Do you feel any pressure on your chest right now? No, I’m not talking about the effects from eating your Aunt Lisa’s day old greens. But I do believe there is this invisible force that keeps pushing you back every time you get close to being in a serious relationship. So how can we fix the problem?

Pop quiz. What’s the safest way to ensure a healthy, happy relationship? While I can’t audibly hear your response, I’m 98.7 percent sure that your answer includes suggestions like developing trust and promoting open lines of communication.

It’s 3:30 in the morning, and before I pack my bags and head to the airport for my flight back to Atlanta, I wanted to share my morning reflections with you. For the past few weeks, I’ve been unhappy with the overall direction and tone of this column. In my opinion, the quality of my recent content has been lacking the very thing that drew you to the Fly Guy Chronicles in the first place. My heart.

From Beyonce and Jay-Z to Barack and Michelle Obama, all couples are sure to face days when their relationship isn’t chock full of rainbows, unicorns, and fairies sprinkling magical pixie dust about as they gleefully float on the wings of love. In fact, it’s quite the opposite. While the highs of love are indeed wondrous, it’s the average “ho-hum” days that truly test and define the mettle of a union.

I ran across this feature last night and of course I wanted to share it with you. After you finish reading, share your thoughts on the age-old art of closing the deal.

There was a time in my life, when I allowed fear to consume me. But it wasn’t a fear of the societal ills that cause uneasiness to creep into the lives of many. Instead, my fears could all be traced back to an anxiety which primarily centered on all things love and relationship based. I had a laundry list of them…

Disclaimer: The following topic is admittedly an emotional one. Well not as emotional as when Bobby Brown left New Edition … but emotional nonetheless. I look forward to us having a spirited discussion on a topic that has affected us all either directly or indirectly.

I didn’t want things to reach this point, but you’ve forced my hand. It’s over between us. There I said. It’s not like I haven’t said this before … you just refuse to listen. So that’s why I’ve decided to take the drastic step of saying it in front of the entire world. Now there’s no longer room for debate.

What would you say if I told you that I made a mistake? And how would you feel if I confessed that our time apart has made me realize that I love you in a way that could never be replicated or surpassed? Would you shut me out, and refuse to hear anything that I had to say?

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