Let Me Make It Right This Time

I truly believe that time heals a lot of pain and regrets. But the problem that stays in the back of your mind is if she/he did it once, will they do it again? On the flipside, sometimes you need to go back out there, date again, to realize what you had wasn’t so bad. Starting over can be tough

Making a relationship work after a break all depends on one thing: humility.

Both of you can really want to be with one another but if you both can’t put your pride aside and make it work, then it’s doomed.

This was truly beautiful. It really was.

Prior to yesterday, my response may have been to not forgive him. He left me. Why does he deserve a 2nd chance?

As of yesterday, my response is if the feelings are strong enough, then try it again. Mistakes are made, and sometimes, a simple act like swallowing your pride could release so much happiness.

I think sometimes 2nd chances are needed, but it depends on what happened.

Hey reina girl!

This was beautifully written.

“Believe me; I understand that you don’t owe me anything. But if I could just get another chance, then I promise that I would love you freely, openly, and completely. That’s my solemn vow to you.”

Those lines have me feeling all mushy. Any female that locks you down, FG, is a lucky girl.

I’m actually on the oppposite side of the table, meaning I’m the one who walked away and regretted it, so I can’t comment on how he felt and how he would have felt if I had swallowed my pride and my shame (sort of, there’s a better word, but I can’t think of it) and asked for a second chance. But this song rang so true…

Hi Nisha!

You’re here today and early. I was going to send an APB out on you.

I agree…but there are a lot of guys who have too much pride to say that.

Breakups are not always based on differences but just the simple lack of communication. An older woman schooled me the other day by saying being in a relationship/marriage may have a different meaning than what it means to your SO.

I know mamas I was M.I.A for a second.

I agree with blaze…there is a block when it comes to communication. Folks are too busy trying to prove a point.

Exactly. Communication is key, and I’m guilty, in the past, of expecting my mind to be read. My pride has also gotten in the way of my happiness.

Experience and heartache are helluva teachers, though.

I read the posting daily, but today the posting really hits home. You know in your heart you want to forgive them, but how do you get your head to agree with your heart. I’ve been married for 11 yrs and he told me one day that it was not worth working out. After much trying to explain that it was I finally gave in and said ok. 2 months later he has realized that he was wrong. Now he wants to work things out, but again how do I stop thinking “he will do it again”. And can you give him a fair 2nd chance with this in your head. Maybe someone can shed some light on this for me. Thank you.

@Eva
U should give him another chance just for the simple fact he put away his pride and came back. Maybe start off slowly with the reconciliation process before jumping back in completely. U will always be skeptical, its only human nature.

Interestingly enough I am facing this situation. He walked away and stayed gone for two years. He seems to want to come back on the same terms but that isn’t going to happen. What made it good was that he send me a heartfelt apology admitting that he was wrong. That opened up my heart so I was willing to hear him out. When he called, there was no animosity, but I will admit that I hesitate. That stems from the fact that he hasn’t made his intentions clear, therefore my fear is that he will up and walk out again. I rarely go back to relationships that didn’t work out (I am also usually the one to end it) but I would give him another chance only if he laid it all out and there were no questions and “what ifs.” The trust that once existed is now pretty much gone but with work it could be restored. What he has going for him is that there were no “gross offenses” – abuse, outright cheating, etc.

Wow…someone once told me this “when someone breaks up with you, it means they took a look at your relationship and you and decided they were better off without either and wanted to look somewhere else”

I have lived by those words from that day on. “People make mistakes”. Very true and people also must deal with the consequences of those mistakes. Your consequence is to never be able to get back what you willing gave away.

I’m with you reina I was guilty of wanting that man to be a mind reader but then when you do commuicate they don’t really listen anyway (well some).

I like that chelsea.

@XChelsea
Would you consider getting back with your ex fiance? Would you hear him out?

@Nisha
thanks

@blaze
never in a million years. ever

@blaze

i *might* hear him out…but it won’t be anytime soon. It’ll be after I’m married with children…then I *might* ask him what really happened. Maybe..

I think it would be hard. In the back of my mind, I would be fearful of her doing it again. Can I trust her? If I still had feelings for her, I would give it some serious consideration.

@Chelsea
SO u never knew the actual reason he left? Was it another woman?

This makes me think of that Donnell Jones “Where I Wanna Be”, and I HATE that song. How dare you? If you break up with me, I’m not going to take you back. I just won’t.

However, some relationships end solely on miscommunication and pride. I’m guilty of both. In such a situation, a second chance will all the cards revealed is acceptable.

If you could walk away that easy you never really wanted it, so when you try to come back and find that your spot is taken or no longer up for grabs, just gracefully bow out.

@blaze

we were engaged and he was overseas. The day he was flying in to see me, another chick IM-ed me and then forwarded me emails and pics and IM convos between her and my fiance. Plus they had joint bank accts and credit cards and she had actually dropped him off to the airport to catch the plane to come see me. Even then he denied that he even knew who she was. With the photo and documented proof. I was DONE after that

@ Chelsea…

No way is he allowed to come back lol. He was a monkey’s ass. SMH

@Chelsea
I now can understand your view towards men in general. In time you will learn how to trust

@ Reina
That song is actually what a lot of men are thinking when they need to make a decision about their current situation versus leaving for someone new.

And whats up with Beyonce and these female anthems….?

@ Chelsea

I completely understand why you’re counting days now. And you’re reluctance. Where does he live? I KNOW people.

He needs a swift kick and I think I still have my xena moves (looks in the mirror and flexes).

@Nisha

girl…u have no idea.

@blaze

thanks, but he was just the END of a long line of failures in relationships with me

@Nisha

thanks mama

@Reina

at last email he was still in Japan…he’s military remember? So who knows…but I’m done with it all.

Thanks for the support tho guys. I truly appreciate it!!

@ blaze

Her song “if I were a boy” is so “ON” I agreed with her 100% if we did some of the things men have done…it would be another story.

@Chelsea
Consider it a blessing. God showed you what you were really getting before you said “I do.”

@Nisha

you know..I think that even if we acted exactly like men and did the shady nasty things they do, I dont think they would even recognize it as their own behavior. Men tend to be very good at flipping things around so only YOU (the woman) are at fault. And it’s like Steve Harvey says “you can’t do what I (male) do and still be a lady at the end of the day”…we’d be looked at as all kinds of whores and b**ches…sad but true IMO

@Moe

I do…but some days its so hard because…ugh. I’m just angry. Angry with the lies, angry with the denial and angry that my whole family was involved in planning this wedding and so forth…I’m just mad…cuz all of that was so unnecessary, ya know. But I know what u mean

whoo-sah….ok I’m back

@Nisha
Yeah and that other joint bout single women and how a man needs to put a ring on it…WTF? That puts a lot of pressure on the fellas. She already gave the ladies enough anthems…

my mistakes were broken promises. i never realized until i was older that ALL WOMEN REMEMBER PROMISES. So through counseling i learned to broaden the promises instead of narrowing them into damn near inattainable goals

@Chelsea
I can only imagine. I’m sure I would feel the same way. Again…time heals everything.

@Chelsea
As long as you received the lessons from that situation you should be able to move on to the next man. But its not a problem to allow time to heal your pain.

@guys

I know what you mean. Trust me I do…but how can someone come back from something like this? This wasn’t just a dude I dated for a few years and things went south…he BOUGHT me a RING..made nice with my family…he said MARRIAGE. Like it doesnt get more serious then that…and then…cheats and vanishes. Honestly…who do u trust after that?

@chelsea,

You know what you are right! I mean for me its all about communication…some guys dont listen and that is where the problem lies, along with other things but communication is the key. I dont want anyone who feels they are “stuck” there are no shackles around here sir, but please know that if you leave to see if the grass is greener, you dont have access to come back at your convenience lol.

@the ladies
sometimes you all are so concerned with how we act,and if you acted like us,that you dont take the time to realize that some of the things you ladies do are no better.We all have our faults and discrepancies,its just that the mens faults are more openly discussed

there are no shackles around here sir, but please know that if you leave to see if the grass is greener, you dont have access to come back at your convenience lol.

^^^^truer words have never been said

@Chelsea
Im assuming the guy was in his early 20′s correct? Men at that age, and I’m speaking from experience, really dont know what they want. They’re still trying to find themselves, get established with their careers and its all about qauntity at that age.

@ Chelsea…I agree. How can you ever give someone who does that another chance? No way! The deceit and the mistrust makes it hard to ever love again (ok my bad had to quote Jay-z on that one lol).

@blaze

nope…he was 28 with a daughter and had been in the military for 10 years.

@chelsea & nisha
you have the power to allow a person back in your good graces.
seems as if you two cant handle that situation,bc if you do you’d hold it against the person

@black

letting someone back in my good graces is one thing. Allowing them to pick up a relationship with me again after they willingly tossed it aside is another. I will be your friend (maybe…depending on the circumstances in which you chose someone else over me) but I will NEVER be your lover again. Never

@ blaze

I have to disagree, there are SOME men at that age who have DJS “donell Jones Syndrome” but I know some great guys who are married to my friends and family members who are dedicated to their women. They dont have that syndrome lol.

@chelsea

to me being lovers and in love is two different things

or are we talking about the same thing?

@Nisha & Chelsea
Have you two ever broke up with a man and regretted it later?

@black

Ok…if my ex fiance called and asked could we be on good terms, could I forgive him and just be cordial…i just may say yes.

But if he ever came to me and said ‘can we try it again’…I’d laugh and then spit in his face

is that clearer?

@blaze
your so correct
“statistically speaking”
men more readily marry between the ages of 28-35
women between 20-25

huge difference

@ black

No it is something I can handle. Again it depends on the situation, I dont think ole dude deserves another chance based on how he carried things. If the situation was different then maybe.

@black

i was 20…he was 28, financially stable and had a career and was a father to one

so whats his excuse?

@chelsea…no i was asking when u said lovers were u speaking about someone who u were in love with(just trying to clear stuff up lady)

spit in his face tho?
not a good look

@Chelsea
How long we’re you two together?

@nisha
never said he deserved another chance

@chelsea
excuses are tools of incompetence
really wasnt giving one

@black

Yes I have but it was more of a communication thing. I was tired of him not understanding me and I felt before we started to dislike one another lets just end it. Then after like a few months I regretted it. We talk about possibly reuniting but who knows. I am not pressed.

@blaze

almost 2 years including the time we were engaged… 5 months of that included living together

@black

by lovers i meant two people sharing an intimate romantic relationship

@chelsea

guess we think of it as two different things
bc from what u just described some men could think u just described a f* buddy

@Nisha
Please explain “he wasn’t undersatanding” you. Do you feel as if you completely understood where he was coming from?

@Chelsea
From my experience of getting that ring flashed in my face, I still trust women completely. I have to partly take blame because I must have been slackin with my game and not looking at the obvious signs that things were going wrong. Sometimes as men we take our situations for granted.

@black

no not FWB…relationship. maybe i should have added ‘committed’

@blaze

had the situation been an isolated one, i would most definitely be ok with bouncing back

but like i said…this is just the last of a long line of romantic disasters…i guess this just cemented my lack of faith in relationships.

@ blaze

He did not understand that for me I need the little things. I appreciate them vs. the Big lavish things. I dont need all that (its nice) but when I say to you “baby I would love if you did this or that,” and you you tell me “its too mushy,” or whatever then you dont understand. No I accept the fact that I am not the easiest to understand but at least I try…I dont shut it down.

thats just one part of it.

you need to communicate and be open to your SO needs. its a constant compromise.

@black

and why shouldnt i spit in his face? He fed me lie after lie for over a year…he sold me a dream and played with my emotions knowing all the while he was fully involved with someone else the entire time.

Late to the party. I can only think of one guy that I could hear saying this to me. He stopped dating me because of a question he asked about my past that I decided to be honest about and reveal and he couldn’t accept something that happened when I was a teenager and left. I was really falling for this guy, I think.

So, if Mr. Mike came to me today (we ran into each other recently and have had awkward chat online) and said that he is sorry for bailing on me. That he is accepting of me now and feels like he made a huge mistake and that he wants back into my life and wants to start over and take another shot at love with me. My answer would be absolutely not. The fact that he left me for something so stupid and in my opinion small. Something that has no bearing over who I am as a woman now. Something that I am sure is the size of a grain of rice in comparison to all the skeletons in his closet. You did not accept me. You did not accept where are what I have come from. You do not respect my honesty. You did not cherish me for who I am. I have no place in my heart for a man like that. That moment proved to me that we were not meant for each other and I thank you for walking out of my life at that moment so that the man that God created for me can take your place.

@chelsea
trust me i think out of all the combined bs relationships i think mine takes the cake for all of em.lol

only crazy thing i did was piss on her clothes not spit in her face

but after all that and being upset at women,it did me no good to hate her or women. just made me upset with myself that I allowed a person to manipulate me

@ black

Damn! lol what did she do? If you dont mind my asking

*waves at everyone*

*sits down quietly*

damn black you peed on her clothes? guess it’s better than bleach.

hey Preston. Are you not going to share?

*sits down next to Preston and offers him fries*

as for Beyonce’s Single Ladies song…

I feel like saying ‘damn right!” you fools have a good girl and then you pass her up for that other effin 20% (dont act like u aint see the Tyler Perry movie) and when the ish dont go right, now all of a sudden ‘you realize your mistake and you want a 2nd chance’…but I’m not available now. I’ve moved on mentally, emotionally and maybe even physically. maybe i have a new man…maybe I don’t…but either way, YOU aint welcome.

And dont be jealous of my new man either or be mad cuz I dont have a man yet I still keep pushing you away. if you liked me that much and didnt want nobody else to have me, then you should have made me UNavailable…by locking me down. Staying in a relationship with me and/or ultimately marrying me. Its your own fault that I’m no longer and ‘option’ for you. Was the grass greener between another chicks’ legs? IDK…but you wont be mowing the lawn over HERE anymore, playboy! trust and believe that!

Hi preston…I dont know you but I felt like I should say hi lol.

@ Miss

I know I want to knwo what did she do to have her clothes peed on lol.

*sits down next to Preston and offers him fries*

lmao…Reina

@nisha
well the day before i went online to be apart of OMEGA PSI PHI FRATERNITY INC. we were at our home chilling and I began to ask question on how she was liking her new school etc. and shit hit the fan,found out she fucked my friend when i left for school,found out she was bi-sexual and she was screwing some chic n our old hs for the past 3 yrs,then she went to school and screwed the weed man,and was having a live in relationship with a woman,and on top of that she was dating this guy her mom hooked her up with bc “we had been together to long and she needed to see other people besides me” so she threw away damn near a decade of me humiliated me,betrayed me,lied to me,hell i put up with her physical abuse’she liked to fight bc i never hit back’.literally i looked like shit for 2 1/2 yrs afterwards

@chelsea!

I love it!!! lol. Nicely put.

I go back to my previous statement

“there are no shackles around here sir, but please know that if you leave to see if the grass is greener, you dont have access to come back at your convenience lol.”

sm@tyler perry movies

guess u all didnt see the latest one bc thats actually how a lot of women act

@black

i haven’t yet…but that 80/20 rule is one i believe in whole heartedly

till this day what she did screws up how i interpret women sometimes,like i take it out on my wife and i know i do.and i find myself being overly apologetic bc its stuff that has screwed me up. like literally i held her down when folks said i was too fine for her,or i should be with them,turned down opportunities etc for her.took me a while to recover

@ Black…

I would have peed on her clothes too! lmao. See and women like her make it bad for the good women. Then we have to deal with trying to seep in trust through the cracks.

yeah she deserved that. Did you drink a lot of water b4? lol I dont like stuff like that why do you have to be so trashy?!

@ Reina — Thanks luv. I’m starving!

@ Nisha — Hey! I’m a fairly new comer. If you have a minute and would like to know just who this fool is…lol…you can click on my name.

I’ve done this. And I got her back…

Preston, Reina is trying to give you high blood pressure. Ask her if she has a vegetable that isn;t fried.

@ Ms. Miss — lol. I’ve already eaten them now! I should watch it tho…Chelsea and company just reminded me yesterday that I’m old as dirt…

yea, you are just one french fry away from a stroke old timer.

I think a breakup changes the dynamic of a relationship kind of similarly to how cheating would. I think it introduces an element of mistrust thats hard to get around. Plus you gotta deal with the fact that people change, or dont change (if that was the problem), and you might be romanticizing the past.

@Preston

not just you…you and the rest of ur crew around here. just plain ancient old farts…lmao

black that is so trife. i dont understand how you could do that to someone you are supposed to love.

@Chelsea
But we’re still sexy!!!!

@nisha

i was just tired ya know,like literally i didnt cheat i didnt look another womans way i was obvlivious to everything cept her

so now my heart turns cold towards women at times,so i constantly gotta checkmyself

**sees and1grad has posted and faints dead away because it is OBVIOUSLY a ghost**

where the HELL have you been and1? and dont say working cuz dont nobody on FG work

@miss
guess u didnt read the above
or hear the part where she burned all my frat clothes,cut up my personal clothes,kicked in my fams door and started fighting me,took a knife and carved her name in it etc. aye?

@ preston

No problem…

hey is that why my name is in gray lol? I want ppl to see who I am lol.

I agree and1. I personally think it would be in the back of my mind that you may get tired of ________ and leave me again because you did it once.

@black

carved her name in what? you? or the door?

my car,and tried to carve her name in me.lol
and after she did it all she’d call the police and have me arrested,her dad was a police captain

@ Ms.

There were pickles and lettuce on my Big Mac.

@black

damn homie…that was crazy

pfft im upset now i gotta go to the gym now n jump rope

black i didnt bother reading above because i’m lazy.

but knowing this really does make me understand how cold you were when you first started posting here. when you experience something that traumatic and severe it will definitely make you weary of people.

@chelsea
all bc she was jealous/crazy/and mad that i was leaving

Man, seriously, you guys have the MOST ENTERTAINING stories.

@ chelsea aka BET generation
I was consumed by interactions caused by my employment opportunity and found myself delayed by the unswerving punctuality of chance.

Hows that?

@and1grad

you a damn grandpa too eh? it’s ok…you want me to hold ur cane for you and lace up your orthopedic Stride Rites?

anyway…u aint got no job. Dont be tryna fool me with all those convoluted words. You aint slick

wow that was mean. what is age range for bet generation again?

also I do not watch BET. have been boycotting for close to 2 years now.

@miss
yes,it sucks bc i feel like tainted goods sometimes.Thas why i would tell women who thought i was this perfect guy that I had my faults as well. Hell till this day I have to deal with it..stuff sux

Every man I have ever been serious about has did a double-take at some point in my life. Women forgive and move on and often take back men from their past. In my experience Men have a harder time doing the same because their pride and ego get in the way. Once a relationship has run it’s course there is usually nothing left to salvage so going back for any reason is almost always a mistake. I don’t think there is anyone from my past that I would give a second chance.

@reina
forgot you led a boring life
if you hung out with me you’d have stories for years.lol

@ Miss

I know my ex is a Kappa and they dont play with that. lol

@ Black

I can see how that turns you cold but you have a wife who I am sure is in it to win it with you. That chick and her evil ways are long gone.

lol@ chelsea
Thats right. I’ll be 30 in 16 days. I cant wait. Dont worry about holding my cane…wouldnt want you to drop your Pokemon cards, young’n.

@square
please dont make this a male/female thing,just make it a human thing

@black

you’re an old married with kids fart…why do you have to deal with anything or check yourself on anything besides that which concerns your wife?

@ Black

Yes, my life was boring. I’m working on it!

@nisha
my wife is great but she has her ways as well
she reminds me of every woman in here,she hates to agree to disagree.wants to always win at all cost,but then ends up losing in the long run

@and1grad

you mean my xbox controller…i aint never effed with Pokemon…red, green or gold version…wait. Did i just say that aloud?

and i fu**ks with BET…I need some Soulja Boy in my life err now and then. Sue me!

wait…am I the baby of FG? (looks around)

@ black..

hol up now lol…we dont lose lol.

chelsea how old are you?

@Nisha

(whispers)I turned 20 in July…

I may watch bet from time to time but that SB…ummm I’ll pass lmao.

@chelsea
first things first woman,aint nothing old about me but the money.
secondly the stuff does come up at times bc I end up second quessing myself in the relationship bc i think all women are the same. Its kinda like my mind is conditioned to believing at one point women are gonna end up shitting on me so,at times its hard to work thru

@ chelsea..

shut the front door! lol

20! Go head girl ! lol

I am 24 and I am not thrilled lol

@black

whhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhyyyy? damn…why do u do this to me? Sexy sexy sexy…nakedness….muscles…abs…wait…what were we talkin about again?

Black, take that down. There are minors in here.

And I’m with Nisha. We women do not lose. We just allow y’all to think you’ve won.

@reina
yea yea yea
pumpkin martinis oct. 31 how bout it?
@nisha
yes you do lose,imo sometimes you have to agree to disagree.everybody cant be a winner to me

@reina

she said i was old…im moving it now kk

@ black

But you put a ring on the finger so you must believe in your heart she wont hurt you, its your mind playing tricks.

@black

is that a brand on your arm?

@ reina…

True indeed!

@nisha

xactly
and i know this,just screws with me time to time ya know. like the past couple of days ive been to myself to try n work it out.stuff sux

I’ve never had a pumpkin martini, but okay.

I’m pretty sure we all have someone who royally fucked us over in our past (more than just cheating), and it definitely changed our outlook. Experience is the best teacher, though. Not to take the blame off the rightful person, but we all have to recognize our actions that led us to that place and change our behavior accordingly.

No one wants to be judged by what someone before them did. It’s not fair to that person.

welcome square! glad to have another lady up in here.

black you and I are right >>>>> here <<<<< definitely been there. I think that is a lot of the reason for my vow of celibacy as well and making sure that when i do start dating again i am not still stuck on past relationships and look toward the future.

aiight..last one

thas just to make sure chelsea dont go gay on us…j/k

well i’m still trying to figure out how indeed i got to this place and how and if i’ll ever get past it…sounds gloomy, but its true.

Nisha, you’re 24. Am I the only nearly 30 year old female on this site? Where’s Songbird?

yea chelsea

its an omega on my arm

for someone that aint grown yet you sure do drink a lot…

what is being seen? I want to see? I am still new up here help a sista out. lol

@reina

i know

and thats my cross to bare.i so hate that i act the way i do,but im working on it

whatever black…

@ Chelsea

It’s still new to you. It took me a year to get past mine own tragedy, and it still affects my relationship.

You’re not old enough to be drinking, either.

damn should i break out the chest pic?

oh hush chelsea
u know we luv ya,no harm done right

lol…yes girl turned 24 in april…25 soon come. lol

@reina

you know that, and I know that. But the guys that work at liquor stores and bars that stare at my breasts and my enchanting smile and give me the alcohol of my choice don’t know that and could care less!

@ Black

Exactly. It took me a LONG time to move past it, and I know my actions nowadays are still influenced by it. We all have baggage. It proves we’ve lived. We just can’t allow it to weigh us down.

@black

if you want to show off ur ancient chest and blame it on me, then fine. You aint got to lie tho…u aint got to lie

ancient chest? lmao. black she is calling you an artifact…

Yes, Ms. Bring the boobies

@reina…who do I need to get my xena moves ready for…I am good for giving a swift kick.

@reina
damn thas something to talk about right there.I thought i was the only one who could actually say i have baggage and that it still affects me

@chelsea,
ancient my butt im 27 and my sperms still unbelievable volatile so hush.

@ black

Whoa!!!

@miss

just the other day chelsea wanted to play in my tattoos so dont buy that

@miss
we’re all waiting for your chesticles to be shown
reina showed her gorgeous boobs,and chels is always bucky naked so your turn

@ Nisha

LOL Thanks, Sweetie. But this was years ago. Hopefully, he’s dead now.

what is everyone seeing? I am trying to see tatts? lol

**looks around**

(sp)unbelievably

lmao.

@black

thats before i found out u were OLD and MARRIED and had KIDS…now u might as well be my grandpa…

my very sexy grandpa, but whatever

and I’m never naked…just…scantily clad?

@nisha

you missed it the other day
reina got naked,chelsea played like we hadnt seen her naked already,i got half newd,and moe and reina played lovey dovey

I am now embarrassed. Good Gawd, Miss.

Hopefully, he’s dead now.

damn Reina

I was NOT naked.

there they are…

smh@chelsea

oh hush and put up the naked pic of your silhoutte.lol

@ black

I know I just made my way back around really today.

I have to familiarize myslef with the site more I want to see tatts and muscles lol.

@ Chelsea

See? You just swore off men. I wanted someone to take their last breath.

chelsea you did seem nakey

@miss
always talking bout newdness and never showing
@reina

damn near bucknaked,@reina
almost saw ya panties..oops forgot you n miss dont wear none

I was in boyshorts. Those were my panties! And, Ms is the one that doesn’t wear undies.

I JUST put up my bewbies! if you missed out then i dunno what to tell you.

@miss

you brought the scud missiles out huh

geez,could take out a small country with them thingys

lol black you know what is funny? i really don;t like people touching them. a waste.

o whatever reina
forgot chels doesnt own a pair of drawz

@miss
i’d cuff you to the bed and ….o geez
i didnt mean to say that

someone finish the rest

cuff me to the bed? oh hell no. you know i aint down with the restraints!

@black

hey…when did i ever say I went sans panties? and i told u…i had on lin-ger-ie in the silhouette pic (however u spell it). i own LOTS of underwear…CUTE underwear! hush man!

and Miss u supposed to be on my side!

@miss

not your decision
my game
my rules
your just a contestant

@Squarebizz
U still online?

@Miss

wait…I missed ur boobs? I was on a phone call! Not to be gay, but I wanted to see where I stand on this site in terms of bustiness…

i demand you put them up again!

@chels
o stop all that,nothing wrong with going without underwears.just ask miss and those gorgeous boobs of hers

see black that is the problem…lol.

chelsea hi-five! we wear panties!

blaze where you been? you been here the entire time?

@chels

miss is shutting you down..

@Ms Miss
Damn u playin a lot games displayin them things like that…lol

Ms. wins, Chelsea. That’s all you need to know.

I WANNA SEE! lol….for real tho…post em again Miss…its not fair…she had a kid!

lol@miss
you gotta try being submissive in bed at times.does wonders

@reina

amen to that

and she could brestfeed Haiti

this i gotta see…Miss please! I feel like the kid in class that is left out of a secret…not cool!

lol I will post them up again.
and I did go up a size after having my daughter. dammit to hell.
and I actually couldn’t breast feed believe it or not. lol.

i’m shy now, it’s a huge spotlight now…lol

Damn fellas, we can’t be mad at the ladies on this joint.

@black

how come Miss’ boobs are gorgeous while mine were, and i quote, ‘blinding’?…

and I do wear drawz…except for when I’m going to bed

Chels I have big boobs and less booty. you have equal distribution, unfair.

my hips are nonexistant. Post the damn breasts lady and stop playing!

@miss

chels booty isnt that huge,its squeezable,so is reinas

yours isnt flat like a notebook is it

sorry im the typical black male, i dig a nice plump butt

I have hips. *raises hand*

Reina, ur Latina…ur supposed to have hips. Hush and make Miss post the milk jugs already!

@ Black

When you have seen my butt?

@reina…ehhh

i dont see it

@ Chelsea

Well, I wanted a category, too! Ms. post the boobies. Stop holding out.

@chelsea
u have a high booty,one that sits on ya back

@reina

remember me and moe were guessing whether you had panties on..and i guessed right that your kitty was all by her lonesome

@black

it does not…it sits…er…where its supposed to? i guess…wait…what?

LOL @ Chelsea

No, I do not remember that conversation. I was wearing boy shorts. Those qualify as panties!

lol..trust me chelsea,im a buttologist
can tell from how your sitting that your cheeks sit a few inches higher than normal women. you prolly have a problem with skirts riding up ya butt cuz its so high.lol

**side-eyes Black**

buttologist hmm?

what say u Blaze the lurker? is my butt higher than the average woman? Reina and Miss need to post their butts so I can compare cuz I refuse to own up to that one

my booty isn;t flastville

**scrolls up…sees Miss’s boobs…passes out**

I bow to you Ms. Miss, Queen of the Bust

told u chelsea

makes me wish i was a kid again so i can b nursed

My butt isn’t flat, but Chelsea got me.

@reina
u have holdable hips,few more squats and you’ll have a nice “peach” for a butt

alright

all of you show your butts

and her waist is so small…i can tell by the band on her dress…Holy Sh** lady!! How do you function with those things? Damn…I am humbled. Deeply humbled (looks at own breats ungratefully) Slackers

@Chelsea
Too busy lookin at Ms Miss jawns..

U very well might have a high ass based in that pic in the grey dress

thats two people who’ve confirmed ya high butt@chelsea

I’m not showing my breast or boobs. I’m taking both and going home.

*sticks tongue out at Chelsea & Ms* Show-offs!

no booty shots of miss

@Chelsea
Regardless, thats too much for a male youngin your age to handle.

forget u guys…

its a normal butt…its just kinda…uh…perky i guess, but it sits where its supposed to! Dammit!

lol they are going bye bye. just be happy you too can still buy cute bras.

@Reina

uh…we see ur boobs very clearly in that blue shirt…and there’s about 70 pics on ur myspace that display them and all their glory in various angles…hips too. So there

Maybe I can take the ab category? *thinks*

Seriously, Ms, how do you restrain those things? And they’re perky!

@ Chelsea

Shh! You’re the only person on my MySpace.

lol

yes reina does love the cam

hey hey hey

all this talk of boobs is gettin me.stop it

@ black

What? You have more pics than me!

You have have that and the hip category cuz I’m definitely rockin the soft belly look round these parts…

and I’m waiting for Ms to answer that one too…they look very…uh..soft

@chelsea
dont they ever look soft
reina’s look perky and at attention
your look softer than warm honeybuns

@reina no i dont

Damn Ms. Miss! I step away for brief moment and ya’ll putting the goods on display again. Let a brotha know next time!

Chelsea & Ms

Y’all have great figures. I’m so glad you guys are my BFFs. *sexy group hug*

lol..you guys are CRAZY

Moe!

Does my booty look high?

Nah, we’re just bored.

@Reina

thanks super hott BFF! lol…yeah…i guess we are a pretty jazzy lil bunch aren’t we?

Not really…it just looks fat as all outdoors! lol

@Ms
Women with boobs the size of yours should have nicknames for em. I’m calling yours “shock” and “awe.”

Lol I buy expensive bras and work out (really works). And they are super duper soft. But I’m looking to lose some weight so hopefully they will go back down to a DDD or even a DD one could hope.

Lol Moe it was random. I noticed everyone (cept Blaze) has done their part but me.

lol@moe

i thought i was the only one who says that

big boobs with a workout plan?

geez

@Black
Nah bruh…that’s the southerner in me. lol

@Ms.
Well I appreciate your participation. lol

lmao@and1grad

shock and awe…loves it!

@Moe

thanks…i think…

@black

warm honey buns? I guess! And Moe said it aint high so there

@Chelsea
Take it as a compliment..lol

yeah honey buns

@Moe

I’m from the south so I do…havent heard “fat as all outdoors” in a while tho…caught be by surprise with that one

mmmmm I gotta go. I think black and I have attempted to arouse each other enough today. who woulda thunk it?

no grandpa is not rocking his hat backwards and his shirt off grabbin his manhood! lmao…old ppl never cease to amaze me…

honey buns tho? like…for real? warm ones at that?

@Miss

wait did u say go DOWN to a DDD? WTF????

“fat as all outdoors” That’s a compliment?

@ Black, nice pic…never woulda knew, lol

@chels

42G

lol@reina
yeah it is.miss is thick as all outdoors
@chelsea
pfft whatever that was a pic last yr.smart ass
and yea warm honey buns with some hot chocolate n cinnamon go down good on cold chicago nights

@miss

im officially THREW

42 F-R-E-A-K-I-N gggggggggggggggggggg

**sees Miss’ bra size and passes out**

@MISS

your the one makin folks aroused

good geezus 42G

*hides her embarrassed C cup*

@Reina
Down south it is. But maybe I should of used “phat” instead. It does have a nicer ring to it.

@chelsea

yea

you got a high booty

no denying it

damn Miss…I’m a C and I thought I was ballin cuz I’m only 5’2 145lbs…u put me to SHAME!

@reina

C

thas is? hmm u tricked me

42G?!?! Damn Miss!!

@ Black

What? How did I trick you?

@black

I want to comment, but I’m too busy staring and drooling…(gulps)is that the Usher cut I see?

@chelsea
5’2″ huh? Good thing that growth spurt hit. Tell Mr. Frodo I said hello. lol

Chelsea!

@reina
thought your boobs were bigger
@chelsea
w.e
im old

-continues flirting with miss

Reina…Black started it!

@and1grad

short and thick boo…short and thick! thats how they make em here in the south

@black

ITS NOT HIGH!

@Chelsea
U definitely need an older cat to handle all of that

yes it is high dammit
almost on ya shoulders

Dammit. I’m a D, drat it. Must you be an expert on everything?

*passes out at blacks photo*

and Reina believe me if I could trade with you for a day you would appreciate that C cup. You can wear tube tops, halter tops, etc. any regular cut shirt i wear is automatically risque, lol

@reina
-hey no yelling
@miss
your the one who has everyone wanting milk around here

@Reina

thanks for deflating all my hopes and dreams…D? G? you big breasted so and so’s…ugh

@Black
yes you are old…but the body is RIGHT!!!

@Blaze
sweetie…old, young or inbetween…I am a FORCE to be reckoned with…like my girl Trina says “got a fat a** and I know how to tote it…” don’t let my age fool u!

Uh…Black…do u shave?

(waves smelling salts under Miss
nose)

@ Chelsea

I’ve gone my entire life thinking I had an ass. You’ve just completely proved me wrong.

Reina…I’ve seen pics…u do have an ass…and incredibly perky boobs and hips and absolutely ZERO body fat whatsoever..

HUSH WOMAN! I’m trying to stare at Black!

Blaze…strip down NOW!

@chelsea been shaving since i was 11. too much hair carries odor,and plus i dont wear u know what so it feels great without it

why?

@chelsea
*wow*

(holds on to my celibacy for dear life)

I could just tell that you didnt…plus u be freeballin so I guess it makes sense…but damn 11? U been freeballing since then too?

@chelsea
I think you messed your pic up. It looks like both your hand and the phone are in the way. Look, if you need help next time…

chelsea I had my very first lesbonic thought, thanks. lol

@black

wow what?

@and1

lol…I woulda showed it all but then Miss had to show up with her humungous boulders and put my puny lil boobies to shame!

Lesbonic? That ish aint hardly a word!

guys…I’m all for fun. But we need to calm down on the pics

@chelsea
I’m mad that your phone looks like an ipod. “Look at whats on MY playlist!”

mine is PG again. sorry FG. won’t happen again.

thats cuz it a digital camera and not a phone and1grad

@chelsea

nah,i played too many sports,freeballin and sports dont go together

So change of subject before FG pulls out his belt…

any good movies?

chelsea always getting people in trouble

went and saw Quarantine for whatever reason this past weekend…

@chelsea
lol…you sound offended. I wasnt trying to imply that you dont have a camera.

lol. i dunno, my boobs weren’t exactly subtle…

Maybe we should go back to the topic.

What album is that John Legend’s song? It’s not on either of mine.

@black

What? Dont blame me…I’m just a kid! you guys are the adults round here! shouldnt you be leading by example instead of sucking me into this softcore porn bs?

it’s all love folk. I just have some really important things in motion right now, and can’t have ass and pubes everywhere when I’m pitching FG to people…lol

Chels was it any good?

lol you know FG I apologize, this site which is fun for me is business for you.

We got ya FG! No prob!

@Miss…it was interesting. Columbus Shorts adorable self was in it so…ya know…interesting to say the least. I would recommend it

@ Chelsea

You’re only 5’2? How tall are you, Ms.?

yup Reina…I’m only 5’2 and ppl dont even think I’m THAT tall…midget status round here

i’m 5’4 1/2 taller than Chels!!! whooooo!!!!!

@Reina,

It’s off the new John Legend. I think it comes out in 2 weeks

@black

Is that you in 10 years in ur avatar? lmao…sexy!

I’m actually taller than two people? *does the running man*

you and this damn RUNNING MAN! you can’t Pop Lock and Drop It? Walk it Out? Two Step? nothing?

and before i forget Miss…what was this lesbonic thought u were thanking me for?

@ FG

Well, how do you have it?

@ Chelsea

Fine! *belly dances*

@Reina

well…i guess thats a step in the right direction

I can’t do those other dances. I have to stick with what I know.

I can do the Soulja Boy?

Yeah, I refuse to do that after finding out what “Supaman dat ho” means.

one of the beauties of being an editor for an entertainment magazine by day. You get stuff early

is FG saying he has a real job?

uh oh, what does it mean?

@ Chelsea

He’s saying something. Don’t know if I believe him.

@Reina

you dont have to Soulja Boy…but u absolutely CANNOT running man or cabbage patch or Kid n Play or ANY lame dance from the ancient ass 80′s…capeshe?

yes he writes for a magazine. he told me once. can’t remember. but it sounds important. lol.

and me and my daughter listen to the edited version on the radio. she likes to ‘youl’

@Chelsea,

lol…yes, I am a full-time writer/personality

aham…to Superman that Ho means to ejaculate on a sleeping young womans back right around the lower neck/high shoulder area and put a sheet on top of the ejaculate so when she wakes up hours later…it is STUCK like a CAPE on her back…making her look, in theory, like SUPERMAN!

From urbandictionary.com:

supaman that hoe:

an after sex prank, where the guy allows the girl to fall asleep (usually on her stomach), he then ejaculates on her back and covers her with a sheet, allowing it to attach to her back like a cape.

**side eyes FG**

Riiiiiiiiiight…is that like ‘i own my own business’ aka ‘i aint got no job’?

what?????!!!!!!!!
why on earth would someone do that???????
what??????!!!!!!

@ Chelsea

I’m an 80s baby. Don’t hate on it.

my daugter dances to that song.
i’m a horrible mother.

@Reina

so am I..the LATE 80′s

@miss

cuz young boys are DISGUSTING! keep ur daughter away from them!

Reina let’s do the Butterfly

@Chelsea,

lol..not at all. I saw ya’ll talking earlier. I can show pay stubbs

Even though, I would drop a woman with the quickness if she ever asked me that. (unless we were about to get married.)

Okay..I learned something new today. I didn’t know that’s what it meant. Not a big SB fan, so never took the time to study the lyrics.

@miss

she just likes the ‘youl’ part…ur not a bad mother…negligent maybe…but bad? naw…lol…JUST KIDDING! its a song…u aint know, she damn sure dont know…dont sweat it!

@FG

so my golddigging would run u away? Lol…looks like Moe was telling the truth..btw FG…you’re single huh?

@ Ms.

I’m not sure if my legs will allow that.

true. but she is smart. lil brat told me ‘I don’t like you’ because I told her as long as her behind is black she is going to bed at 8:30. smh.

oh! I can get jiggy with the butterfly…tootsie roll…whoomp there it is…all that! thats my ish!

CHA CHA SLIDE?

“true. but she is smart. lil brat told me ‘I don’t like you’ because I told her as long as her behind is black she is going to bed at 8:30. smh.”

Long as ur behind is black…where do moms get these quotes from? That ish is hilarious…I woulda told u the same thing. and no u aint say “lil brat”

im dying over here!

@Chelsea,

yes I am.

yes, we can cha cha slide…but not to all 700 versions!

@ Ms.

LMAO!

@FG

duly noted…single, but hates a gold-digger and is a ‘personality’…is absent for extended periods of time and has a problem with nudity…hmmm…

what do we think about FG BFF’s?

I heard FG was pretty hot too…

@ Chelsea

I don’t think he has a problem with nudity. Only when it affects his money, which I can understand.

Plus, I’ve seen his pictures so when you look like that, I could forgive almost anything.

Thumbs up from me.

FG, I think you’re about to be appraised.

Chelsea you should hear half the stuff I say to her. lol. i used to call her mean old man. lol

So he IS fine huh Reina? hmmm…

mean old man? wtf?

and1 you are so wrong…

i’ve seen FG very handsome man. but I was attracted to him before I saw what he looked like. just an admirer of his work. I crush on authors a lot sometimes. I try to avoid the back inside covers so that I don’t see their nerdy photos, lol.

yea, when she didnt have teeth and would start throwing a fit crying she looked like john mccain

I just checked out his myspace…

yeah…tall dark and handsome

I’m sold…

@Miss

I do the same thing…I’ve been disappointed by many an author so I dont even flip all the way to the back to keep my fantasy intact

@ Chelsea

I wouldn’t kick him out of bed.

you are the worst mother in history…John Mccain…hilarious!

well…my mom referred to me as a duckling when I was younger saying she hoped I blossomed into some kind of swan…she’s rivaling you i guess

And look, BFFs, he’s a go-getter. He’s actually going after more money. LEGALLY And did you read what he wrote in this post?

We need to start paying more attention to him.

@Reina

I wouldn’t let him out of my SIGHT let alone the bed!

Please, my mom calls me “Spawn de Diablo” That means spawned from the devil.

@ Ms.

That’s hilarious. McCain? Haha!

Well Reina, if the stiletto fits…

damn, yall mommas mean.
my mom used to lock me out of the house.

and FG can’t say that I dont pay attention to him.

We show his site the most attention and bring the most insight…I say he should invite us all to GA for a weekend on the town

ahem…IMO

@ Chelsea

LOL She’s my mother. I’m spawned from her!

And I agree and invite some his Kappa brethren.

@Chelsea,

It’s coming.

@Miss
I would never say that

well he did say once FGTV kicks off he is going to pay each of us a visit. So when he comes to Seattle i’m making him take me to the museum.

better not forget..I’m holding him to that and planning on using my seduction skills to the fullest…

I aint thinkin bout u Miss!

Seduction skills? Museum?

He’s too old for you minors.

See while there is an attraction that I have to him I think it is that I admire him. It’s weird. I wouldn’t try to seduce him. I would just like to spend time with a guy doing something fun that I don’t get to do everyday. And Reina it won’t be like a field trip! Then we could go to Pier and eat at Elliot Bay and then go to random night club #78 and just party it up in Seattle. We would have an awesome time and he doesn’t have to worry about me trying to sex him up.

also I am about to 23 so I can get into clubs, lol.

oh and one more thing

>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
actually celibate like others…
carry on.

lol @ museum

Celibate. Selling a bit. Semantics.

@ and1

She has the day COMPLETELY planned out.

I’m actually gonna try that museum angle to pick up women. “Excuse me, ms. (or ms. miss, whatever) You’re hot. Would you like to go to the aquarium and look at turtles?”

lol do you know how hard it is to find a black man that likes black women AND is interested in visiting a museum? it is easier to find skin cancer in john mccain than a museum date.

ms., i’m starting to think you’ve been checking out John McCain too. I bet he’s into museums.

FG said he liked museums?

and1 seriously if a guy took me to the aquarium for our first date I would be in love.

how much of a nerd am i? lol.

well I could get john mccain to take me, he gets a 70% discount since there are probably artifacts he created inside.

and FG seems like the type of man that could appreciate the museum

@ Ms.

He does? I need to start reading b/w the lines.

It’s okay being a nerd. I’m a nerd. If a dude took me a bookstore on a first date, I’d probably marry him. And I enjoy history museums like on the National Mall. I’m not a big fan of staring at paintings and trying to decipher those or looking at dinosaur bones.

ms, I believe the politically correct term is “academic.” An ex took me to a museum once. I can definitively say that it wasnt TERRIBLE.

I think ‘nerd’ sounds more humble. lol. FG is cool Reina, i’m sure he would be down for the museum, we have quite a few really cool art museums here.

and how could I forget the zoo! we would have a blast…

Ha…a museum and then the zoo. Well arent you a magic school bus of fun!

The zoo stinks, and I don’t like animals.

I’m a nerd. I embrace it. I watch CSpan for fun.

Yeah, he’s cool. I could see him going to the museum. The zoo, not so much.

@ and1

What do you do? Ms., what do you do? Do I know?

@Reina
Ohhhh no. I’m not setting myself up for appraisal.

@ and1

What? LOL We’re all family here

lol…i agree..i love reading and i love weird things

if a guy took me to a Barnes & Noble…picked a section he knew about and discussed it with me I’d marry him and bear him at least 2 healthy adorable children. Nerds unite! lmao…

magic school bus of fun? and1grad, you slay me!

lol…@and1

Smart move. And I appreciate the words ladies. More than you know.

I am getting that on a t-shirt to wear across my chest panthers.

I’m a boring ole billing specialist. whoop de doo.

and1 I know you can afford to take me to the museum and lunch.

Miss..gettin what?

and1grad wants to appear as a bum so he doesnt get appraised

getting a tee shirt that says ‘Magic Schoolbus of Fun’

i agree…we need to be ordering a lot of damn shirts, huh?

I can’t wear a shirt that says that. Manhattan is full of pervs.

I know, I still need an Obama shirt, a Slap a Chick shirt, Magic school bus shirt, matching boots…

and Reina i’ll be damned if i didnt get in the car and that Donnell Jones song was on…havent heard in 78 yrs, but it plays today right? smh…coinkidink

@Reina
Lets just say I do ok.

@ms
Absolutely. You know what, I’ll even get a Schoolhouse Rock cd and we can jam all the way to the museum.

@chelsea
A bum!?!? Never that.

do u have a paystub on u by any chance?

@ and1

I was not trying to gauge your wages. LOL

and1 I am 23, not 2 + 3

Chelsea, you’re still at work?

@chelsea
Would you like my FICO score also?

@Reina
OK. Just in case.

@ms
You know you would jam to schoolhouse rock. Stop it.

nope…home

yes and 4 mos worth of primary checking/saving accts balances as well…thank u

Though I would I still want you to be mindful that I am a young woman that is very much so an adult. Now please play Conjunction Juction.

whats ur function!

Go to the gym or no? I feel like being lazy…lazier anyway.

@chelsea
My representatives and I will have to go over the figures and get back to you at a date more convenient date.

@ms
No doubt. But first… http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mEJL2Uuv-oQ

im allergic to the gym….i vote no…but u have an ab game to keep up so u might wanna go

Scratch that first “date.”

u have representatives? hmmm….

I didn’t go to the gym last night because of the rain. I do vow to go Thursday and make up for it today and tomorrow.

lol and1

Hey. No fair! My job blocks youtube.

It’s getting cold. I have to get exercise in now. I gain weight during the winter like a bear or something.

lol Reina I feel you. You stay inside eating pork roast and stuff it’s cold, you dont wanna move. lol. Nope, all my hardwork over the summer will NOT be comprimised this holiday season.

I think blocking youtube should be considered unAmerican.

Exactly. I eat so much during Nov – Feb. I’m counting down the days to Thanksgiving right now.

i agree

@ and1

It’s a law firm. A FINANCIAL law firm. Right now, they’re more European than American.

@ Chelsea

When do you have class? And how close are you to finishing?

@Reina
I think you could probably come up with legal reasons of why you should be allowed to view youtube at the workplace. Whether or not they would be financial reasons, depends on your level of creativity and the presentation of your legal argument.

i have class 3 days a week online for this semester since im working alot…and ihave another 1 1/2 – 2yrs left to finish. too damn long

Pfft. Our IT administrator is like the General Petraeus of network security. I could present the most profound, all avenues-covered argument, and he’d respond by blocking something else.

@ Chelsea

2 years isn’t long. It will go by quickly. Are you going to be a RN, LPN, etc?

i’m considering going back to school online untill my daughter starts school then finishing up (what’s left) then. Kinda excited!

Ya…well, dont piss off IT. I did that once and they wiped my hard drive. #@%$&!!

I think I may go get after my MBA starting next summer. I have to see how many credits, experience will get me.

@ and1

I would talk about IT, but I’m still at work, and he could be monitoring me.

This is for you, Reina

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aD21JDMp86c

Being able to see youtube sure would come in handy right about now.

LOL Just mean.

rn

This post hits home with me and as I sit here and type my eyes are tearing up…Not because I’m sad anymore but because our relationship had so much potential, and because I was always there for him when he needed me. He left and I forgave him twice because I know he is also a human and we all make mistakes…

However when he left he started dating someone and they broke up and of course he came back..he was my first everything and we have a child together. I was still willing to forgive after knowing he cheated…I was willing to forget and move on…

Until he started flip flopping…one minute he wanted to be a family and the next he wanted to be with the woman who was the 20%….

THAT I could not get over and I finally let go…I’m grateful that I was strong enough 2, it takes a lot….

I was just thinking about this this morning , I’m going to be honest if you left me and messed up and thought the grass was greenier on the side,you should stay over there and live with the fact that you messed up and will miss out in being involved with me and in my life.Men rarely forgive and take back women if women mess up in relationships.

Good Morning People. I have a question. We need a chatbox around here. Anyone around?

What’s up Reina?

Hi T.

My question is there a clue or hint of some sort that offers guidance when someone is being sincere. I’m pretty good at spotting when someone is lying to me, but when my feelings get involved, I can’t be objective and choose to believe that which will hurt the least. So how can you know for sure that what someone tells you is sincere or if they’re just saying what you want to hear?

Hey Reina girl !!!!

Hi Lyrical! I was thinking about you the other morning. (That sounds so suspect. LOL) My hair was giving me the blues.

That’s a tough one. I’ve always based my opinion on the sincerity of people on past experiences with that person. I look for consistency. If I’m not sure, I will take what they say with a grain of salt, and put everything they say and do under a microscope. There’s really no sure fire way to read their intentions based on a conversation.

Hey Reina

I’ve read in a couple of places that its all about body language and eye contact. Fidgeting, touching of the face, eyes darting, nostrils flaring, messing with the hair and defensiveness all are tell tale signs of someone being insincere and dishonest. Is that what you were referring to?

@Reina don’t feel bad mine is pulled back in a bun today, lmao

@Chelsea
I’ve heard some of the same things, but what if it’s a phone conversation?

@Chelsea I read the same thing ,Its so true when you really pay attention to people, I usually go by the eyes darting and the defensiveness,People are more prone to act defensive so its a easy target

@Moe

ya know…I think stuttering, hesitation, and that age old ‘huh’ kinda thing comes into play when you’re on the phone. And also that defensiveness or even nonchalantness (is that a word?) I think when people vary from their everyday speech and habits then thats a clear sign of some sneakiness going on.

@Reina

but now that I read your question more, I think what you mean is ‘does he really care about me like he says he does, or is he just saying it so we can keep this thing going?”

this is where, my dear, I am a novice and have no advice for you because I am in the same exact boat.

Hi Chelsea

You guys know already that I won’t forget anything that is said to me so if someone contradicts themselves down the line, I’ll know. I just HATE being lied to. It makes me hostile and kinda violent. And I could ask but why. I’m not into making baseless arguments, and though I trust my instincts, I could just be paranoid.

I do agree that observing their body language and the way they communicate are definitely helpful. But how do you remove your feelings for this person from the equation so that you can judge those actions objectively?

I never want to be made AGAIN to look the fool. I may actually go to jail this time.

hmm…I read or heard somewhere that the downfall of humans is in our decision making. In order to be successful at life, you have to make ‘UNEMOTIONAL DECISIONS’. I’m realizing that sometimes you have to literally step out of yourself and out of ‘Reina loves John’ and make a decision that doesn’t involve your heart, but your common sense and sense of protecting one’s self. Its hard and it seems harsh, but I think it tends to work and be worthwhile down the line

@ Chelsea

Exactly. When you want someone to care about you, you’ll believe everything he/she says. But how does one know for sure? You could just be insecure/paranoid.

@Chelsea
I have to agree with defensiveness. I’ve been fortunate enough to have never really dealt with a lier. The one time I did, she got really emotional when I questioned her about it. Started crying and all that. I was in Korea and she was in the States, so I couldn’t read her body language. She denied any wrongdoing, but after I got back to the US, she confirmed my suspicions. I knew she was lying because of her reaction to me calling her out.

Reina, unless you’re a secret crack smoker, paranoia is your body’s way of letting you know something aint right. And I highly doubt you’re insecure, so I say you take a long look at whatever this guy is telling you and then what he’s doing and I guarantee your answer will be blindingly clear

If you really pay attention, you can tell when someone is just going through the motions. The energy, the enthusiasm, it will all be there.

If you really pay attention, you can tell when someone is just going through the motions. The energy, the enthusiasm, it will all be there if they’re really into what’s going on.

God granted women intuition for a reason. Listen to it ladies! It will never fail you!

@Chelsea
Not just women. lol That little voice has kept and gotten me out of a lot of trouble.

Morning everyone! I know it is off topic but I am having a blast being single all of a sudden for some reason. Carry on.

@Moe

ur right….I stand corrected

DEFENSIVENESS CATCHES THEM EVERYTIME, But you have some that sell you a dream and they can be your worst nightmare in the end. A woman can never go wrong womens intution is real, sometimes we just rather over look the obvious because you don’t want to face the turth. I tell that to every woman trust your intution, if it barks like a dog and acts like a dog then damn it its a dog !!lmao

Really Miss? Cuz I was lonely than a mofo last nite in my bed watching ‘The Mummy 3′ all by my lonesome. No phone calls, no emails…nathan.

@Chelsea
Premonitions and dreams have played a part as well…but I’m not gonna get into that. lol

On topic I guess you just have to trust your gut feeling, it’s rarely wrong.

So Moe is something like a prophet huh? Damn…I suck at lying so I’d rather just not answer a question that have to lie. I’m one of those stuttering defensive liars and my memory sucks…so…yeah. No

@Chelsea dang girl we were typing the same thing at the same time, WOMEN INTUTION

Well I used to be like that too with that lonely feeling but lately (and this is due in large part to my faith) I haven’t felt lonely at all. Of course I have my daughter to keep me busy but I make it an effort to keep busy and do stuff and just overall I’m happy. I could be in a bad relationship like countless other people around me but I would much rather have a blast single than to be miserable with my significant other. I just feel at peace with myself right now and it is a surreal feeling.

I’m a good liar, but I suck at remembering them. The last time I got caught (age 21)..the girl asked me something and I lied about. A month later, she asked me the same question. I forgot I lied the first time and actually told the truth! You was like, “MUTHAF*CKA YOU SAID…” All I could say was, “I did..didn’t I?” Haven’t lied to a woman since.

@Moe
I understand you, I have had those dreams as well so I questioned him ,naturally he lied but confessed to it 3 months later when he found out the girl was having a boy. Dreams like that can make you expext the worst

She was like – correction

@Lyrical
My dreams haven’t made me expect the worst, they just make me aware. I don’t have them often, but if there’s something that I really want answers to, I ask God to show me…and He does. That’s the BEST gift in the world!

@Miss

you better than me cuz lately I haven’t been giving ANYONE the benefit of the doubt. In the grocery store the other day I saw a cute dude eyeing me and all I could think was ‘he probably got 2 baby mamas and is whoring around with a bunch of other chicks. He aint finna add ME to the list…pssshhh’ and I immediately lost interest. Its a sad existance…but that’s what I’ve been doing to almost every guy I meet

I don’t like lying and I do not like avoiding questions either by changing the subject because in my opinion that makes the person assume the worse. Though answering an honest question left me very alone it was better to answer it then to tell him ‘no I won’t answer that question’ because he would have drawn his own conclusion. If a man cannot appreciate and value an honest woman then he and I do not have the same principle values.

Hey you guys. Thanks. I do trust women’s intuition. I’ve ignored it ONCE, and it ended tragically.

For me, opening my heart could be scarier than opening my legs to a stranger without a condom. I would never do the latter, but you understand my point. I’m not normally insecure, but at those times, I am. It’s the possibility that I’ll look the fool in the end that makes me paranoid, and I never want to make a big deal about something miniscule and lose out in the end.

@Chelsea
He could’ve been single, no kids just waiting to meet a nice young lady like yourself.

Hey guys!!!!

Chelsea didn’t we all talk about this before? I was the same way. I thought that every guy I met was scum. He would lure me in then BAM stake in my heart. I was so unbelievably negative and pessimistic that it was damn near depressing. I thought the only men that weren’t taken were worthless liars and that I may have to settle for one of them.

Then one day I decided to make some proactive changes and said to myself ‘Negativity breeds negativity’ If I am thinking negative thoughts constantly I am a negative person. But if I think positive that makes me a positive person. Good men are positive. Good men want a good positive woman. I have to look on the brighter side KNOWING that God is going to bring a man into my life that is perfect for me. If I don’t believe it will happen then who will?

Lying is a dealbreaker to me, and always will be. I would rather you just tell me that you won’t answer the question than attempt to change the subject or lie. Unless it’s my concern, then you’d better answer.

Cound not have said it better myself miss.

@blaze

that is my point exactly. don’t let your negative past experinces ruin future positive experiences.

@blaze

you’re absolutely right, but…i am not ready to let my guard down whatsoever. Thats why I envy Miss because she’s so happy and secure with her single status right now. I’m trying to get used to mine and in the meantime my defense mechanism is to shoot down every guy that I think may show interest. Hence the way I thought about grocery store man

@Ms Miss
U just have to stay optimistic and keep your spirit healthy at all times because you never know when that positive man may come a long. Remember…any moment can change the rest of your like forever..u just never know.

Hi Nisha. Showing some leg, huh?

sorry Reina didnt mean to make this about me…just piggy backing off what Miss said

whooo Nisha you look great!

@Nisha

let me find out i can look up on on the internet…I see a web url up on top of that pic, don’t I?

@Chelsea
I think being comfortable with being single is being comfortable with yourself. Everyone knows you have a lot of energy, positivity and it seems as if you know yourself very well, including your own vulnerable attributes. A lot of people wont even admit that. Timing is key as well…

@ Chelsea

You guys are horrible BFFs! I’m going to cut myself now. You only have yourselves to blame.

I feel Reina on the part about opening up to someone. I’ll admit, when I fall for woman, I fall HARD. So I’ve only allowed myself to do it a couple of times in my ilfe. It’s a vulnerable azz feeling.

@Reina

what? no cutting! Take a bunch of sleeping pills…you’ll look more attractive in ur casket…

Kidding. (in my best gary coleman voice) whatchu talkin bout Reina?

Why thank you miss!!! lmao

@T Moe
I feel ya, I try to keep a decent pace without getting all caught up…time will tell on everyone. I need to see a woman in a variety of situations…i.e..around her friend, family, my people, etc. Its not hard to figure a person out through those scenarios.

@ reina just a little leg lol

@ chelsea
It was a party I went to lol…no incriminating pics lol

hmmm…but isnt vulnerabilty with another person what we’re striving for in a relationship? Isn’t that what the end result- LOVE- is about? Having someone in ur life that you are so comfortable and secure with that being completely defenseless is finally ok?

@Chelsea and Blaze

Trust I am such a positive person now and my spirit reflects that and people in my life definitely notice the change. I have not been in a serious relationship longer than 3 months in almost four years. And I have decided to take a vow of celibacy and not even seek a person to date untill my daughter is at least 5 years old. That is a LONG time but I know that it is the right thing to do especially for my baby. So do you think I’m going to be walking around ‘woe as me’ for 2 ½ years just because I don’t have a man? PLEASE!!!! I have so much to be thankful for in my life and so many other interesting things and rebuilding of myself to do to be negative or upset about it. I just feel comfort in the fact that I’m a strong person and I know that my heart won’t give out just because I’m ‘alone’.

This isn’t necessarily directed at your Chelsea because I never got the notion you are sad, just VERY cautious.

@ Moe

I know. It’s like someone took a brillo pad and just scrubbed every facade of mine away. Gone is Ms. Independent, gone is Ms. nunya-24-nunya, gone is the corporate executive. It’s just me. My essence, my soul, me. And that scares me to no end.

Reina…I understand I am going through the same thing as we speak. ughhh its so frustrating because you dont want to seem like you are losing it but…you kinda are, time to take back the power lol.

@Nisha

mmmhmmm…let me catch u on alltheparties.com…where do u live again? I’m bout to google you…

@Blaze
You have to. Not every woman (or man for the ladies) is worthy of receiving everything you have to give. The relationships a woman has with her friends and family tell a LOT. Especially her relationship with her father.

lmao…I live in maryland now but I am from nyc. All my fam is there so I am there often.

“so comfortable and secure with that being completely defenseless is finally ok?”

I agree. But it is difficult if you are tearing down those flood gates while the other person is off to the side snickering because they didn’t at the same time and have no intentions of doing so. I can see where taking that shot in the dark can be terrifying.

lol@Nisha…party-hopping are we?

@Miss

no offense taken, mama…I completely understand everything ur saying and I am obviously overly-cautious at this point. I’m just finding it almost impossible to bounce back emotionally.

@ chelsea…I’m with that. No one wants to play the fool role time and time again.

Where you live chelsea?

@Nisha
That does look like a party photo from bossip.com

@Reina

the same lessons you’ve learned in college and in your professional life about going off of hunches and examining the numbers from all angles to make sure they add up can be used in your personal life too. Things have to add up with this guy and if they do…GREAT! if they don’t…boo for him cuz his math is wrong! Don’t be afraid to write things down and look at them in black and white

@Chelsea
You’re right. Relationships are supposed to be that way. But you have to be careful about who you open yourself up to. I haven’t met many women who I felt I could do that with.

@Reina
It does leave you exposed. You’re almost like putty in that person’s hands. In the right hands, they could help mold you into the best person you could possibly be. In the wrong hands, they could tear you apart to the core.

@Nisha

I live in south florida

@ blaze

Oh its def me. When you in nyc they always have photogs there and they snap pics and put it on thier website. The club was Duvet in manhattan. Those guys are always there.

@Nisha
Are you in PG County or Bmore?

@t-moe

You are right! Dag you are so “on” with that…
It does leave you exposed. You’re almost like putty in that person’s hands. In the right hands, they could help mold you into the best person you could possibly be. In the wrong hands, they could tear you apart to the core.
-so true

@ blaze…oh the shame I live in a small little town called (holds breath) COCKEYSVILLE! I live about maybe 20 mins from bmore.

Moe is a deep brutha! lol…

Where are you from? Blaze?

@ chelsea

That was dead on. lol

Chelsea, you have to believe you can bounce back. With everything I have been through in regards to men most people would assume I would be lesbian by now. Beside the fact that I could never get down like that I just have faith that true love will happen for me. I have to stay positive. Finding love is like climbing a big mountain. It gets tough, others may knock you down but you keep going and when you make it to the top all that hard work will be worth it.

@Nisha
Oh damn..isn’t that north of Bmore? I was just at Rams Head last week.

I have my moments Chelsea. lol

@blaze

You are right! lol. you know your stuff. I have never been to rams head. Are you in md? I do not like maryland at all.

@ reina

How long have you been seeing mr. man?

@ Moe

Exactly. My question is how do you control the fear about that possibility? Obviously, guards don’t work because if they did, you wouldn’t be in this situation. It seems to me that you can only step out on faith.

And I changed my picture, too! What do I have to do? Show some leg around here? *mumbles to herself*

j/k Nisha

@Miss

ur right…but at this point I’m trying to do a million things education and career wise, so that’s where my focus is…

in the meantime I’m bombarded with ppl telling me ‘get back out there…stay positive…u can’t bury urself in school and work…u gon need someone to hold u’…I think its because I’m a woman. If I was a single man no worrying about females becuz I was focused on getting money, no one would give me a second glance.

Any thoughts?

*ignoring Reina’s perfect waist*

@ reina LOL

I mean folks were showing all their boobies, booties and more so I threw a little leg in there lmao (nah).

But yeah no matter how much you try to “keep your guards up,” those feelings are so powerful that they stomp a mudhole on your guards lol.

@Nisha
Im orginally from Chi but I live in DC now. I got a few cats that I know in that area…the county, Randallstown…all in all though bmore is a lil different..no disrespect.

@ miss..

Reina’s non-existent waist. I need that

@Reina
I don’t think you can control it. You’re right, you have to step out on faith, but only after you’ve studied the person to see if they’re even worthy of that step.

And you know you lookin’ sexy as hell…per usual. Even that mean looking pic you had up yesterday. lol

I’m sorry a man is supposed to compliment you, not complete you. Keep your focus and become the best Chelsea you can be and then when YOU are ready to get back out there and give love a shot then that is when the time is right

@Nisha

hush chile…i had to show my whole ass to get some attention round here…all u showed was a KNEE and you got 20 posts to urself…

envy? Meet Chelsea..Chelsea? Envy.

@blaze

oh ok. I go out to d.c. I will be there this wknd for HU’s homecoming. Oh ok. I mean md is ok but I love nyc!

@moe
So what am I chopped liver (just playing).

@Chelsea
No one really sweats me about being in a relationship. My daughter will ask me about once a month if I’ve met anyone worth keeping..but that’s about it. lol

Ms Miss
You sound like you’re ready to get back out there. I might have a few good referrals for you

@Moe

see what I mean. No one ever tells u ‘ur gonna die lonely holding a doctorate degree if u don’t give one of these men a chance!”

o brother…whatever

@chelsea

You are too funny! lol.

Lol I guess I’m ready but it isn’t the right time for me. When I get down to the core of it, I’m not ready for a relationship right now. My daughter isn’t old enough for me to be in a relationship right now either.

Thank you, Moe & Ms.

Plague on the rest of you.

@ Moe

I know. Dating sucks.

@Nisha
Nah….you’re more like fillet mignon…or Granny’s BBQ chicken, with greens, candied yams, and cornbread! lol

I will be the first to tell Moe if he doesn’t go get a woman he will become the old dude at the club wearing FUBU still calling women PYT’s and Young Tender.

Chelsea does that help?

@Moe

she just wants a sister or brother is trying to make sure ur on ur job…lol. Once a month? too funny…she’s probably writing it down in a notebook in her room too. ‘October 15, 2008…Dad is STILL a bachelor…’ Hilarious

@ moe

Well thank you…that made my day! lmao. You know too much of granny’s food wilkl give you high blood pressure nah j/k

@ reina

Dating truly sucks I second that.

‘I will be the first to tell Moe if he doesn’t go get a woman he will become the old dude at the club wearing FUBU still calling women PYT’s and Young Tender.’

PYT’s and Young Tender (bewildered look) Is that from Dolemite or something?

@ Chelsea

Your situation is too raw for you to do anything. You’re still counting days so I doubt seriously if you should be dating. I applaud the approach you’re taking in working on yourself and getting your mentality on the right track. I agree with Ms.

damn, I didn’t get called food. Well, besides milk. lol.

@ miss

Young tender? lmao

you just want to make sure that you are not stepping into a big mess (a liar, a man with side pieces and etc).

@moe
At least you have a daughter so mom isnt sweatin you about that. I think she’d pimp me out if she could. EVERY month I get a lecture.

@ chelsea

lol…now I am sure you know about michael jackson’s PYT.

Chelsea I thought you were an 80′s baby? PYT = Pretty Young Thang. Micheal Jackson?

@Ms.
Getting a woman has never been a problem. I’m looking for quality. If marriage was an issue, I an think of at least 6 women who would have gladly stepped into that role.

@Chelsea
It’s a combination of not wanting me to be alone, and her eagerness to laugh at me while I change diapers and clean up baby poop.

@ miss

Great minds think alike

PYT i’m good on…but Young Tender? lmao…I cant even type that mess with a straight face

@Nisha
What spots you hittin this weekend. It should be bananas around this area this weekend.

Moe a man with your looks i’m sure has no issues finding any mate, just one with the common sense God gave her is hard to find.

but just in case, go get that old FUBU gear and Lugg Bootz out of the closet.

@Moe, Blaze, and1grad

have ur parents ever tried to set you up with someone?

@and1
If I didn’t have a kid, it would be a completely different story! My grandmother used to ask, but stopped about a year ago. lol My mom might mention it once every 6 months.

@ blaze

Umm I know friday diddy is having something at love (no 18 and over), I know my girlfriends are talking about ibiza, zanzibar, ozio’s and fur. I am not too sure about sat. but friday I will be at LOVE. What about you? Have you been to the HU homecoming b4

@Chelsea
I can’t say they have. They live in different states, so that probably has something to do with it.

consider urself lucky Moe

@Chlesea
All the time…especially up in her church.

@Nisha
Yeah I’ve been here for a few years so its nothing new. I might fall through The Park tomorrow and hit the Gardens on the late tip Sat night. U prolly have a nice crew you hang out with.

@chelsea
My parents wouldnt intrude to THAT degree. However, they WILL tell me about how people they like are doing. Funniest thing they ever did was try to tell me to go talk to some waitress b/c they thought she was being extra nice to me. *sigh*

@moe
I seriously had to tell mom that if she didnt give it a rest, our conversations were gonna be a lot shorter. That only held her off for like 2 extra weeks.

@Ms.
Finding someone who meets that criteria not an easy task.

I think the only FUBU gear I’ve ever owned were boxers, and that was about 10 yrs. ago. Trust me…being the old head in the club is not an option. You won’t see me walking around in the spot pointing at people yelling “Watch out der nah!”

On the real the dating process is supposed to be the best time when getting to know someone.

@Chelsea ans Ms
Do you feel being single is a distraction in your life?

@blaze

hilarious

@and1grad
threatening them never works…believe me…my fam pretty much leaves me alone now…for obvious reasons.

My brother did ask if I was a lesbian a few weeks ago tho…no idea why.

@and1
I know a few dudes who went through that. The mothers are more concerned with you giving her a grandchild than she is with you making the right choice in the biggest decision you’ll ever make in your life.

@Moe

you KNOW you gon be walkin around doing that! Don’t even lie Moe!

@blaze

being single is distracting right now because its all i can think about. and every week im being invited to ANOTHER damn baby shower, or my friends are calling me to discuss thier bullsh** a** relationships, or some guy is trying to flirt with me and invite me over for sex…

its never ending

At times when I get invited out with friends that are going to be coupled up and I usually decline so that I don’t sit there feeling odd then constantly thinking about being single. But most of the time not at all. I don’t wake up in the middle of the night thinking about it, I don’t wake up thinking about it, I think the only time I think about it is when I’m on here. People do seem to kinda pity me I guess but I look at them with their dysfunctional relationships and pity them.

Chels I used to get those random phone calls to and after pushing ignore so many times they get the point. The last guy I had sex with just recently stopped calling me this weekend. He hasn’t seen or talked to me in close to 5 months.

@ blaze

Yeah my crew is real cool! did that sound nerdy lol.
The park? I may have to hang with you lol.

lol…Miss i had a lil fling with this guy right after the engagement debacle and i thought things were going great. Until he told me ‘i can see ur a good woman Chelsea but I’m just not ready to be in a relationship’…fine, so I cut the sex off. Tben he wanted to complain and go off on me. Thats the exact moment I decided to be celibate. And permanently single

@Chelsea
Single…yes. Permanently…please.

@Moe

hush

@Chelsea
I’m just saying man…

Even though you may feel differently right now…what you’re going through is temporary.

@Chelsea
You’ll have some dude curling his toes and sucking his thumb in no time. lol

i dont know about all that…lol.

maybe one day…in the distant future. I do want to have kids so…I guess I’ll have to take up with a man at some point or another

I’ve been gone for 3 hours and still no update? Am I actually supposed to work for the rest of the day? Where is FG?

I guess Reina provided us with the Fly discussion for the day. lol

Well, I tried, but you guys have ADD. I’m over here bawling and you guys are discussing Homecomings and so forth. Bunch of bustas!

I stuck to the topic this time. lol I’d like to think I even provided some valuable insight….even if you are talking about a man other than me. lol

Reina dont say ur crying cuz then I have to take a flight…put on my brass knuckles and hurt someone’s son for stressin my BFF…

and my rap sheet is long enough without any added violence. So…yeah

@ Moe

LOL I never mentioned if this was specifically or a current situation. It could’ve been just a thought.

@ Chelsea

*pounds chest and starts singing that song from Color Purple*

specifically about me

@Reina
You don’t seem like the type to bawl over a hypothetical thought. lol

@Reina & Chelsea
Please don’t get on the plane. Hell hath no fury like Thelma & Louise! LOL

besides I’m running out of places to hide bodies…lol

and I knew you was Black Reina…i knowed it!

Yeah, I was joking about the bawling and the cutting. If a man gets me to cry, we’re sharing the last name and credit scores.

If you cried every once & a while, maybe you would stop kicking in doors and smashing cell phones. LOL

LOL @ Chelsea

I know how to perm hair, too.

@ Moe

Maybe you’re right. I wasn’t crying during either of those times.

But smashing property and kicking in doors is FUN! there’s no reason to cry Moe…duh

Seriously (if you don’t mind me using your word), are you okay?

hmm…Moe…you have a daughter…what do you do about her hair situation? I’m always curious…

Chelsea…I’m glad we’re cool. lol

I got caught early in the game trying to act grown. My daughter is 18! She goes to the salon. lol

@ Moe

I don’t know, but I’m trying. I’m single, but I am dating. I’m just aware that I get in the way of my happiness sometimes because of control and pride issues I have.

WHAT????

you have a grown ass woman? Your daughter is almost as old as ME! wtf…how old are you?

@ Moe

You can’t hit on me anymore. Your daughter is almost Chelsea’s age!

LOL…36

i thought your daughter was like 8…WTF…I’m taken aback!

Now i feel….dirty…for seeing you half naked…(shudders)

I said I was in my 30s. LOL

@Reina
LOL..you’ll be 30 in HOT minute.

Let’s not talk about my age. Aren’t you supposed to be making sure I’m okay?

you didnt say you were a damn ARTIFACT! holy crap…18?? reina…give me some Spanish…some ay carumbas or something…the English languauge is failing me right now

True. But you started it.

so…..I can find a 36 yo that looks likes you Moe? hm…Reina this might not be as bad as we thought…

LOL..Not an artifact? Remember that word when you get here. lol

@Chelsea
Yeah, they are out there. I see them in the gym all the time.

Naw u not old…I was just surprised that you have a grown ass daughter…i thought u were like 31…man…well, I guess i’ll put my seduction skills on the back burner for Blaze…i think he’s the closest to my age and not married around here.

@ Chelsea

What happened to FG?

@Reina
Don’t sweat turning 30. I can honestly say I’ve had more fun in my 30s than I did in my 20s.

I’ll seduce FG too…they live in different states…I’ll just travel a lot…lol

@Chelsea
Yeah, I got early. It forced me to grow up…quick. I wasn’t happy about it at the time, but I wouldn’t trade her for the world.

correction – I got caught early

I was looking for a new post…

@Moe

I know Moe…never wanted anymore? As Black put it your ‘sperms still unbelievable volatile’ so you could have more if you wanted…lmao

Being a female, single and 30 has a stigma attached to it. “What’s wrong with her?

@Reina

you have a degree…and a BMW

mystery solved

@Chelsea
I’m open to having more. If I didn’t I don’t think I would be crushed about it.

@Reina
You know you can’t worry about what other people think.

@chelsea

Yeahhhhh I dont think anything is wrong with her.lol

I want to have 4 kids (two boys and two girls)…umm chelsea you want to push them out for me? LOL I am scared of the pain.

@ reina

Oh yeah the invite is for you too lol.I am a wuss when it comes to any type of pain.

@Nisha

PUSH THEM OUT FOR YOU? you mean wheel them to the nursery? sure! I’m scared to death of having my own kids…thats probably why I’ve always been so careful about b.c

@Nish
Let me know wnenever you want to roll to The Park..its a nice joint. Should be poppin startin tomorrow

@Chelsea
Back burner.?….lol. Yeah ok

lol@blaze

i meant that as a compliment!

@ Nisha

Please. I’m adopting. I like my waist, and I want to keep it this way.

And thank you, BFFs, but both of youse are in your early 20s. You haven’t experienced how men revolt at the mention of my age.

@Chelsea
Its all good. Just making mental notes…u know how we can get so I’ma let u slide with that one today…lol.

@Reina

28 is no where near old. Good grief!

@chelsea LMAO!

@ blaze
Where is it?

14th and M St. But you about 2 hrs from DC aren’t you..?

@blaze

you see how you men are? just yesterday you were saying how i needed ‘an older cat to handle all that’ cuz the guys my age ‘ain’t ready’…now i reveal my plans to seduce you and you make ‘mental notes’…cant win around here. Can not win!

@ Moe

Well, Chelsea called me an old fart. I know I’m not old. Well, physically, I’m not. Responsibility-wise, I feel ancient. And plus I model. I’m like Maya Angelou’s age in that industry.

@Chelsea
Yeah I most def said that yesterday and it still holds true..
But back burner….? lol

@Reina
Chelsea called me an ARTIFACT! But I ain’t tripping. When she reaches this side..she’s gonna be talking about how sexy she is and how she can give them TWENTY yr. olds a run for their money. LOL

Seriously getting older is a blessing. Can’t take anything for granted or worry about what you can’t control.

@Reina
Naomi Campbell is my age, and she’s still doing the damn thing.

FYI, I have no problem with my age at all.

@T Moe
After 30 women are considered Cougars

@Blaze
Really? I thought it was 40.

Either way…it’s all good. Like Blaze said, life is a blessing!

@blaze

ur only on the back burner cuz I dont know what u look like…u been ‘working on’ a photo of urself since The War of 1892 (I dare somebody to tell me there was no war then…i DARE you!)

so…yeah. its ur own fault…

Besides…Moe loves Reina (and he’s an artifact), Black is married and is an old fart, and1grad doesn’t wanna provide a financial snapshot, Tubbs is a ghost, daveyboy fell off the face of the earth…so that leaves you and FG

But I’m still tryna figure if FG has a real ‘job’ or not, so that really just leaves…you

@ Blaze

That’s only if she’s going after a guy younger than her. And I’ve never been involved with a man younger than me. Always preferred older.

Let’s be honest, though. For a woman to be single and in her 30s, people wonder why. No one hardly believes it’s by her choice. More often, they believed no one wanted her.

@Reina
You really shouldn’t take it so hard about approaching 30 and being single. In this area there are more and more single women who have never been married and and they enbrace their single life. U still have choices and the freedom to do as you like. Too many women caught up in dead end relationships or they are already divorced. Not a good look….you’ll be straight.

@Moe

I meant DINOSAUR

And I WILL be fine at 30-sumthing…if Kimora Lee Simmons can rock Baby Phat (and she KNOCKING on 40′s door), then dammit so can I!

Folks, I would love to continue you this discussion, but I gotta get out of here.

Talk to you later..Peace!

@Chelsea

I’m a sexy ass DINOSAUR!!! LOL (couldn’t let that slide..Peace!)

@Reina

we’ll raise our cats together and eat all the chocolate for breakfast we want…it’ll be fun!

@T Moe
Be Easy..

Moe your daughter is 18? Hot damn!

@ Blaze

I don’t have an issue with it. I’m only stating how we’re viewed by society. I’ll yell my age and status publicly. AND I can still fit into clothes I wore in college. (Bottoms, not tops) I’m so good.

@chelsea…

Go head mamas! Cute pic

@blaze
The way I drive (like a new yorker) I get there in like 1 hour maybe 45 on a real good day lol.

@Nisha

thanks…couldnt let u get all the shine miss ‘alltheparties.com’…lol

@Reina
So your topic early was about a specific situation you’re going through?

@Chelsea
I don’t take consolation prizes..

Oh i could ‘console’ you alright, Blaze…

LOL.

@Chelsea
U couldn’t “console” anybody on that celibate tip

@Blaze

you weren’t saying that yesterday

what’s up folks. Sorry no new topic today. Hope everyone is well.

@Chelsea,

I don’t understand why you don’t think I have a job.

I know you guys got off topic a long time ago…but on the topic, Thats what his ass get. Kick rocks buddy!
Sidebar: FG you shold get a chat room…

@FG

lol…cuz u haven’t shown me a paystub yet..lol!

FG I didn’t mention a new topic because I figured you would like a day off.

A new site is coming soon

I think I just lost my single status. BRB

Waiting on confirmation here…