I estimate a record 300 comments.

then let’s have at it

LOL, I’ve never had one of those, shocking but true!!!

call me crazy but if I could have a one night stand with one person it would be Keyshia Cole. I think she needs some dignified loving in her life right about now.

Wanted to get that one out of the way. One night stands are too risky nowadays, but I think that when people want it, they don’t think about the risks…myself included.

at what?

Would you have one though?

I had a chick that tried to pull this one on me. She thought that just because we had sex that it meant that we were going to be together. Uh, no…it just meant that we were horny. Women shouldn’t use sex to get a man. In the end, you always get played.

My answers:

1) In the technical sense, never had a 1-nite stand.

2) Sure, and it of course backfired on me. But I’ve also had the reverse, where I had sex on a first date thinking casual, FWB - no strings attached, and it ended up becoming a serious, committed relationship.

3) No, but thought heavily about doing so.

4) People need to be careful, for sure. Personally, I can’t just sleep with someone I don’t know. Even if don’t know them all TOO well, I still need some sort of mental/emotional connection besides just the physical.

5) Pharrell Williams, because I think he’s super-sexy! Talented, smart, nerdy, stylish, confident, and from interviews he seems really good-hearted, sentimental. They’re all things that make me melt.

wow FG…comments are gonna be RIDICULOUS for this one!

1. Never had a ONS go terribly wrong…only had one, he was lame with the sex, so I erased his number and kept it moving.

2. Uh yeah…thought the goods would make him committ, but we were in high school. I have since learned that this is NOT the case…ever.

3. How does a one-night stand help u get back at someone? They’ll just look at you as a loose person and someone they dont need to be with anyway. Looks like you lose on both sides to me.

4. STD’s are a real danger. Sometimes even wrapping it up doesn’t seem like enough with the person im committed to…a random dude? naw…can’t do it. too risky.

5. A celeb? Luda or Nelly, hands down. Wouldnt be a one night thing if I can help it tho. Or maybe it would…

lol…thats all i got

oh yeah, and I’d have my one night stand with Whitney Houston. I know I know I know. But having a legendary jump off is the best…lol

@ Chelsea,

Luda or Nelly huh? That’s cool. Do you think you could handle being in a relationship with a celebrity. I think most celebs are only good for the one night jump off

@songbird,

Yeah that’s usually how it happens. You try to plan that it’ll just be one time, and it goes longer. Or you try to make it last, and it ends really quickly.

@ Chelsea —

On the getting back at someone with a ONS — I contemplated it heavily cuz my man was steady cheating on me left & right. Thought about hitting up one of his acquaintances, to give him a taste of his own medicine. Knew the relationship was going in the toilet, so wanted to make him hurt even a fraction of what he put me thru. Plus this dude was HOT, so I figured it was a double-win. Never went thru with it tho, cuz I realized I wanted to be the better person and not stoop to his level. But I have to admit, every now & again I sometimes wish I did.

I’m with Tubbs…def Keyshia Cole..she exudes that ghetto sexiness..then Nia Long as a strong second option.

The problem with these one nighters is that women get emotionally and always turn something more than what it is..especially if you put it down right..As a man we dont know how to hold back or we’ll be on this site getting dogged out by Chelsea (lol) or someone up in here. Im just sayin….

So why do women think that giving a man some ass will make them commit. It even sounds dumb when you say it.

@davey boy

hell no…i dated a guy who was just a lil local rapper around my county and it damn near drove me crazy. I’m NOT a jealous chick, but im not a push over either. There’s WAY TOO MUCH MESS that goes with dating someone well known..on a national level? No way…uh uh

Have you ever experienced a one-night stand that went terribly wrong?

um yeah… it turned into a 3-month long monogomous relationship that f*cked my head up!

Have you ever used sex to advance the relationship? (i.e. I’m going to give him some, so he will be my man. Be honest.)

Yes. but that’s all I’m saying lol

Have you ever used a one-night stand to get back at a loved one?

No… that’s not my style

In today’s climate of rampant STDs, are one-night stands still a viable option?

as long as you use protection and not make a huge habit of it…

If you could choose one person to have a one-night stand with, who would it be and why?

OOOOOH… can I pick a celebrity? because I want to lick all kinds of things off of Boris Kodjoe’s abs… and then some… lol

@songbird,

That would have backfired on you. If it was one of his people, they might have tried to flip it and make it seem like you were some kind of whore. I don’t think that approach really works with guys IMO

At least not guys that I know

@ Blaze,

Damn, I forgot about Nia Long. She’s always gonna be on the list. She could be 50 years old, and probably still get it.

@blaze

no u didnt just call me out?!? lol..im not a man hater I swear, but the trife shit SOME (most) of ya’ll do makes me ANGRY!!! So i let it out! lmao..

so to the men of this post i have a question…why do you have sex with women if/when you KNOW that MOST (not all) of us get emotionally attached when we get intimate?

LMAO @ that video… hot mess…

Would hittin it the first time you go out on date considered a one-nighter or the first time day you meet them? Please clarify..

@ Tubbs,

You right bruh. People talk about being safe and all, but when you want it, you want it. Here’s a good question for the ladies. How many times have you ever been getting it in with a dude, and you guys get caught up, and the next thing you know, you guys are doing it. Then like 10 pumps later, you stop him and ask him to put on a rubber. Happens ALL THE TIME. That aint safe.

@ Tubbs — it IS stupid. Definitely. Can’t speak for everyone, but for me it was during HS, and it wasn’t thought out. It was “I’m crushing HARD on this guy, he’s FINALLY showing me some attention, we’re going at it, and well, give him what he wants and he’ll give me what I want”. Learned the hard way it don’t work like that. For women sex is more emotional than physical, so it can be hard to understand a guy being able to separate the two.

@jaded NY,

Yeah the video was funny as hell. Good song. The lead girl needs to be added to my list…lol

@tubbs

i can answer that…

cuz we believe is ya’ll sorry asses…we HOPE that maybe this time, he’ll see that I’m giving up my body to him and he’ll know that its not because I like his dreds or his Benz (hmm…) but because I’m diggin him and I’m tryna be his lady…

But…IT NEVER WORKS!! So i stopped giving it up…im not bout to look dumb trying to convince you I’m a good chick that can brighten up your life.

@Blaze,

I think the two are the same, but I guess you can respect each other a little more in the morning if you actually started out on a date instead of meeting that night. Although the morning after is never an option for me. You’ve got to go!!!

@Chelsea
On average how long you make a dude wait before he hits it?

@B.C. — Not with me. Once the pants are off I’m thinking about where they’re at… and he ain’t even getting close to the door with that thing til it’s on.

@chelsea,

so you’ll never have a one night stand again? Not even with Luda or Nelly?

@songbird,

you’re a good one then, because it happens a lot more than people will admit.

@blaze

i dont have a waiting period…i used to do that crap when i first started college, but it’s not realistic…so when I was dating it was whenever he got me heated enough to attack him..however long that may take…i’ll leave it at that

@tubbs

Never will I have a ONS again…never.

Luda and Nelly are gorgeous men, but I don’t even really know if I’ll take the sex if I had the chance. They’re still men, and my..ahem..goodies…are still attached to my heart and brain…i’d feel like a huge loser if they got it and i was rejected by a millionaire. Up the pain factor on SO many levels

@Tubbs..
No disrepect ladies but there are a lot of you who dont know how to leave when its time to leave. It is what it is….no hanging out for breakfast…Too many women think the fellas are going to re-enact that love Jones scene….no omelettes beging cooked up in this piece (not usually..)

@blaze — i’m going with that a 1-nite stand is someone you met that nite, and it’s assumed there’s no calling afterwards. Sex on the 1st date is different, as you have already established some sort of something, and tho there’s still no expectation beyond that nite (cuz it’s *is* just a first date), there’s still room for something more if both parties choose to - I don’t think just cuz you bump bellies on date #1 that should recategorize a person’s status from ‘potential date’ to ‘jump-off’ position.

@Chelsea
“i’d feel like a huge loser if they got it and i was rejected by a millionaire. Up the pain factor on SO many levels”

So you would you feel better if it was a broke cat that rejected you??

@Blaze,

I’m glad somebody else feels that way. Just because we just did this, it doesn’t mean that I’m your boo now. If it builds in the future then cool, but right now, I think you should go…lol. (My bad ladies)

@blaze

No i would feel hurt regardless if any dude in any tax bracket took what I see as something very valuable and precious that I’m offering and gave me and my feelings no consideration. To get *ucked by a celeb and then (possibly) tossed to the side like a groupie (which is technically what I would be) would suck. Period.

@songbird,

I agree with how you described it. But honestly, its human nature to recategorize someone if that happens. It doesn’t happen all the time, but I have been guilty of only looking at a first date as a jump off after we had sex on date one.

@Tubbs
Exactly..but we do have to admit that we came across one or two we thought were going to be a typical jumpoff and we did an eddie murphy joint from Boomerang….”call me”…lol.

It would kind of suck though to get played by a celeb because you’d see them on TV all the time after that, and then be reminded of what they did

@Blaze,

Yeah man…lol. That happened to me a few months back. Just had me clutching the sheets like damn, what just happened to me…LMAO.

@ Tubbs, If I could have a one night stand it would be with Reggie Bush, no lie he is fine!!! I know I know, ppl say this and that about him, but shit he’s still a fine man!!!

@Tubbs
Man she didn’t have you clutching the sheets did she?…lol Thats real talk though.

U can’t kick every jumpoff to the curb…its about to get cold plus we need someone to get through this recession with. We all go through droughts here and there.

1. Yes I’ve had a one night stand go wrong. Still mad about it.

2. I once thought sex was going to keep my man faithful but it didn’t.

3. I should have done this one.

4. I think one night stands can still happen. It’s a big gamble though.

5. I’d have to choose Tyrese as my one night stand. Ever since Baby Boy, I’ve been hooked.

@blaze

hang on to the jumpoffs cuz they come in handy huh?

i guess that’s what the definition of a jumpoff is tho, huh? can’t get mad at that!

and fellas…no one has answered my question yet! (checks watch impatiently) I’m waiting…

@ Davey Boy — for me, the recategorization happens if the sex sucked! If it was good, then hell, we can still talk :)

*Have you ever experienced a one-night stand that went terribly wrong?

Nope!

*Have you ever used sex to advance the relationship? (i.e. I’m going to give him some, so he will be my man. Be honest.)

How do you say no in german? Nein

*Have you ever used a one-night stand to get back at a loved one?

Nope i’m not that interesting.

*In today’s climate of rampant STDs, are one-night stands still a viable option?

Strap it up!!!

*If you could choose one person to have a one-night stand with, who would it be and why?

Only one person? *thinks* I have a thing for Chris Paul, I would have said Larry Johnson but i’m sure we’ve all heard the internet rumors, lol

@ Blaze there is a difference, a one night stand is where u do it the first time u meet and thats it, ya’ll don’t do it anymore…sex on the first date is not a one night stand as long as ya’ll still talk and still having sex…hence being more than one night…but if u hit it on ur first date and don’t do it anymore then yea thats a one night stand…i hope that helped

@songbird,

That’s real talk…lol

@Bahama,

Neva eva, eva eva????

@Songbird where have u been, haven’t seen u post in a minute!!!

@Chelsea
We still jump out there and take that chance even when we know feelings will come into play. As men we’ve learned how to be elusive and keep a certain distance to keep the feelings in check. Its just a matter of time when a woman realize it was nothing more….Not trying to be a player so its best to be honest up front..The problem is women only hear what they want to hear..

I suppose I need the true definition of one night stand. I have heard that it means someone you just met and sleep with and never contact again. If so, then yes. I have. It didn’t go terribly wrong, he turned out to be the best friend of a future boyfriend which made things, ackward.
The last guy I dated I used sex as a way to advance to the next phase. Didn’t work out.
I slept with an ex once immediately breaking up with my then boyfriend. It was less than 6 hours later.
They are NOT an option. Those care free ‘I can’t catch nothing’ days are long since gone. Ms. Miss keeps her pantaloons locked up like freaking Fort Knox.
If I could pick one person…If I wouldn’t feel bad about it later. The last guy I dated. Because it was the bomb diggity.

@Chelsea,

Most men do it, because we want it…lol. It’s just that simple. We don’t think about it that deep. That’s why it comes as a shock when you women get all emotional afterwards.

@Ms. Miss

6 hours later? damn that’s cold.

@BC never ever what, One night stand? nope senor can’t say that I have

I know Davey. But that dude put me through so much BS I felt as if I owed it to him to hurt him back.

@Ms. Miss

“Ms. Miss keeps her pantaloons locked up like freaking Fort Knox.”

Girl I feel u!

@blaze

true…i think women are not realistic most of the time when it comes to men. We all want that stupid Love Jones/Boomerang fairy tale type stuff…but lo and behold most of the men today don’t have those same feelings…all that elusivity and stuff is just the potion for hurt feelings. And then you end up with women like me…lol

Note to self. When I get involved with Ms. Miss never cross her because she will sleep with an an, then set you on fire (I read your comment yesterday…lol)

@Bahama,

I’m just saying. You always come across so innocent, but your smile looks kind of mischevious ;-)

@Chelsea
Most men don’t intend to hurt womens feelings when we pursue the ass. We just hope we’re dealing with a grown woman that can keep the situation in perspective.

I cosign with Blaze on that one.

@BC

I am innocent *insert smirk here* LMAO

@what? Hey, yeah I’ve been creepin lately, been CRAZY swamped with work & life. I know how these posts get and I just couldn’t post nothing cuz I knew I’d be checking it non-stop - and I got work to do! LOL

Bahama Bahama Bahama………I can tell that you’re far from innocent. I guess we need to get you in a room alone with Chris Paul to prove it LMAO

@blaze

I know for a fact that men dont set out to intentionally hurt females feelings. but damn if that aint the way it ends up…

@Chelsea,

So it seems like you think men hurt women more than women hurt men

LMAO!!! i am too innocent! you can’t see the halo?? look hard! lol and if you put in the same room with CP3 you can lock the door and throw away the key

@Chelsea
How do you meet most of the men you deal with? No disrespect, and please dont take it the wrong way, but you seem a little upset at men right now. Holla at us, we’ll tighten your game up for you..lol

@Tubbs - didn’t we have this discussion a while back?? LOL

Davey huh? It is shameful what I did but it is true. I was like 17 and honestly, a bitch. I’m celibate now so don’t even have to worry about it. But yea, you really dont want to be on my bad side. Turn into the Joker on that ass.

@tubbs

hmmm…possibly. Men are notorious for being love em and leave em. Women not so much. However I’m sure every woman on this post (at the very least) has broken at least 2 hearts (yes, ladies TWO!) in her lifetime. I just dont think we’re half as nonchalant about our actions as men are. I think i mentioned before that women are BETTER liars and cheaters, just not as frequent or widespread, that’s all

@songbird,

We did, but I’m still not satisfied with the answer…lol

@ Ms. Miss,

I’m making a mental note of all of this :)

I used to be NOTORIUS for love em and leave em also. I honestly think I have lots of bad karma coming my way…

Honestly I have had dudes tell me all I was missing was a penis.

@Chelsea,

I hear you. It baffles me how women can brag about being better cheaters. That’s not exactly something I’d be proud to claim.

Davey: I like a man that pays attention. Lol

@ Ms. Miss,

And what do you say about that? Do you think you date like a dude?

@Chelsea
I dont think men should be blamed for the major misconnection between men and woman. I think we’ve all did our part in hurting feelings and breaking hearts. All those cats you talked about dissin for bad sex probably were equally hurt. You should’ve worked with those brothers….gave them a few more chances to hit that thang right..just sayin….

@ Ms. Miss

Hey, I aim to please LOL

I’ve never had a TRUE one night stand where I didn’t know the guy beforehand. However, I did have “sex” with a guy that was an acquaintance of a friend of mine once. I put sex in quotations because I started to laugh when I saw his package. He’d been trying to get in my panties for over a year, talking smack about what he was going to do if he ever got the chance. He finally caught me on one of those weak days, and it lasted about 15 minutes. Laughter probably isn’t a turn on. We never hooked up again.

Never used sex to advance anything. Never had to. Men always want to lock me down, never the other way around.

STDs: In this day, it’s risky to have sex with your spouse.

If I could have a one night stand, I have no one. I’m greedy. I want it more than once.

BC: I used to. In all honesty I used to be a cheater and not to boast about it I was a damn good one. I was using these guys to get what I want and saying whatever I needed to get what I needed. After I got what I needed or became bored I was out. No calls. No explanations.

It is pretty disturbing looking back at it now and especially since I was doing this shit at a VERY young age. But hey, i’m older and wiser now. I regret it because I never want to intentionally hurt people. I’m a much better person now.

I do not do one night stands, I’m not one to judge anyone that does it.But doesn’t one nights out you at a higher risk of becoming only “friends with benefits”? As for as using sex to an advantage I have heard married women say give your man some loving the day before his pay day and ask for shopping money the next day.This is coming from women that schedule sex days

@Reina
I agree with you…If it took me a lot of effort to finally hit it then I want residuals..something for slow nights.

@Lyricalluv,

Have you ever used sex to your advantage?

@blaze

idk…just general life i guess. And I only state the things that I have experienced personally. If I’ve experienced negativity and foulness then I can only speak on that, right?

idk blaze. bad sex is…a waste of time. especially for 2nd, 3rd, and th chances.get all worked up to be let down and having to finish the job yourself and then get him the hell out of your place or leave asap from his place.

@Tubbs NOOOOO NEVER, I just wow them with my womanly charm.lol

wait i missed a lot talkin to this cutie at work:

ok…clairification. Men cheat, men lie, women do all the same. I dont think all men are horrible bastards, but I do have to say the men that I’ve been involved with, as well as ALL (dad, grandad, brothers, stepdad, etc.) have been serial cheaters, liars and heartbreakers. I’m not perfect…I’ve cheated and schemed and conned people in relationships too.

lyrical: charm, vjay, it’s all the same right? lol i’m just kidding.

@ blaze

Exactly! Insatiable could be my middle name. It’s not, but IT COULD. I give up nada for free and without deep analysis. If you’re given the chance, you will get it again. Unless you get in there and behave like Sarah Palin will in this debate tonight, then I’m kicking you out because obviously, you are not ready for this responsibility.

Reina: Best. Comment. Ever. LOL

@Reina
I feel you…but could you please expand on “this responsibility” a man would have to be ready for..? Just curious…

@Reina,

That was pretty damn funny…lol. She’ll do well tonight though. It’s not a debate. Just question and answer.

@Reina

my girl! lol…

@Reina,

I’m with Blaze. Inquiring minds want to know.

@Ms. Miss
lmao, don’t incriminate yourself chica.

@blaze

oh and if you can’t hit this right the first time I bless you with the opportunity then there’s nothing I can do for you, blaze…

im not in the business of training grown men general sex stuff…if he just needed some help being more experimental that would be one thing…

but if you hump like a virgin 14 year old…naw homie, imma have to pass on you!

@Lyricalluv,

yeah, your womanly charm sound like sex to me, LOL

I hate when women say that they are blessing us by letting us get some. Like your stuff is all magical…lol

@Tubbs
You just have to know me,to apperance the WOW EFFECT, lmao

chelsea I agree. I am not a training camp.

@tubbs

oh it is…it is

I meant experince, typing and working at the same time

“so to the men of this post i have a question…why do you have sex with women if/when you KNOW that MOST (not all) of us get emotionally attached when we get intimate?”

–Cause look at your picture chelsea…lol… THAT’S WHY!! The little head wants what it wants…then the big head does the rationalizing.

“she doesn’t like me THAT much”

“she won’t be that upset”

“maybe I do want a relationship”

It’s 2008 and I still don’t think women get JUST HOW DIFFERENT a man’s thought process is BEFORE and AFTER he cums. It’s almost like we’re two different people sometimes…lol

@Chelsea
No doubt, as me must handle our BI on the first go..just like the women need to..but some women hold out one important aspect of sex and that seperates the girls from the grown ass women Chelsea. Grown women know how to keep a man and know how to keep him coming back….WHats the problem Chelsea??lol

*bows* Thank you, gracias, merci.

@ blaze

This is prime, highly sought after, real estate right here. IF I invite you to an open house, you’d best put down an offer I can’t refuse or else it’s going back on the market.

My answers:

I have had a one night stand that went bad.
I have used sex to advance a relationship and I have used it to make a point.
No I haven’t used a one night stand to get back at someone. Thank God.

They are not viable options because it is just too risky.

My one night stand would be someone I know I wouldn’t see ever again, like going away to Jamaica, Trindad or something like that.

That felt like I was in rehab.

Davey all of me is magical. Write it down.

@Reina
I hear you Ma but if it’s real prime property, as good as you say it is, it would never, ever be avaialable on the market at all..it would be fully paid for, furnished and fully occupied.

@Preston

lol…touche Mr. Swagger…touche!

@blaze

oh hell naw…lol…but i get you. Good point…don’t know if its a difference between girls and grown women tho. I’ve always hated the term “keep a man” tho…irritates me. But I ain’t found one WORTH keeping, so maybe my attitude is helping me more than hindering, perhaps?

@ blaze

That is true, but it’s based on the assumption that I am looking to sell. Purchase offers have been made but…It’s more of lease agreement with the option to sell.

@ Ms. Miss,

Can I borrow a pen :)

@Reina
By the looks of it that thing should be settled and left to be inherited for generations to come- non-negotiable.

Davey what happened to the one you had? Guess you weren’t taking notes after all…

@Ms. Miss,

No, I took too many notes. I ran out of ink LMAO

@ blaze

I can’t tell if you’re complimenting me or suggesting that I should be shared?

Good answer Davey lol.

lol…I try

@blaze

wait wait wait…so cuz YOU don’t wanna stop your panty chasing and meaningless sexcapades…then that means that something is wrong with ME? and that all of a sudden I ain’t on my grown and sexy?

puh-leeze

@ Reina
Not at all, you should be dealt with only by a sole proprietor

chelsea vs. blaze

12 rounds to decide it all. It’s going dowwwnnnnn!!!!!!

that is a toughie. while I agree with blaze I also agree with chelsea.

@Chelsea
You might want to start thinking like a guy….you got to catch that all up front before you give up the goodies. They say you appreciate it more if you work hard for it.

@Ms. Miss,

shhh.. Sit next to me and eat some of this popcorn

@davie boy

you just a mess

@blaze
who says the men who have been graced with the goodies aint work for it? I may have slipped (hence one night stand) in the distant past, but as an adult I examine everything.

Im a difficult person to get along with (huge surprise right) and I expect a lot…some men cant get with that, some men dont like the fact that it takes me a WHILE to come around and show interest or committment. Those are THEIR issues not mine. My job as a woman is not to convince some low-life loser to change his life…it’s to show him what kind of amazing life he COULD HAVE if he recognize a real woman when he sees one. Maybe YOU need to reevaluate your panty-chasing, boo…

School em Preston!!

@ Stenneth — Appreciate it my man! I’m trying! Davey, Tubbs & Blaze been holdin it down though…since…early. lol. Whattup fellas.

Chelsea–I feel you. I see the little two piece and like every other dude I’m wit it. But unlike most cats (usually the younger ones) I’ll be up front and let you know. I’m not in the position to work and be what your lookin for. You wouldn’t give me the draws…I’d be upset about it…lol…but honesty and mutual respect would be there. And when boys become men they realize that that honesty and respect will benefit me more in the long run than trying to lie my way to a nut.

“When it comes to love I don’t lie, and the girls respect me for it” —Girls, Girls, Girls (Remix)

*takes seat next to Davey Boy*

@Chelsea..
lol..first off let me answer your previous question by saying there is a difference between a grown ass woman and a girl…we wont get into that.

Regarding re-evaluating my panty-chasing…My women stick around, show interest and committ. Grown people don’t have to engage by trying to “convince” each other

@Preston
Good lookin out bruh…please take over….a brother needs some lunch.

@ Blaze:

I don’t disagree with that. Unfortunately, all the potential buyers so far have been lacking. It must be the state of the economy.

@Preston

that’s all we ask for…and honestly, you never know how a woman might react.

Honesty is sexy and…stimulating.

@blaze

that’s what women do! women also commit/ride or die for murderers, child molesters, domestic abusers and drug addicts…

give a chick a dude who’s decent-looking, not flat broke, can crack a joke, has a car and can blow her back out on the regular and she’s planning the wedding after the first date. That ain’t special. Yawn…come harder than that

It’s crazy. I’m assuming the fellas in here know…but for those who don’t. Honesty will get you WAY MORE play. 100% of the time.

“Trust me on this, I’ve done the research!” –A Pimp Named Slickback

@Reina — I’m not gonna lie…your flawless segue between Palin, Politics, Real Estate and languages (yeah i caught the gracias and merci)…is doing it for me…

Aight, I’m about to park it next to Davey & Ms Miss. I hope yall didn’t finish all the popcorn.

@Blaze & Tubbs, get some lunch playboy. I gotcha…

@Reina,

I thought I gave a reasonable offer despite the state of the economy

@Chelsea,

You remind me of someone from my past. can’t put my finger on it just yet, but I’ll let you know as soon as it comes to me.

What’s with the keeping a man ish? I don’t KEEP men. They STAY. Humans aren’t pets. It’s HIS choice if he sticks around. It’s HIS choice if he comes home each day. I will just be ME and what that entails.

@Preston,

Whaddup bruh. I wondering how the women are feeling about the balance around here now.

i like how “some” ppl in the post are assuming no man has ever tried to stay with me. lol..its kinda laughable really (I mean have you SEEN the avatar? lol)

yeah I’ve been done wrong, but lets not go as far as to say I can’t KEEP a man…I’ve had to cut plenty of them loose on my own terms. Thank you very much

@tubbs

I remind you of someone? should i start gettin offended now or after you tell me who she is (please dont say an ex)? lol… :)

Tubbs I love men so it is lovely. Hugs for everyone!

@Chelsea,

I see you over there patting yourself on the back. I aint mad at cha…lol.

And no, it’s not an ex. Still working on it.

@ Preston

Danke! (Thank you in German)Unfortunately, you’re just looking for a jumpoff.

“It’s 2008 and I still don’t think women get JUST HOW DIFFERENT a man’s thought process is BEFORE and AFTER he cums. It’s almost like we’re two different people sometimes…lol”

So men are schizos? I get it! Explains so much.

@ Tubbs

You told me no whining. I’m still hurt. And I like the balance now.

@ Reina,

I still love ya. Just wanted to keep it real. Find me a man that says he likes that, and I’ll call him a liar to his face.

Interesting
Seems I showed up late but I’m still on time. I dunno about the nupes but QUES have this problem all the time(inserts elbow in FG’S side),no seriously I’ve had this problem all my adult life with the whole “use sex to keep me”. I always got fitted with the term “husband material” by women I encountered. However I was just being my normal self,that classification always clouded womens judgement when it came to me. I’d tell them I’m flawed just like everyone else,and I’m NOT LOOKING FOR RELATIONSHIPS only fuck partners(blunt I know). But this goes back to me and Reinas convo about women allowing emotions to cloud what’s’s right n their faces. So I learned not to give women penis n think it wouldn’t come with consequences bc u may have the magic wang in ya pants,but a womans feelings always seems to overpower her better judgement

@ Tubbs

It’s cute, I say!

@Reina,

Sorry I’m just not convinced. You should poll the men you date and see what you come back with.

@Reina — HA!! Your memory and attention to detail also do it for me!! lol!

Yeah, it’s true. Single dudes can be a little schizo on them lonely nights. The pre-cum and post-cum thought patterns are crazy! Ladies, if it’s your man…honesty won’t be an issue (ideally). If yall are just fuckin…ask him anything you want a straight answer to after sex…

@black You got a point about the consequences. Somebody mentioned earlier about what happens after a man cums but I dont think anyone talked about what happens after some women do. Talk about schizo.

@and1grad — YOU DAMN RIGHT!!

@Chelsea
I need to go back to your #133 post

“that’s what women do! women also commit/ride or die for murderers, child molesters, domestic abusers and drug addicts…

“give a chick a dude who’s decent-looking, not flat broke, can crack a joke, has a car and can blow her back out on the regular and she’s planning the wedding after the first date. That ain’t special. Yawn…come harder than that”

DO you need to re-read what you wrote before I respond?

Ill say this but I never allowed the women I sexed to believe that their va jay jay was more powerful than my magic wang,everything was 50/50 bc without me she couldn’t get directions to her destiny and me likewise

And off subject,I’m sitting in my kitchen stepping by myself n cleaning to some isley brothers. Omg yall I’m turning into my mom/dad/grandmother all rolled n one.lol
Like do you all exude some of the traits of your parents as u got older? Bc I notice I drink a lot less,my big ole subwoofers n my truck got replaced by nothing but treble n nice n smooth r n b. Lol

Someone save meeeee. Lol
Gimme some gucci mane n my life

**The crowd waits for Chelsea to re-read her statement.

“I don’t KEEP men. They STAY. Humans aren’t pets. ”

lol…they sound pretty pet-like to me, but I don’t train nobody, like I said earlier.

without me she couldn’t get directions to her destiny

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

LMAO…classic Black

that statement was just what it said.

FOR THE MOST PART, give a chick a MAN with a penis and she is gonna be right there by his side til he forces her to detach herself. WTF do i need to reread?

that was pretty clear from where i’m sitting

(leans back in rolly-chair and smirks) Proceed, blaze…can’t WAIT to ear this…

looks like I missed a lot today. I’m gonna have to catch up.

LMAO@ Chelsea,

Get’em girl. We can’t let these men win today.

@Mz. Cheif

I wont let them be victorious if I can help it…lol…

@ Chelsea:

Shh! Don’t point out my contradiction.

@ Black:

You want me to come after your behind today, don’t you? I got a meeting, but I’ll Be Back!

@Chelsea
LOL..I rest my case. Your response said it all.

CHICKS need a man with a Penis, Grown women have relations with Men.

@blaze

exactly…which is why they settle for you…

@Chelsea
Ok, well when you find a MAN that settles for You, please let me know.

@B.C
And I’m dead azz serious,don’t let women fool you the thought of penis or sexuality period makes a womans naps turn straight. A mans sexual swagger is a powerful thang. Hell u think they mess with losers so much for. So don’t allow yourself to believe the hype,bc I know for a fact I walk n a room its dirty thoughts going on inside one of their gorgeous minds

@blaze

that’s where your missing the point…GROWN PEOPLE don’t settle for each other…they find the people that are their compliments and develop a bond that is distributed as love…

so if any MAN is calling himself settling for me, then obviously he has a lot of growing up to do, cuz I’m on a level that’s way beyond settling capabilities…ok Grasshopper?

I dunno if I like this particular topic today. I’m so lost. I find myself caught in the middle.

Dang, I’m late again, but anywho.

1. Only one ONS ever (I’m a serial monogamist), and I would never do it again because dude didn’t get the memo, kept calling, and when I decided to see if it could develop into anything more, he showed his butt and I had to kick him to the curb. Funny thing, we dated for a while after the ONS, but never did have sex again.

2. Yes I have, and it has never failed. I guess you can say that I’m doing it now that I’m celibate, because it would have to be a heck of a man, and we’d have to definitely moving to til-death-do-us-part, before I even though about unlocking my treasure chest.

3. Nope. I told y’all a while ago that I’m like Miranda from Sex and the city: Once we break up, you do not exist. And that includes your friends too, if I can swing it.

4. I think p