just sexier than white women’

I kid you not. Was I wrong to be irked?

@chelsea
My point isnt that Black people dont get a bad rap, its that everybody does. There has ALWAYS been a double standard in terms of men and women. IMO, there always will be. That said, parents arent just looking the other way b/c they have a son. They just look harder at the daughter. No it isnt fair…but if you’re expecting fairness, you’re in for a tough life.

@And1

I do expect fairness, but at the same time I know realistically that it probably won’t happen. That doesn’t mean that i’m going to be quiet about it and it doesnt mean that i’m not going to point it out.

@chelsea
I think you were wrong to be irked. For one, you asked the question. Was that really not the answer you were expecting to get?

I agree with And1. There a lot of americans that think all of africa is full jungles and wars because of the media and dont realize they have a few rich nations over there.

@eshe

it does and that is exactly what I meant when i said ppl of other races/countries view Black Americans as sexual commodities…even though Christina isn’t fully Black, she readily identifies as such so we have to include her.

I’m not tryna fight for racial exuality via FG Chronicles, but damn if I’m not trying to point out what I think is the reason things is the way they is!

@And1

I was irked the first time cuz I honestly had no idea that was going to come out of his mouth. By the 3rd-8th guy that said the same thing, I was just exasperated. I was asking to be curious, not because I was truly interested. I don’t date outside my race. But if I did, it would be for more reasons then ‘white men have long hair and it feels soft’…trust me

i agree with “They just look harder at the daughter”, And1…so true! Growing up, i wasnt allowed to do half of my male cousins did and always thought it was unfair. Now i appreciate being raised the way i was but still wish i wasnt so sheltered.

@Chels
What comes to your mind when you see a black man either pursusing or dating a white woman?

@Blaze

honestly i dont care…cuz I dont know why he chose her or why she chose him.

@chelsea
How do you say something like “I dont date outside my race.” and then complain about others who date within their own culture? That doesnt make any sense. I’ve never understood why so many Black women trumpet that like its some kind of badge of honor. All it comes off as, to me, is you excluding others based simply on their race. IMO, that isnt something to be PROUD of.

@And1

I’m sorry…i’m confused. When did I complain?

I’m pretty sure Blaze asked why Ethiopians dont date Black Americans and I said because of the bad rap we tend to get. When did I say date Black and only Black or date White and only White?

Chelsea only dates black cuz thats what I like. I also tend to go for dark skinned guys that are tall and muscular…that’s MY preference.

Where’s Reina?!

How come it’s okay for Chelsea to have a preference for tall muscular dark skinned guys (and no one says anything)… but I get raked over the coals for my preference for a woman who’s a size 8 or less? lol

lol @ chelz referring to herself in the 3rd person

@Moe

Miss got at me for passing up a prefectly ready white guy for a black man, so dont feel bad.

@Fab

Tryna get my point across. 3rd person always works

**waits for And1 to give me a comment # on where I complained that ppl dated INSIDE their race**

AHA Moeski, I was waiting for u to slip up!
we’re not knocking ur preference BU