He could have taken my advice, and waited until he was completely over Mase … but no. He ran out and quickly signed Loon (and we all know how that turned out.)

FG…you all KINDS of wrong for that…but you right. (I was feelin Loon too…how come all Diddy’s BFF’s get f**ked? Jail…bankruptcy…death? Idk…hmm)

Anyway…yeah. Get that last person outta your system before you try to jump into something else. Be single. Be selfish. Enjoy yourself for a good long while and then only when YOU are ready, allow someone to catch your attention. Its easier, its more fun and your heart and mind are both more ready to take on the hustle and bustle of the dating world…IMO

From what I understand loneliness can be negative and can get many people in trouble and can result in self inflicted drama.That feeling can have going out in the world searching for something or just anyone to feel that void.All single men and women get lonely sometimes,but I’m a very strong believer in working on yourself first,get over the last person COMPETELY,lose your emotional baggage,be patient with yourself,and then allow yourself give people a try (people who are positive). Loneliness can hender your judgement in some case.

I’d tell her this, stay single forever…The end! whoops did i just type that?

lmao@bahama

i was gonna say the same thing but I decided to be psotive…lol…you a fool for that one!

lol @ bahama…that actually might work (maybe)
Hi chelz and LL!!!
My take on it is that she should just give it time. When someone really catches her attention, then she’ll know she’s ready to date. Dont just date the next person because of loneliness, thats the worst. Take your time, be you, go out with friends or dont go out..its your time! Im in the same boat that she is (kinda). Does I get lonely? heck yes but most of the time, i dont even think about a relationship or dating…i’m just enjoying my time by doing whatever I want.

wassup Fab

Before I comment, I just want to say Good Morning to my FG fam! I’m having an OUTSTANDING week! God is GOOD! “Time for Change” is resonating in other areas of my life. I was out of the office yesterday, so I didn’t a chance to comment on the election. But to sum up my feelings…I’m happy as hell!!

Now..back to the topic.

You definitely need to take time to get over your past relationships. Rebound situations rarely turn out well. And its unfair to the new person when you’re constantly comparing them to someone else. When we have lingering feelings for someone, we tend to have selective memory. We only remember the good times you shared with that person. We tend to forget what ended the relationship in the first place.

@HI FAB !!!!
My thoughts exactly.How many people on here are dating someone as of right now? Before go any further in this post.Right now I’am not dating anyone.

Good morning Chelsea. We’re still cool right?

LOL @ Chelsea and Fab, i’m just saying that’s a sure fire way to not get your heart broken…*giggles*

Right on, Moe!
Nothing much going on here, chelz. Week is dragging by but i shouldnt complain.
I’m not dating anyone either, LL.

Stay busy! Take the time to improve you. Do things you never got a chance to do when you with that person. If nothing comes to mind, get a new hobby. Work out or do other physical activities too. When your down about a break up, anytime of exercise increases your endorphins which betters your mood as well as how you look. You’ll feel better about yourself; think more about you and less about the moron that let you slip away.

(Just my two cents lol)

how rude of me..WASSUP FLY PPL!!

read my post after this one lol

@LL
I’m not dating anyone. I have an FWB that texts me about once a month when you she’s ready for her medicine. Does that count? lol

@ LL

Single n free to mingle :-)

Medicine, Moe? Is it really that serious??

@Fab
It’s like Prozac! LOL

Good Morning Gente!

I agree with what everyone has said especially Luving. The loneliness won’t leave, but it can be abated by staying busy. Find something you enjoy to do and do it often. Exercise is great for two things. It releases endorphins as Luving said, and it’ll keep you looking fabulous so when the next guy comes along, he’ll be in awe of you. I’ve been where you are, and what you cannot allow to happen is for your loneliness to make you start doubting yourself. You’ve been hurt, but it’ll pass. There is no surefire way of not getting hurt again, but you can take the time to evaluate what you may have done wrong by choosing the guy or your actions within the relationship. Console yourself with the knowledge that you are THE prize, and that fool will be on the losing end for the rest of his life.

@ LL

Not single

I think the most important thing is to get closure from your past relationship..rather if its one last conversation to address any lingering regrets or unanswered questions, that will make it easier to move on. I see too many women running back to their old dudes because they’re scared to step out of their comfort zone.

What’s up Reina!

Question, Moe…when she “needs her medicine”, how exactly does the transaction go? Does she just txt “u coming over” or ….?
Ive always wanted to know.

@ blaze

you can’t always rely on the conversation to bring closure. Not trying intentionally attack men, but most men won’t give you straight up answers on why things went the way they went. And you can waste time searching for answers, or can just fu*k him and start thinkinb about only you.

say* thinking*

(excuse my spelling lol)

Thanks for the response chicas’and fellas’ !!!
So how many of us can admit that we are ready or not ready for an serious relationship?
I’m for one am ready, I think I learned a lot from my last relationship I grown a lot and came to terms with things I could have done better myself.

@Fab
We don’t talk on the regular, so I know what she wants when she contacts me. Sometimes it can be a simple “how are you doing”…at that point, all I have to do is invite her over and she comes.

@LL
I’m ready, but it has to feel right. I’m not going to waste my time or anyone else’s if they’re not what I really want.

@Luvin
I agree its not the end all but it might lessen the pain or bring clarity to the situation.

The reason why I mentioned this is because a lot of people (men and women)take break ups so personally and they unnecessary beat themselves up when in fact it was about things out of their control.

@ blaze
Thats my thing: How do you get closure if that last convo you had didnt include discussing what hhappened or answer any questions? Thats the hard part to me.

Fab, that was my next question for him too lol. I’ve never been able to have that conversation with anyone and get a straight answer. I have let time just do its thing. And the thoughts of “what did I do, did I do something wrong, or was it not enough” decrease over time. But to this day I still have no answers

@ Moe

Nada, trying to breathe. How’s you?

@ Moe
ahhhhh i c lol
@ LL
I think that I am ready for a relationship. I’m the type that doesnt play games and all that crap, if i’m feeling you, you will definitely know.

@Luvin & Fabie
You’re both right. I had an ex get engage two months after we split and I’m still waiting for answers and that was damn near 2 years ago. She called a few times to say whats up on some general ish but I was like uh ayo..? She said she wasn’t ready to have that talk..

@Reina
I’m great! God has been testing me for the past few months..and now I believe the test is over. I had a dream Mon. night telling me I was in a “hold pattern” …but I’m about to take off in a hot minute. And now I can see it all coming together…starting with yesterday.

On a down note..it looks like I’m about to lose my FG “regular” status.

How’s the cold?

@ Moe

Well, congrats on the grand things traspiring in your life.

The cold is my own personal hell currently.

@Reina
Thanks!

You’ll feel better in a couple of days.

@moe
That is a good and simply answer
@Luving I thought that for a while as a woman those questions kind of alters your self esteem a bit, SO i just said well its his lost (now hw knows it) and let it go

@ LL

it can, I thought about them because I haven’t always behaved well in relationships. So its more like shit wat I do this time lol But it my last situation, I’ve behaved well, aside from one tiny incident (talking/flirting with at guy that works at the gym when the guy I was seein invited me there.) I’ve just started accepting the fact, that he was just a moron for not seeing what he had in front of him and i’ve let it go.

@ LL
Ive been trying to adopt the same attitude. It is working but at times, i revert back to doubting my self.

@fab It will get easier TRUST ME,Took me a a while the thing that helped me was thiking I’m better off without him and things we did as a couple and were struggling trying to do together that didn’t seem to work out right and things that I lost ,I gain all back in ten fold and I can take care of things by myself EFFORTLESSLY.

LL,
I think i’m getting there, slowly but very surely. Too much time thinking about what MAY have gone wrong is not a good thing! But at the same time, i know who i am and can bring into a relationship so most times, i’m good lol

@fab EXACTLY ,don’t waste too much time and energy thinking about things like that. I live by the energy theory its more energy spent on dwelling in the past and feeling regret when you can direct that energy into something else POSITIVE.

great advice FG.

ummmm why isn’t my pic showing?

@blaze

we cool

@LL

not dating anyone…kicked buddy to the curb yesterday cuz I saw him for the lame a** that he is

Good morning FG fam!

@blaze and others: I don’t know how breakups aren’t personal. If you felt I wasn’t meeting your needs, regardless if that was fact or not, that was how you felt. If you don’t like my appearance (or how it’s changed), it’s personal. Hell, if you really don’t like me as a person, just the exterior stuff or sex or whatever, that is personal. i say bump the conversations, realize that it wasn’t meant to be, and work on you. Your true friends will be able to tell you what you need to work on, not someone who is no longer in your life.

@ everyone else: I’m single, but dating someone. I had two long term relationships that were horrendous, and spent almost a year by myself. Now, I am mentally ready to be in a serious relationship, but not emotionally. I think I have a good understanding of who I am, what I need to work on for me, what I am looking for, and what I am willing to offer. I also know what my tendencies are, so I can stop myself from flying off the handle when he does something to tick me off (yes, I am honest about when I am tripping). But I am not ready to love someone else, or to trust them more than superficially, so my situation now works. We both are comfortable with hanging out about once a week or so, are honest with each other about the rules of engagement, etc.

and Moe (and whomever else is wondering) our weekly meetings are not FWB types of things. My chastity belt is securely fastened and locked. LOL

@ Ms
Pics havent been showing up for a while..monday, i think
@ chelz
You did? Something happened?
@ blaze
you still havent answered yesterday’s question!! Dont “huh” me! U know what im talking about

Good Chelsea. I was worried.

Just a Thought: Good for you. I think in time you will figure if you want to take things further, I wouldn’t worry too much about it. The more time you take getting to know each other the better.

@Just a Thought
LOL You sound guilty already! You can act nasty if you want to…I don’t judge. LOL

@fabie

i mean he’s cool and all but I started to think objectively and realized that he was laying some pimp lines down on me…plus he renigged on the Bentley nickname…so yeah

plus he made a comment that made me think he thought I was some 13-yo virgin who had never seen a boy before…like I aint a grown ass woman that knows better. Insulted me so I said ‘dueces!”

lol @ Just’s disclaimer
I’m so glad you found something that is working for you! I need to step out there and just date…yes, easier said! lol
Or i should just do like Moe….be somebody’s medicine hahahaha

@Fab
It works Fabie..it works! lol

LOL @ the diddy/mase/loon analogy!!

I think its best if people take some serious time to be by themselves after a break up. I have lots of friends that just seem to jump into relationships immediately after a break up and you can tell that they aren’t over their ex.

I had an extremely difficult break up after a 3 year on/off relationship, and like Luvingirl85, i had no closure or answers to what went wrong. I took some “ME TIME” though and it worked wonders…i didn’t place a time limit on ‘getting back out there’ in the dating scene.
I took sometime to just get reacquainted with myself as well as learn from the mistakes of the relationship. I really didn’t want to turn out jaded. So it meant a lot to me to be able to be happy with myself so I wouldn’t be damaged goods for the next guy that came along (if only i could find one…a whole nother story though). And now I’m SINGLE and happy but def not afraid to step into a new relationship should it come my way.

chels what was the comment?

@ Moe
I’m sure it does ;) I cant be a FWB, id set outside those boundaries…not good lol
How long have you had this arrangement?
btw, Moe Im not prying…just curious

@ J thought
WHere u been? When I mean take it personally is getting caught up as if you weren’t good enough for the person. Some men like new energy and move to other women because we’re greedy. That doesnt always take away from he women we’re with nor does it make it right. I see women going through drastic hang ups and taken too much time away from dating which is not always needed because there’s a lot of dudes who would take you as you are right now.

@ Moe: No, I just know how “we’re dating, we’re just hanging out” sounds to people over the age of 16. Its not easy, but I definitely know that will complicate the situation for me.

@ fabie:
You have to do what is best for you. The only reason I’m dating the guy I am is because he is SOOOO not in a position to get married (too young, still in school, etc.). While I’m in no rush to take that step, I do know that the next serious relationship I get in will be to evaluate if me in the other person can be life partners. Having someone who I know off rip can not and will not meet that criteria, it helps me to “guard my heart” and learn how to have fun with someone without all the baggage and drama. I know it may seem like I’m using dude, but we’ve had long conversations it, and we both are just seeing what happens.

@Just a thought
Fair enough and makes a lot of sense to me that works for a lot of people as well as myself.You summed up how I felt and experiencing now in my life in a nutshell.It just works for me while I’am going through my little selfish phase that I’m slowly getting out of

@ blaze:

I guess I get what you’re saying, but I don’t know if most women think like that. I know I took the breakup with my ex (not the last one, but the one before) plenty personal. Some of the cuases of our breakup were under my control, some weren’t, but that didn’t stop all the second guessing. For me, I am way too sensitive and I take everything personal, so it’s been a learning process, even in nonromantic relationships. (I once stayed pissed at my mom for two weeks because she told me to call her back because Project Runway was on).

I think I had finally come up with a name for him…Snuggles. And he said that it was too ’soft’…and that if I was going to call him that then it would have to be ‘our little secret’….so I asked him why it had to be a secret. And he said it’s only a secret to everyone else, not between us.

**buzzer sounds**

WRONG ANSWER BUDDY! Do I look 14 to you? What kind of ish is that?

@Fab
I met her a little over year ago through a mutual friend. It happened once back then, but then I ended up in a ’situation’ that lasted several months. The situation came to an end during the summer, and we went on FWB status a couple of months later.

@Moe

glad to see I’m not the only one that calls them ’situations’…instead of relationships.

@J Thought
Take your time..you’ll know when the time is right.

@ Chelsea

Snuggles? LMAO

@Reina

yeah well I aint even gonna call him that cuz I’m not trying to talk to him anymore…

plus he aint as cute as I thought…and he’s a broke college student

He struck out! Moving on…

ha chels! I don’t think a grown man wants to be called snuggles, that is rather soft. just like the fabric softner…with the teddy bear logo…and flowery smells…

@Miss

he may not have liked the name…I can understand that, but the boy called me BENTLEY! And ‘its just a secret to everyone else, not between us’?…that ish just SCREAMS ‘im tryna be smooth southerncadillacplayalistic pimp daddy wanna-be’

ugh…NO THANKS!

i’m a grown woman and don’t want to be called snuggles…

@Miss

the name wasnt the point…it was the comment he made and the way he made it seem like a line like that would work on a grown woman…thats all

Uhh…Chelsea? You can’t call a grown man “Snuggles.” His desire to keep that secret is understood.

yea it sounds like he wanted you calling him snuggles a secret, not your non dating more than friendship non sex non relationship affiliation.

@Just a thought
with what you stated to blaze: “take everything personal, so it’s been a learning process, even in nonromantic relationships”. The arrangement that you have iwth the other person do you consider It to be some type of relationship what you are doing it just have more boundaries and limitations and less expectations so if that person does meant what is part of your arrangement will you take it personally?

ahhh, busy life that u live Moe!
@ chelz
lil secret? i guess he didnt wanna seem too soft. That tells me he is trying to “front”…thinks way too much about what others might think of him n the nickname….that sucks

*typo * working and typing at the same time
If that person doesn’t meet

@Chelsea
It was actually a ’situation’ this time. lol We never made it to official relationship status.

@Fabie
I have my moments. lol It’s pretty quiet for the most part..but I prefer it that way.

I did a mini protein DC, cowash with the shikaki coconut conditioner, and air dried. I sealed with some shea butter a friend sent me. It looks nothing like anyone else’s shea butter so I think it may be another butter. It is very yellow and unscented but works great. I sealed with it last night and my hair is so soft and shiny! I did a side part and side donut bun! Very cute. Been slacking on my vitamins. I did discover that I am about one inch away from full SL which I believe I can achieve and perhaps already have since I have NG. I’m debating on relaxing on December or waiting till March.

lmao i cant believe i just posted that here, wrong place. lol

LOL @ Miss…wrong place indeed

LOL FG you can delete that, only person that would care is fabie.

it was the LINE he used…NOT the ISSUE he was talking about that rubbed me the wrong way ppl!

@ LyricalLuv:

I don’t call it a relationship, even though I am sorely tempted to do so. My whole thought process was instead of my usual m.o. (jumping right into dating/boyfriends status) that I would just not try to force anything. I do consider our “situation” romantic tho, because we are just platonic. Sometimes, I have to bite the inside of my cheek not to ask a bunch of “where are we going” questions and just relax and let things develop organically. I try to not have expectations beyond mutual respect and honesty.

I meant are not just platonic

@J thought

I really respect you. You have enough confidence in yourself and your ‘friend’ to just let it roll and come as it comes. I cant do that…I have to question and know things for sure. Are we dating? If not then we just friends and I dont bang my friends…neither do I use up all their daytime minutes and have them take me out and watch romantic movies and get mad if they dont call me that day.

There is no(longer) an inbetween for me. No FWB’s..no nothing. Its either homeboy (platonic), dating (no sex), or relationship (committed, monogamous and official) WITH TITLES! None of this ‘you know how it is between me and you’ foolishness cuz you introduce me as just “Chelsea” with an eye glance at your mom’s retirement dinner.

@EC

and why cant I call him Snuggles? It was cute! Thats the point of a pet name…its cute and frilly and crap…is that not what we were going for? I didnt see you fools coming up with any suggestions (except you Fabie)

But Chelsea you have to admit calling a grown man ‘Snuggles’ isn’t exactly the masculinity boost he is looking for. From what you said that line he used seemed to apply to the issue of the pet name you wanted to give him.

As far as suggestions I don’t know him so I can’t give him a name. I call and1grad Fema for a reason. Prior to getting to know him I couldn’t have told you what I would have called him.

@Miss

I asked this meatball face boy if he wanted to be called Tarzan…he didnt like it, so I said Snuggles and he said ok…then he said that mess about the secret and I gave him a chance to clear it up and he put his foot in his mouth.

He knows he’s a man…why should I have to stroke his ego with a nickname. I told him I was just gonna call him by his name, but he insisted I come up with something…then he complains.

I give up

Tarzan? Chelsea…
So the secrecy pertained to your “relationship” or just the name? I think calling him by his name is better because this pet name thing is obviously something you can’t get right, lol.

Now I want to choose a pet name.

@Miss

we dont have a relationship…the secrecy was for the NAME….but once again it was the MANNER and USE OF WORDS in which he said it…NOT the fact that he wanted it to be secret.

and i told him I didnt wanna do nicknames but he MADE me come up with one and then got mad.

@Reina

Dont do it. It’ll ruin everything. Call the man by his name

but he said NO to Tarzan and YES to Snuggles…WTF? if he aint like it then why he said yes?

Is a pet name the same thing as a nickname?
Chelsea I understand your frustration.
Reina, I think being that you are in a relationship that seems to be going awesome I say why not. A schmaltzy

@ Reina
What would it be??
@ chelz
ok, where did yall leave this issue? Are you no longer talking to him at all?

nisha,
Where are you BFF??

@ Chelsea:

I tried the all or nothing, and it damn near made me hate men permanently. He and I are dating, but outside of that, I haven’t tried to force anything. He knows I don’t do drama, and we definitely aren’t going to be FWB. He also knows that I don’t share dack, so once we do it, we’re exclusive. But, I haven’t pushed for a title or a status. It takes a lot of getting used to, but I really just want to be able to learn how to be myself with a person, get to know them, and then see where it goes. I’ve had two dudes that were good on paper as far as marriage was concerned, but I was totally miserable. This is a change, and not an easy one, but I like how much it forces me to grow.

And that whole Snuggles thing had me laughing at the office.

Well, I call him “Mine” and “Punk” now. Maybe I’ll try Snuggles or my Cutesypoo.

@J Thought
I wish more women would take that approach. Too many women are “all or nothing”..As men we would like to be honest but we need a little flexibility through the dating process..especially in the beginning.

@fab…

Hey mamas!!! I was lurking a bit and working too lol. How are you BFF?

@everyone

What’s up?

@Fabie

i told him that I was 20, not 13 and that if he ever expected to talk to me again then he better do better than that, then I proceeded to tell him he was interrupting my Bleu Cheese Burger and that I would get at him later

@Reina

wow….

@J Thought

you a better woman than me…I just cant do it. (sighs) Guess I’ll remain single and d*ckless then…**googles life-time supply of Energizer batteries**

@Nisha, XY Alliance and FG

lurking heavy huh?

@chelz

Girl its a lot going on today as far as work, lol I need a getaway.

@ Just
I really like how you do things. I always say i’m an all or nothing type of person. But at the same time, ive never asked anybody to commit to me or else nor have i pushed for title or status.
I guess maybe i should learn how to just do the dating thing..get some practice

@Chelsea
The convo has been about pet names. Seems like as good a time as any to get some work done. lol

@ nisha
aha! knew u were lurking lol. Doing ok, enjoying my fall view of rock creek park…absolutely beautiful
@ chelz
“Guess I’ll remain single and d*ckless”
PRICELESS LOL

@Moe
It was even worse yesterday…it was about cookies, Bentleys on fake rims, the art of initimacy, ice sculptures and more male nicknames. Someone even ran off Ms Coco and she was kicking good feedback. I know she’s lurking so hopefully she’ll be back soon.

@Baldilocks

lol…i guess.

@nisha

heeeeeeeeeeeeeeey gurl…

@Blaze

there’s plenty of flexibility…you date me and then make a decsion. Friend or boyfriend. Am I way off?

Moe/blaze
Do men really care about pet names? or its whatever?

@Blaze

‘it was about cookies, Bentleys on fake rims, the art of initimacy, ice sculptures and more male nicknames.’

I never did figure out where the ice sculpture came in…

@ And1
Where are you? working or/and lurking?

@Blaze
“cookies, Bentleys on fake rims, the art of initimacy, ice sculptures and more male nicknames”

Damn…so I take it I didn’t miss much. LOL Talk about ADD…

@Blaze
They ran off Coco too?! What happened? LOL

@Fab
It’s whatever with me. I’m good either way.

@fab
Sorry…working. Nicknames are cool, minus “fema” but there is no getting ms off of that one. I’m a rabid nicknamer. Pet names, meh. Not a fan. And “Snuggles” would have bought someone the dial tone and a possible number block.

Ok, I think I’m caught up for now.

@Moe
Yeah..She had to be joking though so hopefully she’ll be back soon

@Fabie
You can call me whatever behind closed doors…it wont matter

@Chelsea
I may have thrown in the ice sculpture…I got it confused when you said dude was breaking down the art of initimacy

I firmly state that no one should call anyone by anything other than their birth name unless given written and notarized consent of a name they chose and approved themselves if you care to continue the relationship/situation/FWB/homie-love-friend/bust it baby type ‘thing’ you are currently involved in.

That is all

Where did the ‘art of intimacy’ thing come from?

@ Moe

So you’d be good with Snuggles?

@Moe

long story…see what you miss? If you had been here, you would have know that yesterday I was dating someone, but the FG fam ruined it so we’re no longer talking as of today…

But the guy I temporarily dating said intimacy was an art…and Blaze thought he meant it was an ice sculpture or something

@Reina
I could tolerate it behind closed doors. But don’t get mad if I laugh every time it’s done.

‘And “Snuggles” would have bought someone the dial tone and a possible number block. ‘

WHATS WRONG WITH SNUGGLES? I THINK ITS CUTE!

@ Moe

LOL I cringe at such names.

@Reina
Has a guy ever gave you a nickname?

@Chelsea
I’m still confused. LOL

YOU were dating someone? And how long did this imaginary friendship last? lol And the FG fam ruined it?

Wow.

@Reina
I’ve never had anyone take a pet name that far. I’ve been ‘baby’ &’booby’..but that’s about it. I’ve had a couple call me the short form of my real name…and that’s because I made the mistake of telling them not to. lol

@Baldilocks

yes…I had gotten a ‘referral’ from a friends bf for this guy. We started talking and all that for the past 2 weeks or so and I made the mistake of bringing it up yesterday…I was very excited until my Fly Fam decided to go hard against him (side eyes Blaze and And1)…so I decided that they were right and homeboy has been stripped of his jersey. No Heisman for him!

you shoulda been here. Shame on you. Having a life and not dedicating yourself to the FG site like ur supposed to. Traitor

@Bentley
Explain your nickname to Moe

@Weavy

“I was very excited until my Fly Fam decided to go hard against him (side eyes Blaze and And1)…so I decided that they were right and homeboy has been stripped of his jersey.”

You’re quite the independent thinker huh? lol

I had to make the doughnuts yesterday. lol And I told you I was making some new moves.

lol stop calling that girl weavy

you called him baldilocks? dead.

@ Blaze

There have been in the past. I don’t think I have any right now.

@ Chelsea

Both Blaze & and1 are single. Why would you listen to them?

Weavy….? oh snap…lol

@Baldilocks

I am an independent thinker, but I also heavily weigh input from those I trust…and for some odd reason I trust u losers, so (blows raspberry)

And his nickname for me was Bentley and he claims it was because he’d always wanted a Bentley because it was top of the line, so he thinks of me in much the same manner…

however just a few short hrs after making this touching/corny statement, he couldnt remember whether I was Snuggles or if he was Bentley, leading me to believe he was talkin out his a**…

anything else Blaze?

@Reina
Hold up shorty roc…Our reasons for being single is a lot different than what a few of you ladies been saying.

@ fabie & chelsea:

My new approach comes from trial and error. I’m also older than both of y’all (but not as old as T-Moe, LOL) so I’ve had more time to screw up and try something new.

@ blaze:
I don’t know about other women, but it was hard for me to get to this point bcuz i was fed the all or nothing approach since I was young. I mean the fairytales, the movies, the books, church, even my own crazy family with that “when you gonna get married” garbage (and I’m talking since I was in high school). It took me a minute to figure out that that’s not how things are supposed to be.

@Reina

because they’re men…and they haven’t quite steered me wrong yet…so…call me crazy

@Weavy

So you cut him off over a nickname?

Shorty Roc?

@Chelsea
I appreciate that …even though a lot of you are single, you all bring different experiences I can learn and relate to (except the nicknames of cars on spinners)

@Moe

where the hell you get weavy from anyway? and no I cut him off cuz he was like a bad Maxwell album…he kept hitting me with all these ultra sensitive romantic lines…And1 helped me see the error of my ways…and Miss had a lot of doubt too…and Blaze had everything thinking the boy was gonna be hanging me from chandeliers by the end of the week.

@Blaze

Shorty Roc? da hell is that?

@ blaze & reina:
I thought reina had somebody?

and blaze, enlighten me on why you’re single? This is the first day that I actually have the time to be on her for real, so I’ve missed a lot.

and FYI everybody:
I do nicknames and pet names, but not consistently. I pet named one SO “equipment”, gave the other two or three pet names, and the last one got nada cause I was just not inspired. I don’t have a name that can become a nickname, so most people just called me what my mother calls me.