Comments on: I'm A Cheating Man

By: Kitty Cleopatra

Kitty Cleopatra — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 23:36:45 +0000

I think you can be a good person and cheat the first time.(Depending on the scenario) You screw up and you learn, mistakes are made sometimes. But the fourth time etc. or next relationship you know exactly what your in for, you know the repercussions and the pain you’ll cause. And you CHOOSE to do so. Mistakes are not habitual. Once something becomes a regular occurrence it’s a behavior. Habitual cheating is a behavior and that speaks to the type of person you are. You are choosing to disregard the fidelity you were supposedly giving to someone else. If you stole a candy bar at sixteen, were you a thief? The law would say yes. But most people would say no. If you robbed six banks and have a basement full of boosted merchandise, that maybe a little different situation.
Each individual person has their own definition of a good man/woman It seems silly to me to break apart the term “good man” into categories, or separate that characterization from “relationships”. Your a good man in your career because you work hard, your accountable and can be depended on but in your romantic life your a liar…still a good man? Not buying it. If your a good man to your family you would have to be a good man to your wife AND your mother. But that’s my opinion.

Let’s say your on a date and your asked to explain why your a good woman and while listing your coveted qualities you say,”I do have a small problem being faithful, but doesn’t all that other stuff I just said, balance that out?” Cheating is lying and lying is a character issue. Does your character not play into your good man/woman status?

Keep it at home or stay single people. Hope that didn’t come off as a rant, I didn’t mean for it to.

By: ms mac

ms mac — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 14:56:43 +0000

I think that there are different types of cheating men out there and that some of those same men can be “good” men. I guess what ultimately makes a man “good” is defined by the person on the receiving end of the lies and deception.

If my man treats me well, we have what I perceive as a solid relationship/friendship, he’s good to our family/kids and all that other stuff, but he succumbs to lustful temptation one time, there’s a possiblity that something in the lines of communication between US broke down and he may be trying to get something I’m not giving him from someone else. In that case, WE need to come together and figure out where I’m lacking and where he’s failing.

Using that same scenario, if he’s CONSTANTLY out there hoeing, it’s all on HIM and he’s the one that needs help. That doesn’t mean he’s not a good man. It just means he’s not a good man for me.

By: chrissy snow

chrissy snow — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 13:00:18 +0000

lmao @ blackfujones

By: Nikki P

Nikki P — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 21:22:31 +0000

I’m going to side with the guys on this one. There are good cheating men out there. As stupid as it may sound I actually understand it. If a man take cares of his business and make sure what needs to be handle gets handle, then that a good man right? But if he cheats he’s all of sudden everything else goes out the window? I’m not saying to overlook him cheating, just that cheating doesn’t make you a bad person.

By: blackfujones

blackfujones — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 19:39:12 +0000

@chrissy.
O brother lol. Already n counseling,now I gotta have another session. Damn

By: chrissy snow

chrissy snow — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 16:03:58 +0000

lol bammy maybe i should go to like rehab for chronic flirters or something

By: Miss G

Miss G — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 15:52:33 +0000

That song has soooo many contradictions! He is a good man, but a cheating man? Dont want to hurt you but wont stop cheating? Saw his daddy hurting his pretty momma but yet he went ahead and and did it too? Is’nt that an excuse for the sons repeating the sins of the father? You are what you choose to become,the same with cheating, it is somethin you can walk away from, you just choose not too…

By: tsagrednerp

tsagrednerp — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 15:29:13 +0000

The song is very powerful. Cheating men, women just people. We need the self control. If my SO came to me saying he’s a cheating man I’d want him to admit it and then be able to say that he’s doing 1000% to change it and be with me.

By: Bahama

Bahama — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 14:25:11 +0000

see chrissy i told you your flirting was gone get you in trouble…yup

By: chrissy snow

chrissy snow — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 12:47:51 +0000

@ blackfujones, i resent that, lol how imma dislike you, i don’t know you…..we cool, and if i come in here and cyber see you again imma give you a cyber hug cause i am a cyber flirt and i want you to feel cyber better lol