Comments on: Is It Ok To Have A Back Up Plan?

By: Miss Coco

Miss Coco — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 00:02:28 +0000

I say keep it to yourself. If you got it like that you don’t have to talk to anyone else while you are dating because you can pull another one the same day and if need be, a man that you used to talk to will want you at the drop of a dime if you call him. Well that might just be me. If you’re THE ISH or even soemthin close to it LOL men are waiting for you to be available. Same thing goes for the men, especially black men

By: K@Lii

K@Lii — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 23:23:22 +0000

exactly! Zee, did she really have to say that? maybe she figured he would step his game up? i guess…i’m still trying to make sense of it. hmmmmm i wonder if i’m someones back up?!? see this is why i hate dating lmao

By: ZeeABad1

ZeeABad1 — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 14:29:54 +0000

Shut the Front Door!

Its cool to think this way, however, some things are better left unsaid… Smh

(Sidenote) Somebody get her a clue!

By: Bombchell.Blogspot

Bombchell.Blogspot — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 01:38:13 +0000

[shrugs] did you ask her for an operational definition????

but then again then again the “tucked” away part makes it a bit mischievous.

but what else did she say, does she follow what her mum says. is it emotional, thought, or shes also dating them?

By: UtopiaLivesHere

UtopiaLivesHere — Wed, 10 Sep 2008 01:12:39 +0000

I feel that in this day and time, we truly have a very sad way of viewing dating, relationships and even marriage. I understand the fear that is out there of being hurt and disappointed, but her way of thinking is very unacceptable. What is the emergency man for….random sex? How can you truly be dedicated to making a relationship work if you you have someone waiting….”just in case the one you have is acting up”. Even if your man does act up….her way of thinking leads me to believe that she is a needy woman that does not love herself enough to be alone for a while until the right one comes alone. Yes, I do NEED a black man….but I don’t need to have any black man. And if the black man that I have right now is not THE black man for me….I’m not about to degrade myself by always having one available to fill in until the next one comes alone. You’ll find that you’ve had quite a few up in you if you have that type mentality.

By: Kee

Kee — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 16:53:37 +0000

That was very disrespectful.. I’ve always been one to date one person at a time just because I believe that if I’m dating you then you must be special enough for me to give you all of my attention even if it doesn’t work out…at least I know that if it doesn’t (work out) that I gave my all. I’ve never been a woman to have another man waiting in the wings..that makes no sense to me.

By: blackfujones

blackfujones — Sun, 07 Sep 2008 01:29:57 +0000

Guess I think of “dating” different reina bc to me dating folks wastes to much energy so thas y I don’t give any inch of commitment when I hung out with women. Guess I look at it differently

By: Reina

Reina — Sat, 06 Sep 2008 22:58:20 +0000

Ok. I’m late to the discussion. So? I have never felt the need for a backup plan because a relationship isn’t a MUST in my life. If it doesn’t work out, shake it off and keep it moving. I have too many responsibilities to keep track of one relationship. More than one is a bit suicidal, and I, for one, will not stretch myself thin.

However, when it’s just “dating” and nothing exclusive, I don’t consider that back-up plans, merely exploring all options.

By: Lyricalluv

Lyricalluv — Sat, 06 Sep 2008 17:11:22 +0000

Wow !!! this is a really good topic.I for you do not think having a back up for “just in case” things do not work out situations.I was the type to just date one man at a time, until my own grandfather told me to always keep a spare tire ,when that one goes flat and he is a 81 year old man.Its ok while just dating and not while in a serious relationship and the backup knows he/she is a backup and you are theres.Two decisions agreed by both mature adults.

By: Lyricalluv

Lyricalluv — Sat, 06 Sep 2008 17:06:15 +0000